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"So you see a status “ looking for girl on girl” you reply, a few short messages later then there’s a man involved!! Again! Grrrr!! Do any women meet other women on their own? Girl on girl to me is exactly that, no men involved. If we meet as a couple and the girls play in that situation then that’s fine. I just want some alone time with another women "Try doing to from a singles profile and not a couples profile. Girl on girl is a rarity and even more so if your contacting one half of a couple. | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. " Where would you suggest is? | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. " That’s it really seems quiet a few are here to put on a show although I have had a couple of successful interactions so here’s hoping  | |||
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"Or some single female profiles are men pretending " Oh don’t it’s so tedious dealing with fakes and pretenders | |||
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"So you see a status “ looking for girl on girl” you reply, a few short messages later then there’s a man involved!! Again! Grrrr!! Do any women meet other women on their own? Girl on girl to me is exactly that, no men involved. If we meet as a couple and the girls play in that situation then that’s fine. I just want some alone time with another women
Try doing to from a singles profile and not a couples profile.
Girl on girl is a rarity and even more so if your contacting one half of a couple. "This is from me replying to a status saying they’re looking for girl on girl. | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. That’s it really seems quiet a few are here to put on a show although I have had a couple of successful interactions so here’s hoping "Not all couples with bi curious females are stating that for their husbands benefit. Doesn’t bother my husband either way, would much rather see me with another man  | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. " Haha , love the wardrobe comment, same experience with the straight guys | |||
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"So you see a status “ looking for girl on girl” you reply, a few short messages later then there’s a man involved!! Again! Grrrr!! Do any women meet other women on their own? Girl on girl to me is exactly that, no men involved. If we meet as a couple and the girls play in that situation then that’s fine. I just want some alone time with another women "A status like that is most likely posted by a Man. Unfortunately many "single Fem" profiles are part of a couple and don't actually meet alone, many are run by the Male. It may actually be a single Male behind the profile. Rest assured though, there are a lot of actual single Ladies on here. | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. " So true | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. So true" Definitely not in our case. Wardrobe  | |||
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No. Take ya man and go away
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"Also had this a lot. Usually the lady wants her FWB to join in
No. Take ya man and go away
Mrs C "Exactly! If the initial contact is about meeting as a couple then absolutely fine! But to suggest girl on girl then try involving men…. Noooooooo | |||
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"C has met a few women by herself. She’s going on a spa stay over this weekend with a female from here. So it can happen but it’s definitely harder than you’d expect. K" Wow she is very lucky then | |||
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"So you see a status “ looking for girl on girl” you reply, a few short messages later then there’s a man involved!! Again! Grrrr!! Do any women meet other women on their own? Girl on girl to me is exactly that, no men involved. If we meet as a couple and the girls play in that situation then that’s fine. I just want some alone time with another women "I totally agree. Whilst I’m totally up for meeting a couple, I get annoyed when the messages start as if they are from the female but then suddenly the male appears as if by magic! Why not be up front! If both of the couple are looking to play then they should say that. I think it’s disrespectful to pretend one thing and then suddenly switch to the meet being for both. Also, any ladies looking for one on one meets (no men allowed!) please message me!! | |||
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"Been looking for the same for a while, hubby is fine me having my girls time but there is always some guy lurking in the background wanting to watch or join in, even if it's a single woman's profile. Frustrating." Exactly if our intention is for both of us to be involved we make that clear from the very beginning but I also enjoy being with a women on my own and hubby is more than happy for that to happen as long as he knows I’m safe x | |||
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"We managed something close to this in the past, met a lovely lady at a hotel, the ladies enjoyed each other whilst I watched. The lady left, then and only then did I get involved, kez and I enjoyed each other thinking about what just happened, very hot to watch two ladies having fun. Lots of memories for future naughty times. We also did it in a club, kez and the other lady went into a room for some fun, we could see the reflection, but the other ladies partner started to get funny, almost started banging the door down, borderline demanding to get involved, fortunately kez and the other lady were none the wiser so both still had fun. " I’m looking for solely girl time no men there at all unless we were meeting as a couple and then the girls played while the men watched. Girl on girl for me is just the women present | |||
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. "  | |||
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"She is most definitely bisexual and loves girl on girl which I'm happy to watch without participating. " She looks lovely and great photos and videos to my compliments x | |||
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"She is most definitely bisexual and loves girl on girl which I'm happy to watch without participating. " I think the point being made is - no man is required at all. Not even watching. By being present you change the dynamic and for the visiting fem, it feels like putting on a show for a man. MrsAbz | |||
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"She is most definitely bisexual and loves girl on girl which I'm happy to watch without participating. I think the point being made is - no man is required at all. Not even watching. By being present you change the dynamic and for the visiting fem, it feels like putting on a show for a man. MrsAbz "  | |||
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"She is most definitely bisexual and loves girl on girl which I'm happy to watch without participating. I think the point being made is - no man is required at all. Not even watching. By being present you change the dynamic and for the visiting fem, it feels like putting on a show for a man. MrsAbz " Exactly! as if girl on girl isn’t obvious enough. By just being present and watching you become involved | |||
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"She is most definitely bisexual and loves girl on girl which I'm happy to watch without participating. " At least read the whole thread to get the crux of the matter mate. It’s about girl only meets , no wankers sorry watchers are allowed. | |||
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"She is most definitely bisexual and loves girl on girl which I'm happy to watch without participating. I think the point being made is - no man is required at all. Not even watching. By being present you change the dynamic and for the visiting fem, it feels like putting on a show for a man. MrsAbz Exactly! as if girl on girl isn’t obvious enough. By just being present and watching you become involved "Typical man reply. I don't want no man watching me. I'm not there for your sexual pleasure. Ewwwwww Mrs C | |||
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"We have no problem arranging female only meets even though we are a couple. Our preference would be that husbands or partner would get to watch but it isn’t in any way a deal breaker. Unfortunately, as this thread demonstrates, most people are quite cynical about the bi wife in a relationship thing. I’m sure there is good reason to be cynical but it seems harsh to suggest that most wives are only performing for their husbands." This is why I enjoy a girl on girl meet, you know then she is genuinely bi and will both enjoy your time together. Again I have no problem enjoying a woman when we meet as a couple if everyone is playing not just the girls | |||
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"A lot of women on here are only bi performatively for their male partner. There will be loads of actual bi/lesbian women on here but since men and couples outnumber them it’s harder to find " And the sweeping statement of the day award goes to…. Drum roll…. | |||
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"A lot of women on here are only bi performatively for their male partner. There will be loads of actual bi/lesbian women on here but since men and couples outnumber them it’s harder to find And the sweeping statement of the day award goes to…. Drum roll…." You know that actual bi women never have male partners. How silly. Its only single women who can be bi...
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"A lot of women on here are only bi performatively for their male partner. There will be loads of actual bi/lesbian women on here but since men and couples outnumber them it’s harder to find And the sweeping statement of the day award goes to…. Drum roll…. You know that actual bi women never have male partners. How silly. Its only single women who can be bi...
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"This isn't the best place to find bi experiences I've found. The women in couples are usually 'bi curious' which translates to doing it for their partners benefit. And single women, Jesus get more conversation out of a wardrobe. " maybe we are just lucky, but all the females in couples we have met have been very bi(if indeed bisexuality has gradations). Most of the males too! | |||
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"So you see a status “ looking for girl on girl” you reply, a few short messages later then there’s a man involved!! Again! Grrrr!! Do any women meet other women on their own? Girl on girl to me is exactly that, no men involved. If we meet as a couple and the girls play in that situation then that’s fine. I just want some alone time with another women "We generally meet as a couple for a social initially and then if all happy, the girl exists and not a random bloke who's partner isn't too well tonight, then I'm happy to meet alone. So many dreamers, timewasters and very odd people on here you just cannot take the chance of meeting up alone at first. But had some fab meets, lots come from couples and single girls we meet at parties, clubs etc. | |||
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"I find it's a similar thing with MF couples where often there is no sign of the female during conversations or meeting arrangements " I am assuming the female is there when you actually meet though? And it’s a coupe you’ve been messaging so your expect both parties to be at the meet unless agreed otherwise? It’s really not the same thing. | |||
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"I'm not your target audience, but people seem to do better at clubs for meeting bi fems. As already said, lots of women play bi for the benefit of their man and wouldn't meet a lady if he's not involved. " While sometimes true there are also a lot of ladies who are genuinely bi and enjoy it but only play as a couple whether meeting men or ladies. Just because bi they don’t stop being a couple. | |||
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"I find it's a similar thing with MF couples where often there is no sign of the female during conversations or meeting arrangements " Yes this happens often but just the way it is. On my my couples profile I make all the arrangements. She is jaded from all the Fab crap, can’t be bothered and trusts me. She looks at profiles and messages but I make the arrangements. Find lots of real couples who meet are the same. | |||
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"I find it's a similar thing with MF couples where often there is no sign of the female during conversations or meeting arrangements Yes this happens often but just the way it is. On my my couples profile I make all the arrangements. She is jaded from all the Fab crap, can’t be bothered and trusts me. She looks at profiles and messages but I make the arrangements. Find lots of real couples who meet are the same. " Yep same for us | |||
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"I'm looking for more girl/girl experience. I want it with my partner though, not for his benefit just because we want to share the experience at this point in time. Single women here are really hard work I've found so far! " Its quite a difficult situation really. By wanting a single bi fem to join you, the field of available women is greatly reduced, from an already small number of single women wishing to join couples. Therefore, it isn't as easy to find someone whom meets your requirements and you theirs. The usual advice is to go to clubs etc (not handy for us as its 100 miles to the nearest one) MrsAbz | |||
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"I'm not your target audience, but people seem to do better at clubs for meeting bi fems. As already said, lots of women play bi for the benefit of their man and wouldn't meet a lady if he's not involved. While sometimes true there are also a lot of ladies who are genuinely bi and enjoy it but only play as a couple whether meeting men or ladies. Just because bi they don’t stop being a couple. " I wasn't saying it's all women and couples, but I've seen quite a few posts where women have openly admitted they only play with other women to get their blokes off. There are lots of genuinely bi ladies, both single and in couples, but the behaviour of those who do it to please men can mean that some ladies are wary that they're being used to put on a show. Plus if they agree to just meeting the fem for fun, I can see why it would then be irritating for someone to as if their partner can watch. It's all about people being honest and upfront about what they want and like, sadly many aren't and thats why people become frustrated. | |||
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"I'm not your target audience, but people seem to do better at clubs for meeting bi fems. As already said, lots of women play bi for the benefit of their man and wouldn't meet a lady if he's not involved. While sometimes true there are also a lot of ladies who are genuinely bi and enjoy it but only play as a couple whether meeting men or ladies. Just because bi they don’t stop being a couple. I wasn't saying it's all women and couples, but I've seen quite a few posts where women have openly admitted they only play with other women to get their blokes off. There are lots of genuinely bi ladies, both single and in couples, but the behaviour of those who do it to please men can mean that some ladies are wary that they're being used to put on a show. Plus if they agree to just meeting the fem for fun, I can see why it would then be irritating for someone to as if their partner can watch. It's all about people being honest and upfront about what they want and like, sadly many aren't and thats why people become frustrated. " Oh yes don’t disagree with any of that. I was just highlighting that many bi ladies who only meet with partner are indeed bi doing it for themselves. But I do get why people are suspicious and frustrated. We are the same. Also many claiming to be bi but really not when you meet which we suspect is more wishful thinking by the male half. | |||
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"I'm not your target audience, but people seem to do better at clubs for meeting bi fems. As already said, lots of women play bi for the benefit of their man and wouldn't meet a lady if he's not involved. While sometimes true there are also a lot of ladies who are genuinely bi and enjoy it but only play as a couple whether meeting men or ladies. Just because bi they don’t stop being a couple. I wasn't saying it's all women and couples, but I've seen quite a few posts where women have openly admitted they only play with other women to get their blokes off. There are lots of genuinely bi ladies, both single and in couples, but the behaviour of those who do it to please men can mean that some ladies are wary that they're being used to put on a show. Plus if they agree to just meeting the fem for fun, I can see why it would then be irritating for someone to as if their partner can watch. It's all about people being honest and upfront about what they want and like, sadly many aren't and thats why people become frustrated. " Ew, haven't seen any posts of women saying that but you have to wonder about the kind of person who enjoys their partner doing something they don't like just to appease them. That feels highly unpleasant to me but maybe thats just me. You're right though, people need to be more upfront and make their wants/needs known from the start and save everyone wasting time. MrsAbz | |||
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"I'm not your target audience, but people seem to do better at clubs for meeting bi fems. As already said, lots of women play bi for the benefit of their man and wouldn't meet a lady if he's not involved. While sometimes true there are also a lot of ladies who are genuinely bi and enjoy it but only play as a couple whether meeting men or ladies. Just because bi they don’t stop being a couple. I wasn't saying it's all women and couples, but I've seen quite a few posts where women have openly admitted they only play with other women to get their blokes off. There are lots of genuinely bi ladies, both single and in couples, but the behaviour of those who do it to please men can mean that some ladies are wary that they're being used to put on a show. Plus if they agree to just meeting the fem for fun, I can see why it would then be irritating for someone to as if their partner can watch. It's all about people being honest and upfront about what they want and like, sadly many aren't and thats why people become frustrated. Ew, haven't seen any posts of women saying that but you have to wonder about the kind of person who enjoys their partner doing something they don't like just to appease them. That feels highly unpleasant to me but maybe thats just me. You're right though, people need to be more upfront and make their wants/needs known from the start and save everyone wasting time. MrsAbz " They really do I'm straight and half a couple, when chatting with a couple we don't mind if they have a Bi fem as long as they aren't specifically looking for girl on girl play, as that's off the table. We've had couples say thats cool, but then been told later that the lady can turn me bi, or asked if I'll kiss his partner or do soft play with her etc. It's usually the male pushing for that type of thing.Its not on and I can totally understand why genuinely bi ladies are wary of couples or single fems who then suddenly have a male who wants to be there,when this hasn't been discussed or agreed. It's a very male driven fantasy on here, so I think it's sometimes hard to know who is really benefitting from it. | |||
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" While sometimes true there are also a lot of ladies who are genuinely bi and enjoy it but only play as a couple whether meeting men or ladies. Just because bi they don’t stop being a couple. I wasn't saying it's all women and couples, but I've seen quite a few posts where women have openly admitted they only play with other women to get their blokes off. There are lots of genuinely bi ladies, both single and in couples, but the behaviour of those who do it to please men can mean that some ladies are wary that they're being used to put on a show. Plus if they agree to just meeting the fem for fun, I can see why it would then be irritating for someone to as if their partner can watch. It's all about people being honest and upfront about what they want and like, sadly many aren't and thats why people become frustrated. " We can see that being a problem for some, we only play as a couple but that doesn't always mean we need to participate, it just means we need to be present. It's as much a protection for Mr to not go off and play by himself as anything. Sure, we trust each other, but still it's better together. When we are enjoying others it's good to see them enjoying themselves. | |||
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