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By *utieBootyPatootie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here or There abouts

Am thinking of checking out a swingers club for the first time with a fwb does anyone have any tips for a nervous newbie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am thinking of checking out a swingers club for the first time with a fwb does anyone have any tips for a nervous newbie? "

Don’t put any pressure on yourself. There is no requirement to play. Just go have a look around and take it all in.

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By *antherooMan
over a year ago

city

Just don't have to do anything you don't want to do rember that.

Please enjoy and report back to the forum

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

We aren't club experts by any means but what surprised us was just how laid back and almost normal it was. You can easily not "play" and still have a really great time so there's no pressure to do anything at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

• Be respectful

• Don't expect sex, if it happens it's a bonus

• Always ask first to touch/join in

• Be social, friendly and fun

• Don't get d*unk

Enjoy yourself and be safe!

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By *utieBootyPatootie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here or There abouts

Ty guys, I don't intend on putting extra stress on myself by playing just going to check the place out and see what all the fuss is about, might suck on my fbs cock if I feel comfortable in that environment lol

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By *utieBootyPatootie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here or There abouts


"• Be respectful

• Don't expect sex, if it happens it's a bonus

• Always ask first to touch/join in

• Be social, friendly and fun

• Don't get d*unk

Enjoy yourself and be safe! "

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

S was super nervous on our first time, we only ended up playing together in a locked playroom... with a window

For us best advice would be:

*Take it easy, don't rush

*Don't expect anything

*Don't drink, keep a clear head

*Try on a night with fewer single men, this keeps the pressure lower (unless you are looking for single men, in which case fill your boots).

Really hope your first time goes as well as ours did and you end up becoming repeat visitors like us

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

We are in the same boat.

We want to try a club too never been.

Have a few in mind we decided to avoid the dress down ones that you have to strip down to go in.

We are going to go and check out what's what and take it all in.

But very nervous hear all about what people call the wanking dead, hate feeling pressured hopefully won't be as bad as all that. Xxx

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By *utieBootyPatootie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here or There abouts


"We are in the same boat.

We want to try a club too never been.

Have a few in mind we decided to avoid the dress down ones that you have to strip down to go in.

We are going to go and check out what's what and take it all in.

But very nervous hear all about what people call the wanking dead, hate feeling pressured hopefully won't be as bad as all that. Xxx"

Lol the wanking dead, that hilarious! Wish you all the best for your first forey into clubs

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By *utieBootyPatootie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here or There abouts


"S was super nervous on our first time, we only ended up playing together in a locked playroom... with a window

For us best advice would be:

*Take it easy, don't rush

*Don't expect anything

*Don't drink, keep a clear head

*Try on a night with fewer single men, this keeps the pressure lower (unless you are looking for single men, in which case fill your boots).

Really hope your first time goes as well as ours did and you end up becoming repeat visitors like us

"

thank you, do you know if some clubs have a dress code?

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

Be assertive. Anything that you don't like them be clear and explicit that you do not approve.

Try a couples and ladies night first, get the vibe, and you'll relax. On a night with single men, it's luck of the draw. If you are now nervous, it sounds like you are not too confident a person in this matter, so perhaps baby steps rather than deeper end of the pool, if you see what I mean.

Don't fear dress down clubs. You go in clothed and you can change privately in changing room or a room into a towel that fully covers you, so nothing to fear either, and people are socially friendlier in those clubs compared to fully dressed clubs, based on our experience.

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby


"Be assertive. Anything that you don't like them be clear and explicit that you do not approve.

Try a couples and ladies night first, get the vibe, and you'll relax. On a night with single men, it's luck of the draw. If you are now nervous, it sounds like you are not too confident a person in this matter, so perhaps baby steps rather than deeper end of the pool, if you see what I mean.

Don't fear dress down clubs. You go in clothed and you can change privately in changing room or a room into a towel that fully covers you, so nothing to fear either, and people are socially friendlier in those clubs compared to fully dressed clubs, based on our experience."

Really we thought be a bit full on first time.

Thank you for that something to think about xx

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If you are with someone then it’s definitely easier. It was surprisingly normal. We were not approached. We did not see any examples of ‘the wanking dead’ as some have referred to.

We did not play and those we did speak to were lovely.

You’ll be fine.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Our response on a similar thread..

Hey! Was utterly unaware of the swinging lifestyle till I met D.

Simply, imagine a standard club but with the friendliest clientele.

Only with the facilities to fuck them should you choose.

Where us ladies can wear that "oh, but it's a bit risque!" Outfit we'd sometimes like to without fear of sneering gazes, but more appreciative smiles and compliments.

Where consent holds far more weight than in the 'vanilla' world rather than a 'well she was dressed like that!' view.

Should you go you are in absolute power of what you want to do and with who, I personally I love it and D for opening my eyes to it.

Hope that reads well and enjoy should you visit one! X Mrs

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby


"If you are with someone then it’s definitely easier. It was surprisingly normal. We were not approached. We did not see any examples of ‘the wanking dead’ as some have referred to.

We did not play and those we did speak to were lovely.

You’ll be fine.

"

Thank you, sounds like we should give it try too.

Like OP have said its always difficult first time with anything.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get there, sit down and just start fingering yourself in front of everyone, cum and then leave.

Only joking OP. We had our first club visit a few months ago and our nerves were through the roof. Once we got there, sat down and started chatting to others, we soon relaxed. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and remember, you can say "no".

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus


"Am thinking of checking out a swingers club for the first time with a fwb does anyone have any tips for a nervous newbie? "

Yes. One of the biggest fears a newbie has is of bumping into someone they know and then finding out what you're unto. But why worry? They are there for the same reason. Scene folks are good at not outing you

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Am thinking of checking out a swingers club for the first time with a fwb does anyone have any tips for a nervous newbie?

Yes. One of the biggest fears a newbie has is of bumping into someone they know and then finding out what you're unto. But why worry? They are there for the same reason. Scene folks are good at not outing you "

This is a common view but it does depend on your circumstances. For example if you are a boss and one of your staff was there and spotted you then there is an interesting’ switch of power dynamic. Could be used as leverage. However probably quite a niche scenario

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