FabSwingers.com forum: When potential play partners overstep

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Overstepping the mark when exchanging messages…. When you’re just in the process of messaging initially to establish if there’s any connection or room for development/progression

Hate it when people send a string of question marks when you don’t reply within ten mins and then get passive aggressive. And before long start being abusive and disparaging.

We are definately not cock teases, time wasters, or fantasists. And never promise anything we can’t deliver (or have no intention of delivering) on.

We are a full time working couple who both read and reply to messages so we therefore liaise together and take our time sometimes formulating an appropriate response.

Is this experienced by others on here at all? Really is flabbergasting. And spoils the fun of the lifestyle. Happy to say it’s the few and not the many but wow some comments I’ve seen - it’s pretty vile and intimidating!

Just a little couples rant going on here lol

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By *loozytwozyCouple
over a year ago

Yeah there

It happens to us, but we just see it as another way of sorting the idiots from the genuine people. If they act that way, they aren't for us. Good vibes only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think this is "dial a fuck".

Some people have insanely fragile egos and overblown sense of entitlement to the time and attention of others.

Some people have no intention of meeting and just seem to want to try and wind people up, get wank fodder, or see what they can get away with saying to strangers.

But some, are an absolute delight and we wade through the rest to find them.

I just block at any sign of negativity or drama. Thanking them for the early red flag and no further time wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed, it's a good speedy tool for filtering out the dross

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

We like to mostly meet single guys. But getting an intelligent message from them is quite difficult. We like to be messaged as if we were talking face to face. Too often we see a promising profile which then is ruined by crass playground messaging. There seems to be an awful lack of respect on this site from those that we were willing to share something very intimate and special with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just think patience politeness win every time aswell as good manners then it’s the physical side of things but it a couple/ woman genuinely isn’t interested you have just accept it no matter how gutted you are

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

These kind of exchanges are a great filter for us.

Our WiFi went down during a back and forth with a couple we were pretty keen to meet. When we finally got back on fab the next day, we'd been blocked

Honestly, if they're going to be that disrespectful over a slow reply, how respectful will they be of your boundaries during a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neediness isn't attractive so anyone sending multiple messages I stop engaging with. If you can't be patient waiting for a message, makes me wonder how they behave during sex.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

"Overstepping the mark when exchanging messages…. When you’re just in the process of messaging initially to establish if there’s any connection or room for development/progression

Hate it when people send a string of question marks when you don’t reply within ten mins and then get passive aggressive. And before long start being abusive and disparaging.

We are definately not cock teases, time wasters, or fantasists. And never promise anything we can’t deliver (or have no intention of delivering) on.

We are a full time working couple who both read and reply to messages so we therefore liaise together and take our time sometimes formulating an appropriate response.

Just a little couples rant going on here lol "

keep being you two after all thats what matters ....

i never worry im clear n blunt and to the point and i have a life im not chained to my laptop i refuse to open the phone app im here for me and hubs nothing else matters ..block move on

and yes its a near everyday occurrence

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall

Never overstep, if you invited then you be respectful to the rules

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By *nt1845Man
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s just respect.

If I message a couple and they don’t reply I get that they’re not interested.

It’s fine, it’s life.

It is tough for single guys to get a meet especially with a couple, but when it happens it’s amazing

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By *stondb7Couple
over a year ago

Preston

When we started on this site, we honestly thought everyone had the same thoughts and respect that we do...we quickly learned that guys would talk to us, then the next day completely disappear...

We now filter out early on with the conversations if the message just starts with "Hi"...or "you ok?"...it the ones that make the effort make us respond...

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