FabSwingers.com forum: Unsolicited 'friends' requests

By *randMrsLP OP Couple
over a year ago

london

I just used to delete them but since yesterday I've just blocked them

Often, some you may have intereacted with once just send you a friends request but the other 50% of the time you have not even chatted to them. The ones I have chatted to eg, one simple thanks etc from me - IMO sending a friends request without first talkig about it is wrong.

I therefore take the time and effort to block them, Am I being too harsh?

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

No, seems a pretty sensible response to us. We get a few, and we do exactly the same. If you are so rude as to not to talk to us before you ask to see uncensored pics of S, then... well, off to the bin you go!

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Absolutely not being too harsh!! We feel often picture hunters wanting to see your private pics, but the other alternative is wait till they're not online accept. Perve or not as the case may be

unfriend then block!

Frankly we agree with you though..

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

You're not being too harsh at all, you can run your profile how you like, and those people clearly aren't a good fit for you.

Might I suggest though: wait until they're offline, accept the request and take a look. Make sure to Fab one picture before removing them again, and never acknowledge it

LvM

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

We just delete unless they send repeated ones.

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By *ountry PeaksCouple
over a year ago

In The Surrey Hills

Just updated our status with the exact same topic.

Currently just delete any from single males, unless there’s been previous chats. Even then have also used the ‘offline and look’ sometimes if couples, female or tv

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I get so msny of these. It’s just Wankers wanting pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just updated our status with the exact same topic.

Currently just delete any from single males, unless there’s been previous chats. Even then have also used the ‘offline and look’ sometimes if couples, female or tv"

Damn, was just going to send you a friends request as well.

Seeing as I’m inundated, I have an admin mange all mine for me.

Honest

I just delete random ones.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I mostly ignore but sometimes I block.

I find it the weirdest thing to do without engaging in a message first but figure they just want to look at the friends only pictures.

When someone with zero pictures does it- I wonder why.

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By *nytime2023Couple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

We delete without accepting. Our profile even states that we don’t accept random friend requests. Not harsh in the slightest xx

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

Its your account you can do what you want

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By *emma200Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Ugh… I hate this.

Mostly they get ignored and they sit in the request box.. if I see I’m getting repeated messages then they are blocked.

I think it’s just rude and desperate if I’m honest.. my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed"

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed"

Same for me, they just get ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really mind friend requests but then again it would depend. This is a social site after all. If it is just pestering for sex then I would then just block but seems as this has never happened to me I can't say for sure.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Your not wrong it's your profile do as you wish.

We get loads I wait until their offline have a nosey then unfriend.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed

Same for me, they just get ignored. "

We're another that just leaves them so they they can't resend.

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By *randMrsLP OP Couple
over a year ago

london

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed

Same for me, they just get ignored.

We're another that just leaves them so they they can't resend. "

Hello

Are you saying once blocked they can resend? If we left all of the unsolcited friends requests it would be over a thousand

cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just block them, if they can't see us they can't friends request us although we did have an embarrassing moment when a couple we met in a club tried to friend us from the changing rooms only to find we had already blocked them

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By *oomerangbobMan
over a year ago

stanhope

What is this ‘friend request’ that you speak of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed

Same for me, they just get ignored.

We're another that just leaves them so they they can't resend.

Hello

Are you saying once blocked they can resend? If we left all of the unsolcited friends requests it would be over a thousand

cheers"

No. If you delete the friend request they can resend. The volume of ignored friend requests doesn't impact on our use of the site

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"You're not being too harsh at all, you can run your profile how you like, and those people clearly aren't a good fit for you.

Might I suggest though: wait until they're offline, accept the request and take a look. Make sure to Fab one picture before removing them again, and never acknowledge it

LvM"

I do this too

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By *errykezmasCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We blocked men as we are here for single men, that cut down a lot of pointless winks and friend requests, especially when we are on cam.

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By *oublethefun78Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

We get the same problem but we just delete, block or ignore them as they clearly never read a profile. They look at pics and send requests and clearly them know there's no common ground full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wonder who's sending friends & family pix from here...or why

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

block nobody on my friends list unless ive met them ...hot list if i want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not harsh at all. Anyone who sends us a friend request without even a hello gets instantly blocked. Just as bad as guys knocking on doors asking if they can join in

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I just ignore them

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed

Exactly this. We do the same.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The vast majority of friend requests I've received over the years have been from people I've never spoken to.

Many of them from women competing on hotpics and who need as many friends as they can get. They have zero interest in my pics or in any engagement at all.

I can't be arsed with their games so I've never accepted any of them regardless of how hot they tell me they are.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"I just used to delete them but since yesterday I've just blocked them

I therefore take the time and effort to block them, Am I being too harsh?"

Had loads since we joined. Very few had messaged us before sending one to

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By *ennylewis2016Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We ask them what they think they’re doing. We don’t know them. Some actually say they just want go see the private photos.

Block

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

Not at all. I had one profile that sent me an invite over and over again and I’d not spoken to them once.

Hesitated to block them initially but in the end did as it was annoying me.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

I (LB) think it's a site problem not a user problem in most cases. If Fab added a 'do yo want' prompt after clicking on it then they would mostly disappear as the Hotlist option is right by the Friend Request and I believe that's the category most folks are aiming for.

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By *randMrsLP OP Couple
over a year ago

london

"Your not wrong it's your profile do as you wish.

We get loads I wait until their offline have a nosey then unfriend.

Mrs "

:LOL:

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By *_hot_hornyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We tend to wait until they're offline, look at their pics, unfriend then block (unless we see something exceptional) - seems fair if they can't be bothered to message first

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"We tend to wait until they're offline, look at their pics, unfriend then block (unless we see something exceptional) - seems fair if they can't be bothered to message first

i do this

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By *eterandJaneadventuresCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

When we receive a friends request without any form of communication before hand, we simply delete the request 99.99 percent get the hint and not resend a request at a later date .

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We state it on our profile yet still get requests from people out of the blue.

We do the same, fab one of their private pics and then unfriend them.

Just picture hunters or chancers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s an instant block from us , it’s just rude .

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

People who send friends request without chatting ,mostly are fake profiles who want to see your private pics,hoping to find face pics or videos.

Genuine verified cpls never send friends request without asking .

Also there ones desperate who send a hello message along with friends request too.

In all cases instant block anyway.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

This gets annoying, they usually send when not spoken at all, we usually accept them when they are offline and then delete them, but if they continuely send them then we will warn and then in some cases block them

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I just used to delete them but since yesterday I've just blocked them

I therefore take the time and effort to block them, Am I being too harsh?"

We used have in our profile "random friends requests get a block", would still get them and ended with a massive block list! Generally we'll wait until they're offline have a look at their friends pics (often just genitalia) then remove as friends. A "Single Lady" (with 5 verifications) has sent us 8 yes eight friend's requests this year alone (thanks private notes!), always along with a wink. "She" has never sent a message, she must be shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t delete them as if you do they can keep sending them

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By *S-cardiffiansCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Friend request and they have nothing that is friend only lol

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"We state it on our profile yet still get requests from people out of the blue.

We do the same, fab one of their private pics and then unfriend them.

Just picture hunters or chancers. "

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Friend request and they have nothing that is friend only lol"

Yeah that!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get them even though we state it in our profile. We ignore them, wait until they have gone offline and then accept, have a sneaky peak and unfriend.

If people can’t accept our boundaries on here, what are they going to be like in the bedroom? It’s a red flag for us.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"People who send friends request without chatting ,mostly are fake profiles who want to see your private pics,hoping to find face pics or videos.

Genuine verified cpls never send friends request without asking .

Also there ones desperate who send a hello message along with friends request too.

In all cases instant block anyway."

That may be your experience but I've had at least 20 friend requests from extremely well verified couples and I haven't spoken to any of them.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Unsolicited friend requests get deleted by me too but if they try more than once I block, everyone is entitled to run their profile however they see fit, I wouldn't say it was too harsh either OP.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"People who send friends request without chatting ,mostly are fake profiles who want to see your private pics,hoping to find face pics or videos.

Genuine verified cpls never send friends request without asking .

Also there ones desperate who send a hello message along with friends request too.

In all cases instant block anyway.

That may be your experience but I've had at least 20 friend requests from extremely well verified couples and I haven't spoken to any of them. "

We've also had loads of random friend requests off well verified obviously real couples, in fact it's quite regular.

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

"People who send friends request without chatting ,mostly are fake profiles who want to see your private pics,hoping to find face pics or videos.

Genuine verified cpls never send friends request without asking .

Also there ones desperate who send a hello message along with friends request too.

In all cases instant block anyway.

That may be your experience but I've had at least 20 friend requests from extremely well verified couples and I haven't spoken to any of them. "

Lol you should be lucky that verified cpls are interested in you.

I would be flattered if I had a single guy account.

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"I just used to delete them but since yesterday I've just blocked them

I therefore take the time and effort to block them, Am I being too harsh?"

Yr profile u choose what u do with it....simple

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By *art time deviantsCouple
over a year ago

The mighty fax

We keep the friend request open until they go off line..... accept it perv thier pictures then block em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who send friends request without chatting ,mostly are fake profiles who want to see your private pics,hoping to find face pics or videos.

Genuine verified cpls never send friends request without asking .

Also there ones desperate who send a hello message along with friends request too.

In all cases instant block anyway.

That may be your experience but I've had at least 20 friend requests from extremely well verified couples and I haven't spoken to any of them.

Lol you should be lucky that verified cpls are interested in you.

I would be flattered if I had a single guy account.

Why should he count himself lucky?

He's not some lesser species that should be grateful someone is offering him a crumb

Our experience is the same as RB's; many of our unsolicited friend requests are from verified profiles, often couples and often from mainland Britain. There's nothing flattering about nosiness

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By *randMrsLP OP Couple
over a year ago

london

Thanks all

Sadly, we are not the only ones.

The conclusion I have drawn is they send the friends through in the hope we wittingly or unwittingly click it and the see our 'friends only' pics.

As others have said and i did not intially say - it is damn "rude" to just send a friends request without asking or even chatting in many cases

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

Why should he count himself lucky?

He's not some lesser species that should be grateful someone is offering him a crumb

Our experience is the same as RB's; many of our unsolicited friend requests are from verified profiles, often couples and often from mainland Britain. There's nothing flattering about nosiness "

We don’t get unsolicited friends request without chatting. Cpls always chat with us first and then ask us if they want to add friends.

If you getting such requests from verified genuine cpls then it’s wrong. I would block them regardless their starry verifications.

We learn from such things ourselves too. We never ever send friends request to anyone without chatting with them and only if a meet is possible in the future.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"People who send friends request without chatting ,mostly are fake profiles who want to see your private pics,hoping to find face pics or videos.

Genuine verified cpls never send friends request without asking .

Also there ones desperate who send a hello message along with friends request too.

In all cases instant block anyway.

That may be your experience but I've had at least 20 friend requests from extremely well verified couples and I haven't spoken to any of them.

Lol you should be lucky that verified cpls are interested in you.

I would be flattered if I had a single guy account.

Strangely enough I don't feel lucky when someone can't be arsed taking the time to chat to me.

I don't feel lucky when they do send messages full of demands and instructions.

In fact I don't feel lucky when anyone gets in touch if they can't treat me as an equal and thinks I should be grateful for the attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone sends me an unsolicited friend request then I just let it sit there. I don’t repsond, don’t reject, just leave it there.

That way they can’t send me another request.

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By *con7Man
over a year ago

BARNET

Don’t understand why they send friends request without having engaged first. Surely hardly anybody accepts them in that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i send a message , cheeky wink , send a fr ...dont see what the problem is tbh i personally am not a creep or a wierdo lol ...if anything it gives them acess to my pics , my face pics without requesting them ect ect

and if they dont accept or choose to ignore them thats fine , their loss i class myself as one of the decent 1s hahaha..

and as a single man trying to even talk to a single or a couple nicely can get you ignored or blocked ...theres soooo many boxes u have to tick ...or preferences you must affirm to ....its a bit silly to complain about a friend request in my opinion lol

in some cases its the only way to see someomes face or even who you are talking to lol ...usually someones foot or bum or titty hahahaa ...

all im saying , is its not as bad as you think or make out ..there are genuine nice guys here who mean no harm lol

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

"i send a message , cheeky wink , send a fr ...dont see what the problem is tbh i personally am not a creep or a wierdo lol ...if anything it gives them acess to my pics , my face pics without requesting them ect ect

and if they dont accept or choose to ignore them thats fine , their loss i class myself as one of the decent 1s hahaha..

in some cases its the only way to see someomes face or even who you are talking to lol ...usually someones foot or bum or titty hahahaa ...

all im saying , is its not as bad as you think or make out ..there are genuine nice guys here who mean no harm lol

If you want to show them your pics then you can attach them in your first message. Simple

You think it’s their loss if they block you??

If they are ignorant then it doesn’t matter to them if it’s loss or gain.

Best to message and add whatever pics you want to add.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and if they dont accept or choose to ignore them thats fine , their loss i class myself as one of the decent 1s hahaha..

in some cases its the only way to see someomes face or even who you are talking to lol ...usually someones foot or bum or titty hahahaa ...

all im saying , is its not as bad as you think or make out ..there are genuine nice guys here who mean no harm lol

From the other side of the coin - it can seem pretty full on when you log in and see that a person has sent you a message, a wink and a friend request all at once.

I usually avoid those types as it gives the impression that they’re a bit too eager and don’t respect boundaries.

Not saying that it’s true of you. It’s just how I usually interpret it. It can be a little off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and if they dont accept or choose to ignore them thats fine , their loss i class myself as one of the decent 1s hahaha..

in some cases its the only way to see someomes face or even who you are talking to lol ...usually someones foot or bum or titty hahahaa ...

all im saying , is its not as bad as you think or make out ..there are genuine nice guys here who mean no harm lol

If you want to show them your pics then you can attach them in your first message. Simple

You think it’s their loss if they block you??

If they are ignorant then it doesn’t matter to them if it’s loss or gain.

Best to message and add whatever pics you want to add.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea u all have fair point and i can see how it may come across ...i do usually send a face pic with a msg so they see im not fake lol

just dunno what all the fuss is aboit ...its a friend request ..but i do understand if its from fake profiles or people not even wanting to get to know you or just want a quick wank lol

i can assue you all thats not me , if i have sent a message u will its nice respectfull and usually never a problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think whats worse is someone looking at your profile ( see notification), liking your pics and not doing any of the above lol ...now thats wierd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yea u all have fair point and i can see how it may come across ...i do usually send a face pic with a msg so they see im not fake lol

just dunno what all the fuss is aboit ...its a friend request ..but i do understand if its from fake profiles or people not even wanting to get to know you or just want a quick wank lol

i can assue you all thats not me , if i have sent a message u will its nice respectfull and usually never a problem lol "

It’s not receiving a message that people have a problem with though

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

Sending an unsolicited friends request is like going into a restaurant and sitting at someone's table and not saying anything, it's very weird.

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By *arriedforpineapplesCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Especially the ones who who request and send a message at the same time. Thwy are just as the people who dont send a message

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

I delete them as they are from presumptuous idiots.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I just ignore them all. I think I have hundreds of friends requests. I don’t even look.

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

"I just used to delete them but since yesterday I've just blocked them

I therefore take the time and effort to block them, Am I being too harsh?"

Not at all, we find that people who send instant friend request are just pic collectors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just used to delete them but since yesterday I've just blocked them

I therefore take the time and effort to block them, Am I being too harsh?"

We instantly block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i mean yea...true to a point

but 90% of public pictures on on profiles are either sucking dick , getting shagged or playing with themselfs or a dick pick of their partner..or a titty out or a bum pic ...at the least its a sexy pic in lingire lol

we all kmow what typa site this is so i cant see how a friend request is so invasive , or rude or wierd lol

us genuine single guys dont seem to do anything rite or ok at this point hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started to block repeated ones. Bit ridiculous when the profile clearly states they'll be ignored, they still do it all over again. Like what the actual fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We started to block repeated ones. Bit ridiculous when the profile clearly states they'll be ignored, they still do it all over again. Like what the actual fuck.

We are the same lol they really don’t do themselves any favours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea so thats just wierd and zero respect for your wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I peep the pics then block since that's clearly what they wanted to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

exp if they dont come with a nice message , a normal pic , not hanging out the back of some bird like why wont you accept hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please be my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I peep the pics then block since that's clearly what they wanted to do"

but even your profile says you woukd accept a fr if it was someone you wanted to meet , but if a normal guy read this post they peob be terrified to even send one in case they was classed a creep or a wierdo hahaha

see my point ....its a silly thing to hate , just block , ignore remove do whateva makes u happy but posts like this will for sure put off the half decent guys purely throu fear of being classed as a dickhead basicially hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I peep the pics then block since that's clearly what they wanted to do

I don't wanna meet someone that can't speak before they send a friend request. Its basic manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I peep the pics then block since that's clearly what they wanted to do

I don't wanna meet someone that can't speak before they send a friend request. Its basic manners.

Exactly

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"i mean yea...true to a point

we all kmow what typa site this is so i cant see how a friend request is so invasive , or rude or wierd lol

us genuine single guys dont seem to do anything rite or ok at this point hahahaha

My friends pics are exactly that, for people I know well and have met. Ones that I don’t want the whole of fab to see.

Everyone uses their profile differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea of course ...i mean a fr without a msg is wierd lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yea of course ...i mean a fr without a msg is wierd lol "

Can you please keep chats regarding this to the forum please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yea of course ...i mean a fr without a msg is wierd lol

Can you please keep chats regarding this to the forum please "

Agreed people always use it as an excuse to slide into your DM’s it’s annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just bin them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore friends requests unless we have spoken a lot. I think i have 3 on my friends list lol. I dont think your being too harsh at all.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We get loads too.

If I wanted a complete random that hasn't even bothered to so much as say hello, to see them, I would have just made them public...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Sends random ones out just for the blocks*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had/got loads, I don't block, but I also don't delete, I just leave them "floating"there

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By *aguely CanadianWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Glad it's not just me then. I get so many everyday! I mean what do these people actually expect to happen? Yeah sure, have a look at my private pics. It's not like I'm keeping them there for a reason is it

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley

My profile says no friends request unless we have already spoken, obviously people can’t read, I just bin them

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's perhaps the best policy. I often wink them, not taking more effort than they bothered with. But largely these chancers make no further effort at all. I assume most want wank fodder. Clueless, lazy chancers. That's my 25 years of experience

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

i have to say some on my friends list are a long way from me and chances of meeting are slim.

but they are nice, good to talk to and sort of built up a good online relationship.

and thats not a bad thing really. always nice to hear how others are doing

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Not at all !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone else get repeated random ones? I initially thought it was just stupidity but then wondered if they're actually on a wind up

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

Strangely i get a few from men and women. Probably because of one of my cum shot vids used to be public and was quite popular. I accept, look at pictures, fab then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just ignore them. Deleting them means they can send another after a certain amount of time has elapsed"

Exactly what we do unless we’ve interacted and they’ve asked in a polite manner

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By *randMrsLP OP Couple
over a year ago

london

"My profile says no friends request unless we have already spoken, obviously people can’t read, I just bin them"

Just that. Our profile states, if you try to avoid questions, we will ignore/block - they defo do not read - then we have stated we like 'polite' people and about 50% of the men that contact us are so eager to fuck the wife they cant even say a simple 'hi' in their intial post, always felted or blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My profile says no friends request unless we have already spoken, obviously people can’t read, I just bin them

Ha! I’m glad I’m not the only one that gets annoyed when people avoid answering questions. Usually I’ll ask twice and if they still continue the conversation without acknowledging the question, it’s a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilty of this sometimes

mainly after a few drinks...

Doesn't bother me receiving them, just delete if I'm not interested. What is annoying though is when you get ones from someone with zero friend pics and not even verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unpopular opinion haha

Feel like this place is all backwards. Somehow it got this way and people started following the rest, you know… herd mentality(not intended to any particular individual, but to how the website is being used)

Winks: are getting ignored...?

“wink

/w??k/

verb

close and open one eye quickly, typically to indicate that something is a joke or a secret or as a signal of affection or greeting.

"he winked at Nicole as he passed" “

So, if we wink it means we like you. Wink back?, we send a message.

You’re not getting a wink back?, probably we’re not interested

Or maybe we missed it, so send a friend request

Friends requests

“Urban dictionary

A great way to make new friends.

A phrase which often causes the elderly to become baffled, then irritated, and then baffled again. Frequently accompanied by a facial expression which illustrates confusion.”

“friend request noun

/'frend r?kwest/

?an invitation to follow somebody's activity on social media”

It means just that, a friend request! We like you and we would like to know you better.

Probably you missed our wink as you have to many and we’ll send a friend request to increase the chances you’ll see we like your profile. If we really like we might send a message to.

Don’t like the friend request?, just ignor it and leave it there. We won’t be able to send a new one

Why getting offended or annoyed?

Why not sending a message first? You’ll say…

Because there are to many fake profiles and to many messages getting missed due to winks and friend requests not being appreciated.

it is easier and faster to filter 100 winks than 100 messages.

Most probably the intended functions of “wink” and “friend request” is to make the website more enjoyable and somehow we all decided to ignore and get frustrated over them?

Disclaimer: should probably read better, the terms of use for the website

If this opinion upsets you in any way, unread it haha

Have fun and happy swinging

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