FabSwingers.com forum: 'Cheating on my boyfriend/husband'

By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

One for the guys this.

If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Let's be honest....not many are going to say no

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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"Let's be honest....not many are going to say no

If they answer at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for the guys this.

Are you asking from experience OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest....not many are going to say no

Lol.

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

If it's just a fuck then yes. If it's an affair then no.

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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"One for the guys this.

Are you asking from experience OP"

If you mean as in, am I chatting to someone who's told me this then no.

But if I was asking myself this question, I'd turn her down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for the guys this.

I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".

It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.

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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"One for the guys this.

I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".

It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy."

If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I the past yes and I'd of got off on it. Over the years karmas taught me to stay well away though so now, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for the guys this.

I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".

It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.

If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?"

Hey I was barely 20 at the time and had the chance to fuck someone in their early thirties haha

Maybe it's a bad thing to admit to but I think there's a difference if you actually know the person and pursue them....or if you meet in a bar or on fab etc.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Yes. I have done it several times. Her choice and responsibility. In the same way that my choices are my responsibility.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?"

I want to be a man who gets lots of great sex

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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?

I want to be a man who gets lots of great sex

To be fair that would have been my goal in my twenties, but as I've gotten older I've come to realise there's more to being a man than the notches on your bedpost.

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By *M60Couple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

100% Walk away.

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By *ensualpleasures69Man
over a year ago

leeds

No, no, no on every level.

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

I couldn't go through with it tbh and actually would try to tell the other guy because no one deserves to be cheated on I've never cheated I've always been cheated on never the one cheating scummy move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hungry must be fed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for the guys this.

Morally I have no obligation to him or to her. Also if it’s not me it’s going to be someone else so I might as well get my dick wet.

Will.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

"One for the guys this.

Aren't most single profiles in a relationship

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Yes, I would.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I would say no only because I don’t want the drama. I don’t want some jealous husband getting all physical with me because his lady is doing things behind his back.

I like everyone to be upfront - if hubby is happy for me to meet his wife in her own then I am all over that. If he doesn’t know - much less so.

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By *ltmeeMan
over a year ago

wrexham

"Let's be honest....not many are going to say no

If the other half is built like a brick shithouse though I'd question my sanity.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Some years ago, back where we used to live, I contacted a newly-joined couple on here, but got no reply - until weeks later, when out of the blue, I suddenly got a message from the wife...

....message exchanges developed into texts and phone calls, during which it transpired that though they played together with other couples, she was looking for 'extra fun' on her own, without his knowledge...

....which suited me fine, because I was married and playing without my wife knowing too - which actually turned out to be a big turn-on for my new playmate...

....I spent a number of mornings in her bed making 'special deliveries' while her postman husband was at work!

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"One for the guys this.

I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".

It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.

If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?"

Why ask the question if you are going to judge people who answer honestly?

I don't think that's very fair of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One for the guys this.

Honestly no I wouldn't want it to happen to me so can't pull a double standard

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

"One for the guys this.

I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".

It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.

If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?

Why ask the question if you are going to judge people who answer honestly?

I don't think that's very fair of you. "

^this. Bravo. As the great Admiral Ackbar once said. "It's a trap"

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By *endalshaggersCouple
48 weeks ago

Kendal

Tough one.

Morally, its wrong they're cheating and would you fuck someone knowing there's a partner waiting for them at home unwittingly?

On the other side of the coin, it's a them problem not an us problem they're cheating.

There will be loads of random one night hookups that go on from this site where people aren't 100% truthful. After all we're all on here with the same goal - to fuck others.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"One for the guys this.

Aren't most single profiles in a relationship

Not me.

As much as I understand there are some men and women on here who are cheating and have a singles profile, it would be bad to assume all single profiles are people in relationships secretly cheating.

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By *ike4362ukMan
48 weeks ago

Cheshunt

I have in the past. Lady on PoF, we hooked up a few time. She told me that they were effectively seperated but lived in the same house.

I'm not certain that I believed her, but she did stay overnight. So I wasn't worried about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

No I wouldn’t, that’s just unfaithful, and wrong in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"No I wouldn’t, that’s just unfaithful, and wrong in my opinion "

Quite right too but so many people cheat it is downgrading. If you cannot stand them do the honourable thing. Some like too much cake, some say sex is zero

I am sticking to being faithful too

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

It's a no from me.

I'll leave cheaters to cheat and be cheated on, but would steer well clear myself. Too much deception, lies and sneaking around for my liking. Besides, I've been cheated on in the past and it's not much fun.

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By *heelz69Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester

I don't agree with cheating, and I wouldn't see anyone that is cheating, I don't like being cheated on so I couldn't do it to anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Tough one.

Morally, its wrong they're cheating and would you fuck someone knowing there's a partner waiting for them at home unwittingly?

On the other side of the coin, it's a them problem not an us problem they're cheating.

There will be loads of random one night hookups that go on from this site where people aren't 100% truthful. After all we're all on here with the same goal - to fuck others. "

You can say no thank you. You are the faithful not a traitor. If you did fuck about with them that makes you as bad as them for planting your sperm on a married or attached person. Poor partner has to pick up pieces.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"It's a no from me.

Right. It is pretty awful fucking with emotions. Been there too.

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By *rispyDuckMan
48 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Will have to be a “No” from me

Sadly it’s more common than people like to admit. Society has this perception it’s mostly men who cheat but I beg to differ. The amount of GF in relationships my brother & mates have gone through on holidays & night’s out lol you will be shocked!!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
48 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I have in the past. Lady on PoF, we hooked up a few time. She told me that they were effectively seperated but lived in the same house.

I'm not certain that I believed her, but she did stay overnight. So I wasn't worried about it."

Staying overnight and you believing they're effectively single isn't much to hold on to when the angry spouse and mother in law come to scream at you on your doorstep, trust me.

Effectively separated is not the same as all parties are clear and understanding of the situation. Its not a position I will willingly put myself in again for sure.

I'm on here as a single when I'm not actually single. But all of my partners are aware that I'm on here and have their own active accounts

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I personally wouldn't help anone cheat on someone as I wouldn't want it to happen to myself

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By *agnar73Man
48 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Maybe depends how far in. If you’ve met her a couple of times for the old y’know then, it’s more her problem.

If you find out after a first meet, easier to say nah, don’t need the bother.

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By *heelz69Man
48 weeks ago

Manchester

"It's a no from me.

Right. It is pretty awful fucking with emotions. Been there too. "

Hi there I would love to chat with you, but your profile is hidden

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm not a guy but as we meet women & we've turned many a cheating woman down, it's just not for us.

This is fun & potentially breaking someone's family or relationship through lies & deceit isn't fun, never mind a random husband/boyfriend turning up.

Mrs

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By *eegh0stsMan
48 weeks ago

I’ll probably be going against the grain here but personally, I prefer it.

I’m not sure why I prefer it. I have no interest in telling her fella. Her life is her life and I accept that I’m just a small bit of fun and a break from that.

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By *ampire69Man
48 weeks ago

Birmingham West Midlands

the other persons life is their issue not mine, if they want to play and have fun the game on go for it

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By *igBeauty14Couple
48 weeks ago

grimsby

My partner likes it if I have a couple of meets without telling him and then let him know weeks later. He likes the idea of me keeping it from him at first but then we have the best sex when I explain to him who it is and what we’ve done. So hot

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I find it quite hot to fuck a married woman

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By *LiamMan
48 weeks ago

Midlands

I've caught someone cheating on me, I was sad for about 5 minutes.

Now I sleep with married women

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By *alcon43Woman
48 weeks ago

Paisley

What’s the dilemma? People choose to be on Fab for their own reasons. What happens between you and her is totally hypothetical just now unless you know you want more than nsa fun.

I’ve only had one experience where the wife found out. I’ve had several regular meets with married guys but they weren’t affairs as we weren’t romantically involved.

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By *ilk_TrayMan
48 weeks ago

South

"If it's just a fuck then yes. If it's an affair then no.

This

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By *pandjMan
48 weeks ago

Sparkford

If it was off fab then I'd probably assume its as of their swinging or cuck dynamic

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
48 weeks ago

Southampton

"I've caught someone cheating on me, I was sad for about 5 minutes.

Now I sleep with married women"

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Nah, not really into the idea of sleeping with people who enjoy causing psychological harm to innocent people.

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By *ikos81Man
48 weeks ago

Hamilton

I would

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Yeah I'm sure I would.

At the end of the day if it wasn't me it would probably be someone else, so it might as well be me!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I would do it at the end of the day it’s going to happen anyway why not enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I would

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
48 weeks ago

Plymouth

No problem really as this is a swinging site, not a dating site there's a big difference.

My M has had a few guys get really weird if told I know she is playing.

Most understand the cheating dynamic much more.

Plus alot of us already have a relationship and saying we are cheating stops some trying to over complicate or even be a bunny boiler.

I think I've had atleast 3 or 4 woman even though they know I'm attached try to be my new full time partner.

M has had the same a guy or two try to make it full time.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

It's lovely to hear there are still people out there that still see cheating as morally wrong.

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
48 weeks ago

Inverness

We get it all the time from men and women and we immediately stop messaging.

We aren’t comfortable with it and don’t need the hassle it could bring

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By *aughtyLittlePicsCouple
48 weeks ago

Belper

If we know then no we won't Have recently had this happen in chat.

On the other hand when we have fun in the cinema or gloryhole... well yes it does go through our minds that "what if that guy that just came all over my face was married and she doesn't know"

Still don't know how i feel about that

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