FabSwingers.com forum: New to all this

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you get to meet woman for good sex on this site. I have now been looking for over 2 weeks now and have only had 3 replies from guys? There must be hundreads of you online every day saying that you are horny. Im a good looking guy, im clean, discreet can accommodate or travel. I have a decent body and cock and can hold a conversation. Nothing, nada zilch...what the hell are you really after and how do you get verified if you get no replies and have never met on the site. Wont reply if you are not verified....WTF. How does that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first and very common misunderstanding is thinking this is a sex site. Swinging is a bit more than just nsa sex, although that does happen.

Second, you need to understand there are far more men than women so standing out is very difficult, just like in real life really.

Third, don't go for the easy route of spamming every result with a copy paste message. Spend time reading a profile and only message if you think you will click.

Fourth, if its a no or delete just move on. No one will like a nasty message back.

Fith, hit the socials and clubs

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you get to meet woman for good sex on this site. I have now been looking for over 2 weeks now and have only had 3 replies from guys? There must be hundreads of you online every day saying that you are horny. Im a good looking guy, im clean, discreet can accommodate or travel. I have a decent body and cock and can hold a conversation. Nothing, nada zilch...what the hell are you really after and how do you get verified if you get no replies and have never met on the site. Wont reply if you are not verified....WTF. How does that work?"

Why are you messaging men?

If a woman is horny should she meet every man who offers a fuck?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe i was wrong by saying just looking for good sex. Im looking to meet people , there has to be chemistry so would rather chat and or meet socially to see there is an atraction first. I dont want to sleep with everyone on the site and using the site was a way of getting to meet someone without the long drawn out process of normal dating sites which ive never used. Im a year out if a long term relationship and just looking to meet the opposite sex but not one reply. For example you are the first person that has chatted and for that i thank you. But what do woman really want? I read their bio's and think i tick all your boxes....send a personal message which is generally more than hi nice tits.....nothing. deleted read or still sitting unread ....another week and i will give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Outsider. Why am i messaging men?

I thought my bio says single gentleman seeks woman. I seek woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Outsider. Why am i messaging men?

I thought my bio says single gentleman seeks woman. I seek woman?"

In your first post you said you have replies from 3 men.

If you use the Reply + quote button we will know who you are replying to.

Perhaps look in the Meets section for social events. Good ways to meet new people.

Women can get 100's of messages from men. Your nice message may be lost in the pile.

Or maybe they looked at your profile and weren't attracted.

I don't fancy Brad Pitt but he's learning to live with it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it’s your profile

You can block men from messaging you

Oh and not all of us are shouting we are horny

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"Maybe i was wrong by saying just looking for good sex. Im looking to meet people , there has to be chemistry so would rather chat and or meet socially to see there is an atraction first. I dont want to sleep with everyone on the site and using the site was a way of getting to meet someone without the long drawn out process of normal dating sites which ive never used. Im a year out if a long term relationship and just looking to meet the opposite sex but not one reply. For example you are the first person that has chatted and for that i thank you. But what do woman really want? I read their bio's and think i tick all your boxes....send a personal message which is generally more than hi nice tits.....nothing. deleted read or still sitting unread ....another week and i will give up"

Then you will be giving up OP. There are far better ways of meeting other swingers than sending messages to join all the other messages sent every day to women on Fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A whole two weeks

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By *emma200Woman
over a year ago

Warwickshire

First and for most .. even though we are horny.. we still have standards and just because we are horny doesn’t mean we’re going to jump on the first dick that gets sent to our inbox

Block males from messaging you..maybe get your self involved in the forums a bit - that can generate a bit of interest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the 51+ crowd that are the real shaggers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi sorry i had to go out...work earlier. A girl from kirkwall posted a reply then must have deleted. She wanted to chat. Sorry i did not reply immediately? If you are still there?

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

Got popcorn and a sofa. Who wants to join me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the 51+ crowd that are the real shaggers

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"Why are you messaging men? "

To be fair, it's not unusual on this site to message a female profile, and get a response from someone who's a guy ...

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"It's the 51+ crowd that are the real shaggers

We would concur.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Look at the many several posts from single men who struggle to get a reply and meets, picking up on any advice that may be relevant.

Many of us are looking for single men but will need them to give us more than the absolute minimum, to be able to guage attraction to him and compatibility. A range of pics lets us know if he's attractive. On Fab, men have to sell themselves really well.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

You have been here 3 weeks OP....

Problem is, a lot of guys join thinking it's instashag.....

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Hi sorry i had to go out...work earlier. A girl from kirkwall posted a reply then must have deleted. She wanted to chat. Sorry i did not reply immediately? If you are still there?"

No one on this thread so far deleted anything.

If your meaning private message she could not delete your copy of the message only way that can happen is if she deleted her profile and left the site then all message history gets deleted.

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