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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious

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By *astlincscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

42

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I need to know what a 'real swinger ' is first please

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Alexa, what's a "real" swinger?

LvM

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By *trkenitMan
over a year ago

Clovis

Truly unknown!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never classed myself as a swinger.

Last time I said that someone asked me why I was here then?

My reply was because I was!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Definitely depends on the definition.

I’m not a “real” swinger

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious "

What's a real swinger?

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We don't class ourselves as "Swingers" more of couple in a "Open Relationship" as calling youselves "Swingers" nowadays carries way to much baggage and then people do ssume we'll basically bang anything with or without a pulse just because we are actually on here ? and Mrs4 must constantly gagging for cock action and has no life outside of "Fab" either but just sits around waiting for ...but depends on what you clas as real swingers though in the end ? xxx

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious "

40%? That high? The sheer number of "single" males on here would lead me to believe that number is much lower.

To me, "swingers" means couples who share/swap partners with other couples. At least that's the classic interpretation of the word. Not single/cheating males wanting a quick shag.

Before anyone says "but yours is a single profile", I do have a couples profile with my partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So for the purpose of my question a real swinger is ‘a person who engages in group sex or swapping of partners during sex’.

So for me I’ve engaged in group sex several MMF with various couples over the years, so I would class myself as a swinger even though I’m single.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so you clearly fall into the non swinger category ??


"I've never classed myself as a swinger.

Last time I said that someone asked me why I was here then?

My reply was because I was! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Single people can be swingers too not just couples. Lots of single females on here too


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious

40%? That high? The sheer number of "single" males on here would lead me to believe that number is much lower.

To me, "swingers" means couples who share/swap partners with other couples. At least that's the classic interpretation of the word. Not single/cheating males wanting a quick shag.

Before anyone says "but yours is a single profile", I do have a couples profile with my partner.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"So for the purpose of my question a real swinger is ‘a person who engages in group sex or swapping of partners during sex’.

So for me I’ve engaged in group sex several MMF with various couples over the years, so I would class myself as a swinger even though I’m single.

"

I don’t think this defines swinger IMO.

Everyone uses the site differently as long as everyone’s honest about that and polite there’s space for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok then define swinger for me please.

Like I said in my original post I’m not judging I’m simply curious.


"So for the purpose of my question a real swinger is ‘a person who engages in group sex or swapping of partners during sex’.

So for me I’ve engaged in group sex several MMF with various couples over the years, so I would class myself as a swinger even though I’m single.

I don’t think this defines swinger IMO.

Everyone uses the site differently as long as everyone’s honest about that and polite there’s space for everyone "

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth


"Alexa, what's a "real" swinger?

LvM"

A member of the rat pack and hangers on

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By *andd_bicoupleCouple
over a year ago

wilmslow

We are on here for differnt things people have differnt taste

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

I hate labels. I participate in group sex occasionally so what does that make me? Part time swinger? Pseudo swinger? Just do what makes you happy so long as you aren't hurting anyone and to hell with the labels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A swinger I would think.

People seem to be a bit twitchy over this. Just asking peoples opinions on numbers for the site. Haven’t started a witch hunt to oust all the non swingers!


"I hate labels. I participate in group sex occasionally so what does that make me? Part time swinger? Pseudo swinger? Just do what makes you happy so long as you aren't hurting anyone and to hell with the labels. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Different things to who/what?

Yea everyone has different tastes no doubt about it


"We are on here for differnt things people have differnt taste "

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I’d class myself as “swinger” but this such had such nuanced and fluid meaning to it.

Some will class themselves as one, others won’t depending how often they meet with others. Some like clubs and socials, others prefer private meets some like a mixture of both etc etc..

Different strokes for different folks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d class myself as “swinger” but this such had such nuanced and fluid meaning to it.

Some will class themselves as one, others won’t depending how often they meet with others. Some like clubs and socials, others prefer private meets some like a mixture of both etc etc..

Different strokes for different folks "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks great answer. Would you hazard a guess at percentages?


"I’d class myself as “swinger” but this such had such nuanced and fluid meaning to it.

Some will class themselves as one, others won’t depending how often they meet with others. Some like clubs and socials, others prefer private meets some like a mixture of both etc etc..

Different strokes for different folks "

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"Thanks great answer. Would you hazard a guess at percentages? "

No idea, and I’m not really bothered too busy just living life

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

tamworth

I guess that would depend on the interpretation of what a "real swinger" is. Which is also just opinion based.

I know alot of couples who believe single men/women aren't swingers, that couples seeking other couples are swingers. Some people are more fluid than that and count singles also as swingers rather than just extras.

We don't really call ourselves swingers as only one half of the couple does full play, the other is only interested in the occasional soft play if the vibe is right.

I guess that's why there are alot of more labels to give a clue to the dynamic and preference.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
over a year ago

Maidstone

Sssshhhh!! You mustn't mention swingers on here! "They" don't like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitions though.

I love these threads when everyone just makes up their own stuff. Here they are:

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

Or

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

Not many men on here getting much sex let alone group sex. And I can't see very many fashionable people..

So I'm going with 15%

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep I can see you logic and how it equates to a low percentage


"There are definitions though.

I love these threads when everyone just makes up their own stuff. Here they are:

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

Or

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

Not many men on here getting much sex let alone group sex. And I can't see very many fashionable people..

So I'm going with 15% "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious "

Certainly getting fewer and fewer. Many profiles would be more suited to fabguys in my view. R

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious

Certainly getting fewer and fewer. Many profiles would be more suited to fabguys in my view. R"

Not many have the balls xx

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We think it takes two to swing so real swingers are couples. Thats not to say singles don't bring a lot to the scene because obviously they do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great points


"We think it takes two to swing so real swingers are couples. Thats not to say singles don't bring a lot to the scene because obviously they do."

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"We think it takes two to swing so real swingers are couples. Thats not to say singles don't bring a lot to the scene because obviously they do."

We try

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

I would define a swinger as someone who participates in casual sex with other folks outside of a monogamous relationship.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"I would define a swinger as someone who participates in casual sex with other folks outside of a monogamous relationship."

Or not in a relationship to begin with i think xx

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I engage in group sex and general non monogamy.

But I don't consider myself a swinger.

Without an absolute definition there's no way to even estimate it.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"I engage in group sex and general non monogamy.

But I don't consider myself a swinger.

Without an absolute definition there's no way to even estimate it."

Each to their own i think x

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By *odandbecksCouple
over a year ago

Minehead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder what percentage of people here are polyam?

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away

seem to be a lot of singles, defending their position

Consenting married couples swapping wives are the "real swingers"

A very small % on here are "real swingers"

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

I believe Fab started out as a "swinging site" but it has now evolved into an adult sex site. It's irrelevant wether people are swingers, players, men/women/TVs ect ect...

People should just use the site in a way that suits them and let others do the same..

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By *otwifecplCouple
over a year ago

bham

We wouldn't class ourselves as "real swingers" but K does play with others because it turns me on.

She has played in clubs and even has a couple of "bulls" who she'd likely fuck repeatedly. But I won't play. We are happy to label ourselves as just a naughty horny happy couple.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

According to the Oxford Dictionary, a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"According to the Oxford Dictionary, a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners."

In this case I would think it's a pretty low number on here judging by the "can't get a meet" threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That would be my take too. Interesting that some people believe it to be just couples. Totally fine I just find it interesting the way the term is interpreted


"According to the Oxford Dictionary, a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting and thanks for the input


"seem to be a lot of singles, defending their position

Consenting married couples swapping wives are the "real swingers"

A very small % on here are "real swingers""

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By *enerife_otwifecplCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

How would you define swingers?

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3

I was a swinger and then I discovered this site and things weren't FAB anymore.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

I suppose the meaning has changed over time and means different things to different people. By real swingers they possibly mean the classic definition which was couples who swapped with other couples.

Of course over time as with anything it has morphed into other things.

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16


"I hate labels. I participate in group sex occasionally so what does that make me? Part time swinger? Pseudo swinger? Just do what makes you happy so long as you aren't hurting anyone and to hell with the labels. "

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I don't what a real swinger is or what it's not. Seems a bit subjective.

We just do our thing. It's mainly enjoying swinger parties, clubs and seducing then taking to bed people we bump into in the vanilla world. We also like the occasional orgy as well as a 3some or 4some. However when we go to clubs and parties we don't always swing (depending on who's there) but we have a bloody good time. Plus after all these years as a couple we've yet to have arranged a meet online (online worlds not so much for us). So I don't know if that makes us swingers or not? If we are swingers, we're probably very shit swingers as we're a bit fussy, don't alway play and concentrate more on socialising than the sex. However don't really care if people see us as "real" swingers or not. We do our thing and we're happy. And when we find what we're looking for (be that classed as swinging or not) it's often pretty fucking awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As other have said what is a “real swinger”

It’s all perception. You define the site only has 40% real swingers by your self definition of what a swinger is. So the answer for you is 40%.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"How would you define swingers?"

My definition would be to just fuck with like minded people..simple i think

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

And how many of these “real swingers” are truly jungle VIPs?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd say the percentage of people wanting to class themselves as a cut above others on this website, is higher than the percentage of "real swingers", for any given definition of real swinger.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m not real.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’m not real. "

is this the real life, is this just fantasy

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I’m not real.

is this the real life, is this just fantasy"

Caught in a landslide

Overwhelmed (sic) by reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who owns a fruit bowl with keys in

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I had a pineapple once!

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"I'd say the percentage of people wanting to class themselves as a cut above others on this website, is higher than the percentage of "real swingers", for any given definition of real swinger."

Agreed

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Depends what a real swinger is!

Most on here are fantasists

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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago

Hayling Island

This old trope again

'Real Swingers', 'real Men', 'real bi'...... Why can't we just meet people where they're at and respect and celebrate individuality? Stop trying to fit everybody into boxes that you define for them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nobody is trying to put anyone into boxes and if you read the opening thread you would see this. So wind your precious tits in and get down off your soap box


"This old trope again

'Real Swingers', 'real Men', 'real bi'...... Why can't we just meet people where they're at and respect and celebrate individuality? Stop trying to fit everybody into boxes that you define for them!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That was my estimation against the term swinger as defined in the Oxford dictionary. I was simply asking other people thought was the percentage.

But as usual people read what they want to and use it as a way to make a snide comment.

What ever happened to civil debate?


"As other have said what is a “real swinger”

It’s all perception. You define the site only has 40% real swingers by your self definition of what a swinger is. So the answer for you is 40%."

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’m a swinger in the dictionary sense of the word.

Group sex and different sexual partners.

But don’t see myself as one from my interpretation of it haha.

I’d say 90% of people are swingers by that definition. Most on here are here for group sex or different partners.

But personally I think most on here aren’t swingers haha!

For me swinging is a married couple who embrace additional sexual partners as a lifestyle.

It’s all too confusing

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"I’m a swinger in the dictionary sense of the word.

Group sex and different sexual partners.

But don’t see myself as one from my interpretation of it haha.

I’d say 90% of people are swingers by that definition. Most on here are here for group sex or different partners.

But personally I think most on here aren’t swingers haha!

For me swinging is a married couple who embrace additional sexual partners as a lifestyle.

It’s all too confusing "

Now I know what the dictionary definition is (thanks), I realise I actually am a swinger, but does it really matter? Just as long as all the different shades of desire can be met, let's just enjoy ourselves and not worry what to call it.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Nobody is trying to put anyone into boxes and if you read the opening thread you would see this. So wind your precious tits in and get down off your soap box

This old trope again

'Real Swingers', 'real Men', 'real bi'...... Why can't we just meet people where they're at and respect and celebrate individuality? Stop trying to fit everybody into boxes that you define for them!"

You said it better than i could

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I’m a swinger in the dictionary sense of the word.

Group sex and different sexual partners.

But don’t see myself as one from my interpretation of it haha.

I’d say 90% of people are swingers by that definition. Most on here are here for group sex or different partners.

But personally I think most on here aren’t swingers haha!

For me swinging is a married couple who embrace additional sexual partners as a lifestyle.

It’s all too confusing

Now I know what the dictionary definition is (thanks), I realise I actually am a swinger, but does it really matter? Just as long as all the different shades of desire can be met, let's just enjoy ourselves and not worry what to call it."

Doesn’t matter I guess.

Just passing time in the forums lol.

Interesting though, I’d never refer to myself as a swinger in “the real world” haha

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Alexa, what's a "real" swinger?

LvM"

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Very similar opinions to _luttylayla, I was a single "swinger" for 18 months in terms of group sex, clubs, non monogamy. But by definition I wasn't a "real" swinger as I wasn't couple swapping. Now I'm in a couple and we haven't done swapping either. Just love the clubs still and I play with women.

Fuck labels !

And yeah tons of people are on fabswingers to hook up and not swing. But that's not my business

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Very similar opinions to _luttylayla, I was a single "swinger" for 18 months in terms of group sex, clubs, non monogamy. But by definition I wasn't a "real" swinger as I wasn't couple swapping. Now I'm in a couple and we haven't done swapping either. Just love the clubs still and I play with women.

Fuck labels !

And yeah tons of people are on fabswingers to hook up and not swing. But that's not my business "

Ah miss your face, hope your well! Xx

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant


"Very similar opinions to _luttylayla, I was a single "swinger" for 18 months in terms of group sex, clubs, non monogamy. But by definition I wasn't a "real" swinger as I wasn't couple swapping. Now I'm in a couple and we haven't done swapping either. Just love the clubs still and I play with women.

Fuck labels !

And yeah tons of people are on fabswingers to hook up and not swing. But that's not my business

Ah miss your face, hope your well! Xx"

I was out today I pretty much do daytimes and a few kink events hope you are well too xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I’m not interested in labels either there was a thread a while back about exclusivity whereby people were stating ‘if your exclusive you’re not a swinger’ so I was just trying to gauge what peoples opinions were on swingers vs hook ups on here. Not judging or labelling just curious that’s all


"Very similar opinions to _luttylayla, I was a single "swinger" for 18 months in terms of group sex, clubs, non monogamy. But by definition I wasn't a "real" swinger as I wasn't couple swapping. Now I'm in a couple and we haven't done swapping either. Just love the clubs still and I play with women.

Fuck labels !

And yeah tons of people are on fabswingers to hook up and not swing. But that's not my business "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was my estimation against the term swinger as defined in the Oxford dictionary. I was simply asking other people thought was the percentage.

But as usual people read what they want to and use it as a way to make a snide comment.

What ever happened to civil debate?

As other have said what is a “real swinger”

It’s all perception. You define the site only has 40% real swingers by your self definition of what a swinger is. So the answer for you is 40%."

You asked a question you got an answer!

Wind ya neck in. If you don’t like the answer don’t ask the question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was asking for other peoples estimation not a repeat of my own one ffs


"That was my estimation against the term swinger as defined in the Oxford dictionary. I was simply asking other people thought was the percentage.

But as usual people read what they want to and use it as a way to make a snide comment.

What ever happened to civil debate?

As other have said what is a “real swinger”

It’s all perception. You define the site only has 40% real swingers by your self definition of what a swinger is. So the answer for you is 40%.

You asked a question you got an answer!

Wind ya neck in. If you don’t like the answer don’t ask the question."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigger question is why does it matter?

If a swinging couple can make use of a non-real swinger, who cares?

I’d much rather find people I connect with in a sexual way through mutual kinks, turn ons and fantasy’s than through how they define themselves.

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Im on here to connect with people who are more relaxed about sex and sexuality. As a married guy playing alone I would be better going to dating sites if it was just a shag I was looking for. Ive swapped with others in previous relationshis so I guess inherently I still class myself as a swinger.

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge


"A swinger I would think.

People seem to be a bit twitchy over this. Just asking peoples opinions on numbers for the site. Haven’t started a witch hunt to oust all the non swingers!

I hate labels. I participate in group sex occasionally so what does that make me? Part time swinger? Pseudo swinger? Just do what makes you happy so long as you aren't hurting anyone and to hell with the labels. "

Brilliant comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious "

If Real Swingers get angry at being asked what Real Swingers are, there's loads!

It's a good question. I think people assign themsleves different labels than other people might label them, so it's difficult to answer.

ENM, poly, open relationships, fucking around, swinging. All the same thing but some labels are viewed as more 'classy' than others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It really doesn’t matter i was just trying to gauge what sort of ratios are on this ‘swingers’ site. Nothing sinister just curious


"Bigger question is why does it matter?

If a swinging couple can make use of a non-real swinger, who cares?

I’d much rather find people I connect with in a sexual way through mutual kinks, turn ons and fantasy’s than through how they define themselves. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds like a very honest answer and I think probably relates to a lot of people on here. Myself included


"Im on here to connect with people who are more relaxed about sex and sexuality. As a married guy playing alone I would be better going to dating sites if it was just a shag I was looking for. Ive swapped with others in previous relationshis so I guess inherently I still class myself as a swinger."

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Most just chat or quick shag I have found

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I’ve been surprised by the venom in some of the responses! Way of the world nowadays I guess


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious

If Real Swingers get angry at being asked what Real Swingers are, there's loads!

It's a good question. I think people assign themsleves different labels than other people might label them, so it's difficult to answer.

ENM, poly, open relationships, fucking around, swinging. All the same thing but some labels are viewed as more 'classy' than others. "

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By *eltic connectionCouple
over a year ago

Manningtree

For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good points and I would think an accurate assessment using that traditional definition


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures! "

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

10% at this point

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"And how many of these “real swingers” are truly jungle VIPs?"

That made me smile

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Depends if you go for the dictionary meaning, traditional meaning or the one where singles wanting a fuck get offended because they aren't swingers meaning?

It does have a definition and it's not one that anyone makes up to suit.

It does make me laugh though it's kind of like saying baked beans are whatever I want them to be, not your definition, I like them as peas.

Mrs

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures! "

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' . "

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

"

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I would define a swinger as someone who participates in casual sex with other folks outside of a monogamous relationship."

This is what I would use as a definition of a swinger. And I definitely class myself as one albeit I have only ever been on Fab as a single for many years

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky "

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!"

It doesn't have too! Swingers are couples, a single is just kinky and on a sex website they aren't sharing a partner so their not a swinger. Makes no difference what you quoted

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"I need to know what a 'real swinger ' is first please"

If you mean someone who enjoys being with some otherone then i guess i might tick the box...

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!

It doesn't have too! Swingers are couples, a single is just kinky and on a sex website they aren't sharing a partner so their not a swinger. Makes no difference what you quoted "

So if i split with a partner i am no longer a swinger???

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' . "

Brilliant

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!

It doesn't have too! Swingers are couples, a single is just kinky and on a sex website they aren't sharing a partner so their not a swinger. Makes no difference what you quoted

So if i split with a partner i am no longer a swinger???"

Nope your just a kinky single guy who likes sex, nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't class you as a swinger. I dont class FB's as swingers either. Swingers are proper couples who engage in sex with other couples or singles (but the singles aren't swingers )

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!

It doesn't have too! Swingers are couples, a single is just kinky and on a sex website they aren't sharing a partner so their not a swinger. Makes no difference what you quoted

So if i split with a partner i am no longer a swinger???

Nope your just a kinky single guy who likes sex, nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't class you as a swinger. I dont class FB's as swingers either. Swingers are proper couples who engage in sex with other couples or singles (but the singles aren't swingers )"

Makes sense Totally agree

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!

It doesn't have too! Swingers are couples, a single is just kinky and on a sex website they aren't sharing a partner so their not a swinger. Makes no difference what you quoted

So if i split with a partner i am no longer a swinger???

Nope your just a kinky single guy who likes sex, nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't class you as a swinger. I dont class FB's as swingers either. Swingers are proper couples who engage in sex with other couples or singles (but the singles aren't swingers )

Makes sense Totally agree "

Its great, we have met loads of guys over the years and they actually bring a hell of a lot to the scene so its all good

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

much lower when you think 90% on here are men or men pretending to be women / couples id say 10% is real ie those who live the lifestyle once all the none swinging men are removed blunt but honest

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By *edsky29Couple
over a year ago

Fine Ass City


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious "

Feels like 10% lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Could well be!


"So a couple of recent posts have got me thinking what is the % of real swingers on here as opposed to people looking to hook up/find a fuck? I’m thinking maybe 40% real swingers but I’d be interested to hear your views.

Not judging at all and I know the site has evolved simply curious

Feels like 10% lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting and I think you’re not alone with this view. The ‘swingers’ are the couples and the ‘extras’ are the singles, male or female.

Perhaps Oxford dictionary needs to be told?


"For us the traditional meaning of swinging was couples getting together to swap partners. Today it seems to be used for anyone having casual sex anywhere they can get it!

If you go with the traditional meaning then I should think the percentage on fab is sadly now in single figures!

We go for the traditional meaning and find fab is full of likeminded couples.

We like single guys too though for a hot MFM but we don't class them as swingers.

Many times we have seen two singles get together on fab and then immediately cease swinging because its 'cheating' .

INFORMAL

the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Makes no difference, it still takes 2 i.e. a couple to swing. Otherwise you're just a single on a sex site who's kinky

Obviously you didn't read it properly. Doesn't say anything about being a couple!

It doesn't have too! Swingers are couples, a single is just kinky and on a sex website they aren't sharing a partner so their not a swinger. Makes no difference what you quoted

So if i split with a partner i am no longer a swinger???

Nope your just a kinky single guy who likes sex, nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't class you as a swinger. I dont class FB's as swingers either. Swingers are proper couples who engage in sex with other couples or singles (but the singles aren't swingers )"

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