FabSwingers.com forum: Is age just a number?

By *r swing2 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a 58 yr old mature guy, I'm gym fit, young outlook, dress fashionable and generally a nice friendly guy I've also been told I don't look my age

So why does my age put some people off?

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Only a number

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

"Age is just a number" is the motto of Jimmy Savile types isn't it?

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By *r swing2 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

""Age is just a number" is the motto of Jimmy Savile types isn't it?"

In reference to the swinging lifestyle

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It can work for and against you. Some people don't want to meet folk that are too young or old, whereas others want to meet someone who is of a similar age

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Maybe you're the same age bracket as their children or parents.

Maybe they just prefer other sge groups.

Does it matter? If they're not into you for whatever reason, they're not into you

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

It’s a preference nothing more nothing less, it might not be your age they just might not like you.

Either way it’s not worth overthinking it just accept gracefully and move on

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By *irtydaddy and joMan
over a year ago

corby

Choices as had been said. Some get off on age difference, others shudder at the thought of an age gap

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

It comes down to personal preference. To be honest, I'm not super into anyone more than 10 years older than me.

I would never say never as there may be the odd guy that I meet and vibe with really well, but I wouldn't ever really reach out to anyone much older, it's just not my preference.

Plenty of people who do like an older gent though, not to mention a huge age range on this site so I'm sure age doesn't prevent you!

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Age is just a number.

But age is also a preference that you have no control over.

So live your best life and meet those who match with you.

Don't dwell on those who don't.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Age is just a number but it almost always determines how someone looks... I like faces that are prettier than mine so 99% of guys anywhere near my age or older are not for me... Plus, the older guys I have been in contact with... I wasn't a massive fan of their attitudes either so...

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Age isn't just a number which is why many have age preferences on here.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

you can be as smartly dressed as you like and still be super fit.. it makes no difference your age will defo go against you fact just have a bit of fun on the forums,,,

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By *lasgowhornMan
over a year ago

paisley

Just a number for me but understand people’s preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not just a number for us

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

That term is just a really old cliche.

It ABSOLUTELY matters how old you are. My empty inbox and 'looked at me' is proof!

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By *r swing2 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Lots of good comments all are appreciated

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Age is just a number to one self depending upon how you may feel and may differ to anyone else

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

For me it is juts a number, that said I appreciate others reasons for not meeting extremes in either direction such as those young enough to be their children or vice versa those old enough to be your parents. At the end of the day we have our tastes and that is it. No point trying to convince someone of something they are not into. I feel age is one of those buckets.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"I'm a 58 yr old mature guy, I'm gym fit, young outlook, dress fashionable and generally a nice friendly guy I've also been told I don't look my age

So why does my age put some people off?"

Try visiting clubs, people there pay less attention to your age than they do to how they get on with you as a person

It works the other way too though,

and it's fair enough to be looking for people of similar age to your yourselves

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By *ornyguy666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I do women from 18 to 70 plus tbh mature ladies are better

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By *ampire69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham West Midlands

People are entitled to seek what ever they want, if they attached search parameters to their searches that's their call. wether thats age, gender, colour , thats their call, for me age is just a number it has little bearing on the pleasure you may find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a 58 yr old mature guy, I'm gym fit, young outlook, dress fashionable and generally a nice friendly guy I've also been told I don't look my age

So why does my age put some people off?"

You look your age from your pics. Age isn’t just a number but that said anyone over 35 wants it to go backwards.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It is important to some people, so you move on to others who you match with.

People know their own tastes and preferences better than others will, however empathetic they think they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a 58 yr old mature guy, I'm gym fit, young outlook, dress fashionable and generally a nice friendly guy I've also been told I don't look my age

So why does my age put some people off?

You look your age from your pics. Age isn’t just a number but that said anyone over 35 wants it to go backwards."

This

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

You cant change time, it passes, if it stops, so have you. Just live your life the way you feel good, let others live theirs the way they do.

Carpe Diem everyone.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never understood the thinking behind these threads because I'm also 58 and since I joined here aged 52 I've never once had a conversation about my age and it has never prevented me from meeting lots of people.

It only seems to be an issues for those who make it one.

I've never believed in the "age is just a number" crap either because it's not. It's a fact.

I don't look my age, I don't act my age but regardless I'm still 58 at the end of the day.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Of course it is its two numbers actually

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

Some people prefer your age, others don't.

I don't want someone who is close to my kids ages and don't want someone much older than me.

Don't take it to personally OP

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By *nly the lonelyMan
over a year ago

Ely

It can't be putting too many people off, with the number of verifications you have.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Not sure anyone matures mentally past age of 25, and then when you are overtaken by whippersnappers on a mountain hike, or people swerve when you head to the mosh pit at the gig, or wonder why every joint aches the morning after a night on the tiles.

You realise your mind sometimes writes cheques that your body cannot cash.

That said the easiest place to meet people where age is not a number is out at a club. People will talk to you if they fancy you, and likely won’t care about your age.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm a 58 yr old mature guy, I'm gym fit, young outlook, dress fashionable and generally a nice friendly guy I've also been told I don't look my age

So why does my age put some people off?"

Because age isn't just a number. It doesn't matter whether someone looks their age or how they dress they've still been alive since the date on their birth certificate. That means they'll have cultural references, experiences and probably attitudes that a lot of younger or older people won't have. That doesn't matter in a social setting but when it comes to sex people have various preferences and if an age range is included in that there's not much any of us can do about it.

At 67 and 66 the number of people interested in us is very limited and we're ok with that

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By *isterowlMan
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Hugely subjective.

To me, age is a measure of time spent on the planet and not much more.

If we appeal to one another and our attitudes align, age is not a barrier.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Hugely subjective.

To me, age is a measure of time spent on the planet and not much more.

If we appeal to one another and our attitudes align, age is not a barrier. "

Exactly. People either want to meet others of a certain age or they don't. There's plenty of all age preferences on here and I'm always pleasantly surprised at the number who like to meet older people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer is everyone has a preference mine is women 60 or older

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By *zBoy123Man
over a year ago

London.

"Age isn't just a number which is why many have age preferences on here."

Nail, you, head, have, hit, the, on.......

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP - if you do look younger then you are best going to a club as no one will ask your age.

The irony is an in shape 58 year old could look better than an out of shape 45 year old but everyone has a view of what a particular age looks like when in reality it varies depending on the individual and lifestyle/genetics.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"OP - if you do look younger then you are best going to a club as no one will ask your age.

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By *lutsadieTV/TS
over a year ago

Hinckley

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP - if you do look younger then you are best going to a club as no one will ask your age.

Spot on. I’m 54. Fitter than some 30 year olds but not to everyone’s taste.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

its just a number im awsome for my age im living proof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choices, preferences, reasons.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Also from experience writing as the male half of this couple who enjoys a few bars of chocolate now and again, I was surprised how many women prefer the slightly out of shape guy compared to the gym fit bod I was surprised by some of the women who matched me on those vanilla dating apps.

When I asked them why as slimmer/fitter people they were interested in slightly out of shape me, it seemed the perception of a guy with a gym fit bod is that from experience they were a little too self obsessed.

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By *he HMFsCouple
over a year ago

Stratford Upon Avon

So, we have the best part of a ten year age gap, which can cause an issue for us in the lifestyle, even if Mr HMF neither looks nor acts his age

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We do play with younger occasionally, but our preference is couples and females 55 plus, all in the eyes of the beholder x

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