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By *eductiveEncounters OP   Woman
over a year ago

South West

Without being a complete and utter bar steward

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Honesty - not everyone is for everyone.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I just go with "No thanks."

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Without being a complete and utter bar steward "

We would just say: Thanks for the interest, but you're not what we're looking for.

Cal

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

I like the polite reply “not my type, happy fabbing”

Prefer the honestly, and better than the read, ignore and delete option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple ‘No’ works

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By *andy CanesWoman
over a year ago

candy cane lane

On here just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us sorry is a polite way.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I usually reply with thanks but no thanks, happy swinging.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
over a year ago

A den in the Glen

I'm sorry, you're not my type but wish you all the best. Happy fabbing.

Wouldn't want to type that out more than a few times mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested thank you. happy fabbing.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"I usually reply with thanks but no thanks, happy swinging.

"

Same, and usually followed by the block. That stops all the "why's", any potential abuse, as well as you don't come up in their search/they can't contact you again, and vice versa.

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire


"I usually reply with thanks but no thanks, happy swinging.

Same, and usually followed by the block. That stops all the "why's", any potential abuse, as well as you don't come up in their search/they can't contact you again, and vice versa. "

this, you dont have to explain further

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By *ust want fun 888Man
over a year ago

nearby

Like the woman said, no tanks is an answer that is more horrible than the mini meanings you can take from it

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By *leasingmyhubsCouple
over a year ago

Holbeach

As much as I appreciate the interest it's a No from me. Happy Fabbing!!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

simple blunt no thanks if they cant handle that then they should not be swinging ... but i also think no answer is ok too or just block ..i dont see the problem

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By *CExeCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln/Exeter

Depends on the nature of the message. I'm getting more and more blunt with couples messaging and asking to borrow Chelsea, or the guys with 'permission to play solo' who want to meet Chelsea. Polite couples who just don't do it for us we just chat with and say that it's not for us.

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By *an JuniperoCouple
over a year ago

North East

If it’s a polite conversation we just explain we don’t think we’d be compatible. If people are blunt and demanding then it’s a simple “no”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends,

1 liners, obviously haven't read profile = delete and ignore

repeat offenders = block

genuine messages = sorry not our type, happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry, you're not my type but wish you all the best. Happy fabbing.

Wouldn't want to type that out more than a few times mind!"

Exactly what I write. Unless someone is super rude / annoying / entitled in which case I just ignore and delete

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By *ysonfuryMan
over a year ago

Stockport

When I'm being turned down I prefer a thanks but no thanks

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Sorry you aren’t for us.

Happy hunting

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By *ts_Business_TimeCouple
over a year ago

Berkshire

“Sorry not for us”

“Happy Fabbing”

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By *nigma1000Man
over a year ago

Braintree

It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.

It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion.

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By *ts_Business_TimeCouple
over a year ago

Berkshire

When you get 100’s of messages a day you can’t expect people to reply to every message

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.

It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion."

It’s not rude - just because you decided to send someone a message, that doesn’t demand they should reply.

No reply is a response anyway.

K

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By *nigma1000Man
over a year ago

Braintree

Well as I don’t fall into your age category I wouldn’t be one of the hundreds that send you messages

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By *nigma1000Man
over a year ago

Braintree

Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned"

It's entitled to think you deserve a reply to an unsolicited message.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

If a message is worth replying to (we'll worded) I'll respond even if it's a polite decline, I have never had a major negative response to a rejection, so I can't be to much of a bitch ha ha my response varies depending on the content of the message.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs


"If a message is worth replying to (we'll worded) I'll respond even if it's a polite decline, I have never had a major negative response to a rejection, so I can't be to much of a bitch ha ha my response varies depending on the content of the message.

**well worded.. "

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By *CBoyTV/TS
over a year ago

Tonypandy

It costs nothing to be polite. Like others on here I thank them for contacting me then say something like 'Not what I'm looking for" and end wishing them good luck.

Unless they are the stupid "Hi how's you" type messages then I just delete them as my profile says I will do as they obviously haven't bothered to read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.

It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion."

"No thanks!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It costs nothing to be polite. Like others on here I thank them for contacting me then say something like 'Not what I'm looking for" and end wishing them good luck.

Unless they are the stupid "Hi how's you" type messages then I just delete them as my profile says I will do as they obviously haven't bothered to read it."

It costs time and energy to reply to messages. People are perfectly within their rights not to reply.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’ll reply politely and block.

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By *nigma1000Man
over a year ago

Braintree


"If a message is worth replying to (we'll worded) I'll respond even if it's a polite decline, I have never had a major negative response to a rejection, so I can't be to much of a bitch ha ha my response varies depending on the content of the message. "

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By *nigma1000Man
over a year ago

Braintree


"Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned

It's entitled to think you deserve a reply to an unsolicited message. "

If someone is on fab and allow messages to be sent to them how can it be unsolicited if the person satisfies your criteria?

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

Windsor


"Without being a complete and utter bar steward "

Honestly always. If someone’s not appreciative then hit that block button lol. As a single guy here it’s something I’m used too. But I don’t think it’s fair to return with anything other than respect?

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By *oufouCouple
over a year ago

Somerset

If they write a nice message:

Thanks for waving hello. You seem a lovely guy/couple but we get so many messages and it’s impossible to meet with everyone. Hope you understand.

If they haven’t read the profile, or ignore our text:

Delete

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

Windsor


"If they write a nice message:

Thanks for waving hello. You seem a lovely guy/couple but we get so many messages and it’s impossible to meet with everyone. Hope you understand.

If they haven’t read the profile, or ignore our text:

Delete "

Completely fair. Respect works both ways

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

If they send you a message and you know another profile that has the exact same pic as them, call it out.

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By *use and wolfCouple
over a year ago

angus

Be honest, but if you're really not able to then just "Sorry, i just don't think we have enough in common?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned

It's entitled to think you deserve a reply to an unsolicited message.

If someone is on fab and allow messages to be sent to them how can it be unsolicited if the person satisfies your criteria?"

It's in the site rules that "no reply is a reply". Simply having a profile doesn't mean women & couples must reply to every random who opts to message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry not what I'm looking for.

Keep it simple but clear without being mean ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks but no thanks

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby


"It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.

It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion."

That's just admitting you haven't read the website FAQs or agree with the terms and conditions of the website. Why use a website you are unhappy with?

If I felt no replies were personally rude I wouldn't continue to use the website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry your not for me, happy fabbing

I know as it happens a lot

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"depends,

1 liners, obviously haven't read profile = delete and ignore

repeat offenders = block

genuine messages = sorry not our type, happy fabbing"

Pretty much the same as what we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far rather a "thanks but no thanks" than a no show. Not everbody is for everyone. As for replying to messages, it is entirely unreasonable to expect a response to an unsolicited message.

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
over a year ago

rochester

We are always polite.

Still get abuse sometimes though.

HW

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By *eltic connectionCouple
over a year ago

Manningtree

If we get a message from someone who we don't think we would hit it off, with we just say 'sorry but you're not for us but we're sure you will find what you're looking for soon'

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