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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " i've never understood this statement especially on this site. Though i can (just about) see why it's said it seems really odd as we are on here looking to meet like mindes folks we are interested in aren't we ![]() | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " been told by many a couple to take some of our veries down it looks like we met too many people.but we just honest .thats what we do and why we on here.i feel it would be lying to edit them too much by doing that.its some one else's problem not yours.be yourself thats all i satpy.poppyxx ![]() | |||
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" been told by many a couple to take some of our veries down it looks like we met too many people.but we just honest .thats what we do and why we on here.i feel it would be lying to edit them too much by doing that.its some one else's problem not yours.be yourself thats all i satpy.poppyxx ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " I dont show mine for just that reason. I am here for friendship and the friends i make i keep. I also believe in discretion. For me my friends know i am real, my kids know i'm real and the tax man knows i exist everyone else can make up their own minds and take the gamble | |||
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"Despite protestations to the contrary, I think there is an element on here who hope to find a bi fem before she grasps the world of swinging fully and that she will almost become exclusive to them. They feel that a woman with many veris is somehow tarnished and too far down the line to be likely interested in such a scenario. She also comes with the added worry of just how much of a risk she is STD wise due to her multiple partners and like it or not, many will assume that promiscuity will be likely to have involved BB sex at some point. People come here and bring their everyday standards, assumptions and conventions into a sexual arena which in many cases is no bad thing. The downside, of course, is that to many, women with extensive veris will be seen simply as slappers as opposed to swingers." unfortunately we have to agree with you on this, people don't leave their preconceptions and assumptions at the door when they enter the site. We wouldn't be put off by the fact people have actually met others, it shows you do met and you are who you say you are ![]() | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " I don't think its just single bi fems, but anyone with a veri showing for everyday. How can they find so many people they are attracted to? It implies (if they are meet and play veri's) that the person isn't that bothered and will go with anyone - something many would choose to avoid. If that doesn't bother you then sod them! Do what you want and have fun. Afterall there are still plenty willing to meet too..... | |||
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"Multiple veris don't put me off, I do find it a bit odd when people say that myself given the nature of Fab. Given people can hide them anyway it does seem a bit pointless counting them anyway. Sometimes I read veris and wonder if I can keep up with them! Lol. But hey, I'm a trooper and I'm always up for a challenge ![]() ![]() Yet I did just say for me its about finding someone with a simular wants to myself.. Also there are threads about people looking for love on here or shouldn't swinging just be for couples etc.. The general response is people can use the site how they wish so what's the nature of the site?? | |||
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"Let them look elsewhere.... Do they realise that some people hide their veris? Just cos they have only 2/3 shown, doesn't mean they've only met 2/3. Forget them and move on to people who are on here for the same reason you are - fun ![]() I don't understand why its a problem? No people don't show veri's but when u speak to them u would find out how they work.. I not interested in people who meet different people a few times a week or those who meet many many people at one time.. Should I not be on here? So much for preference everyone foes on about ![]() | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " Thats one fem and one couple telling you that. There's an awful lot more who wouldn't be put off so best concentrate on chatting to them. I wouldn't be comfortable meeting with people who start off by telling me how I should be using this site and what I should be showing on my profile. Don't let it bother you and have fun! | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " My thoughts are: what complete judgmental, small minded fools they are x | |||
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"a man said to me once he would be put off meeting a woman who had lots of verifications because he thought she might have an STD." and people have the same thoughts over bi guys.. each to their own | |||
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"A lot of people don't read the full Verification. They skim through and don't get the full picture ![]() Yup. We've had this, but if they had read them, and looked at the dates, they would form a different picture! Our list spans about 4 years, and only half of the people we have actually played with. We made the decision to show our verifs right from the start, to try to give people an idea of what we are like etc, if people don't like what they see, well, there are loads of sexy people out there who will lol! ![]() | |||
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"A lot of people don't read the full Verification. They skim through and don't get the full picture ![]() ![]() Your right ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've had several guys now message me wanting to see me exclusively, I suggest that perhaps they have come to the wrong site, their argument is they want a woman who is "hornier than usual" but someone who won't play with anyone but them!!! ![]() But are they offering the same ? ![]() | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " Display your veri's how you see fit and play with those who won't judge you based on them! I have a fair number displayed, but I also have hidden a couple (mainly from guys I wouldn't play with again) and have had several veri's from people who have left the site so they don't give a full picture anyway. If people think the number I have displayed are a lot then the real number would probably disgust them but so be it, they obviously aren't for me! As for the STD issue - I am tested every 3-4 months (depending on how active I've been) and use condoms. If people feel that me having lots of meets implies I am diseased then leave them to it...I know the truth and my partners know my stance on condoms. Play and display as you see fit after all you're here for your fun and no one elses x | |||
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"Despite protestations to the contrary, I think there is an element on here who hope to find a bi fem before she grasps the world of swinging fully and that she will almost become exclusive to them. They feel that a woman with many veris is somehow tarnished and too far down the line to be likely interested in such a scenario. She also comes with the added worry of just how much of a risk she is STD wise due to her multiple partners and like it or not, many will assume that promiscuity will be likely to have involved BB sex at some point. People come here and bring their everyday standards, assumptions and conventions into a sexual arena which in many cases is no bad thing. The downside, of course, is that to many, women with extensive veris will be seen simply as slappers as opposed to swingers. unfortunately we have to agree with you on this, people don't leave their preconceptions and assumptions at the door when they enter the site. We wouldn't be put off by the fact people have actually met others, it shows you do met and you are who you say you are ![]() I'd rather meet people who are open and confident enough not to hide who they are or who they meet...true swingers wouldn't ask you to change anything about yourself or make you feel bad for living the lifestyle that makes you happy.... I guess some folks are not as open minded as they think! ![]() | |||
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"It always gets us when people say we have too many verifications , and they cite quality over quantity ! What an insult to us and those we have met !!!! Wouldn't wanna meet folk like that in a million years , we are just here for fun and those who criticise like that ain't worth it ![]() who said quality over quantity? | |||
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"Despite protestations to the contrary, I think there is an element on here who hope to find a bi fem before she grasps the world of swinging fully and that she will almost become exclusive to them. They feel that a woman with many veris is somehow tarnished and too far down the line to be likely interested in such a scenario. She also comes with the added worry of just how much of a risk she is STD wise due to her multiple partners and like it or not, many will assume that promiscuity will be likely to have involved BB sex at some point. People come here and bring their everyday standards, assumptions and conventions into a sexual arena which in many cases is no bad thing. The downside, of course, is that to many, women with extensive veris will be seen simply as slappers as opposed to swingers. unfortunately we have to agree with you on this, people don't leave their preconceptions and assumptions at the door when they enter the site. We wouldn't be put off by the fact people have actually met others, it shows you do met and you are who you say you are ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Have had a single fem and a couple tell me that when looking for a single bi fem like myself they would be put off if she had met loads of people. Thoughts? " what business is it of theirs?...its great for people who have someone(ie bf-gf/man-wife), but then to put a limit on how many meets their prospective meet has had/will have??? it really only ever sounds like competition and control to me(coming from any group on fab)- who meets who is regardless of their business...and if they dont want to play with someone who meets too often?...well..they can move on cant they | |||
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"If people dont like any part of my profile, be it my pics or the amount of veri's i have they dont have to mail me To be honest i would be put off with the attitude of people who dont meet those with to many veri's as it just makes me think they are looking for someone to keep for themselves and i dont want to meet people who are going to spit their dummy out every time i meet someone else, if they was just looking for someone to play with and move on why would they care who else you have met" I'd wait in a line of a 100 man line up after u..and I wouldnt care if I was the last one in the line xxxxx see I'm sweet | |||
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"If people dont like any part of my profile, be it my pics or the amount of veri's i have they dont have to mail me To be honest i would be put off with the attitude of people who dont meet those with to many veri's as it just makes me think they are looking for someone to keep for themselves and i dont want to meet people who are going to spit their dummy out every time i meet someone else, if they was just looking for someone to play with and move on why would they care who else you have met I'd wait in a line of a 100 man line up after u..and I wouldnt care if I was the last one in the line xxxxx see I'm sweet" PMSL if you can find 100 men who want me i'll let you jump the queue ![]() | |||
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"If people dont like any part of my profile, be it my pics or the amount of veri's i have they dont have to mail me To be honest i would be put off with the attitude of people who dont meet those with to many veri's as it just makes me think they are looking for someone to keep for themselves and i dont want to meet people who are going to spit their dummy out every time i meet someone else, if they was just looking for someone to play with and move on why would they care who else you have met I'd wait in a line of a 100 man line up after u..and I wouldnt care if I was the last one in the line xxxxx see I'm sweet PMSL if you can find 100 men who want me i'll let you jump the queue ![]() any issues on the quality needed lol..its gonna be really easy lol xxx | |||
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"I show all my veris; I play singly, in groups, at parties, I have occasional social meets that don't go on to play meets, I have repeat meets that aren't verified everytime we meet up, some of my veris have left the site and I meet people who prefer not to leave verifications - therefore some may think I have a lot of verifications but I've actually played a lot more than the veris show. If someone doesn't like that then that's down to them whether they message me or not, although if I were to get a message off a random person/couple saying I have too many then I would introduce them to my block button ![]() ![]() ![]() well said ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If people dont like any part of my profile, be it my pics or the amount of veri's i have they dont have to mail me To be honest i would be put off with the attitude of people who dont meet those with to many veri's as it just makes me think they are looking for someone to keep for themselves and i dont want to meet people who are going to spit their dummy out every time i meet someone else, if they was just looking for someone to play with and move on why would they care who else you have met" Errrm nope never worried about the guys I've met meeting others ![]() | |||
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