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The hard journey of a single swinger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always better to take a woman as sex bait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the fun stops, stop.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

It's hard but don't go to clubs expecting sex, when I go I use it as a chance to meet and talk to people. Same as the forums on here, if meets happen after then brilliant if not no harm is done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Expensive hobby to just meet people!

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare


"Expensive hobby to just meet people! "

Is it though? If you pay into a club and meet people who could potentially be a play partner either on the night or next time you're there, more likely to have fun and an exciting experience at a club rather than a quick fuck with someone you pull at the local boozer.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I see clubs as a night out. Chance to chill, chat and go in a jacuzzi. If I play, great but I’ve often not.

It’s not a guaranteed route to sex but if you view it as that, you get to where you are now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong it's lovely meeting new people. I've made some great friends along the way but...Its a very expensive hobby to see it as a social club

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

Negativity will get you nowhere you aren't guaranteed anything but if you go to clubs and get to know people it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. "

Are you able to go to a regular club and consistently take someone home at the end of the night.

Because it's a swingers club doesn't guarantee sex for you. You have to be able to engage people and gain their interest. If you want to pay for guaranteed sex then a swingers club isn't what you're looking for. Other establishments for that.

If my message sounds harsh it isn't intended to be. There's another thread currently going on what I perceive to be similar issues. A change in thiught/perception might help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mmmm questionable, I don't struggle when I'm out at all. Yet I'm clubs I pay £30 to get in and nothing happens ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Definitely ?? hence this postand my last time at Club Play last night

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By *inky MelissaTV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Expensive hobby to just meet people! "

Golf is an expensive hobby if all you're looking for is that elusive hole in one (excuse the metaphor)

How much exactly does it cost to visit clubs?

I have been as a guy, a gurl and as a couple and have never expected play. It's cost a lot but is usually a fun night of like minded people.

Nearest club is Glasgow or Edinburgh. Fuel - up to £50 or

(Train and taxis £50)

Hotel for the night - 50 - 120

A meal before going to the club as I / we are away from home - £20 - £80 (if two of us)

Breakfast if not provided by hotel £10 -£30.

Then drinks etc.

The admission to the club is tiny in comparison to the rest of the outlay.

It also essentially wipes out a chunk of the day of the party and a chunk of the next day.

If you're in Blackpool OP you have 2, maybe 3 clubs close by. Certainly not 100 miles plus away.

The money, I've spent myself and with partners has been well spent, as I don't play golf and prefer the type of people in swinging. The clothes are a lot sexier too.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

You're a good looking Man but it's not just down to looks. When you've been to Club Play have you walked around, said hello to people and tried to initiate conversation? We were there in August, at the end of the night a handsome Man came up and chatted to us. If he'd have spoke to us earlier in the night we highly likely would have gone in a playroom with him, but it was too late in the night. In club's the guys with a bit of chat are the successful one's, not the one's who just walk around looking. (If you use reply+quote people know who you're replying to).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mmmm questionable, I don't struggle when I'm out at all. Yet I'm clubs I pay £30 to get in and nothing happens ??"

Men are the cash cows. They pay so the women and couples don't have to.

I wouldn't pay that to be ignored all night or made fun of. I'd stick to pubs etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expensive hobby to just meet people!

Is it though? If you pay into a club and meet people who could potentially be a play partner either on the night or next time you're there, more likely to have fun and an exciting experience at a club rather than a quick fuck with someone you pull at the local boozer. "

I've just read his status,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. "

Did you not have a good time afterall last night..

Got to give fab patience

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We've found to not go to clubs expecting anything and to just enjoy the environment, sometimes we just go to chill, jacuzzi, sauna, swim, squirt everywhere, if we get chance to play with others it's a bonus, but also we try to talk to people who have an interest with us. We often play on orgy bed, that's when we get most interest

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Finding swinging partners is the same as finding dating partners - it’s all a waste of time until it isn’t.

Only you can decide how much you want to find someone, and how much time you are prepared to waste to do so. If it’s not worth it, stop.

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By *armandwet50Couple
over a year ago

Far far away


"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. "

Yesterday morning we got a message from a single guy on here, we exchanged a message or 3 and met him yesterday afternoon for a great couple of hours of massage and sex.

If the message had come from your profile we wouldn't have met you (no offence).

We don't know you we didn't know him, the profile matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple.

Are you able to go to a regular club and consistently take someone home at the end of the night.

Because it's a swingers club doesn't guarantee sex for you. You have to be able to engage people and gain their interest. If you want to pay for guaranteed sex then a swingers club isn't what you're looking for. Other establishments for that.

If my message sounds harsh it isn't intended to be. There's another thread currently going on what I perceive to be similar issues. A change in thiught/perception might help. "

This

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Putting all your eggs to get laid of swinging is a bad idea fella . You should be able to get laid on & off Fab & seining clubs. Remember just being here or in clubs doesn’t guarantee you anything!

Cast you net wider & maybe see if you can improve your approach. I noticed when used to go out with the lads, whenever I went out with aim to pull nothing happened it’s like they sensed my thirsty or a wolf in sheep’s clothing haha. But when I went with the ‘fuck it let’s just have a drink & fun nightout don’t care about anything else attitude’ chicks would come our way by the dozen . You give off a more ‘non wolf on the hunt vide’ as my friend called it

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