FabSwingers.com forum: Married

By *iscreetstokecouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Why is it that in the swinging community guys love married women but women ain't keen on married men. It turns guys on more knowing I'm married but if hubby (who has a solo profile) tells the lady it's 9/10 a straight no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had messages from married men asking to meet but it’s always been a no from us. Even with the wife’s consent. I think for some women they don’t like the idea of the couple talking about meet afterwards. That’s would put me off personally.

Can’t talk from a man’s perspective why they like meeting married women as my hubby doesn’t do that, but yeah we have definitely noticed this dynamic is a lot more popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of a married women 'being naughty' seeking other guys.

Plus married people are less likely to be on your case I think

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

Married is ok as long as the guy is honest about being married

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I personally will not meet married and cheating.But met plenty of married couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a good one. I suppose, it's not in my list of fundamental moral beliefs. I genuinely don't care, who am I to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married is ok as long as the guy is honest about being married"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married is ok as long as the guy is honest about being married

This. "

And no soppy stories. Otherwise I'll charge a therapist fees.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think with many (especially single women) they like the facade of exclusivity even if it's totally openly promiscuous and NSA in that time and space. And many don't like the feel they are playing with some other woman's toy. So although we may understand the reasons many don't like cheating guys I feel this is a factor when it comes to guys in relationships who play solo with permission struggling.

Although I would also suggest that for many women who cheat on here their preference may actually be for a male who is cheating. However they may specifically avoid males who go solo with permission because that notion may make them feel bad about their own circumstances. However women who play solo with permission may favour guys who also play solo with permission too.

Not that I speak for all women (I know not all women on here think like that). However this is often the impression I get from My time on the scene.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some men get off on meeting married women, because they think they're getting one over on the partner, if he doesn't know.

Or they like sending Mrs back to hubby if he does know, there's no attachment or risk there I think.

Plus meets are so much harder for men, so many will take what they can, married or not.

I'm OK with men on here being married if their Mrs knows, my partner meets alone and I happily confirm this to couples or ladies if they want to speak to me..

If his wife "can't" confirm its OK for me to meet her hubby, I wouldn't meet him.

There's sadly so many claiming their wife knows, when they unfortunately they don't.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Just to add, I've never had a man ask to speak to my partner about meeting me, but I've had a few try to get me to meet behind his back. Instant block.

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

We don't meet married men or cheating guys.

Just one of our rules, a little bit on the morals of it and a bit on the potential hassle of a crazy wife getting involved.

Each to their own always and we don't judge, everyone does what they do for thoer own reasons.

Meet married couples and if the wife was OK about it maybe would meet separate.

I'm sure we have shared with married guys over the years but we don't ask for Id and proof it's up to them to be honest.

We would ask and if they say they are not well we did our part.

Just our take appricate not for everyone xx

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By *edHeelsCplCouple
over a year ago

Kenilworth

He’s tried to get single meets before and has been totally blanked. Obviously any man in a relationship MUST be “cheating”

A woman? That’s okay. Such a huge bias in this community.

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

"He’s tried to get single meets before and has been totally blanked. Obviously any man in a relationship MUST be “cheating”

A woman? That’s okay. Such a huge bias in this community. "
that is so true..

Women can cheat.. men are f... bad if they do..

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"He’s tried to get single meets before and has been totally blanked. Obviously any man in a relationship MUST be “cheating”

A woman? That’s okay. Such a huge bias in this community. that is so true..

Women can cheat.. men are f... bad if they do..

Just remember that this status quo has been set by a male world. You can't blame women for double standards for not wanting to be with cheating men just because so many guys are happy to be with cheating women.

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

We don’t mind meeting married guys or ladies provided they are honest about it to us. We always say to them that it is their responsibility and up to them to take the consequences if they are found at. In that scenario we will just walk away and deny everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most women think that married guys are cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not meet with a married guy if his wife didn’t know he was on here. If she knows and has given permission for him to play on his own then that’s fine. Swinging is all about consent for me - and a wife (or husband!) who is being cheated on has not consented.

Also, the time I’ve wasted early on talking to married men - they love the fantasy but then suddenly get cold feet. Or are awkward when you do meet, or feel guilty, or end up talking about their wives, or cum within 5 min because they are so starved of sex, I’d have no idea what they do - blah just too much hassle so now I avoid like the plague!!!

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By *arnsleycpl4uCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Married men are ok for bare back they have a lot to lose if not honest / so yes we will have a married man and a married lady that’s what swinging is all about isn’t it to have fun get excitement in there life’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men are ok for bare back they have a lot to lose if not honest / so yes we will have a married man and a married lady that’s what swinging is all about isn’t it to have fun get excitement in there life’s "

Right

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

If we had met a couple, we would then meet them separately if we all agreed, but we wouldn’t meet married men who are cheating. No doubt we have in clubs but we don’t actively seek them out. Each to their own though.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

people will lie to get what they want men and women syr8 bi or gay ..

being married is probably the biggest lie on here ..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Married women or men it's a no from us.

If someone can't respect the person they love how can I as a stranger expect any.

Swinging is a bit if fun for us, I'm not into breaking up marriages.

Mrs

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm not sure why, OP, but married guys is Alice's fetish!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Generally, I avoid the married ones unless they're meeting together.

There are exceptions, when I have clear enthusiastic consent from the spouse I'm okay with it. And I quite like the security of knowing that they're not going to take up more spoons than I have to spare in those cases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people will lie to get what they want men and women syr8 bi or gay ..

being married is probably the biggest lie on here ..

So you're not really a wife then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most things on this site, some will, some won't, so what.

I wouldn't actively seek a lady who is married and here without permission but I would be unlikely to decline a meet solely because of it either.

There are plenty of ladies on here who actively seek married men, for a variety of reasons I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am based on the Isle of Man and I am married. But due to my partners health reasons our sex life has died. I love her to bits and our children and I don't want to get separated. I don't know if I can tell her about my sexual fantasies as this will hurt her. But on the other hand I have to fulfil my sexual desire as well. I don't meet anyone from this small rock as its too risky. So every time I message ladies /couples etc no one is interested to meet. I always let everyone know that I am married, don't want to lie about it. So if you are reading this and is based near Liverpool, Preston, Manchester etc and don't mind meeting a married non pushy tall and dark man, please message me, I would love to get to know you. Hope to hear from you.

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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

"Why is it that in the swinging community guys love married women but women ain't keen on married men. It turns guys on more knowing I'm married but if hubby (who has a solo profile) tells the lady it's 9/10 a straight no."

I have seen this too. I always advise people of my marital situation. I have been turned down by couples due to it but never guys, most of who say they find it a turn on. I don't have a problem meeting married guys but prefer them to be open with me about it. I find them more reliable and if they have to cancel a meet they don't have to make up some lame excuse

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Would those 9 out of 10 have definitely said yes if he wasn't married?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Some people (both sexes) get off on meeting someone that isn’t theirs.

I can’t comprehend it, totally against it both ways.

But most men don’t ask if I’m single or not. Having said that I don’t meet women so can’t comment.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

People want what the can't or shouldn't have....me included

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