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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It has happened to me. Everyone has cum but not me. So frustrating!

Have you experienced it and how you feel about it.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs

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By *3xyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

swingers town

I don’t cum from meets but always have fun. I only cum with my wife, which is amazing as the build up is awesome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs "

I always make women cum but not always can do myself. Sometimes hold back a bit and then I can't cum lol

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
over a year ago

banbury

You will find it's not that uncommon. It happens to me especially if there is very little build up and foreplay. Example at clubs you can tend to be just hi then minutes after you are fucking lol.

I got to admit I have faked it and just tossed condom before she notices . Or sometimes I have just warned I'm not gonna cum but definitely enjoyed our time together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You will find it's not that uncommon. It happens to me especially if there is very little build up and foreplay. Example at clubs you can tend to be just hi then minutes after you are fucking lol.

I got to admit I have faked it and just tossed condom before she notices . Or sometimes I have just warned I'm not gonna cum but definitely enjoyed our time together. "

I think it depends on woman 100% if they don't show any emotions it's very off putting for me. Saying that sometimes little side things can distract and it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sometimes happens to me, but i never get stressed about it. Its more commen than you think.

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
over a year ago

banbury


"You will find it's not that uncommon. It happens to me especially if there is very little build up and foreplay. Example at clubs you can tend to be just hi then minutes after you are fucking lol.

I got to admit I have faked it and just tossed condom before she notices . Or sometimes I have just warned I'm not gonna cum but definitely enjoyed our time together.

I think it depends on woman 100% if they don't show any emotions it's very off putting for me. Saying that sometimes little side things can distract and it happens."

I won't say 100% the woman's fault, some little thing could just distract you, example at xtasia people stand in the corridor looking at you outside from the ceiling mirrors. You can hear everything they say and that just disturbs your flow.

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane

I don’t always cum either I fake it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t always cum either I fake it "

Why do you fake it?

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I’m glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t cum after long sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a relief ??

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane


"I don’t always cum either I fake it

Why do you fake it? "
because most of my meets don’t make me cum but I like to make them feel they did make me

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs

I always make women cum but not always can do myself. Sometimes hold back a bit and then I can't cum lol"

Urgh I hate it when men say that.

I often don't cum but can still have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs

I always make women cum but not always can do myself. Sometimes hold back a bit and then I can't cum lol

Urgh I hate it when men say that.

I often don't cum but can still have a great time."

So it's about great time and not cumming than !

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Due to disability I don't cum full stop but I still enjoy sex

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs

I always make women cum but not always can do myself. Sometimes hold back a bit and then I can't cum lol

Urgh I hate it when men say that.

I often don't cum but can still have a great time.

So it's about great time and not cumming than !"

Ofc I would rather have a mind blowing orgasm too. But no orgasm wouldn't be a deal breaker to seeing someone again

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Try not to overthink it or dwell on it..

Men not cumming is more common than you/ we think.. I struggle myself sometimes, probably too much watching porn & wanking and you get used to ‘that feeling’ which isn’t replicated with vaginal sex.

I find that laying off porn, having time off from wanking for a few days and a healthy diet helps no end.. also helps with the amount I cum too..

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By *eltic connectionCouple
over a year ago

Manningtree

If you can't cum when having sex then surely you should be asking yourself if you are either choosing the wrong person to play with or you perhaps should lay off until you have worked out what the problem is!

I suspect it is a psychological block in you head where you're just not excited enough with the person you're playing with, or they are simply not doing anything in return for you and its all one-sided. Again that may be because you're not doing the right things for them!

Basically if there is no two way spark between you then is it worth it?

We have lots of friends we would never play with because the lust is not there but we still have a good time in their company.

Perhaps we are just too fussy but when we do play with others it's amazing and everyone seems to cum!

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane


"If you can't cum when having sex then surely you should be asking yourself if you are either choosing the wrong person to play with or you perhaps should lay off until you have worked out what the problem is!

I suspect it is a psychological block in you head where you're just not excited enough with the person you're playing with, or they are simply not doing anything in return for you and its all one-sided. Again that may be because you're not doing the right things for them!

Basically if there is no two way spark between you then is it worth it?

We have lots of friends we would never play with because the lust is not there but we still have a good time in their company.

Perhaps we are just too fussy but when we do play with others it's amazing and everyone seems to cum! "
mine is probably picked the wrong person but that’s the chance you take with meets so I rather fake/pretend that I did cum instead of the guy going away feeling he didn’t achieve his goal

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By *eltic connectionCouple
over a year ago

Manningtree


"If you can't cum when having sex then surely you should be asking yourself if you are either choosing the wrong person to play with or you perhaps should lay off until you have worked out what the problem is!

I suspect it is a psychological block in you head where you're just not excited enough with the person you're playing with, or they are simply not doing anything in return for you and its all one-sided. Again that may be because you're not doing the right things for them!

Basically if there is no two way spark between you then is it worth it?

We have lots of friends we would never play with because the lust is not there but we still have a good time in their company.

Perhaps we are just too fussy but when we do play with others it's amazing and everyone seems to cum! mine is probably picked the wrong person but that’s the chance you take with meets so I rather fake/pretend that I did cum instead of the guy going away feeling he didn’t achieve his goal "

Far too nice for your own good.

Just raise your standards before getting to the bedroom stage.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

i dont like meets where the guy dont cum and thats me being honest as much as i like to be pleased i very much want to please too ...to me cumming is all part n parcel of the meet ..

i never meet a guy again if he cant cum it all feels incomplete for me thankfully theres not many like this its normally the other wayv around and they cum too early but im ok with that as long as they can recover and go again as i love a session but not one where a guy cant cum ....

im not talking one off these guys will quite happly tell you after the meet that they never cum (never tell you before hand tho )as if its a great thing i love sessions but not if the guy is just pumping away give me a guy who can cum several loads then im very happy ... oh and as for me cumming very easy if i intervene

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

This is a foreign land for me, literally two pumps and a squirt here!

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"This is a foreign land for me, literally two pumps and a squirt here!"

Know the feeling LOL need to recover and go again!

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane


"If you can't cum when having sex then surely you should be asking yourself if you are either choosing the wrong person to play with or you perhaps should lay off until you have worked out what the problem is!

I suspect it is a psychological block in you head where you're just not excited enough with the person you're playing with, or they are simply not doing anything in return for you and its all one-sided. Again that may be because you're not doing the right things for them!

Basically if there is no two way spark between you then is it worth it?

We have lots of friends we would never play with because the lust is not there but we still have a good time in their company.

Perhaps we are just too fussy but when we do play with others it's amazing and everyone seems to cum! mine is probably picked the wrong person but that’s the chance you take with meets so I rather fake/pretend that I did cum instead of the guy going away feeling he didn’t achieve his goal

Far too nice for your own good.

Just raise your standards before getting to the bedroom stage. "

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Sometimes I don’t cum (hormones ) sometimes I get distracted by other things at time going on. Noise / people being morons etc.

I can flex my cock and say I cum though Let’s be real though if you are a wearing a condom it’s not like you take it off and pass it over for inspection

Then there is tge time of evening if in a club. If fucking early may not want to cum that soon and just enjoy. Women can cum multiple times easy enough over an evening generally enough where a cock mechanically can’t

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

The fella rarely cums on meets, but he just wants to bloody play all night the mucky bugger, nothing to do with anything else haha!

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

I don’t care if I do or don’t on a meet. I just enjoy the journey lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It has happened to me. Everyone has cum but not me. So frustrating!

Have you experienced it and how you feel about it."

Sorry bit personal but I was on antidepressants literally couldn't cum at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t always cum on meets but always ensure my partner does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t care if I do or don’t on a meet. I just enjoy the journey lol "

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Barrhead


"It has happened to me. Everyone has cum but not me. So frustrating!

Have you experienced it and how you feel about it."

This has happened a couple of times on a first meet with me. maybe its performance anxiety, maybe my cock refuses to cum, to make sure she is satisfied, maybe i had too much sex or masturbated to recently before the meets, who knows, i dont let it get me down though

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By *hantelle-La-SlutTV/TS
over a year ago

South Birmingham


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I won't say 100% the woman's fault, some little thing could just distract you, example at xtasia people stand in the corridor looking at you outside from the ceiling mirrors. You can hear everything they say and that just disturbs your flow. "

there is a lot of banter going in that corridor for men and women trying to watch what is happening in those rooms and i get it can be very off putting for men and deffo "disturb"

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"i dont like meets where the guy dont cum and thats me being honest as much as i like to be pleased i very much want to please too ...to me cumming is all part n parcel of the meet ..

i never meet a guy again if he cant cum it all feels incomplete for me thankfully theres not many like this its normally the other wayv around and they cum too early but im ok with that as long as they can recover and go again as i love a session but not one where a guy cant cum ....

im not talking one off these guys will quite happly tell you after the meet that they never cum (never tell you before hand tho )as if its a great thing i love sessions but not if the guy is just pumping away give me a guy who can cum several loads then im very happy ... oh and as for me cumming very easy if i intervene "

Would this be the case if it was due to disability like myself I can't cum?

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

The first time I slept with I couldn't cum we literally was at for over 7 hours, K had multiple orgasm's but I just could not cum not matter what K tried.

It was the best sex we both ever had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I was the only person that this happened to!!! I rarely cum from meets but enjoy the incredible sex.

Nice to know I’m not alone

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It's really rare for me to cum through sex.

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By *aracarMan
over a year ago

waterford

Don't over think it, I don't always cum but you can just pull out and bust yourself over a nice pair of tits

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I thought I was the only person that this happened to!!! I rarely cum from meets but enjoy the incredible sex.

Nice to know I’m not alone"

As I said before it’s a lot more common than you think..

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"I don’t always cum either I fake it

Why do you fake it? because most of my meets don’t make me cum but I like to make them feel they did make me "

Have to agree. Some of my meets I've not orgasmed, so I fake it. Equally I do like to know the guy has enjoyed it by means of him cuming, which does then have a knock on effect.

So in short the guys who can't cum or save it for the misses then I'll fake it

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By *untime1969Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I don't always come at the time,mainly through wanting to prolong the session but the following weeks we can't keep our hands off each other! And the wank bank gets well and truly filled up!!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset


"i dont like meets where the guy dont cum and thats me being honest as much as i like to be pleased i very much want to please too ...to me cumming is all part n parcel of the meet ..

i never meet a guy again if he cant cum it all feels incomplete for me thankfully theres not many like this its normally the other wayv around and they cum too early but im ok with that as long as they can recover and go again as i love a session but not one where a guy cant cum ....

im not talking one off these guys will quite happly tell you after the meet that they never cum (never tell you before hand tho )as if its a great thing i love sessions but not if the guy is just pumping away give me a guy who can cum several loads then im very happy ... oh and as for me cumming very easy if i intervene

Would this be the case if it was due to disability like myself I can't cum?"

honestly yes im here for me and guys who want the same as me thats the point of meets to match up now all us women are different for alot it wont matter but for me it does its just the way it is ... nobody owes anyone anything that includes how and whom we meet

ive turned down guys who have had protate removal for this reason but at least im honest about it others wont be and just spin a bullshit lie for not meeting

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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago

stockport

I take the little blue pill which sometimes can be not as good as you may think after you have got over the initial excitement and calm down so to speak still remaining hard sometimes I do find it difficult to climax, not everybody likes marathon sessions, and I really have to concentrate hard to make myself cum

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"i dont like meets where the guy dont cum and thats me being honest as much as i like to be pleased i very much want to please too ...to me cumming is all part n parcel of the meet ..

Yes this. It is a feeling of incomplete if a guy can't or won't cum.

I don't play if he isn't gonna come. I will just ask before hand. Ultimately there's the obvious reason they would say yes of course I can cum.

After a tine I get bored and ask him to stop and leave the room.. club visits only for meets

i never meet a guy again if he cant cum it all feels incomplete for me thankfully theres not many like this its normally the other wayv around and they cum too early but im ok with that as long as they can recover and go again as i love a session but not one where a guy cant cum ....

im not talking one off these guys will quite happly tell you after the meet that they never cum (never tell you before hand tho )as if its a great thing i love sessions but not if the guy is just pumping away give me a guy who can cum several loads then im very happy ... oh and as for me cumming very easy if i intervene "

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By *ovienightCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs "

I could make you cum on a meet…..just introduce MissA and her wizardry

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By *ovienightCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Obviously kidding before the trolls attack!!! I’d do it myself!

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By *ovienightCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Still kidding!!

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By *urvy-blue83Woman
over a year ago

Lichfield

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By *urvy-blue83Woman
over a year ago

Lichfield


"I don’t always cum either I fake it "
guilty

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By *ust want fun 888Man
over a year ago

nearby

It happened to me a few years back, I was with a girl after coming home from the pub and before I knew it we were having sex for about six hours when she said to me, do I always take this long, I said no way, but didn’t know what Was wrong that night, just couldn’t come

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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"i dont like meets where the guy dont cum and thats me being honest as much as i like to be pleased i very much want to please too ...to me cumming is all part n parcel of the meet ..

i never meet a guy again if he cant cum it all feels incomplete for me thankfully theres not many like this its normally the other wayv around and they cum too early but im ok with that as long as they can recover and go again as i love a session but not one where a guy cant cum ....

im not talking one off these guys will quite happly tell you after the meet that they never cum (never tell you before hand tho )as if its a great thing i love sessions but not if the guy is just pumping away give me a guy who can cum several loads then im very happy ... oh and as for me cumming very easy if i intervene

Would this be the case if it was due to disability like myself I can't cum?

honestly yes im here for me and guys who want the same as me thats the point of meets to match up now all us women are different for alot it wont matter but for me it does its just the way it is ... nobody owes anyone anything that includes how and whom we meet

ive turned down guys who have had protate removal for this reason but at least im honest about it others wont be and just spin a bullshit lie for not meeting"

Good point, and it's great that you're honest about it.

But for me I don't mind not cumming these days, I get great pleasure from giving the pleasure

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It happened to me a few years back, I was with a girl after coming home from the pub and before I knew it we were having sex for about six hours when she said to me, do I always take this long, I said no way, but didn’t know what Was wrong that night, just couldn’t come "

I think you answered your own question in the comment “home from the pub” …. Alcohol..

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By *ust want fun 888Man
over a year ago

nearby


"It happened to me a few years back, I was with a girl after coming home from the pub and before I knew it we were having sex for about six hours when she said to me, do I always take this long, I said no way, but didn’t know what Was wrong that night, just couldn’t come

I think you answered your own question in the comment “home from the pub” …. Alcohol.. "
i’d say it was but I wish that would happen every time I was on the beer, unfortunately not

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By *ade crossTV/TS
over a year ago

chiselhurst

I dont cum when fucking. Shoot loads if i am fucked suppose that why i am btm

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By *nly the lonelyMan
over a year ago

Ely

I have the same issues some times , or it takes me so much longer to cum than the person I'm with.

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By *wannafreakyouMan
over a year ago

london

I struggle to cum with a condom on

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By *he 1 2 watchWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Op you'd be surprised how many people both male and female this happens to.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"I rarely cum from meets, it's normal for me.

Can still have good sex without the orgasm.

Mrs

I always make women cum but not always can do myself. Sometimes hold back a bit and then I can't cum lol"

This is very much me. It does mean though that I last longer, which I actually love, and so do my playmates!

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By *lwaysHornyInFilladelphiaMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I don’t mind not cumming, I’m all for enjoying the sex and focus on them. I get more satisfaction knowing they’ve cummed and enjoyed it.

Nothing like putting pressure on myself

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Our first and only MFM meet was with a chap who (with no prior warning) held himself back from cumming. I appreciate what he was trying to do, but it left me rather deflated as I gave him the head of a lifetime, and he fucked me for ages!

Also at the time I didn't realise that some people prefer to keep things more mellow when verifying others - I worried for ages I was a crap shag - Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if you delay cumming to make the session last longer the moment passes just one of those things.

So pleased I’m a repeater

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