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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What advice do any ladies or couples have for me as a single guy on here. Would love to know what everyone thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take things personally

Have no expectations

Have a sense of humour

Don't jump through hoops for difficult people

Just be you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't take things personally

Have no expectations

Have a sense of humour

Don't jump through hoops for difficult people

Just be you."

Thanks, I never take myself overly seriously, would love some profile advice too if it's ok to aks

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Biggest advice from us is.

Read people's profiles before messaging them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take things personally

Have no expectations

Have a sense of humour

Don't jump through hoops for difficult people

Just be you.

Thanks, I never take myself overly seriously, would love some profile advice too if it's ok to aks "

Your profile reflects you so as long as you are happy with it that's all that matters. Only thing I will say is you've misspelled people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Biggest advice from us is.

Read people's profiles before messaging them. "

Always do, and try to show I've read it when I message, some profiles are awfully short though haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't take things personally

Have no expectations

Have a sense of humour

Don't jump through hoops for difficult people

Just be you.

Thanks, I never take myself overly seriously, would love some profile advice too if it's ok to aks

Your profile reflects you so as long as you are happy with it that's all that matters. Only thing I will say is you've misspelled people."

Haha damn my spelling

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane

Don’t rely on this site alone see what’s happening in the swinging clubs maybe go & try going to an organised social so many just rely on this app & then get disappointed so branch out you might like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t rely on this site alone see what’s happening in the swinging clubs maybe go & try going to an organised social so many just rely on this app & then get disappointed so branch out you might like it "

I really wanted to go to the greedy girls night at utopia but I have to work, I eill be going to the next gg night though just gotta get over my social anxiety haha

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane


"Don’t rely on this site alone see what’s happening in the swinging clubs maybe go & try going to an organised social so many just rely on this app & then get disappointed so branch out you might like it

I really wanted to go to the greedy girls night at utopia but I have to work, I eill be going to the next gg night though just gotta get over my social anxiety haha "

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

best advice is to take no notice of advice unless you want a boring profile like all those that asked before ..

its simple nobody knows you but only you so just be honest about who you are and what your seeking and let other who are seeking make a informed choice rather than you be a fake you ..

also remember your asking on the forums that are tiny part of fab !5 or "5 at most and a very large number of the forums dont meet via here or dont swing full stop ...

also bear in mind couples and women are all very different each and every one will have the own way ..

there are no general golden rules some might try to make you think there are but there is not ..

consent is thee rule .. no is no and rejection is very high as there are between 100 to 200 men per woman and in some areas alot lot more

swinging in real life is no like what you see on tv or in books / blogs

be you thats all you can do

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By *ete le MeatMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire/ Notts

As a bloke, (whether you want my opinion or not) I'd say be patient. Very patient!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send lots of dick pics, saying horny and ready NOW

Mrs C

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Ensure your profile reflects you and sells yourself as best you can - everyone when getting a message will look at the profile, pics and message.

If they are all shite then your chances of reply will be non existent.

If they are all good your chances greatly improve.

Don’t take the knocks badly - women get loads of messages. Sometimes it’s being in the right place at the right time.

Don’t shop when hungry

Be respectful to people.

Get out there and meet people - socials are good.

K

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

My advice is this. It’s all hocus pocus till it actually happens. Don’t get exited until actual people are stood in front of you.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
over a year ago

Thurrock

Managing your expectations is the best advice. You are one of many, like a lot, loads and loads of men all looking for the same thing. While there’s a focus of sex on here it doesn’t mean you’re going to get it by sending out a few messages. If you really want to be involved and stand out look for group socials in your area go and meet people and get to know them and attend some club nights but again not with an expectation you’re going to get laid.

Keep it respectful. Wish you the best OP hope you enjoy your time on here.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

tho a very small part of the scene swinging clubs are a very very good start for a guy to get known ... alot of guys i know in my little black book are mostly from clubs

socials events are either your thing or not ...too fake n false for my liking but some seem to love it but its alway too many chiefs not enought indians ie so many so called experts ..not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"best advice is to take no notice of advice unless you want a boring profile like all those that asked before ..

its simple nobody knows you but only you so just be honest about who you are and what your seeking and let other who are seeking make a informed choice rather than you be a fake you ..

also remember your asking on the forums that are tiny part of fab !5 or "5 at most and a very large number of the forums dont meet via here or dont swing full stop ...

also bear in mind couples and women are all very different each and every one will have the own way ..

there are no general golden rules some might try to make you think there are but there is not ..

consent is thee rule .. no is no and rejection is very high as there are between 100 to 200 men per woman and in some areas alot lot more

swinging in real life is no like what you see on tv or in books / blogs

be you thats all you can do

"

Thankyou all good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Send lots of dick pics, saying horny and ready NOW

Mrs C "

Hahah will do, thanks Mrs C

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By *enuinecpl101Couple
over a year ago

Co armagh


"Don't take things personally

Have no expectations

Have a sense of humour

Don't jump through hoops for difficult people

Just be you."

Absolutely this x

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

Don't send dick pics unless asked. Be polite, friendly and respectful. Don't behave like a Thirsty sleezeball. Address couples together. If you go to the clubs don't be one of the wanking dead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ensure your profile reflects you and sells yourself as best you can - everyone when getting a message will look at the profile, pics and message.

If they are all shite then your chances of reply will be non existent.

If they are all good your chances greatly improve.

Don’t take the knocks badly - women get loads of messages. Sometimes it’s being in the right place at the right time.

Don’t shop when hungry

Be respectful to people.

Get out there and meet people - socials are good.

K"

Thanks guys, quality advice, respectful is something I always try to be. Need to get to a social or club ASAP, should be a laugh if nothing else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My advice is this. It’s all hocus pocus till it actually happens. Don’t get exited until actual people are stood in front of you. "

Good shout mate, I'll keep a lid on excitement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Managing your expectations is the best advice. You are one of many, like a lot, loads and loads of men all looking for the same thing. While there’s a focus of sex on here it doesn’t mean you’re going to get it by sending out a few messages. If you really want to be involved and stand out look for group socials in your area go and meet people and get to know them and attend some club nights but again not with an expectation you’re going to get laid.

Keep it respectful. Wish you the best OP hope you enjoy your time on here. "

Always try my best to be respectful, will try and get to a club ASAP, just need nice clothes lol

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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Single male swinging is like a job search, you look for the ones you like the sound of, accept the fact that you'll get rejected by most, then keep applying until you succeed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't send dick pics unless asked. Be polite, friendly and respectful. Don't behave like a Thirsty sleezeball. Address couples together. If you go to the clubs don't be one of the wanking dead "

Haha I won't don't worry, and will always do that, it'd be wierd to just address the one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Biggest advice from us is.

Read people's profiles before messaging them.

Always do, and try to show I've read it when I message, some profiles are awfully short though haha"

Would you message me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Biggest advice from us is.

Read people's profiles before messaging them.

Always do, and try to show I've read it when I message, some profiles are awfully short though haha

Would you message me? "

Sorry but no, there's nothing to work with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single male swinging is like a job search, you look for the ones you like the sound of, accept the fact that you'll get rejected by most, then keep applying until you succeed.

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Good advice bro

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester


"Biggest advice from us is.

Read people's profiles before messaging them. "

If only everyone would do that and gauge suitability for each other before messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Biggest advice from us is.

Read people's profiles before messaging them.

Always do, and try to show I've read it when I message, some profiles are awfully short though haha

Would you message me?

Sorry but no, there's nothing to work with "

Check the age range on profiles and if they are even looking for men.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck!!! It’s a long hard road

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester


"What advice do any ladies or couples have for me as a single guy on here. Would love to know what everyone thinks. "

Accept rejection/being ignored/missed (unread). Only contact people you are genuinely interested in, don’t spread your net far and wide - it just clogs up everyone’s mailbox and makes it harder for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your photos are lovely and your profile is good.

There isn't anything that I would change myself, as others have said just be yourself and respectful.

The only thing that would make me wonder is that you don't mentions type or any preferences.

Some people don't have them but their profile usually states that they don't or that they do specifically.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your photos are lovely and your profile is good.

There isn't anything that I would change myself, as others have said just be yourself and respectful.

The only thing that would make me wonder is that you don't mentions type or any preferences.

Some people don't have them but their profile usually states that they don't or that they do specifically.

"

Ahh thanks, yours are great too okydoky I'll have a little edit

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