FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the ladies

By *unlovinguy_68 OP Man
over a year ago

nottingham

Hi all

Current partner and I have been discussing a small group meet, first time for her.

We have discussed 2 scenarios, first one the usual meet, greet and play in a hotel room with her seeing everything

Second one being she is blindfolded and cuffed awaiting in the middle of the room to greet my choice only of guests and she at least stays blindfolded for the whole meet.

It would be a little bit play by ear meet with it being first time.

So my question to you ladies it which scenario would you think would suit best

Any tips from you would be handy

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By *ts just a bit of funMan
over a year ago

Surrey

In my experience I would say stick to the first one. Once she feels comfortable she may regret being blindfolded and wish she had experienced more. Sometimes starting with guys massaging her is a good way to break the ice and feel comfortable. That’s my opinion haha

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I think both are challenging for a first time swinging experience, especially as you say "small group meet" not threesome.

I would go to a club first to watch and possibly play with my own partner then take it from there.

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Like you said play it by ear maybe start blindfolded and cuffed and if things change uncuff.

Best thing is not to over think it and enjoy the moment.

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By *unlovinguy_68 OP Man
over a year ago

nottingham

"Personally I think both are challenging for a first time swinging experience, especially as you say "small group meet" not threesome.

I would go to a club first to watch and possibly play with my own partner then take it from there. "

We were thinking of probably 2 guys plus myself.

We did discuss the club visit but she prefers the privacy

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By *ts just a bit of funMan
over a year ago

Surrey

I do agree don’t overthink it and definitely enjoy the experience. We also preferred the privacy so used to host at our place or a hotel, much more relaxed and intimate

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Wouldn't start with a foursome.

Depending who you invite can get a little intense for a first meet.

Our advice would be meet one guy with great verification, meet for a social and chat about limits and what you want from the meet.

He is getting to play so should totally respect your wishes and if not move on.

First time you want a steady slow meet not a full on session with three guys you may out her off it permanently.

That's our view anyway.

And like other lady said don't over think it, it's just sex but make sure your rules are followed etc xx mnj

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

"Hi all

Current partner and I have been discussing a small group meet, first time for her.

We have discussed 2 scenarios, first one the usual meet, greet and play in a hotel room with her seeing everything

Second one being she is blindfolded and cuffed awaiting in the middle of the room to greet my choice only of guests and she at least stays blindfolded for the whole meet.

It would be a little bit play by ear meet with it being first time.

So my question to you ladies it which scenario would you think would suit best

Any tips from you would be handy"

Getting people to turn up would be a good start, people say many things, but fail when it actually come to the day of the meet. Make 100% sure the people you speak to are actually genuine. When you’ve vetted the time wasters out, our advice is to break her in gently, or it could backfire on you big time. Make sure that you both understand what is about to happen. Jealous intentions may appear during this and if you’ve not had a indepth conversation about it, it may be a problem later. We know this from experience how much it affected us until we sat down and went through everything together. Hope you choose wisely. XxxkarenandmartinxxX

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By *unlovinguy_68 OP Man
over a year ago

nottingham

"Wouldn't start with a foursome.

Depending who you invite can get a little intense for a first meet.

Our advice would be meet one guy with great verification, meet for a social and chat about limits and what you want from the meet.

He is getting to play so should totally respect your wishes and if not move on.

First time you want a steady slow meet not a full on session with three guys you may out her off it permanently.

That's our view anyway.

And like other lady said don't over think it, it's just sex but make sure your rules are followed etc xx mnj

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By *unlovinguy_68 OP Man
over a year ago

nottingham

"Wouldn't start with a foursome.

Depending who you invite can get a little intense for a first meet.

Our advice would be meet one guy with great verification, meet for a social and chat about limits and what you want from the meet.

He is getting to play so should totally respect your wishes and if not move on.

First time you want a steady slow meet not a full on session with three guys you may out her off it permanently.

That's our view anyway.

And like other lady said don't over think it, it's just sex but make sure your rules are followed etc xx mnj

Thank you advise noted, it may be the way forward

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By *unlovinguy_68 OP Man
over a year ago

nottingham

"Hi all

Current partner and I have been discussing a small group meet, first time for her.

We have discussed 2 scenarios, first one the usual meet, greet and play in a hotel room with her seeing everything

Second one being she is blindfolded and cuffed awaiting in the middle of the room to greet my choice only of guests and she at least stays blindfolded for the whole meet.

It would be a little bit play by ear meet with it being first time.

So my question to you ladies it which scenario would you think would suit best

Any tips from you would be handy

We’ll do the homework for sure, we’re not going to let a first experience get ruined. Thank you

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Current partner and I have been discussing a small group meet, first time for her.

Are you going to set up a couples profile ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Main tip from me would be set up a couples profile.

Second tip don't make a first meet one where she has limited control. That is an absolute disaster waiting to happen

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Not sure if this is her first ‘group meet’ or first time in the swinging scene…

What I can say is that if my husband had suggested this out of the gate a few years ago it would probably have shut the entire swinging conversation down for good.

Giving up control in that kind of situation without a strong foundation of playing together already in place, is a recipe for emotional damage

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why don't you ask your partner what scenario she would prefer and feel most comfortable with instead of randoms??

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally for a 1st time none of the above.

Speak to your partner OP only you both can make the decision.

Mrs

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over a year ago

"Hi all

Current partner and I have been discussing a small group meet, first time for her.

We have discussed 2 scenarios, first one the usual meet, greet and play in a hotel room with her seeing everything

Second one being she is blindfolded and cuffed awaiting in the middle of the room to greet my choice only of guests and she at least stays blindfolded for the whole meet.

It would be a little bit play by ear meet with it being first time.

So my question to you ladies it which scenario would you think would suit best

Any tips from you would be handy"

Hate scriptwriters until I know people.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd stick with the one where she can see who she plays with.

I'd find it daunting to not be able to see the other people, so for a newbie it may be overwhelming first time.

What has she said she'd like?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Wouldn't start with a foursome.

Depending who you invite can get a little intense for a first meet.

Our advice would be meet one guy with great verification, meet for a social and chat about limits and what you want from the meet.

He is getting to play so should totally respect your wishes and if not move on.

First time you want a steady slow meet not a full on session with three guys you may out her off it permanently.

That's our view anyway.

And like other lady said don't over think it, it's just sex but make sure your rules are followed etc xx mnj

This is good advice

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