FabSwingers.com forum: Coming out as a bi man

By *thDevonman OP Man
over a year ago

Barnstaple

I’m a bi man but the wife doesn’t know. I’m sure I’m not the only one in this situation.

Does your wife/ girlfriend know and if so how did she take the news. Mine has never shown any interest in man on man sex . Will say she is bi so a bit hypocritical lol

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford

"I’m a bi man but the wife doesn’t know. I’m sure I’m not the only one in this situation.

Does your wife/ girlfriend know and if so how did she take the news. Mine has never shown any interest in man on man sex . Will say she is bi so a bit hypocritical lol"

Talk to her and be honest, just because she shows no interest doesn’t instantly mean she’s against it unless she’s said so previously but even then she may well be much more supportive than you might be expecting and if that is the case she will appreciate your honesty much more than hiding away. Sadly there will always be a stigma behind it but until people start to become more honest with each other and fundamentally themselves those barriers will never be broken and new exciting doors will never be opened x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's best to communicate with her. None of us know her, or your situation and so anything we say will just be guess work.

Good luck

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By *ubber donnyMan
over a year ago

Bawtry

I’m a bi man. The Mrs knows and loves it. It’s her biggest turn on watching me with men.

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By *RM1968Man
over a year ago

Bedale

Same situation for me just wish sometimes she knew and would accept it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not bi but want to try it do you but it on your status ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same situation for me just wish sometimes she knew and would accept it

Try telling her. Uless her response to other Bi people is negative. Hopefully you will be surprised. Be awful to hide it .

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By *lirty_dirtyCouple
over a year ago

Lingfield

My wife knows I'm bi and loves watching gay sex. Telling her about my past and sexual interests wasn't easy and I was really worried about her reaction but it's been the best decision.

Until that point she never really knew me

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"I’m a bi man but the wife doesn’t know. I’m sure I’m not the only one in this situation.

Does your wife/ girlfriend know and if so how did she take the news. Mine has never shown any interest in man on man sex . Will say she is bi so a bit hypocritical lol"

We are both bi.i love watching him play with other men as much as him watching me with the ladies.

Mrs

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Does your wife/ girlfriend know and if so how did she take the news. Mine has never shown any interest in man on man sex . Will say she is bi so a bit hypocritical lol"

There's literally nothing hypocritical about that.

Just tell her.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Oh and, yes, my wife knows and bloody loves it.

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By *iFunMale_southMan
over a year ago

Reading

Wife knows I'm bi and has no interest. She would happily sleep with a woman though.

She is very very supportive of me wearing women's lingerie though!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

She can't be hypocritical about something she doesn't know.

Explain it to her. Relationships inherently go way beyond the physical. It'll make yours better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to talk to mine and come out

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By *raraymondoMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

When I told my wife all she said was “tell me something I don’t know”. How she knew I don’t know, maybe just a gut feeling.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

I couldn’t be with someone who had a problem with my bisexuality.

I’m simply not down for fucking homophobes because I would find that extremely degrading.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"I’m a bi man but the wife doesn’t know. I’m sure I’m not the only one in this situation.

Does your wife/ girlfriend know and if so how did she take the news. Mine has never shown any interest in man on man sex . Will say she is bi so a bit hypocritical lol"

hypocritical or just supporting you as she thinks your str8 ??

but saying that there are bi women who dont want their men to be bi but there are many bi women who will totally be up for it too .... if you cant be honest with your wife then ????? only you know your wife ...good luck op

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Does she know your open relationship style?

Partners may be okay with hypothetical sexual interests more than you actually having sex with others. If you've agreed an open relationship, she may not care whether it's men or women who you're having sex with

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I was once with a bi woman who said bi men where sick! I said to her "but you are bi, so how can you be so hypocritical?" She started spouting religious shit at me.

And as you can see, I am not with her anymore as I dumped her very soon after that conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really need to tell your wife. You aren't being true or fair to yourself, let alone your wife.

You should not have to hide who you really are from your wife.

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By *aturefunswTV/TS
over a year ago

bristol

Yes tell your wife if you are only curious . Then maybe talk to someone . I knew my ex was bi she knew I was but it dosent mean it’s ok to cheat on each other . But how would you feel if she said she was having an affair leaving you for a woman ? If you can rationalise that I guess you are closer to your answer .

Sorry not more helpful

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By *andC1000Couple
51 weeks ago

Ashford

"You really need to tell your wife. You aren't being true or fair to yourself, let alone your wife.

You should not have to hide who you really are from your wife."

exactly this. Not fair on either party, if it’s meant to be she’ll support you and you might even be surprised

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By *ickingdelightMan
51 weeks ago

Cotswolds

It depends on how you want to come out and tell her…

Sitting her down and saying you’re bi could be a bit blunt and works for some, but could also go down route of talking about each others fantasies and things each other want to explore where you could say you want to explore with a male and see her reaction and if she’s interested or not.

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