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What’s the right approach on messages (question/advice)

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By *amJP OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Hey everyone

I’m new on fabs, already met a few people (got some verifications too)

However, I’m not the kind of a guy to “meet” or “connect” with people through a message. All good if we first meet in person and the start messaging. (I attended a few clubs but my work doesn’t allow me to go very often)

So, I’ve tried to approach different ladies and couples on here. But always being rejected or ignored.

Obviously I don’t send a “hi how are you…” or “what are u looking for”. But still find really difficult to understand the real “code” when messaging someone here. (I’m putting aside the “you’re not my kind” factor)

I’d like to read opinions and comments from couples and ladies about this. What does take your attention when someone message ? What’s the hook to engage you in a conversation ? Even if it doesn’t end on a meeting.

Cheers

JP

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By *upcake and wandmasterCouple
over a year ago

long eaton

Simply reading the profile first and picking up on whats said there before messaging puts you in a good position to start with.

Despite the way our profile is written (we know its long, but thats deliberate)

We still find 3/4 of blokes clearly haven't bothered to take the time..

They are the easy ones to delete, then we consider the rest.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

The ones that get a response beyond "Fine." or "No thanks." are the ones that make an actual effort to connect with something I've said either on my profile or on the forums.

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By *amJP OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks guys! Appreciate the messages and the time to respond

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

For us the first message is just to establish attraction, and as long as their profile is reasonably good, the content is irrelevant, subsequent messages are far more important. K.

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Likes others have said. Read the profile, and make a nice introduction with more than dick pics. You'll get knocked back a hell of a lot because so many guys in here.

Girls can be very choosy.

But if a decent respectful approach you will get more answers back for sure.

One liners, or dick pics and those asking what's in profile to read are immediate blocks or no thanks.

You get one chance to make a nice impression. All the girls on here get hammered weather a couple or single.

You have to stand out from the others xxx mnj

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

7 weeks in and you have verifications from 5 different people and you think you're struggling.

Most men on here would love to be having it as tpugh as you are.

It can take between 6 months and a year for most single men to get their first meet

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By *amJP OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Appreciate the opinions from the ladies. Thanks very much!! I think I need to practice my writing skills a little bit more and become more interesting on here.

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By *amJP OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"7 weeks in and you have verifications from 5 different people and you think you're struggling.

Most men on here would love to be having it as tpugh as you are.

It can take between 6 months and a year for most single men to get their first meet"

Hahah maybe I’m too intense ? But yeah, you’re right. Sometimes is good to see thing from a different perspective

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