FabSwingers.com forum: Parties vs this site

By *lackstar00 OP Man
over a year ago

London

Maybe it’s just me but I find when talking to women on this site it feels like so many rules apply, so many questions, personal specifications, and requirements, etc

But when you’re at a party the same questions / rules don’t apply, every one is much more relaxed and never have I been asked about my relationship status.

Maybe I look better than I message

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We're mainly club/party swingers. There's definitely more of a sense of that environment being an alternative world to the everyday world. Something simply of that time and space.

With regards to people's lives in the outside world its not really something people check. We've meet a fair few women, men and even couples on the club/party scene doing it behind their repective spouces backs over the years. Some We're really liked including a couple of cheating couples who seem such a good and loving match it's a complete shock when you find out. Honestly some people are a complete shock and you'd never have guessed. Sometimes We've had great experiences with people and it's only afterwards we've found out, which sort of puts a bit of a dampener on something which was good.

In terms of clubs/parties for us we're not their to police others morals or actions. Generally it's not something we personally approve of or like. So its never an endearing factor. However we are mainly there for our own enjoyment and not to be eagerly playing Miss Marple to uncover other people's outside relationship status. Like everyone else we're just there for a hot time.

So why is it different there than on here? I guess there is more of a sense of being in a different world in a party or club. A world where we can all forget the outside world for a bit. You can meet people in that time and space only, without it following you outside or online. Online is more the real world, just digitised. And most people don't want to be party to someone's cheating. With the online world there's more of an element of premeditation regards a meet. So people have choice, opportunity and take more effort to avoid this. At a party its very much something of the now and people take others as they find them and much more at face value.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I just don’t care to chat to people on fab, as in get to know people over messages as it’s just not something that interests me.

There’s got to be that attraction and vibe for me, and I only attend clubs.

I’m happy to say hello and do the standard pleasantries but I’d rather just meet people face to face at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it’s just me but I find when talking to women on this site it feels like so many rules apply, so many questions, personal specifications, and requirements, etc

But when you’re at a party the same questions / rules don’t apply, every one is much more relaxed and never have I been asked about my relationship status.

Maybe I look better than I message

Online they need to filter down messages, establish compatibility, safety etc. in person it’s much easier to assess the person and situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think it is easier talking to women in bars and clubs than on here. But they must be getting bombarded with messages from random guys so not complaining

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We don't meet people direct from fab anymore. We much prefer private parties because they are much more relaxed and everyone is really friendly. If we wanted a MFM we would go to a club or ask fab friends to recommend a guy.

Fab is great for keeping in touch with people and arranging to go out on a club party event night.

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By *zeroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm mainly on the site for the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The party scene is fantastic, I go to one locally about once a month.....fantastic nights

Newbies are welcome at the discretion of the hostess too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it’s just me but I find when talking to women on this site it feels like so many rules apply, so many questions, personal specifications, and requirements, etc

But when you’re at a party the same questions / rules don’t apply, every one is much more relaxed and never have I been asked about my relationship status.

Maybe I look better than I message

Online they need to filter down messages, establish compatibility, safety etc. in person it’s much easier to assess the person and situation. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it’s just me but I find when talking to women on this site it feels like so many rules apply, so many questions, personal specifications, and requirements, etc

But when you’re at a party the same questions / rules don’t apply, every one is much more relaxed and never have I been asked about my relationship status.

Maybe I look better than I message

Different types of people meet online or at parties and clubs..

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's much easier to get a feel for someone and see if there's attraction when you're face to face with them.

On here you're often just seeing their body untill they share a face pic with you.

I do still always ask if someone's single though, here or in a club etc as it's important to me.

Others might not as at a party or club it's quite anonymous.Where as if someone was attached on here, there's the risk their partner might catch them and see who they have met etc.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

This site. We have been to a few clubs and generally had fun but prefer to meet for a social, establish a connection and compatibility and then play in someone’s home which feels more intimate and erotic. Our wants are quite niche-soft play and bi- so, not what the average couple are looking for in a club. Fab has also worked well for us on the very, very occasional times, when travelling, we have wanted a bi single male at short notice to add to the mix. Fab gets a lot of stick but it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it depends on your wants and needs at the time. I like fab for establishing long term play buddies, i do want to know more about people, if I'm meeting them regularly. I like clubs for the in the moment thrill of playing. I will still make conversation and ask certain questions but i get that is a different mindset in those place. Plus in clubs i can see the reality of people and attraction is easier to process.

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By *lackstar00 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I'm mainly on the site for the forums "

I’m finding myself doing this more as well.

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By *lackstar00 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Suppose it depends on your wants and needs at the time. I like fab for establishing long term play buddies, i do want to know more about people, if I'm meeting them regularly. I like clubs for the in the moment thrill of playing. I will still make conversation and ask certain questions but i get that is a different mindset in those place. Plus in clubs i can see the reality of people and attraction is easier to process. "

Interesting, some very good points… I guess in person it’s much easy to know if you click

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By *lackstar00 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"We don't meet people direct from fab anymore. We much prefer private parties because they are much more relaxed and everyone is really friendly. If we wanted a MFM we would go to a club or ask fab friends to recommend a guy.

Fab is great for keeping in touch with people and arranging to go out on a club party event night."

I really didn’t know people would ask for recommendations but thinking about it, it makes total sense

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