FabSwingers.com forum: Guys wonder why couples don’t reply to them

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So yes couples and single females are outnumbered by the amount of single guys on here and complain when they get blocked, blanked all of a sudden or don’t get a reply.

Here’s our reasons for doing the above so if you’re a guy reading it may help you out! And yes we know the struggle! We do actually reply to a lot of people but we have a lot of people who fall under this criteria so it’s not worth time in replying.

Any couples or single females feel free to add to the long list lol.

No face picture sent with your first message.

We aren’t attracted to you.

They didn’t read our profile.

One word messages.

Being over dominant with their message.

Asking to meet straight away.

Replying to our message with a one word answer.

Constantly asking for pictures and videos.

Constantly asking for our number.

Messaging through the day if we haven’t responded.

We can see that your in a couple and your cheating.

Pretending your into swinging because you can’t get laid in real life.

Thinking that we are an easy target.

Come across as a jerk, or being really cocky.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

from your list these reasons for us

They didn’t read our profile.

Being over dominant with their message.

Constantly asking for pictures and videos.

Thinking that we are an easy target.

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We are not looking for guys. So if we get a message that says. Ice pics and profile we will normally respond with a thank you.

However if the guy then follows that up with “I’d really love to play with you, watch you etc” they quickly get ignored.

If they want to ask about BDSM we will talk to them, if they express desire to be dom we will point them in right direction.

But if they send a message like this….

“When are you going to come over so you can feel my belt” or similar that we have had. They get blocked

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Friend requests before you're a friend...

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By *inkyguyUKMan
over a year ago

worcester

Yes I get this. I wish the site has a better inbox system, also my phone gets clogged up with all the pictures of vaginas I get sent.

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By *he fun pairCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Totally agree

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By *ake gear and fkMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Does it aye

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By *hiversMan
over a year ago

Dinas Powys

The worst thing is that pretty much all of those just require us to be normal human beings... It's not that tough...

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By *ouplexxx99Couple
over a year ago

ely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol

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By *ouplexxx99Couple
over a year ago

ely

"from your list these reasons for us

They didn’t read our profile.

Being over dominant with their message.

Constantly asking for pictures and videos.

Thinking that we are an easy target.

….

We are not looking for guys. So if we get a message that says. Ice pics and profile we will normally respond with a thank you.

However if the guy then follows that up with “I’d really love to play with you, watch you etc” they quickly get ignored.

If they want to ask about BDSM we will talk to them, if they express desire to be dom we will point them in right direction.

But if they send a message like this….

“When are you going to come over so you can feel my belt” or similar that we have had. They get blocked"

Spot on! 100% agree with all this.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Haha yeah of course it does

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

alot of guys need to realize that when talking to other couples that in fact they are talking to the guy in male led/run profiles ...

these guys same as guys in club dont like single men because they see them as taking away their own fun ... men of couples dont want single men in clubs because they see it as their rights to have the women in clubs and no one else hence same on fab ....bear in mind most couples profiles are male led then you'll understand why they get pissy with other men quickly its men ruling men...

i should add its not all male led couples and of course they wont admit to it but its there to see in plain site

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
45 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

oh we hear you on this, 100%

some of them count for couples too sadly

read the profiles

it's that simple!

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

People can only learn, hopefully as stated this post may help, if they decide to read it and not wink at the first couple

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
45 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

"from your list these reasons for us

They didn’t read our profile.

Being over dominant with their message.

Constantly asking for pictures and videos.

Thinking that we are an easy target.

….

We are not looking for guys. So if we get a message that says. Ice pics and profile we will normally respond with a thank you.

However if the guy then follows that up with “I’d really love to play with you, watch you etc” they quickly get ignored."

This for us too!

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By *uckfunCouple
45 weeks ago

North Coast

Then there’s the ones who when you reply to say ‘thanks but no thanks’ take it as an indication that there might actually be a chance and then keep messaging, and when you ask them to stop they say ‘why did you reply if you weren’t interested?’.

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By *ast_jjMan
45 weeks ago

Dublin

"Then there’s the ones who when you reply to say ‘thanks but no thanks’ take it as an indication that there might actually be a chance and then keep messaging, and when you ask them to stop they say ‘why did you reply if you weren’t interested?’.

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Would the "Not looking for single guys" function be useful rather than having to bother reply to people who haven't read your profile, even though it clearly states NO SINGLE MEN at the start of your profile.

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By *olfandtazCouple
45 weeks ago

Bristol

Read the profile, make your message at least something worth reading and stand out from the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I can see both sides here. Men need to read profiles but at the same time alot of couples don't put any effort in themselves.

We find couples, men and women don't tend to read ours or seem confused, when we dont reply when there is literally nothing to reply to, as they have a blank account.

We have found by blocking the repeat offenders (always seems to be the same people) our inbox has got much much better.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
45 weeks ago

cannock

Yeah, we try to reply to most in a polite way but it doesn't always go well

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By *eyeYCouple
45 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"I can see both sides here. Men need to read profiles but at the same time alot of couples don't put any effort in themselves.

We find couples, men and women don't tend to read ours or seem confused, when we dont reply when there is literally nothing to reply to, as they have a blank account.

We have found by blocking the repeat offenders (always seems to be the same people) our inbox has got much much better."

Utterly agree 👍

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By *ualityNotQuantityUKCouple
45 weeks ago

Leicester

As previously said,

READ THE BLOODY PROFILE

And then respond accordingly, you wouldn't walk up to a couple in a bus queue and say ,"Hi, does she spit, gargle or swallow " so why make similar introductory comments?

Other big no no's are no profile pics and single profiles pretending to be a couple, if you are a couple, get a couple profile.

As previous posts have said, just be a normal human being, you wouldn't think it would be that hard.

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By *ewbootsandpanties99Man
45 weeks ago

Darkest South East Surrey

I like to think I don't fall foul of most of the OPs comments however I'd never send a face pic until I know we'd chatted. Discretion is important to me so I'm not sending a face pic that would identify me to complete strangers. Sorry! I'm happy to keep one in my friends only profile and do it that way.

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By *ualityNotQuantityUKCouple
45 weeks ago

Leicester

"I like to think I don't fall foul of most of the OPs comments however I'd never send a face pic until I know we'd chatted. Discretion is important to me so I'm not sending a face pic that would identify me to complete strangers. Sorry! I'm happy to keep one in my friends only profile and do it that way."

When we say no profile pics, I mean none at all. Totally understand keeping your face off line, we do the same.

Must admit I do find it strange sometimes when profiles without face pics state face pics essential, can understand the reasoning but it does feel a bit like double standards.

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