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"You are either bi or You're not." So a non-binary sexuality can only be binary????? | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not." I think that is the choice of the individual to define their sexuality, no? I describe myself as ‘straight’ because I much prefer men. But I am certainly not curious, because I already know I like it, sometimes. | |||
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"In my opinion everyone's bi... Some people simply aren't lucky in live to meet same gender... In a right situation everyone would gave" Erm, what? | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not." __ Sure, anyone is either something or is not, according to any version of the definition of "something". Let's hear your universal, unequivocal and unabated definition of Bi (missed it when we completed our profile). | |||
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"One suggests an equal interest in either gender. One says ‘ya just wanna find out’. What if you sit in the middle? Can we have ‘bi playful’ or ‘bi carried away’? " You could put in your profile bi-playful, bi-selfish, or the best way to describe yourselves. | |||
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"In my opinion everyone's bi... Some people simply aren't lucky in live to meet same gender... In a right situation everyone would gave" __ In the 52 years of my life, I have never been attracted to a male. Never looked at any and thought " what if", or "how would it feel". Never had an erection looking at or thinking or fantasising about a male. And you are telling me that you know better than me about myself and no matter what I feel (and my cock feels) I must like men because you say so? And this based on what? Your own personal experiences of discovering your sexuality and assuming everyone must be like you because you are bi? | |||
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"In my opinion everyone's bi... Some people simply aren't lucky in live to meet same gender... In a right situation everyone would gave __ In the 52 years of my life, I have never been attracted to a male. Never looked at any and thought " what if", or "how would it feel". Never had an erection looking at or thinking or fantasising about a male. And you are telling me that you know better than me about myself and no matter what I feel (and my cock feels) I must like men because you say so? And this based on what? Your own personal experiences of discovering your sexuality and assuming everyone must be like you because you are bi?" Spot on. | |||
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"One suggests an equal interest in either gender. One says ‘ya just wanna find out’. What if you sit in the middle? Can we have ‘bi playful’ or ‘bi carried away’? You could put in your profile bi-playful, bi-selfish, or the best way to describe yourselves." ‘Bi selfish’ for the win | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not." Ok, but there's being equally 50:50 into both men and women, and there's, for example, a 95:5 ratio where you enjoy one sex the majority of the time but enjoy a little experiment now and again. Don't think it's a bad idea being able to distinguish between the two. | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not." Sexuality doesn’t work like that. By all means you can apply that thinking to yourself but you can’t define other people’s sexuality/sexual interests for them. C x | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought " Exactly and go from there x | |||
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"Some people are able to fully understand their sexuality, I’m Pansexual and I understand that and I’m open about it. For others, when it comes to swinging it’s more about what turns them on and what they enjoy in the moment - that doesn’t necessarily have to define their sexuality. As long as that person understands what they are and aren’t in to, it isn’t for anyone else to tell them what they are. Bi playful is absolutely something many people identify as. They aren’t bicurious because they’ve experienced it and they know they enjoy it but they don’t think of themselves as being bisexual. And that’s absolutely fine. C x" Thank you for this. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought " Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! " And another comment from someone with no verifications.. | |||
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"One suggests an equal interest in either gender. One says ‘ya just wanna find out’. What if you sit in the middle? Can we have ‘bi playful’ or ‘bi carried away’? " Of course you can. Being bi is about enjoying the sensual pleasure of both sexes, intimately, sensually, passionately, or playfully. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought " Agreed | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! " Personally I like the term heteexible for those of us that are 'situationally bi' | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not." I don't think it's that simple. If you try something once or twice, you are nothing more or less what you were before. You might even like something you don't need a man to do it. So technically you're not attracted to the same sex. I set my profile to bi, but I like only one thing and I don't need a man for it. Actually I would do that exclusively with women only, but... | |||
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"I believe I’m bi curious. I don’t fancy men, I have never seen a man and thought phwooar, I would love to kiss him, fuck him, cuddle him. I am attracted to playing with cocks, just can’t help it, it’s an urge, the man that it’s attached to isn’t the attraction to me, it’s more the act, than the person. Not sure if that makes sense, but it does to me. " Yes , that's me and a lot of guys I meet are married bi guys who enjoy cock but don't fancy men romantically at all. I've discussed this a lot and generally they would like sex with women but their wives aren't interested anymore and found it impossible to meet women on swinger sites. They realise they can get pleasure sucking cock or being sucked by another guy and fucking mens arses can be as pleasurable as fucking a pussy and other bi men are easier to hook up with. | |||
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"Some people are able to fully understand their sexuality, I’m Pansexual and I understand that and I’m open about it. For others, when it comes to swinging it’s more about what turns them on and what they enjoy in the moment - that doesn’t necessarily have to define their sexuality. As long as that person understands what they are and aren’t in to, it isn’t for anyone else to tell them what they are. Bi playful is absolutely something many people identify as. They aren’t bicurious because they’ve experienced it and they know they enjoy it but they don’t think of themselves as being bisexual. And that’s absolutely fine. C x" __ Awesome reply. Totally agree. This is what Bi-playful means for Mr and Mrs Arpeggio: people who are at ease with playing with the same gender, without necessarily feeling an erotic attraction to them. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! Personally I like the term heteexible for those of us that are 'situationally bi' " Totally agree with you | |||
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"The difference between bisexual and bicurious is that bisexual people know that they are sexually attracted to both genders based on personal experience. Bicurious people are still maneuvering their way through their sexuality and not made the leap to try it for whatever reason such not having the opportunity or afraid of trying." In honesty don’t think it’s that simple. I’ve spent a couple of years trying to work out what I am only to conclude that labels don’t work. I don’t find men attractive at all, but I have experienced and enjoyed time with transexuals. I’d love to try mmf because the dynamic wouldn’t be fun. I’d class myself as open and experimental, but there isn’t a box for that | |||
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"I believe I’m bi curious. I don’t fancy men, I have never seen a man and thought phwooar, I would love to kiss him, fuck him, cuddle him. I am attracted to playing with cocks, just can’t help it, it’s an urge, the man that it’s attached to isn’t the attraction to me, it’s more the act, than the person. Not sure if that makes sense, but it does to me. " Pretty much spot on for me. Can honestly say I've never fancied a man but quite happy to have my cock sucked and wanked by one and vice versa. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! And another comment from someone with no verifications.. " And this prohibits me from using the forums? Why do you feel it is and of your business how I choose to handle my verifications? | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! And another comment from someone with no verifications.. And this prohibits me from using the forums? Why do you feel it is and of your business how I choose to handle my verifications? " If you use the forums and your freedom of speech to say how you think others should complete their profile don't be in the least surprised when someone else does exactly the same. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! And another comment from someone with no verifications.. " __ If anyone has a right to comment on a thread, it surely is the OP. I do not see a blue Moderator label next to your profile, so I found your disregard of the OP comment simply based on their verification status as cancelling and totally out of place. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought Simply because Fab gives you the two options. And I don’t enjoy sex in all its forms; 69, or in water- nah! And another comment from someone with no verifications.. __ If anyone has a right to comment on a thread, it surely is the OP. I do not see a blue Moderator label next to your profile, so I found your disregard of the OP comment simply based on their verification status as cancelling and totally out of place." It is hard to be on fab as an ‘inexperienced fabber’. Thanks to some lovely people who helped me to find my way around, and who we will meet up with and have lovely times. No thanks to the arseholes. I already have one of those in my knickers, I don’t need another. | |||
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"I put bi-curious because if in a mmf situation I wanted any potential couple to know that I'm comfortable being around another guy, naked, and with the possibility there would be physical contact. I guess I should change to bisexual seeing I've also joined fabguys and met a guy and he sucked me off. But I don't like labels. Predominantly women are my choice of intimate partner, so don't consider I'm fully bi but still just curious. Perhaps there needs to be a new category...bi-casual? " There is actually a better category. Heteexible. More than bi curious, but not fully bi. | |||
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"I put bi-curious because if in a mmf situation I wanted any potential couple to know that I'm comfortable being around another guy, naked, and with the possibility there would be physical contact. I guess I should change to bisexual seeing I've also joined fabguys and met a guy and he sucked me off. But I don't like labels. Predominantly women are my choice of intimate partner, so don't consider I'm fully bi but still just curious. Perhaps there needs to be a new category...bi-casual? There is actually a better category. Heteexible. More than bi curious, but not fully bi." *Hetero-Flexible | |||
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"One suggests an equal interest in either gender. One says ‘ya just wanna find out’. What if you sit in the middle? Can we have ‘bi playful’ or ‘bi carried away’? " As a straight woman I agree that would be useful, I'm half a couple and even women in couples with claim to be straight, but then aren't always. I think there's definitely a sexual spectrum from straight to curious to full bisexual or gay. I get the impression some still find it shameful to admit they're bi though, so a Bi playful would be a good box to trick on a profile. There is somewhat of an expectation that women aren't straight on here, until its proven otherwise. I feel some of it is down to people not always being upfront about their sexuality ie staying straight but then having pics of ladies playing with other ladies. More options may mean a bit more transparency & I know people don't like labels, but they can be important and mean honest boundaries can be set. | |||
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"I put bi-curious because if in a mmf situation I wanted any potential couple to know that I'm comfortable being around another guy, naked, and with the possibility there would be physical contact. I guess I should change to bisexual seeing I've also joined fabguys and met a guy and he sucked me off. But I don't like labels. Predominantly women are my choice of intimate partner, so don't consider I'm fully bi but still just curious. Perhaps there needs to be a new category...bi-casual? There is actually a better category. Heteexible. More than bi curious, but not fully bi. *Hetero-Flexible" I did wonder what the smiley face meant | |||
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"The difference between bisexual and bicurious is that bisexual people know that they are sexually attracted to both genders based on personal experience. Bicurious people are still maneuvering their way through their sexuality and not made the leap to try it for whatever reason such not having the opportunity or afraid of trying." I think this more or less describes me. I class myself as bi curious as I have played orally and love it just not gone further yet. I'm in the camp of not fancying men but do enjoy playing with a cock | |||
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"Some people are able to fully understand their sexuality, I’m Pansexual and I understand that and I’m open about it. For others, when it comes to swinging it’s more about what turns them on and what they enjoy in the moment - that doesn’t necessarily have to define their sexuality. As long as that person understands what they are and aren’t in to, it isn’t for anyone else to tell them what they are. Bi playful is absolutely something many people identify as. They aren’t bicurious because they’ve experienced it and they know they enjoy it but they don’t think of themselves as being bisexual. And that’s absolutely fine. C x __ Awesome reply. Totally agree. This is what Bi-playful means for Mr and Mrs Arpeggio: people who are at ease with playing with the same gender, without necessarily feeling an erotic attraction to them." I’m very fortunate in that I’ve always known I wasn’t straight, I understood it from a young age and had no issues or conflict about it. It isn’t that simple for everyone though. And some men just really like playing with a cock! I can’t say I blame them, they’re pretty damn awesome! C x | |||
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"One suggests an equal interest in either gender. One says ‘ya just wanna find out’. What if you sit in the middle? Can we have ‘bi playful’ or ‘bi carried away’? " I started out as bi-curious and would say I went to heteexible. But after a couple of MMF I am definitely bisexual orally, and having been pegged by Ouizzi I'm intrigued by the thought of anal. I suppose it's a sliding scale of sexuality. | |||
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"Sweet refers to me as bi-enthusiastic Juicy x" I really like that term. | |||
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"I believe I’m bi curious. I don’t fancy men, I have never seen a man and thought phwooar, I would love to kiss him, fuck him, cuddle him. I am attracted to playing with cocks, just can’t help it, it’s an urge, the man that it’s attached to isn’t the attraction to me, it’s more the act, than the person. Not sure if that makes sense, but it does to me. " Mr here, this is me. I'm exactly the same | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not. I think that is the choice of the individual to define their sexuality, no? I describe myself as ‘straight’ because I much prefer men. But I am certainly not curious, because I already know I like it, sometimes. " That's not straight though is it. | |||
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"One suggests an equal interest in either gender. One says ‘ya just wanna find out’. What if you sit in the middle? Can we have ‘bi playful’ or ‘bi carried away’? " Should just delete the sexuality tick box. 'Looking for' covers it. | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not." Except on fab, where you’re ‘straight’. | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not. Except on fab, where you’re ‘straight’." Lol oh yes. I've played with a few str8. | |||
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"You are either bi or You're not. Except on fab, where you’re ‘straight’." Exactly. You would not believe the amount of messages that I get from straight profiles or from men from their straight couples profile. Or maybe you would actually. | |||
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"Maybe stop putting labels on it , and say ….. it’s sex I enjoy it in all its forms . Whoever you are ……. Just a thought " Spot on! | |||
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"I really do not understand why anyone wants a label. Just do what makes you feel good." Labels are useful. You use the label Man for yourself and Bi-curious, I guess to make others know who you are and roughly what you are looking for and can offer to others, allowing for filtering. OP perhaps find that the 2 labels available for bi people could be improved to allow better filtering by them off others and by others of them. | |||
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