FabSwingers.com forum: Seen a colleague on Fab...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

think you have answered your own question.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."
if you dont mind the awkwardness of mixing buisness with pleasure go for it if you do then avoid block and foget u ever saw her profile .

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Nooooo

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."
presumptious of me to think its female ...is it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you could try dropping a hint that you saw her, but dont want to play, after all you are all on here for the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No not presumptuous, she's female

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

Depends if it's just to expose their sordid little secret then no....if you fancy them then maybe but you still face embarrassment for both of you if they turn you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mighty be able to hook up as a couple more opportunitys to play , Shes only on here for the same things as you. Give it a go you never know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your advice. Think I'll continue to mull it over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waiting for the OP to come back saying he went up to her and said "Hiya", and she held up a piece of paper with the word Blocked written on it.

Or she in fact turns out to be a man.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Waiting for the OP to come back saying he went up to her and said "Hiya", and she held up a piece of paper with the word Blocked written on it.

Or she in fact turns out to be a man.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...

Depends if it's just to expose their sordid little secret then no....if you fancy them then maybe but you still face embarrassment for both of you if they turn you down. "

we keep our profile secret but don't think of it as sordid.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

No! Discretion is key to this lifestyle and if it were me I would consider it highly unprofessional. Your sex life is private unless you personally chose to disclose it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually found out my boss was on here a few weeks back but it was through a conversation we were having about business (yes my job would enable me to talk about swinging in a business way lol). I wouldn't however have approached her if I had found her profile on here, I would have thought that inappropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave well alone. Block the profile and never unblock it.

Some things are best left alone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...

No! Discretion is key to this lifestyle and if it were me I would consider it highly unprofessional. Your sex life is private unless you personally chose to disclose it."

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By *ecor atorMan
over a year ago

York

Block, too risky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we met a girl from my work who was on fab wanted to try out her bi side so we met up was an amazing meet her and bec spent ages playing before turning on me ..... no probs after either because we did it 3 more times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing she has face pics for u to reconise her then?

She can't be that worried about being spotted if she does?

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By *dam_derbysMan
over a year ago

chesterfield

The phrase 'can of worms' springs to mind. Mind you, might depend on just how hot she is

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By *allen MadonnaWoman
over a year ago

In my own little world

lol I know plenty of now ex-colleagues that were all swingers. Got that bad that we used to have project meetings at Eurekas (5 out of 13 on the project) and it got unusual to see each other clothed. Never however mixed business with pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

It's nothing to do at all with you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm guessing she has face pics for u to reconise her then?

She can't be that worried about being spotted if she does?"

Even if someone had face pictures I still wouldn't approach them outside of the site and would think twice before I approached them on the site. There are too many opportunities for things to go wrong.

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...

Depends if it's just to expose their sordid little secret then no....if you fancy them then maybe but you still face embarrassment for both of you if they turn you down.

we keep our profile secret but don't think of it as sordid."

We don't think it's sordid too but a lot of people would who don't swing ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send her a message saying you recognised that little birth mark at the top of her thigh from work. Suggest a social at the water cooler during tea break and a proper meet for one minute past knocking off time. If all goes well, set up a couples profile, post pictures and then invite me for a threesome as reward for my little suggestion

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Experience will tell not to saying anything as you wont gain a thing out of it.

Though, a d*unk night out - and itll probably slip out anyway haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually found out my boss was on here a few weeks back but it was through a conversation we were having about business (yes my job would enable me to talk about swinging in a business way lol). I wouldn't however have approached her if I had found her profile on here, I would have thought that inappropriate

Me thinks change in career jobs is due.... What job do you do

any vacancies??

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Thanks everyone for your advice. Think I'll continue to mull it over! "

would it be awkward if she knocked you back?

Could you cope with meeting her and then getting the knock back?

If the answers are yes and no respectively then leave well alone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

If you're interested in playing, and can handle rejection if she says no, then just ask her if she had a Fab weekend (obv when noone else is around)! If she wants to pick up on it she will, if not she'll just ignore it. Just don't be a dick and tell all your colleagues if she doesn't want to play with you as it can make things uncomfortable at work...trust me on that one!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...presumptious of me to think its female ...is it ?"

i thought the give away was whrn the OP refered to his colleague as "her"

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...presumptious of me to think its female ...is it ?"

The "her" in the OP kind of gave it away!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...presumptious of me to think its female ...is it ?

i thought the give away was whrn the OP refered to his colleague as "her"

Great minds n all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."
is she fit ? if she is fit , go for it. after all , youre both in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me thinks change in career jobs is due.... What job do you do

any vacancies?? "

I work for a well known supplier of sex toys and underwear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's already spotted you!

Why not approach her outside of fab and see what happens?

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Or it could come across as a vailed blackmail threat if not worded very carefully...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

I would suggest NOT.

Although, if she's single and you find her attractive, you could ask her out (vanilla-wise) on a date. If all goes well and you two get together regularly, the 'I'd like to explore swinging' conversation is going to go really well

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

She is here for a reason just like you.

Make it easy for both of you .

Say hi and invite her for a shag. You many not be what she is looking for at all or you may the jackpot

One thing for sure, if you don't try you will never know

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

What does 'approach' mean?

Do you mean ask her for a meet OR

Do you mean just letting her know you recognised her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think..."

Lave well alone we know a guy who was in a similar position and approached at work and lost his job for sexual harassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realistically its not risky,, you're both here and are both adults..

As long as you are both single I don't see the problem, drop a wink and she will either write back, give you a cheeky smile in the canteenor block you.

I say wink and pass the ball X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be rude not to wink after all !

Don't approach in work, that would be so stupid !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh believe me it can work very well

I responded to a colleagues wink and it was start of very naughty fun with an extra thrill to it!

And an understanding that were both equally hiding a naughty secret outside of our very proper business arrangements!

And sometimes work can be soooooo dull!

So liven it up

It started with a wink ..................

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Do I approach her or not? Could be playing with fire I think...

I would suggest NOT.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all - didn't expect to get so many replies. To caveat, I do work in a pretty large building so we might bump into each other once a month at best. That said, it could lead to all sorts of trouble so I'm not going to contact her. Thanks for the advice though!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

go for it blond guy . i would . good luck

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By *hite SnakeMan
over a year ago

leeds

Seen a colleagues profile on here but not approached her on the other hand bumped into another colleague in la chambre and we had a great night with her.

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By *eekenderzCouple
over a year ago

London

I think you could send a message on fab asking if she is she who you think she is - you are in the same boat after all. Absolutely do not talk to her about it if you bump into each other in a corridor at work - that would be blurring the boundaries. Keep fabs stuff on fabs and keep civilian life separate. Then see what happens, you may end up partners in crime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not send her your face pic with the message "now we're both in the same boat"

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