FabSwingers.com forum: Erection problem when meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why its happening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I only assume that's nerves

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By *orkshireBeef26Man
over a year ago

Kirkella

Anxious to perform...

Shy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stage fright. I’m not a guy but I can see why it could happen. I wouldn’t judge the dude. Maybe take time to help him relax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viagra is available over the counter now so should be a thing of the past.

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By *istretchMan
over a year ago

leeds

Not if you have blood pressure problems

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Pressure.

Lots of guys talk themselves up. “Gonna be the best you ever had” etc but when the pants are off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it happens it's usually alcohol related but it's not usually a problem as I mostly watch. By the end things have normally sorted themselves out.

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Just stage fright - as someone has already said lots of big talk beforehand and suddenly if it’s group fun there’s other cocks around that are all huge when compared to theirs - it is all in the angle of viewing isn’t it???

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Happens to the best of us.. as others have said usually overthinking it, nerves or alcohol.. or all 3

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By *orkshireBeef26Man
over a year ago

Kirkella

"Not if you have blood pressure problems "

I have High BP but got prescribed Viagra to help maintain Erection Hardon...

just need a Sexy Female to share it with

Andy

Xxx

Kik me..

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By *ornywifenhubsCouple
over a year ago

North West.

Not if you have blood pressure problems.

Never used viagra myself but it is actually ideal for high blood pressure as it opens up all blood vessels and so lowers pressure.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

by the time you meet someone in the flesh, you realise you don t really fancy them.. attraction has to work both ways . Half of you wish you hadn t bothered

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By *ensible lady 1960Woman
over a year ago

Near Bishop Auckland.

i have had that too on meets when the man gets nervous and cant do nowt.am 5ft 3ins meeting men and then going to quiet locations,yet its them who are nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have had that too on meets when the man gets nervous and cant do nowt.am 5ft 3ins meeting men and then going to quiet locations,yet its them who are nervous."

If the said chap can’t do nowt doesn’t that suggests he can do something ?

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By *luefire2Couple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

Oh don't get me started......we have had meets with single guys where they are all up for it and tell us what they want to do....then....

Nothing!

They then insist on trying to fuck with a soft cock.

I guess it all gets too much in reality for them, sensory overload.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why it’s happening?"

Many possible reasons:

1. Pressure to perform (some guys are just treated like a cock not a person)

2. Situational anxiety/ stage fright (Can be hard performing with many eyes staring at you)

3. Environmental factors (if room is too cold blood vessels contract redirecting blood to vital organs & your cock is not 1 of them haha)

4. You might just not be that attracted to the person so can’t get a boner

5. Dehydration

6. They might just be a shit fuck haha

meet a girl once & she had no rhythm all over the place like a possessed person. It just killed the mood

7. There are plenty more reasons but can’t be bothered to name them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why it’s happening?

Many possible reasons:

1. Pressure to perform (some guys are just treated like a cock not a person)

2. Situational anxiety/ stage fright (Can be hard performing with many eyes staring at you)

3. Environmental factors (if room is too cold blood vessels contract redirecting blood to vital organs & your cock is not 1 of them haha)

4. You might just not be that attracted to the person so can’t get a boner

5. Dehydration

6. They might just be a shit fuck haha

meet a girl once & she had no rhythm all over the place like a possessed person. It just killed the mood

7. There are plenty more reasons but can’t be bothered to name them all

Probably number 4 is the most common cause of floppyknobitis.

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Not had an issue that way, generally been told I'm always ready when others aren't lol

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Not had an issue that way, generally been told I'm always ready when others aren't lol"

Says the guy with one verification in 6+ years on fab…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys say they are ok with another man being there as it's all about making sure the woman has a fab time, but when it comes to it they are not, so can't get it hard.

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By *ung nine inchMan
over a year ago

leeds

We had that too but I got and leave them to alone when I return he’s solid pounding the mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh don't get me started......we have had meets with single guys where they are all up for it and tell us what they want to do....then....

Nothing!

They then insist on trying to fuck with a soft cock.

I guess it all gets too much in reality for them, sensory overload."

Makes me feel little bit better, as we have had this happen sometimes.

We get on great with the guy he saying how sexy we are etc …

But when we head back to hotel zero performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guys say they are ok with another man being there as it's all about making sure the woman has a fab time, but when it comes to it they are not, so can't get it hard. "

Your profile is a great read you seem like such a confident slut made me laugh !

Love female half of couple xxxxxxx

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By *issBehave69Man
over a year ago

Bulgaria

"Viagra is available over the counter now so should be a thing of the past. "

Not great if you’ve had a heart attack though

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

Lack of multi tasking skills!

Ladies are supposed to be good at this but look at the majority of multi cock videos and she’s usually just hanging on to the others whilst focussed on the one in her mouth / pussy.

Come on girls.

Up your game!

I’m dead when she sees this

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By *ike OxmallMan
over a year ago

Elderslie

"Pressure.

Lots of guys talk themselves up. “Gonna be the best you ever had” etc but when the pants are off.

That's why I always say that I'll be adequate at best - if it goes better than that, it's an unexpected bonus!

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

"Stage fright. I’m not a guy but I can see why it could happen. I wouldn’t judge the dude. Maybe take time to help him relax "

You are a good egg. Best answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves, stage fright. It happens.

Doesn't help when some nasty women or couples take the piss.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

If you have a good tongue action that makes up for it till it dicides to join in

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

I mention it in my profile, so up front from the start, yes this might cost me meets, but at least I'm honest, it does work, it just enjoys foreplay, so I don't think fuck & go would be on the cards for me, interaction from all parties involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not had an issue that way, generally been told I'm always ready when others aren't lol"

Just putting it out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves. Lack of comms beforehand. Putting out that your into stuff your not in reality eg bicurios just to get a threesome. Erection issues are often mental.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Honestly, it probably happened to me (Rob) at half of our club nights, and that was while I was just with Steph. I used to let it really bother me but just accepted it as an occupational hazard

We loved being watched but, strangely, if I became too aware of the watchers I'd fixate on them. That would distract me from the task in hand and down goes the flag.

When it happened, we'd either just switch to other techniques or go somewhere else for a bit. I'm lucky that Steph was always totally cool with it. Never made a fuss or took it as some kind of personal slight. As she said 'all I have to do is lay there and look sexy'

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Barrhead

I think sometimes people also expect a man to get hard when sex is served on a plate, we like and enjoy being teased, kissed and other kinds of foreplay as well.

Not "ok there is a hole fuck it"!

that is so cold and not arousing.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Condoms can also be an erection killer to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why its happening?"

Because he hasn’t got a cock sleeve

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Condoms can also be an erection killer to be fair

I agree with that, but safety first, I struggle to keep hard while putting one on, especially being watched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Condoms can also be an erection killer to be fair

Never understood this. If anything they work as a cock ring

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Viagra is available over the counter now so should be a thing of the past. "

That's not how viagra works. If somebody is nervous or not turned on or had alcohol it may not help.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I think sometimes people also expect a man to get hard when sex is served on a plate, we like and enjoy being teased, kissed and other kinds of foreplay as well.

Not "ok there is a hole fuck it"!

that is so cold and not arousing."

This is so true. We are people first and not a penis to use.

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

"I think sometimes people also expect a man to get hard when sex is served on a plate, we like and enjoy being teased, kissed and other kinds of foreplay as well.

Not "ok there is a hole fuck it"!

that is so cold and not arousing."

Nailed it in one!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why its happening?"

Nerves/stage fright, feeling pressure to perform, not feeling comfortable in the situation/location, tired…..lots of reasons. We’re not machines, and it happens to the best of us. If it does happen, it simply proves you’re only human after all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nerves usually. It's no big deal

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Condoms can also be an erection killer to be fair

I agree with that, but safety first, I struggle to keep hard while putting one on, especially being watched. "

I totally get this, and it used to be an issue for me too. How I overcame it was by firstly finding a condom which fit my cock ‘right’, and by that I mean it feels comfortable when on, so it's ‘almost’ like I don’t notice I’m wearing one, then stick to that brand. Then re-educated my brain to associate the condom as the gateway to sex, not a barrier. So now you feel excited to wear a condom, not view it as a literal ‘downer’

Finally; open the packet and have the condom sat right way up, ready to slip on quick as you like when the time is right. The sooner it’s on, the sooner you can ‘get on’

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Diabetes in men very common,

you still have the urge, at best a semi. Sooner or later your GP will spell it out for you !!

this is when you need to seek where you can get Viagra ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stres is a bad think, and can fuck up a lot

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By *olyester123Couple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"Not if you have blood pressure problems "
very true sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stage fright, happens to everyone at some point, totally natural and nothing to feel bad about

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By *ancy that!Man
over a year ago

North Devon

Pressure to perform and having a large penis with concern about hurting a person on penetration.

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

"Nerves. Lack of comms beforehand. Putting out that your into stuff your not in reality eg bicurios just to get a threesome. Erection issues are often mental. "

and strongly based you have to be in a good place mentally and the dynamics have to be right for me..

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By *he ass man 666Man
over a year ago

paradise city

"Not had an issue that way, generally been told I'm always ready when others aren't lol

Says the guy with one verification in 6+ years on fab…

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens,

Doesn't bother me one bit.

Other things to do.

If I were a man, I would be so nervous I would struggle

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Nerves / anxiety / pressure etc maybe too much drink

It happens. Viagra helps

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By *ust want fun 888Man
over a year ago

nearby

It’s happened to me, don’t know why because I would have been hard before they arrived and had a wank and come after they left but just couldn’t get hard while they were here

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