FabSwingers.com forum: Lengthy profiles

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Informative and helpful or tediously self indulgent?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

TLDR

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *annibal_LickedherMan
over a year ago

The Side of the Mersey

"Informative and helpful or tediously self indulgent?"

Depends entirely on what’s in the profile. Some of my favourite profiles have a lot to read.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *otswoldslutCouple
over a year ago

Cotswolds

Doesn't that depend on the content, rather than the length?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Doesn't that depend on the content, rather than the length?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

people do with their profiles as they wish ... if it puts you off look no further move on ... i dare say its done what the profile owners have wanted

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Ours is 1000 words long, it bores dickheads and stops people just looking for a quick fuck.

I love a long profile. Shows us exactly who you are and that you care!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *annibal_LickedherMan
over a year ago

The Side of the Mersey

The only thing I don’t like and it’s only because I’m dyslexic, I don’t like when people hide a code word in the profile to put in a message.

I can get the gist of the profile from reading it to the best of my ability but I do miss stuff like that and it’s not through ignorance

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 09/12/23 15:24:28]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got a fairly long profile. Mainly to give people a good idea what we're about and what we're after and we find in-turn this filters out the one-line brigade with next to no imagination. Self indulgent? Maybe, but it's got to be better than a "Fill in later" or "Couple for nsa" type of description

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I like they like I like my women, short and sweet lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’d prefer a detailed profile over a short one as it shows they’ve thought about it and not just threw something up whilst horny and haven’t bothered with it since.

Also gives us an insight into someone and what they are about.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ours is 1000 words long, it bores dickheads and stops people just looking for a quick fuck.

I love a long profile. Shows us exactly who you are and that you care! "

It's the ones that clearly haven't read it and send a "Free now to fuck wife" and then get arsey when there message is deleted.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like something to read. It gives you an idea of who the person is and is entirely content based for me rather than how many words are in it.

My profile is set out the way it is so hopefully it’s easy reading. I appreciate messages that talk about something in my profile too. Shows they’ve not just come to look at the pictures. A good conversation can go a long way.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Totally depends what's written on it.

If it's a long list of demands, don'ts and general walk over fire kind of shite then yeah not for me.

Long but well worded, polite and gives a good idea of what they are into and looking for then great.

Mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

The profile is the IQ test.

If someone doesn't have the attention span to get through it then it's an easy decision for me to block them.

By not reading it & then asking questions they would have known the answer to had they read it, or making requests they'd know not to make had they read it, they're not showing respect for my time by making me have to explicity tell them in a message.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I find it helpful for filtering out those who can't be bothered to read or respect it.

I like people to have a longer profile. It's more opportunity to see who they are, or at least who they're presenting as.

If youre just here to fuck whatever,

then the words are pretty irrelevant

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My previous account had a really long profile but not many read it so I tried to make it shorter and more to the point this time around, but I do like reading a decent profile, I think it gives you an understanding of the person.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As others have already said it's all about content and context.

Some would say mine is too long while others would say it's just right but it wasn't written for Goldilocks.

It's there to give others an idea of who I am and my sense of humour.

I agree there is a happy medium.

Guys get criticised all the time for lack of effort but as far as I'm concerned a lazy profile is a lazy profile no matter what your tits look like.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile is the IQ test.

If someone doesn't have the attention span to get through it then it's an easy decision for me to block them.

This is what we say, if you can't even be bothered to read a few words to see what we're about, I doubt you'd respect boundaries etc.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally we can't really tell if people are for us until we meet them in person. It's nice to see a profile that gives us a flavour of their personality and what they maybe looking for. And we like a couple of pictures (inc male for couples) to gauge our attraction. But we don't need war and peace, we prefer to meeting in person to decide. Based on the same thinking we keep ours fairly short and sweet. Let people focus more our verifications and photos to see if they'd be interested.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Informative and helpful or tediously self indulgent?"

Someone who can’t concentrate for long enough to read a few hundreds words isn’t the sort of person we want to fuck, so it’s kind of an extra filter.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *restonCouple555Couple
over a year ago

preston

Our thinking is that if people can't be bothered to read six or seven short paragraphs about people they're presumably considering having sex with, they're probably not going to be a good fit for us.

It's probably not a coincidence that 100% of the people who contact us without having read our profile are not people we would have considered contacting.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

I tink it's all about getting the balance right.

Extraordinarily long profiles tend to look rather daunting and many are put off by them - particularly if they can see a lot of negatives highlighted in capitals visually jumping out at them.

If the intention is to deter certain people from contacting then fair play to them and they've achieved their goal.

I have generally found particularly long profiles tend to be needlessly waffly and it can be quite frustrating having taken the time to read right the way through it only to find that the key information you needed was in the last few sentences and at that point you realise that you're not a match for them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends. I was grateful when I read a self indulgent profile which showed me exactly the personality. The woman was insanely hot. I read her tripe and after that I became so turned off that I wouldn’t even touch her shadow with mine.

In fact, bring on all the long profiles !!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Wine diet profiles to be just read like fake profiles. As in they can't be bothered to write anything meaningful. In case they have to churn profiles out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

"Personally we can't really tell if people are for us until we meet them in person. It's nice to see a profile that gives us a flavour of their personality and what they maybe looking for. And we like a couple of pictures (inc male for couples) to gauge our attraction. But we don't need war and peace, we prefer to meeting in person to decide. Based on the same thinking we keep ours fairly short and sweet. Let people focus more our verifications and photos to see if they'd be interested. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *horesonWellesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Mine's pretty lengthy but it covers a lot of FAQs. I can tell almost immediately if someone hasn't read my profile and like others have said - if you can't be bothered to spend seconds reading my profile, that doesn't bode well for sex

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends. I was grateful when I read a self indulgent profile which showed me exactly the personality. The woman was insanely hot. I read her tripe and after that I became so turned off that I wouldn’t even touch her shadow with mine.

In fact, bring on all the long profiles !! "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

We always read profiles, but If you can't be arsed to read our profile, we can't be arsed to speak to you!

Simple as that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

Mines quite long... apparently a few people have had to go into therapy after reading it all..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issBlackedCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Judging solely from the abusive messages, I'd say mine has gotten under the skin of a fair few people haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

My profile is quite long - too long probably - but I just kept filling in the gaps and that's how it turned out. I suppose it filters out short attention spans.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

It’s their profile OP. If that’s what they want then it’s all good

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don’t tend to read them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

As long as it gives an idea of their personality, then it's useful. Useful doesn't always mean good for them, though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ore4fundevonCouple
over a year ago

West Devon

I often think ours is too long but also like to get across what we're about. Sometimes torn when re-writing what to include and leave out.

Feedback welcome.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If the bio doesn’t fit onto my phone screen, I’m not interested.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't like them, just move on?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It definitely depends more what they say than how many words they use.

I like a bio that's direct and has a few specifics. I want to get an idea of the person and a sense that they know what they want and that we are potentially aligned.

I personally prefer to get past the basics, and have some interesting points to start a conversation from.

My bio is there for that reason - to give anyone actually interested in spending time with me, all the fuel that they need to start a fun conversation about mutual kinks and interests.

"Interesting bio, I've been wanting to practice more shibari too" trumps "hey sexy, how's it going?" Or one of those copy paste introduction essays that only talk about themselves. Every. Single. Time.

And, if anyone thinks the minute or two it takes to read my bio is too much effort, we are not compatible in any way, especially not sexually.

I'm looking for men that are right for me and my bio is tailored for them. And it makes for easy filtering of the rest from my inbox.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine's pretty lengthy but it covers a lot of FAQs. I can tell almost immediately if someone hasn't read my profile and like others have said - if you can't be bothered to spend seconds reading my profile, that doesn't bode well for sex

100%

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

Tip! If you come across a lengthy profile, STOP! get yourself a cuppa then read, as to me you'll digest it more, the profile not the biscuit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

"Ours is 1000 words long, it bores dickheads and stops people just looking for a quick fuck.

I love a long profile. Shows us exactly who you are and that you care! "

Thought the 3 key words was your location Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Informative and helpful or tediously self indulgent?"

Both? The one with chapters

is highly amusing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

I dont think it really matters what you write in your profile. Most people seem to just look at the pictures anyway.

We have had 14 winks this morning so obviously none of those winkers read ours lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

The great thing about Fab is you can use your profile how you want. It is a shop window and first indicator of what you are like.

Our profile is long. It takes just over 3 minutes to read. If someone can’t be arsed to put in 3 minutes to get into our pants, then that tells us all we need to know about that person.

Never understood this attitude that if you are swingers then it should be there on a plate? If you saw someone in a bar or club you fancied (the equivalent of looking at photos on profiles), you would have to have a conversation with them and spend a little time finding out about each other. I know some people love an anonymous fuck, but not everyone!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

What do you want your profile to do for you?

When you’ve decided that, form should follow function.

The length isn’t important, what it does is important. (Your profile, not your cock).

Gbat

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Our profile is something we have carefully put together over the last year or so, trying to find a balance of detail, without being too long (in our opinion).

It shows who we are, who we are interested in hearing from and what kind of things we might be keen on to help trigger conversations with the right kind of people.

It's not a menu, or a specific list of asks, or play list detailing exactly what we want to happen on a meet, but it hopefully filters out some of those we aren't compatible with.

It certainly shows us who hasn't bothered. If someone hasn't the patience to read a profile, I'm not sure why we would be confident in them having a decent conversation and listening to us about our limits and desires etc, so why would we want to meet them?

Everyone is free to do their own thing, but we are unlikely to engage with a one line profile unless their first message is excellent

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arynBrianCouple
over a year ago

Epping

Our profile is extensive because those that can read have a better idea of who we are and what we are about. We dislike profiles which give no information as we like to get a handle on the person or couple before deciding to message them.

People have a choice, we don’t expect it to be read in full by those who lack patience or are here just to get their rocks off.

We like to read a well written comprehensive profile and we offer the same, if it not for you just move on.

M&B x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *edonistSeekerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

They’re pointless really. Especially the ones that say ‘read profile carefully’ and then list dozens of do’s and dont’s. You just know you’re going to miss the one crucial one.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"They’re pointless really. Especially the ones that say ‘read profile carefully’ and then list dozens of do’s and dont’s. You just know you’re going to miss the one crucial one. "

That IS the point!

Gbat

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I scan read profiles to ping out key buzz words. Most people waffle too much in long profiles and could get to point quicker.

The point gets over easy enough scanning quickly

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Doesn't that depend on the content, rather than the length?

Yup size doesn't matter if its quality

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Maybe I’ll let Chat GPT have a go at writing our profile.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *restonCouple555Couple
over a year ago

preston

"Our thinking is that if people can't be bothered to read six or seven short paragraphs about people they're presumably considering having sex with, they're probably not going to be a good fit for us.

It's probably not a coincidence that 100% of the people who contact us without having read our profile are not people we would have considered contacting."

This said we have come across a few profiles where people spend hundreds of words explaining why unless you're a fitness model beauty queen you needn't waste their time... Said profiles are usually short on anything that would interest any fitness model beauty queens, however.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they work for the author, then it’s done its job.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ogan WillowCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Better if it's not 'War and Peace'.

They're useful to gauge others preferences.

It also clearly illustrates others impetuous ignorance when not reading them before messaging.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

If the writer has put effort into writing it then I'll read it.

Gives you something to talk about should you meet.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

"As others have already said it's all about content and context.

Some would say mine is too long while others would say it's just right but it wasn't written for Goldilocks.

It's there to give others an idea of who I am and my sense of humour.

I agree there is a happy medium.

Guys get criticised all the time for lack of effort but as far as I'm concerned a lazy profile is a lazy profile no matter what your tits look like. "

I enjoy the way your profile is laid out but then I love books so it resonated for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

If ever there was a time to be self indulgent, surely it should be with finding people to fuck?!

Ours isn’t all that long I don’t think but it serves to hopefully filter out those we won’t be compatible with and entice those we could be compatible with. I would rather a long profile with personality and things that draw us in than a ‘will fill in later’ or a single paragraph that has zero imagination. At the end of the day, people can do (or not do) what they want with their own profile and if people don’t like it, they can click away from it and that’s that.

C x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

The whole point of a profile is to give people an idea of who you are, what your personality’s like, what you’re looking for etc. The length of a bio is part of that as some people will feel like they have to write a lot and describe themselves in detail, some will feel they need to list a lot of do’s and don’ts, some will feel they don’t need to write much at all, it depends on the individual. Some people will be more attracted to a profile with a lot of detail and some won’t, some will like do’s and don’ts and some won’t, it depends on the individual. If you’re the sort of person who likes to give a lot of detail or is self indulgent but you make your bio short because that’s what you think more people will like then you’re not giving a true impression of yourself.

That’s why i think the ‘advice on profile’ threads are pointless because it’s people trying to make themselves seem more appealing by giving the impression they’re different to how they really are. If you’re someone who puts very little effort into things and does the bare minimum but your profile has plenty of pictures and a decent length bio because people advised you to change it from the 1 picture, 1 sentence bio profile that you initially created then you’re going to disappoint people who were attracted to your profile because they’ll eventually realise what you’re really like.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't read long bios....I look at some & say jeez I'm not reading that....I will glance through it & I'll get the jist of some of what's being said....

Neither can I read essay type

first dms....not a chance....4 lines is plenty in a first dm

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Informative and helpful or tediously self indulgent?"

TLDR;

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

What you’re looking for

What you have to offer

These are the profile essentials

The personality should shine through if both are adequately explained

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread