FabSwingers.com forum: Neither can accomodate

By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

So if you can't accommodate, and the person you want to meet can't accommodate what do you do?

Although I have an empty 'spare' house for sale - it is overlooked by a very nosey Aunt who is toxic beyond belief so can't use it for 'happy times'.

Is so annoying

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hotels, airb&b? Share the costs.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Book a hotel

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By *alloSpaceboyMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

I think this is increasingly going to be a problem with the housing crisis/ cost of living crisis.

My arrangements are comprised by caring responsibilities and just rationality (don’t want to pay extortionate rents after a divorce, not by an overpriced house with a payday loan rate mortgage).

I think hotels are the way forward TBH. Even if I still had my own place, I would still be hesitant to ask someone over unless I was very sure of them.

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By *eeper ThanMan
over a year ago

Dartford

If your genuine and really want to meet them book a hotel could even share the cost a very small price to pay I’d say simple !

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies!

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish? "

I don't think there are any clubs near me - seems to be club free! Thank you for the suggestion!

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish? "

EXACTLY THIS, If the other party bails then so what? There may be other interesting/ interested parties present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish? "
tha6s a good idea actually

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies! "

Meet for a social first and say that see how this goes before moving forward to a hotel. I'm sure you'll still be able to book a room on the day if available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies! "

The one way around that is to meet first at a bar etc then book the hotel once they've appeared and are happy to go further. Downside is you’ll be paying the higher rates for same day booking.

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies!

The one way around that is to meet first at a bar etc then book the hotel once they've appeared and are happy to go further. Downside is you’ll be paying the higher rates for same day booking. "

Thank you! x

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies!

Meet for a social first and say that see how this goes before moving forward to a hotel. I'm sure you'll still be able to book a room on the day if available "

Thank you! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

outdoors/car meet/clubs

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies! "

Could you drug the mad aunty

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Look at Dayuse rooms, they're generally a lot cheaper. And if you're not looking to stay overnight they're ideal really

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By *arley QuimWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Oh, also often have free cancellation on them, and payment at hotel

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies!

Could you drug the mad aunty

Lol - she will get her karma.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

I don't think there are any clubs near me - seems to be club free! Thank you for the suggestion!"

There is a sauna In Portsmouth from memory. Liberation Swingers does an event there. Or go to the Liberation night. While I don’t like their nights, there is definitely a club In Portsmouth.

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"outdoors/car meet/clubs"

Bit chilly - an option. Will be buying a heated camper in a year or so. Also not classy lol!

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Look at Dayuse rooms, they're generally a lot cheaper. And if you're not looking to stay overnight they're ideal really "

Thank you will take a look!

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

I don't think there are any clubs near me - seems to be club free! Thank you for the suggestion!

There is a sauna In Portsmouth from memory. Liberation Swingers does an event there. Or go to the Liberation night. While I don’t like their nights, there is definitely a club In Portsmouth. "

Thank you ... they do and the next event is this Saturday. Didn't know about this. Thank you. Can't go this month - one for the future!

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"outdoors/car meet/clubs

Bit chilly - an option. Will be buying a heated camper in a year or so. Also not classy lol!"

being naughty is all part of it, alot of fun!!

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"outdoors/car meet/clubs

Bit chilly - an option. Will be buying a heated camper in a year or so. Also not classy lol!

being naughty is all part of it, alot of fun!!"

LOL. Will let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels, air b n b, clubs etc

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By *rchitectMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

I don't think there are any clubs near me - seems to be club free! Thank you for the suggestion!"

Temptations in Bournemouth

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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago

Hayling Island

Many hotels offer dayroom options for ridiculously cheap prices Where you can book rooms for layovers, a shower and a change for a party, rest in between meetings etc. Great option if you're on a budget!

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By *apperleymanMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Porn.. or resort to actually fucking your wife..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very common in clubs to see a couple arrive, change, straight to private room, lock the door, fuck and then leave, we assumed its people having an affair but would work just as well as a private meet location.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"outdoors/car meet/clubs

Bit chilly - an option. Will be buying a heated camper in a year or so. Also not classy lol!"

You could always rent an allotment and build a mancave with heating few chairs even a sofa bed

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Just not meet seems to be my go to option on this. It annoys me how many men who can't accomodate message me and expect me to either capitulate on not accomodating or think solving the problem is entirely my responsibility.

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

I don't think there are any clubs near me - seems to be club free! Thank you for the suggestion!

Temptations in Bournemouth "

Oh thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club or hotel

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"outdoors/car meet/clubs

Bit chilly - an option. Will be buying a heated camper in a year or so. Also not classy lol!

You could always rent an allotment and build a mancave with heating few chairs even a sofa bed

I have a large garden man-cave, no loo or washbasin. Guess I could get a porta potty, it's just the 'noise'

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We will meet in a club and have a hotel room also ..

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

For the cost of hotel would it not be worth travelling to another town/location with a club?

That way options may still be open if they bail on you

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

Dayuse hotels, or just a normal hotel.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Hotel... Why is this so hard to understand?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

I don't think there are any clubs near me - seems to be club free! Thank you for the suggestion!"

Choose one that's refundable up until the day/time of check in.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Hotel... Why is this so hard to understand?"

This!

I don't understand why some make it so complicated either.

Failing that club, air bnb etc

Nita

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By *sacambsMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon

Easy... Hotel...

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By *ecky124TV/TS
over a year ago

Middlewich

Car / outdoor/ hotel

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Hotels is an option but living in London dayuse are more expensive than a travelodge. I also use Rios spa as it’s only £32 entrance fee for a couple you get to use the facilities and they have private rooms where you can have naughty fun.They may not be the best rooms but for £32 I don’t think you can go far wrong.

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By *sacambsMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"Car / outdoor/ hotel "

That'll do as well

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Go to ikea, you can chat her up in the front rooms, make her coffee in the kitchens, wine and dine her with meatballs and berry sauce and take her to bed in the bedrooms

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

A club a swinging one

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"So if you can't accommodate, and the person you want to meet can't accommodate what do you do?

Although I have an empty 'spare' house for sale - it is overlooked by a very nosey Aunt who is toxic beyond belief so can't use it for 'happy times'.

Is so annoying

Too complicated.. Next

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By *obra 327Man
over a year ago

Bromley

Meet at a club easy

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"A club a swinging one "

Hit her with a swinging club, then sh.g her in the ambulance? Bit ott really

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

I live on the Isle of Wight. You have temptations. Untamed nights. And mischief parties all in Bournemouth. Or liberations in Portsmouth. The holiday inn in Gunwarf does day rooms too. If you want to find somewhere you will. Plus travel lodge on the outskirts of Pompey do rooms for )34 if you book in advance. Good luck.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Meet in a club / social meet first then arrange hotel

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if you can't accommodate, and the person you want to meet can't accommodate what do you do?

Although I have an empty 'spare' house for sale - it is overlooked by a very nosey Aunt who is toxic beyond belief so can't use it for 'happy times'.

Is so annoying

Both be honest with your parents

Alternatively book a hotel, pay in cash and give a fake Monica.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone once told me of an app called day use. Hotels to book for during the day. Another option if no clubs available for the pair

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"How about club? Most have private lockable rooms so you can still have privacy, but you can also use other facilities if you wish?

EXACTLY THIS, If the other party bails then so what? There may be other interesting/ interested parties present."

This is a good idea! Just be aware that some clubs give guys the boot if they come as a couple with a woman but then split up once inside.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

A situation I was in a lot as a single parent when so many of the women I was meeting were in the same boat too (too be fair still a simular situation as couple). Simply book a room (ideally last minute or with free cancellation as life can sometimes get in the way). Either that or meet at club. Obviously the weather isn't the best at this time to be creative outdoors.

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

Thank you lovely people for all the advice and suggestions.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough

Sell your spare house then you'll have loads of money for clubs or hotels. Most people would love your problems

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Hotel

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I chose not to accom but can. And also won’t visit mens houses.

Hotels and clubs only for me.

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Sell your spare house then you'll have loads of money for clubs or hotels. Most people would love your problems

Housing market has died for expensive homes, not the worst problem to have is it lol. It will sell eventually.

Do have a tent in the meantime - though would be a bit chilly!

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Shag in the bus shelter on the corner...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A closed down tennis court

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"A situation I was in a lot as a single parent when so many of the women I was meeting were in the same boat too (too be fair still a simular situation as couple). Simply book a room (ideally last minute or with free cancellation as life can sometimes get in the way). Either that or meet at club. Obviously the weather isn't the best at this time to be creative outdoors.

Mr"

This is my issue too . Being a single parent (dad) means I can't accommodate easily. Therefore I must be married etc.. many people refuse to consider hotels but I found them to be ideal.

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By *fdTMan
over a year ago

Bradford

If you both want it badly enough, accommodation shouldn't matter, what will be will be, challenge accepted

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By *ilfbonaMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Get a tent and go camping!

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Sell your spare house then you'll have loads of money for clubs or hotels. Most people would love your problems

Housing market has died for expensive homes, not the worst problem to have is it lol. It will sell eventually.

Do have a tent in the meantime - though would be a bit chilly!

Why can't you accommodate? The wife could go stay in the spare house, and you do the same when it's her time for fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club or split the cost of hotel.

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By *orny salesmanMan
over a year ago

Preston

Look at day use hotels on Google if you can meet during day it's cheaper and if you want nighttime meet then you can often find hotels where you can pay at property if booking online I'd book hotel meet for coffee first if it doesn't pan out cancel booking

Otherwise as others have said private room at club

"Thank you for advice for AirBNB or Hotel.

Any tips to ensure that I don't end up paying for it - and the other person bails?

Thank you lovelies! "

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Hotel or Air BnB.

We ask the guy to pay and the will cover half when we meet.

We’ve been stood up in hotel rooms that we’ve booked before, so now we don’t book unless we’ve played before.

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By *allen Angels CplCouple
over a year ago

North East leicestershire

Share cost of a hotel room, outdoor fun, camper or caravan if you have one. Car fun.

Lots of options if you really want to meet.

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Shared hotel

Played in car

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By *exySenseiCouple
over a year ago

"So if you can't accommodate, and the person you want to meet can't accommodate what do you do?

Although I have an empty 'spare' house for sale - it is overlooked by a very nosey Aunt who is toxic beyond belief so can't use it for 'happy times'.

Is so annoying

Hotel room, you must book, young Jedi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a big van but for some reason they never want to meet

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"So if you can't accommodate, and the person you want to meet can't accommodate what do you do?

Although I have an empty 'spare' house for sale - it is overlooked by a very nosey Aunt who is toxic beyond belief so can't use it for 'happy times'.

Is so annoying

I wouuld just use the empty house if I was you. Who cares if your aunt disapproves? I'm pretty sure that a man in his 50s can fuck anyone he wants.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Always a Club visit. Then there's.no Loss if either person's don't show

Equally I won't meet in hotels etc on the first time meet

I might be an axe murderer

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Why can't you accommodate? The wife could go stay in the spare house, and you do the same when it's her time for fun."

Her fun is getting me out of the house so she gets to watch her weird documentaries

One bonk a week is enough for her!

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"I might be an axe murderer

Well, it's a risk I'm happy to take!

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By *tevieboyyy OP Man
over a year ago

Waterlooville

"Get a tent and go camping!"

I have five tents. Love camping.

Anyone want to come camping with me.

Sex in tents is horrible! Either too hot or too cold!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

You get a hotel. D'oh.

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

If you haven't used a hotel for a meet, what are you even doing here, lol.

Serious now, use a hotel, it's a great neutral venue for a first meet, or for any meetings for that matter, even do a day room meet if it's easier.

Or you can hire some of the usual club venues or parts of venues to add something different to your fun.

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Neither can accomodate - what do you do?