FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

Rejection aggression!

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rejection aggression is not ok.

We receive a lot of anger when we turn people down. We know we are not alone in this and feel the block button as a reply does not go far enough. For us the people who respond to a no with aggression need to be flagged to the rest of the community. There should be no place for these people here.

Would like to know your thoughts.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

From fit to shit in the time it takes someone to read a no.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"From fit to shit in the time it takes someone to read a no. "

A lovely coined phrase

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

Agree..... people need to grow up...we get rejected alot ....we just move on. Do the idiots think if there aggressive we will say oh ok and sorry....let's meet!!

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These kind of people aren’t grown men , boys

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs."

That’s good to know will try that tactic

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Rejection can be hard, but you get used to it after the first few hundred times.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs."

Whilst I certainly understand this point of view, and as had been said before you use Fab how you want. I still find it rude not to say no thanks.

And not that it is an excuse but I think a lot of people have grown up with the idea that they are somehow special, when, frankly they aren't, they are average. (which is not a criticism. I'm average, probably slighty below, and I'm ok with that) My point it, they feel they are special, so the idea of getting rejected is simply not crossed their mind.

There is currently a female "screaming" in my status feed (capitals and everything!) that she messaged 4 men and none of them read her message, suggesting that she is entitled to a reply and how dare they not.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *rainMan
over a year ago

Bristol

See I prefer to be rejected than not get a reply.

When I don’t get reply it’s like wow you feel disgusted at the thought that I even messaged, makes me feel bad but if someone says no it’s like oh you’re just not attracted or something else and it’s understandable

But this is just my take on it

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"See I prefer to be rejected than not get a reply.

When I don’t get reply it’s like wow you feel disgusted at the thought that I even messaged, makes me feel bad but if someone says no it’s like oh you’re just not attracted or something else and it’s understandable

But this is just my take on it "

Yeah, I find it gives you closure. "I tried, but they didn't want to know" ok, fair enough. Whereas being ignored you are left wondering.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...


"Rejection can be hard, but you get used to it after the first few hundred times. "

Yep, practice makes perfect!

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I most probably get more than my fair share of rejections but just have to get on with it

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Been rejected is not nice but you just need to accept the fact that everyone has a right to decide if they are interested in you or not.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If I replied to every message I wasn't interested in, I'd have to quit my job, it would take ages. That's not me being big headed, it's just a reality of being a single woman on here, vastly outnumbered by single men. It's simply too much work to reply to them all. Also the longer i spend actively online here, the more messages I receive...it's a depressing circle.

Also, specifically for the men on here saying it's only polite to reply - once i reply to someone, remember these are people I'm NOT interested in, that's it the message filters no longer work. If i later choose to stop messages from single men for example, any that I've replied to previously can continue to message me. So : No reply means no thanks, end of.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs.

Whilst I certainly understand this point of view, and as had been said before you use Fab how you want. I still find it rude not to say no thanks."

We must be very rude. We reply to less than 5% of messages from couples. If you met us you'd find we're the exact opposite of being rude. Touch wood we've never had an abusive message, unlike many who reply "Thanks for your message, but you're not our type".

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs.

Whilst I certainly understand this point of view, and as had been said before you use Fab how you want. I still find it rude not to say no thanks.

We must be very rude. We reply to less than 5% of messages from couples. If you met us you'd find we're the exact opposite of being rude. Touch wood we've never had an abusive message, unlike many who reply "Thanks for your message, but you're not our type"."

Yeah the latter is our standard reply and the abuse follows. No reply being a polite no will definitely be employed.

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 

By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"These kind of people aren’t grown men , boys "

•

The OP was gracious enough to state "people". They did not explicitly state "grown men , boys".

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
 
 

By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I am going to shut this now as people are posting dirty washing but if you get abuse in mails it should be flagged to Admin who will review

 (thread closed by moderator)

Reply privately
back to top