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Abusing you or abusing your holes

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By *iss pleasuring OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

I often see this written on here or the term using your holes/ you.

Does anyone see this a somewhat nasty.

Why would anyone want to be used and abused

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

From strangers it's absolutely not for me.

From someone I know actually values me as a person, I like that.

I couldn't do that free use thing I occasionally see at the clubs, but it clearly works for some people

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By *iss pleasuring OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"From strangers it's absolutely not for me.

From someone I know actually values me as a person, I like that.

I couldn't do that free use thing I occasionally see at the clubs, but it clearly works for some people "

Guess it does work for some at clubs.

So ypur saying that use and or abuse is a free use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own likes, wants and fantasies. They often change too.

Being used can be great fun aswell as using someone.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Guess it does work for some at clubs.

So ypur saying that use and or abuse is a free use "

Not exclusively. But when someone is strapped to a spanking bench with a free use sign then that is purely about using their holes surely? I could be wrong, it's not a position I'd ever consider being in.

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I love it personally.

Either just with the Mr or on occasion I'm in a sub mindset and he'll choose who and what happens at clubs. It's a huge trust I out in him and we've some wonderful times doing it whether just us or with others.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think for many it's a matter of context and who is saying it is the difference to if this is hot or not. Sexual desire for many can include an exploration of power and/or darker elements of life in the safe confines of fantasy or a consensual interaction. Sometimes the things that may seem horrid or degrading in a real life context are rather hot in a fantasy or in consensual sexual play to many. But the products of our sexual fantasies and/or our sexual play are often not indicative of our nature or outlook in the everyday world. A dichotomy that some people struggle with or just hide for fear of judgement or rejection. As someone who is sadistic from a sexual/kink/fantasy point of view but who is loving and caring by nature and outlook something I understand. But the beauty of this lifestyle is the freedom to unashamedly own your sexuallity and desires. It what I love about the scene. I also don't understand how everyone's dynamics and kinks are hot but I love they can be free to enjoy them.

Mr

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By *iss pleasuring OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"I think for many it's a matter of context and who is saying it is the difference to if this is hot or not. Sexual desire for many can include an exploration of power and/or darker elements of life in the safe confines of fantasy or a consensual interaction. Sometimes the things that may seem horrid or degrading in a real life context are rather hot in a fantasy or in consensual sexual play to many. But the products of our sexual fantasies and/or our sexual play are often not indicative of our nature or outlook in the everyday world. A dichotomy that some people struggle with or just hide for fear of judgement or rejection. As someone who is sadistic from a sexual/kink/fantasy point of view but who is loving and caring by nature and outlook something I understand. But the beauty of this lifestyle is the freedom to unashamedly own your sexuallity and desires. It what I love about the scene. I also don't understand how everyone's dynamics and kinks are hot but I love they can be free to enjoy them.

Mr"

Yeah agree context.

Mostly I see on profiles amd forums just well, isn't for me. Amd wonder what sort of messages and responses do people get on the basis of been used n abused

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By *iss pleasuring OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Not judgemental at all genuinely curious

As they say every day is a school day

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
over a year ago

Cap d'Agde


"Does anyone see this a somewhat nasty."

Yes, and I think that's the whole point. A lot of kinks are about doing nasty things.

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By *ittyjayCouple
over a year ago

essex

I feel this is definitely one of those phrases that has a time and a place, and probably shouldn't used as an opener

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

If used wrong it sounds so offensive and degrading

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"I often see this written on here or the term using your holes/ you.

Does anyone see this a somewhat nasty.

Why would anyone want to be used and abused "

We're not here to judge.. do you expect everyone to lead the same sex life of course everyone has different kinks and fantasies .. don't be critical

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Not judgemental at all genuinely curious

As they say every day is a school day "

Can't really say no judgement at all when there's people on here that you've seen use that terminology of use my holes and then you say does anyone else think that's nasty .. Whats the point ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is someone hat I haven't met yet then yeah no thanks but if I know them then well absolutely can be a turn on. Depends on mood etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let’s be honest some chat on here is so vulgar some love some don’t.

Bit like the pics some want to see everything others don’t.

Good thing is you as a woman have basically the whole site to find what you desire, what you enjoy including terminology.

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