FabSwingers.com forum: Cum expectations

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's usually a lot of focus on getting women to orgasm but I never gave much thought until recently on how women feel about their ability to get the guy to cum.

Do you expect him to cum at a certain time into the meet after you've been busy or at the end. If he didn't cum would you be likely to have another meet or would that be too upsetting?

I'm aware there would be various views but wondering if it leans more one way or the other in general.

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By *r and Mrs Double spiceCouple
over a year ago

somewhere around midlands

I prefer the first time to be pretty fast ,that's a compliment for me.

But I expect him to be able to perform for a second round so I can have my share of pleasure. If he didn't cum at all....that would be a bad indication and I wouldn't attempt a second meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer the first time to be pretty fast ,that's a compliment for me.

But I expect him to be able to perform for a second round so I can have my share of pleasure. If he didn't cum at all....that would be a bad indication and I wouldn't attempt a second meet. "

I can certainly see the compliment aspect of it.

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Long as he cums and so do I I'm happy. Better if he can multiple times just adds to the fun and photos lol

If he didn't cum I'd be gutted, feel like I had let him down and wasn't good enough.

But touch wood (no pun intended) never had a problem xx

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

There has been times when I have cum early due to the hype of the meet but I would not leave a woman hanging with out her experiences cumming too. Would go again till she had the great feeling as me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good to see others expectations. I admit I'd never considered how the other party would feel as I'm more concerned about her satisfaction. The topic recently came up and I realised that it could be an issue for some. I always assumed as long as the guy came before the meet was over then satisfaction would be had.

Silly really as some expect multiple loads. Learning everyday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really good topic!

It’s just as important to satisfy a guy as much as they want to satisfy you. However, it depends on the circumstances! We have been in group play where the guy has stopped because he doesn’t want to cum too early, which is perfectly fine also.

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By *lueeyedboy1965Man
over a year ago

southport/Birkdale

What if a guy doesn't cum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find some women can be selfish in this aspect, women want men to cum quick to boost there ego and then a longer 2nd round for them to cum, not much thought for what the guy wants or likes, can be like being a performer sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find some women can be selfish in this aspect, women want men to cum quick to boost there ego and then a longer 2nd round for them to cum, not much thought for what the guy wants or likes, can be like being a performer sometimes "

Well from personal experience I don't think there's not much thought for what the guy wants. There's a general thought that it's harder for a woman to get there than a guy so maybe not a lot of focus on when the guy gets there as long as he does.

Now it seems some are even interested in the timing and frequency. That shows thought no?

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Its always taken me ages to cum and once due to too much too drink I fell asleep

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By *ambsfunMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

I have always cum quite quickly but thankfully second time round will last a lot longer

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By *eepitsimple400Man
over a year ago

ilkeston

The older I've got the less likely round 2 is, fortunately I am fair at holding off/ short stop/start again. I've had a few sessions where I've not cum at all but obviously still enjoyed it, I can imagine it's not much fun for the other person if it's a one time thing and your expecting me to explode, sometimes the nerves of someone new makes cumming difficult.

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

warrington

"Long as he cums and so do I I'm happy. Better if he can multiple times just adds to the fun and photos lol

If he didn't cum I'd be gutted, feel like I had let him down and wasn't good enough.

But touch wood (no pun intended) never had a problem xx"

I cant recall ever having cumi from oral, and even sex doesn't always make me, no matter how much I enjoy it! It does mean that I worry that I leave a partner feeling like this which probably then compounds the matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if a guy doesn't cum? "

My Mr won’t cum until we get home or are alone. Saves it for me.

I dunno how he does it, but he does haha

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Many times at clubs I’ve not cum until we’re back at the hotel or at home. Doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying myself.

For some guys, the journey is as much fun as the main event.

Edging in this way, having several encounters but not cumming, feels great and means Becky receives my full attention that night or the next morning.

I’ve learnt not to bother about it and Becky knows why I’m not cumming.

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By *heshireguy69Man
over a year ago

saddleworth

I used to have a stamina wank before a meet as I tend to last longer second time round but a few ladies said not to as they liked to see the first cum shot. So who was I to deny them that

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By *erto94Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Tbf my experience with this is that women ive been with have been super lazy just make sure they get off instead of actually maje sure both sides are satisfied

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By *heshireguy69Man
over a year ago

saddleworth

"What if a guy doesn't cum?

My Mr won’t cum until we get home or are alone. Saves it for me.

I dunno how he does it, but he does haha "

I don’t know either, you’re stunning!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many times at clubs I’ve not cum until we’re back at the hotel or at home. Doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying myself.

For some guys, the journey is as much fun as the main event.

Edging in this way, having several encounters but not cumming, feels great and means Becky receives my full attention that night or the next morning.

I’ve learnt not to bother about it and Becky knows why I’m not cumming. "

Love this!!!

Yes Mr is the same. He doesn’t want to cum as that’s the end of the night for him. It’s basically FOMO lol

But yes it’s become a thing that he only cums with me and it’s how we reconnect after

it’s amazing

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Once I've cum, that's the end of the night for me

I found in a club, I'd get the urge to cum pretty early on during sex. I'd then back off until it went away. If I do that more than a handful of times I'd find it really difficult to eventually cum at all.

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Long as you know he can't or doesn't want to I guess that's fine, we are all different at the end of the day x

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I prefer a guy who can cum fairly quickly, but recovers quick. I’m a big fan of mess so multiple times is better x

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent

"What if a guy doesn't cum? "

Mrs actually takes this quite personally and thinks the guy either didn’t really want her or maybe she didn’t do it for him. Despite the fact there could be many other reasons for it.

She very much likes guys to cum and not take too long. It kind of shows her they have enjoyed being with her. And if they can do round two, all the better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What if a guy doesn't cum?

My Mr won’t cum until we get home or are alone. Saves it for me.

I dunno how he does it, but he does haha "

Definitely interesting to see the range.

I do just this! At clubs. Although I can cum more than once I just enjoy holding out on that first one and often do.

Individual meets I'd choose when based on how long we have. But the journey is more important than the destination for me.

Now I suppose some would call that selfish as I'm only considering my side of things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" It’s basically FOMO lol

But yes it’s become a thing that he only cums with me and it’s how we reconnect after

it’s amazing "

:D @ FOMO. It really is! Someone I meet is able to get me there and enjoys doing this early. She doesn't like the club scene so I can have my FOMO fun while out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if a guy doesn't cum?

My Mr won’t cum until we get home or are alone. Saves it for me.

I dunno how he does it, but he does haha

Definitely interesting to see the range.

I do just this! At clubs. Although I can cum more than once I just enjoy holding out on that first one and often do.

Individual meets I'd choose when based on how long we have. But the journey is more important than the destination for me.

Now I suppose some would call that selfish as I'm only considering my side of things.

Not selfish, it’s knowing your body.

For me orgasm is impossible at clubs and often meets! It’s not that I’m not enjoying it, I just have that mental block.

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