FabSwingers.com forum: MMF first time help and advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so ap per our profile we would like to invite another guy to join me while mr watches…. We have played it out in our heads but obviously the reality will be somewhat different and just wondering if anyone who has done this has any advice or tips and suggestions etc …

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By *sianTravellerMan
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

For first timers it can make you feel a bit nervous but its best to sit down, have a few drinks whilst chatting and then getting into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most important thing is that you are both comfortable. Have a drink first, chat and relax. When the moment comes, as long as everyone is happy, go for a little not a lot. If it then takes you, go with it. Hubby, as long as you’re 100% there, reassuring, hand to hold if needs be. It’s an incredibly sexy scenario and the after glow is something else too. Happy to chat about our experiences if you’d like.

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By *KE22Couple
over a year ago

southampton

We are the same the idea sounds so much fun and talk about it loads turns us on so much,

Just so nervous about making that first step.

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Definitely good to have a social drink and chat first, all without expectation on any part.

Move at a pace that suits you all.

Set the boundaries, and just go with what feels right, if the guy suits your needs then enjoy the experience.

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

Be sure you know your boundaries, then relax and enjoy it. A club may be a good way to start.

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

The nerves will always be there, in fact someone very early on said if you lose that nervous anticipation you should stop.......

At some point you’ll just have to go for it and see how it feels for you both xx

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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I'd say have a social first see how you both feel and get the hubby to join in the first time

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By *ovelyLady21Couple
over a year ago

Bury St Edmunds

Our first ever meet was an MFM, with hubby primarily watching. And it was amazing!

Our advice would be to make sure you select the right guy. Take time to get to know him before hand, make sure you all know, respect and accept each others rules & limitations and stick to them. A social first is good too.

Single guys often get a hard time on here (and for some it is deserved) but we have met some really great guys. We hope you have an amazing time when you do find the right guy xx

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

"Be sure you know your boundaries, then relax and enjoy it. A club may be a good way to start. "

Second the idea of going to a club. Less pressure. And potentially more options. Obviously choose one that allows single guys on the night you are going.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Ok so ap per our profile we would like to invite another guy to join me while mr watches…. We have played it out in our heads but obviously the reality will be somewhat different and just wondering if anyone who has done this has any advice or tips and suggestions etc … "
. Just a bit of advice that I learnt on Fabs a few years ago.MMF is normally two Males who are bi curious , bi sexual where as MFM is normally two straight guys.If in doubt don’t be afraid / embarrassed to ask the other guy if he is straight or bi.

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

We are going to try a club for this we think. We are very excited to try it and tick off that box, and we have a few plan Bs just in case

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincs. yorks.

best get to know a person first. because it can lead to disapointment for both parties

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By *enis ColadaMan
over a year ago

Totnes

"The most important thing is that you are both comfortable. Have a drink first, chat and relax. When the moment comes, as long as everyone is happy, go for a little not a lot. If it then takes you, go with it. Hubby, as long as you’re 100% there, reassuring, hand to hold if needs be. It’s an incredibly sexy scenario and the after glow is something else too. Happy to chat about our experiences if you’d like.

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By *eardAndBoobs69Couple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We're currently attending clubs to try tick this off our list - hoping to have a chat/drink downstairs before anything happens upstairs - we're nervous about meeting for socials locally so hoping this works for us

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

First things first - know the difference between MFM and MMF - both very different experiences

Just take your time, let it flow naturally and have a guy either end initially. Go at the ladies pace, always and then once she’s used to things then you could maybe try DP/DVP.

We love MFM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything we have done has been spontaneous as we are not sure we could cope with the nerves of something arranged.

After the first time though we areed some do's and dont's between us and a safe phrase if one of us is feeing uncomfortable about anything.

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

playa del ingles

don't leave anyone out - had a few like this why you wonder why you're even there

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Set your boundaries.

Then relax and go with the flow

don’t be scared to initiate if thinks going to slow. I found meeting couple having their 1st mfm can be tricky sometimes. You don’t wanna rush them & you don’t wanna take to long things get awkward. So be sure to give hints you ready for things to progress if you happy with your meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are comfortable playing at home, invite another male in to massage you. I've done lots (professional masseur) with hubby present to reassure the lady. If you have no expectations other than the massage, there is less pressure. Obviously, you can go further then if you feel comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't over think

Don't drink before (Dutch courage)

Don't worry about it being perfect.

Mosley just enjoy the moment

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

First there is no going back, so make sure you set your boundaries them select the man and make sure he knows the boundaries. Then get on with it, the first is the hardest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality of anything can always be somewhat different.

I think as long as you both have discussed what you both want and need out of it and obviously boundaries then the next bit is to find the right guy.

I would pose it as a get to know you, so a social and then if all good etc arrange for another meet at another time. Or a social with a view to play if all comfortable.

Just go at your pace the right guy will absolutely get it.

Good luck in your search , I hope you fulfill your fantasies

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

"Don't over think

Don't drink before (Dutch courage)

Don't worry about it being perfect.

Mosley just enjoy the moment

sometimes there is a surprise xx

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

How exciting!

I’ve always found that chatting and speaking with potential playmates really useful. Ensuring they sound as attractive as their profile suggests can avoid a lot of disappointment. And trust your judgment. A good connection is essential for a relaxed and fun meet.

Enjoy the nerves on the night, that’s part of the fun. Go with the flow and see where you passion, and his, takes you. And communicate with each other, not just to make sure you’re both happy, but also to see just how turned on and horny it’s making you. Threesomes and more Somers are all about that dynamic, I find.

Good luck, and have lots of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't over think

Don't drink before (Dutch courage)

Don't worry about it being perfect.

Mosley just enjoy the moment

sometimes there is a surprise xx"

That is way I enjoy MMF more than MFM. Lots more options for surprises x

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

"Don't over think

Don't drink before (Dutch courage)

Don't worry about it being perfect.

Mosley just enjoy the moment

sometimes there is a surprise xx

That is way I enjoy MMF more than MFM. Lots more options for surprises x"

And I was thinking mfmmffm

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By *allguy40Man
over a year ago

melksham

I've played with 4 different MF couples. Met them all here. One couple i met 3 times, the other 3 couples i have met lots of times - and one of the couples i still reguarly meet.

Boundaries and rules are SO importatnt to set out and agree on before anything happens. And even with boundaries and rules inplace - things can change in the moment.

With each of the 4 couples there have been moments where jealousy / misundertandings / unexpected emotional reactions have caused problems. It's impossible to plan / forsee what's going to happen and it can be really difficult.

Constant comunication about everything that's happening - as it's happening - is important. The reason i still see the couple that i see reguarly is, i believe, beacuse the communication is there - we also sort of de-brief after each meeting to let everyone talk about what was goood/bad/hot about what happened.

Despite walking this tightrope of emotions, i can say it is sooo worth it when yyou find the right people. I have had som eof the most amazing expereinces with these couples. Mindblowing experiences. But - just to balance that - i have also been chased down the road in my underwear thinking i was going to be knocked out, after the mood changed when i was with a couple!

I really hope you find the right person to expore this with. Have fun!

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By *ony MannMan
over a year ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

OK I admit, there is one woman that knows me enough, we have never set boundaries for each other

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
over a year ago

banbury

As the other guy, I can tell you he's just as nervous haha. So before meeting make sure everyone is clear on boundaries and desires. I'd definitely want to know how far to push . But a drink a laugh and I find better if the couple starts then I get pulled in when they're comfortable.

Both of you just keep checking in either eye contact, or a touch. Feel free to communicate if you want more or less of something. And for me ,I love to give the couple some space to reconnect.

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

"As the other guy, I can tell you he's just as nervous haha. So before meeting make sure everyone is clear on boundaries and desires. I'd definitely want to know how far to push . But a drink a laugh and I find better if the couple starts then I get pulled in when they're comfortable.

Both of you just keep checking in either eye contact, or a touch. Feel free to communicate if you want more or less of something. And for me ,I love to give the couple some space to reconnect. "

Good advice, as a cpl it's easy for us to forget when inviting a single man to join us he's nervous too.

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
over a year ago

banbury

Both of you just keep checking in either eye contact, or a touch. Feel free to communicate if you want more or less of something. And for me ,I love to give the couple some space to reconnect.

Good advice, as a cpl it's easy for us to forget when inviting a single man to join us he's nervous too."

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