FabSwingers.com forum: Finding a 3rd

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ?

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By *harles 20Man
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

There’s a lot don’t meet xxx

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Yep us too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where I am - trying to find a willing couple looking for a guy is impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve found this quite hard too. Much easier now going to clubs for what we are after. Good luck in your search

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By *ooster7Man
over a year ago

west yorks

it is becoming harder to find gen people for sure. lost count of the last min change of plans or being stood up in pubs coffee places waiting for socials. you guys have some nice pics I for one would not mess you guys about. Good luck and have fun x

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By *ymo80Man
over a year ago

grimsby

Single bi guy here looking for a couple

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By *ornyj37Man
over a year ago

Devon

Genuine guy here with veris who loves the dynamic in a mfm x

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to meet but lots of people wont meet a married guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m up for meeting a couple

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Love to push my boundaries with a couple, just can't find one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to meet but lots of people wont meet a married guy"

Being honest that would put me off.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

We're here. You just need to ask

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? "

If you go to a club that allows "single" guys you'll have no problem finding a guy that takes your fancy. There'll be plenty there open to joining a couple.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

I'm definitely interested, but unfortunately I'm above your age limit

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

A guy's verifications will give you an idea of whether or not he is genuine.

If you know any couples who've met guys could you ask them for a recommendation? Although if he's good they might want to keep him to themselves!

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

there is some about on here we met a few and some have be come our regulars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should allow us older genuine single bi guys in

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By *ymo80Man
over a year ago

grimsby

It seems difficult on here for single guys to prove genuine

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

Finding a suitable, honest, genuine, non time waster third is becoming a rarity on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main problem is, that you're all too far away. If you all lived a little bit closer to me, you'd have no problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We gave up looking on here a few years ago.. far too time consuming, clubs are far easier and obviously a lot less time consuming.

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I am constantly puzzled by the frequent threads about how difficult it seems for couples to meet single men they can trust, when there are so many single guys on here and it seems just as hard the other way round. It took over a year for me to find my current fwbs. All I can say is, stick with it and be patien. You'll get there in the end.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We met a guy in a club and have been friends with him for over a year now. The only problem is he lives too far, so we only get to see him every couple of months.

We’d love to find a local gent/lady that we can meet with regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I m trying to find a guy for a mmf with me and my lady friend its not as easy as people think to find an articulate gent who can accomm

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By *lirtyfuncplxCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We’ve experienced the same problem too unfortunately. We not ready to go to a club and prefer to meet local at ours/theirs if they can accommodate. Unfortunately seem to have attracted a few time wasters in the past.

Although, branching out and talking to one or two nice guys recently so maybe something will work out.

Good luck OPs x

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By *knot1Man
over a year ago

plymouth

"We’ve experienced the same problem too unfortunately. We not ready to go to a club and prefer to meet local at ours/theirs if they can accommodate. Unfortunately seem to have attracted a few time wasters in the past.

Although, branching out and talking to one or two nice guys recently so maybe something will work out.

Good luck OPs x"

I was dubious about clubs and took awhile to work up to go to one but as others have said seems to be best way (certainly from single male POV) too easy in the online world to rule someone out based on a snippet or perceived bias.

In real world spending an evening having random chats on multiple subjects allows a deeper understanding/connection of the other person/s and can help overcome that perception that online - may have resulted in an immediate no. A picture may paint a thousand words but they may not be the words that the object of the pic would say. Obv Works outside of FAB too as Bob Hoskins would say.

Meh just my opinion anyway....plus the alcohol helps

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By *teve691000Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Look no further

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Maybe the guys toy pock are the men everyone else wants and they are spoilt for choice?

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

There’s loads of time wasters on here it’s unreal

we prefer going clubs now as then you get to meet a real person not a fantasist….see your from the same town as us I wonder how many mutual timewasters we have

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By *ora 123Man
over a year ago

Basildon

Is there is a couple in the Essex area I’d be obliged to join you both. Just let me know xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There’s loads of time wasters on here it’s unreal

we prefer going clubs now as then you get to meet a real person not a fantasist….see your from the same town as us I wonder how many mutual timewasters we have

Oh I’m sure we have a few lol compare notes lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always wanted to explore a couple and see what it’s like joining in but Havnt had the chance

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By *exfunmaleMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Single guy here in South Wales ..love the sexy dynamic of meets with couples.

Always Open to offers x

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

Interesting post. As I can't find a cple. Chatted to 3 but nothing happens.

Chat for weeks

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

"I’m up for meeting a couple "

Christ they would enjoy u!!

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

"We gave up looking on here a few years ago.. far too time consuming, clubs are far easier and obviously a lot less time consuming. "

Such a Shane, there are genuine guys here.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Yes we are in this boat too. Its partly lack of effort to find the right guy on our behalf and party genuinely finding it to hard to find the right guy. We have had a couple of things with a male 3rd in clubs. But just not really found the right guy for the awesome MFM we're really seeking. Just struggling to find the guy that shares the right chemistry and dynamic with us. We see/know lots of couples who have lots of great times with guys all the time and we're like that looks fun, how do they do it?

Makes us wonder if our idealism is getting in the way. Should we be more willing to give it more of a chance with the guys we meet/potentially could meet? Be a bit more open minded and be willing to see things through futher before we decide on a guy? We tend to be a bit fickle and sometimes things look good with a guy but then they say, do something that puts us off. However we don't want something mediocre, we want something awesome, natural and free flowing for everyone involved.

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By *erbyGuy76Man
over a year ago

Derby

I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:

I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:

I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?"

I think the same thing, maybe we should make the first move instead of waiting

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Yep same here

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By *roticknotsMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I have not struggled to much have the odd fake to out but as a single guy I have had a few couple I have met with and a few on multiple occasions now it’s just about being honest chatting with them and finding a couple that’s wanting what you have to offer I suppose just don’t come across as needy or pushy that never helps

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Finding the right guy/girl is an issue..Quantity is no problem.Quality is.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

There's a reason they're called "unicorns" in hushed tones... also never call them that

LvM

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By *andd_bicoupleCouple
over a year ago

wilmslow

We r looking for a lovely guy or woman to join us for sex and more

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By *ood timesxxCouple
over a year ago

Blackwood

We are currently looking for a 3rd person to join us

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"We r looking for a lovely guy or woman to join us for sex and more "

I'd love to but we're a bit far apart and I'm above your age limit, plus I'm not bi. Other than that I'd love to join you!

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By *eardAndBoobs69Couple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We're are looking for guy/couple as well.harder than you think

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By *knot1Man
over a year ago

plymouth

"I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:

I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?"

Nothing wrong with putting yourself out there if the couple are advertising for a meet and you meet their initial criteria.

Just don't be disheartened when you don't get a response all the time. The couples probably get hundreds of messages in response to their meets so can be abit of a lottery to through the first round.

Sometimes its jut about timing and being in right place.

Good luck to all and their FABulous kinks xx

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By *roticknotsMan
over a year ago

Halifax

"I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:

I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?

Nothing wrong with putting yourself out there if the couple are advertising for a meet and you meet their initial criteria.

Just don't be disheartened when you don't get a response all the time. The couples probably get hundreds of messages in response to their meets so can be abit of a lottery to through the first round.

Sometimes its jut about timing and being in right place.

Good luck to all and their FABulous kinks xx"
I agree with this statement it’s is a lot about the timing of it until you know a couple and have met it’s rare you will be prebooking meets a lot of the time it’s when they want a guy they will post it right place right time

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"We're are looking for guy/couple as well.harder than you think

Maybe try someone a bit older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're are looking for guy/couple as well.harder than you think

Maybe try someone a bit older?

Or younger

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Tried a few times. Initially the onslaught of single men pouring into the inbox was just too much and we had to put the block on.

Then we tried seeking them out and conversation is either straight to "want to meet now" or fizzles out pretty quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's unreal!

Was looking for some additional guys to join me and a friend and no word of a lie 6 different guys agreed they wanted to join. Not one of them turned up

Give single guys a terrible reputation on here it's pathetic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is also an issue. Lots of couples not wanting to meet older guys

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"Age is also an issue. Lots of couples not wanting to meet older guys"

That's always the problem. Frustrated couples on here are either hundreds of miles away or won't meet anyone over retirement age, it seems.

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By *inkygamesMan
over a year ago

stowmarket

Would love to find a couple to have my first threesome with.

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By *ick-Dastardly-Man
over a year ago

A whole world of Shit.

People are so disappointing in general...

To be fair many couples waste people's time too, it's usually the male half of the couple bigging the proposed meet up & scenarios I've been informed, then if by magic you are ghosted or blocked !

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

We have found it's just timing and availability that have scuppered meeting.

We attended the 'Hot wife's Club' at Liberty's, weren't really looking for single guys,vit was just a night we were able..

But found all the guy's we interacted with to be really respectful and most pretty hot, so maybe worth a try?

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

I think my opinion the ones who actually meet dont meet your standards and barely get replies.. and the guys who meet your standards let you down .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight guy willing to participate in mmf.

sex with wives whilst being watched.

Message me

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By *oth0fusCouple
over a year ago

London

100% agree with this. It is unbelievably hard.

What we experience is guys who are either.

1, Vulgar from the first message

2,Do you want to meet now?

3, 30 minutes of chat which seems to go well then they disappear for 24 hours and start again (assume they have had a wank lost interest and come back later!)

The guys treat this a sex site which is very different to what genuine swingers are looking for!

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

There are genuine guys out there just get spoiled by the timewasters on here.

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By *alsam1Couple
over a year ago

Caister

ALL THE TIME !!!

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By *jphotMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

All the tales here of couples who cant find a single guy and single guys who can't find a couple fills me with optimism.

Yeah I have struggled too. Mainly no response or just stringing it out. It's good to know we are out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it more common and more common.

Chat, all seem keen then the messages stop.

I've had people not turn up a couple of times.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We have this problem on our couples profile. Finding guys who want more than just to wank over the idea is hard enough… factor in ones who are actually compatible time, location, age, and preference wise… and it’s a near impossibility.

In 4 years I’ve had loads of meets with single guys, but our 3some count is just 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd be nice to be asked but no experience and age seem to be issues.

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By *uzySuzyCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

always looking 3s never a crowd

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