FabSwingers.com forum: Cumming too quickly…

By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Is it a confidence thing? Would someone more confident stay and go for round 2,3,4? I am pretty sexually confident in knowing that I’ve done nothing wrong and it’s their problem, not mine, but can’t help having a bad aftertaste… ok will stop the word games now haha

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

This has been a problem for me for a long time, and it's got worse the older I've got.

But I never leave straight after, I love kissing and cuddling for a while, and playing with each other. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Feel like we let you down

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

You're unlikely to get an answer and an admission from a Man who has zipped up and left! You're going to hear from the Men who go for rounds 2,3 and 4!

When a Man cums his horniness level drops, however if they'd just hang around, have a breather and you caress each other, the horn "should" come back. Oh and yes, take it as a massive compliment

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By *aissez-faireMan
over a year ago

Right behind you…. Boo

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Maybe you’re just too damn good?!?!

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By *StepsAheadMan
over a year ago

lancs

I always cum to early but think it's due to confidence issues. But I can always carry on on for a second load

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By *urygent1Man
over a year ago

North West

Happens from time to time. Depends on the moment but I have left earlier than maybe I should.

Other times I have stayed and managed more fun later. But its different each time so guessing its a confidence thing between the two people at that moment.

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By *nidely WhiplashMan
over a year ago

Derby

It's a typical male mental thing. It's almost like ED, the fact it happened or the circumstances are often irrelevant, it's because and this is for men who care, we want the woman to have fun. Often that can mean we put them first, after all, coming for a man is rarely difficult but ladies, you often need some work (in the nicest way).

Because men are often categorized by their alpha-ness, this comes into the 'shit, failed category' especially as you suggest, it's on a meet where we are trying to impress you by being a porn star lol. I'm sure with a longer term lover, it's not an issue, as you say some women find it a compliment, certainly that was the case for my long term FWB. But, a new meet, yeh I can see why this would happen

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By *aveonMan
over a year ago

Dartford

Depends on the situation for me - but in bi MF meets I get incredibly horny - love sexy open minded meets. I tend to cum early and am very ready to go for round two or three…. Especially if it’s a long meet

MM meets I tend go for longer and then cum…. But again just depends how I’m feeling

Simply the sexier the meet, the quicker I cum but am ready for a repeat session soon after !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i’m with somebody new I tend to come early, I think that’s a mental thing. But a capri sun and a sandwich later i’m down for later rounds

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By *cepuncMan
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Guessing he might be embarrassed or feel he's let you down, so yes probably a confidence issue. Getting dressed and leaving is madness. He should relax enjoy the orgasm then whilst he's recharging his battery use it as an opportunity to pleasure you with his other non-cock related body parts or just kiss or chat and build the mood for round two.

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By *hunderhawkMan
over a year ago

Hull

Yeah, bit of an early cummer, overly sensative. I don't rush out, like the idle chat and foreplay you can then start to have again. Very rude to run out. Think you've just been unlucky.

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I always forwarn but with caviat second time will be better once rested for half hour

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Male ego and performance perception, we assume that we're meant to be able to keep banging away for hours so if we can't the ego is damaged. In actual fact it rarely seems to be an issue provided play in some form continues until the blokes 're-charged' so to speak

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

I think it's an embarrassment thing, I've had it a few times but I wouldn't leave, can always give it time to recover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dare say premature ejaculation will be a problem if (not when) I ever get intimate with a woman again. I’d probably be mortified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Some men just wanna blow their beans and go. They’d used you for what they wanted and they can slope back off to their wife’s/partners earlier than they said they would return.

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By *he Gentleman.Man
over a year ago

Sitlington

"It's a typical male mental thing. It's almost like ED, the fact it happened or the circumstances are often irrelevant, it's because and this is for men who care, we want the woman to have fun. Often that can mean we put them first, after all, coming for a man is rarely difficult but ladies, you often need some work (in the nicest way).

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I find it quite flattering too, quick is good at times.

Running out straight after not so much.

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

I suffer with this really badly, I often cum the second a person touches it.

If im lucky enough to get inside a lady i cum pretty much straight away, because I only produce a little bit of cum they sometimes dont notice and I try to carry on but if it goes soft they assume im not turned on by them but they couldnt be more wrong!

If they are shaven then I go down on them to finish them off.

These days I tend to do my meets in chastity which slows down the cumming but i can still do caged cumming and my newest trick is hands free cumming both caged and not caged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds spot on!

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

It's because we feel like we haven't made you happy and made you orgasim.

It can go both ways, I struggled to cum once and the girl I was seeing thought she was not very good, but I reassured her it was me.

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here….

Some men just wanna blow their beans and go. They’d used you for what they wanted and they can slope back off to their wife’s/partners earlier than they said they would return. "

This is a good point that no one else covered.

The simple fact is . They got theirs.

Almost worse (I don't know maybe) if it's couple play and then because the guy of one couples comes all play then ceases for everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I might cum quick but only because I have had sex for along time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take ages and some times dont cum, drives me insane. I'd love to spunk quick

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By *avidSwingerMan
over a year ago

Kibworth

Does happen to the best of us

I'm lucky as I don't go soft so can just carry on (usually few mins breather as its very sensitive straight after) as some else said the older I got it does seem to go either way - best ever stamina or 3 min wonder! Either way the fun can continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Sometime they know that once they've cum they're done for the and don't want to fave the embarrassment of letting the women down further

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

Have happened to be before if I blow my load early I then swap to oral and kissing then normally go hard again and go for round two then see where it goes from there.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

This is such a good topic for discussion. Specially for men to be aware that we’re not that bordered about it, I don’t judge, I actually prefer an earlier cummer and then go back to it if we both want, than a man that it’s on and on and nothing really happens

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

I found going a round earlier in the day sets you up for a better session later, and go for longer

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By *hunky ChefMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

I think it's mainly confidence issue,but some are just selfish. I'd say sorry, I'm a bit rusty. Round 2 will be better, I promise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

That's why it's handy to bring the wife if I feel like I'm close I send her in to help me out whilst I cool down

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

As someone with premature ejaculation, I inform the people I meet beforehand. Most have said no which is fine with me. So if I meet and cum soon, it doesn't really come as a surprise to anyone. I do love the post orgasm cuddle and chatting random shit.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think us being Men, shouldn’t put too much pressure on ourselves, but after all, we are human and add to unnecessary.

I find if you have a good connection with somebody and this comes up talk about it helps a lot. And plus if you cum early the next round will go on for even longer. So in a way that is a win-win.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"As someone with premature ejaculation, I inform the people I meet beforehand. Most have said no which is fine with me. So if I meet and cum soon, it doesn't really come as a surprise to anyone. I do love the post orgasm cuddle and chatting random shit."

I feel your pain, brother.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It’s embarrassing for guys. You read so much in verifications about stamina so coming quickly can seem like you’ve delivered below expectations.

Can imagine that some guys would just want to run off and hide under a stone.

The irony is that most women don’t cum through penetration and pounding away for hours can be boring.

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

Great points of view everyone, keep them coming!

I suppose most of us agree there may be some embarrassment/self consciousness to feel that they’ve underperformed… but it is definitely so much better to stay on, have a chat and go for round 2! Especially if the chemistry is clearly there…. Otherwise, well- I guess the first cumming woukdn’t have happened if chemistry wasn’t there, at least in my case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am on the other side.

I can not masturbate because it will take me an hour and I am not sure that I will cum after all.

So my first round will take 45' and the second most of the time never cum. So I could technically fuck all night.

The thing is that I don't mind if I don't cum after a good fuck.

How can you say that to a beautiful lady that I really enjoy?

I prefer to fuck her as much as I can, than to cum!

How can I persuade her that I prefer to give her as much as possible than to have my spread my load?

Last time with my fwb she made me come twice and that was the thing that busted her confidence to t he sky... you ladies are crazy

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By *ardinal FangMan
over a year ago

Sandy

Sounds like a man who is only interested in his orgasm and doesn’t care if you have a good time or not.

Maybe I’m a bit old fashioned but I think a gentleman should make sure that the lady had a good time before he gets his. And afterwards as well lol

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Great points of view everyone, keep them coming!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the same the other way, I’ve had a problem for years taking ages to cum, always with some one new. To the point where they try everything for hours but it won’t happen, after 2/3 dates i cum easily but has absolutely caused some frustration in the past.

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

I quite like men who come fast ( not immediatly) like a bit of shagging first.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

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Sometime they know that once they've cum they're done for the and don't want to fave the embarrassment of letting the women down further "

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TessTT, you make a good point. Our experience with couples within our age range is that some of the males only have one "bullet" for the evening and they know that. When that happens, our experience is that the good players will let Mrs. Arpeggio know, so that she does not waste hours trying to blow-resuscitate a cock that will remain limp for the evening no matter what, and they will focus on pleasuring her by any means beside their cocks.

The couples with awful/selfish male players that do not care about her (in fairness, the minority in our limited experience) never receive an invitation to play with us again.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"It’s the same the other way, I’ve had a problem for years taking ages to cum, always with some one new. To the point where they try everything for hours but it won’t happen, after 2/3 dates i cum easily but has absolutely caused some frustration in the past. "

I envy you, seeing guys in club fuck one woman after another without coming but the women do, I just want to make the woman cum

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By *hamrocker23Man
over a year ago

Town

Haven't seen anyone mention porn. How most men these days have to some degree a porn addiction or at least watch it a lot. We forget that these people are professional actors and it's not always an accurate depiction of how sex should be or can be. So if the guy cums after a few mins he feels like he's let you down cos he didn't bang you hard for ten hours straight and thinks you think the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haven't seen anyone mention porn. How most men these days have to some degree a porn addiction or at least watch it a lot. We forget that these people are professional actors and it's not always an accurate depiction of how sex should be or can be. So if the guy cums after a few mins he feels like he's let you down cos he didn't bang you hard for ten hours straight and thinks you think the same

Sweeping generalisation with regards to porn there.

Discipline is the key to lasting in the sack, if you feel yourself close to the vinegar strokes back off, engage in some more forplay, it’s really is mind over matter for lots of people. You can consciously desensitise yourself you just need to put the effort in to doing so.

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By *hamrocker23Man
over a year ago

Town

Sweeping generalisation with regards to porn there.

Not enough said about the damage porn does actually. This being one thing. Of course what you've said in the latter is dead right but the former certainly causes shame when men don't last.

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By *lipmeuk2019Man
over a year ago

swansea

I cum quick with my wife but when I once had an affair the woman got so wet I had no feeling in her and I just couldn’t cum which is just as bad as cumming early as she thought something was wrong with her, which there wasn’t. Often I’d end up wanking over her and finish with her sucking me

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I play with a guy who cums really quickly. He spends a lot of time playing with me which we both enjoy before he cums. He’s been a friend for several years now. We lay on the bed afterwards chatting usually.

Try communicating more or encouraging the guy to play or stay for cuddles after he’s cum. It can make some people feel bad if a guy just leaves afterwards. Maybe guys need to appreciate that some aftercare would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what annoys me with this happening is that there's no consideration to the female ( speaking from my own experience of course , understanding some guys move differently) ....

it's oooh look I've cum guess it's all over ...want a cuppa ????

Like cheez I wanna cum too

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By *abrielle43Woman
over a year ago

Kildare

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

I've had this several times and it doesn't bother me at all if they cum quickly, but if they rush out straight away then I won't arrange to meet them again. I'm happy to wait for round 2 or do something else till they're ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cumming too quickly or sustaining an erection are never issues that upset me.

I only ever feel upset if there is then no effort to get me off too.

Things happen that we can have not a lot of control over and that is fine, lazy lovers or serious lack of effort are not.

Sounds crappy on there part if you ask me. Hope you have some meets that don't run out straight after in the future

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By *rHardCMan
over a year ago

Funtown

Must be ur hot as f...

But think as meets go the forst is always gona go off earlier than ya want but the best round are yet to cum with 2,3,4,5

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

To be honest, in my humble experience....I find I either last for ages or cum really quickly.....there is literally no in-between for me

I had a meet a while back where we had kissed and played for a while and as soon as I put me owd chap inside her, she was very tight, and I swear I was literally 2 pumps and a squirt....but I would never up and leave....I put in a second shift and a further 3rd play and also a morning shift as well

.....also I think a guy not cumming for ages can also be a self confidence knocker for a lady, as she might think she isn't turning the man on at all

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By *ostringsfun84Man
over a year ago

Surbiton

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By *ostringsfun84Man
over a year ago

Surbiton

Quick and heavy cummer here, I’d certainly stick around for round 2!

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

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By *adbod52Man
over a year ago

south east

So, this can happen to anyone, me included.

But, it is always good to stick around for a few more rounds. The second and third time always last longer.

Also, a gentleman always ensures the lady is satisfied before he leaves.

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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

It doesn't upset me if a guy cums quickly and as others say I take it as a bit of a compliment. What is frustrating is when they instantly want to leave especially if in the messages to set up the date they say how long they last and that they can repeat quick quickly.

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By *ohnboy64Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Without sounding selfish it wouldn't upset me or embarrass me in the slightest. These things happen.I certainly wouldn't get up and leave. There's other ways to please your partner. If of course they wanted me to stay.

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

I’m going to say this in gest lol I don’t pay them for sex I pay them to leave haha I know it’s totally unrelated but I just sprung to mind lol but I can honestly say that I have done the above and in my situation it was either I got what I wanted (I know I’m a scumbag) and or simply being young and dumb and not knowing better and having common decency x

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By *he Bearded Rock GeekMan
over a year ago

Hotel

I'm the other way round, I struggle to cum quickly now which has the similar mental effect as I feel I let them down

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

It’s a compliment to me for sure

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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago

Redhill

"I'm the other way round, I struggle to cum quickly now which has the similar mental effect as I feel I let them down "

I know someone who is like that. It is amazing as he makes me cum dozens of times but then *I* feel a bit self-conscious and I tell him that I wish I could give him as much pleasure as he does me and make him cum. But he says the look on my face and my smiles are the greatest pleasure! Aaaw

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By *raigxMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I'm the other way round, I struggle to cum quickly now which has the similar mental effect as I feel I let them down

I really try to slow it down if I feel I’m about to spill, moving to me giving oral, as I don’t like to rush (unless it’s a hot spontaneous fast fuck of course). I generally get far more of a rush satisfying women but of course enjoy it very much when it’s my turn. But ladies first if possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NIce discussion with honesty for a change, I fall into the “new partner cum quick” but gets better the more I meet the person. I think all I can add is that maybe the lady’s could try something when this happens. if your meet cums quick then maybe say to the gent, Jesus I must be super good, your cock feels great so I’m going to get us both a drink and we are going for round two, that cock needs to fill my pussy again, Might work to settle nerves and dispel any feelings of letting you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we like to plan for all night, few drinks, fuck, breaks, drinks, fuck, breaks haha, the quick shoot your load and out the door is a bit disrespectful if you havnt pleased the lady, and it’s happened numerous times, still trying to pin the right guy for an all nighter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great answers which I agree with but I really like that you asked the question because I think sex second time round is more intense and cumming feels even better. So to know that a woman, especially one as sexy as you the op!, wouldn’t feel disappointed and would want to go again after a time is really reassuring

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By *reyeyesesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I used to have this issue, it occasionally rears its head when I'm out of practice, but, in my opinion, cumming too quickly is definitely a disappointing experience, especially when so many women on here claim they want stamina etc. It's probably something that the guy has thought about before hand and really hopes it doesn't happen, and when it does, they're embarrassed and ashamed. It goes away with experience and practice. That goes for both the early cumming and the embarrassment

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

No. I think they're just in a rush to get back to their wife/GF/partner, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes maybe good, sometimes maybe shit!

There have been times where I've creampied her in a few minutes or less and then there are times where I can go for an hour to the point where we both grow bored.

Always a great time though. Can't complain. She takes it as a compliment.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Negative feelings stem from a conflict between what some men wish for in a sexual encounter and what they actually get from it. Evolution made us this way. Negative feelings after sex don’t mean that anything is wrong with you.

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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago

edge of taunton

i cum extremely quick have done for many years im lucky i fell in love with a woman who had a broadminded mind and we used it to our advantage with cuckolding and still very happy 33 years later

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By *r P2000Man
over a year ago

nearby

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Iv come fast alot of times but sometimes the excitement takes over thats when you go back to foreplay until youre ready to hit round 2 and onwards, im more likely to escape quicker and get out of there if im getting no resistance and its just sloppy and loose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Pressure from peers to perform and last half an hour (at least) too much excitement to add for awkwardness

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"i cum extremely quick have done for many years im lucky i fell in love with a woman who had a broadminded mind and we used it to our advantage with cuckolding and still very happy 33 years later"

That’s where I want to be…

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

"It’s embarrassing for guys. You read so much in verifications about stamina so coming quickly can seem like you’ve delivered below expectations.

Can imagine that some guys would just want to run off and hide under a stone.

The irony is that most women don’t cum through penetration and pounding away for hours can be boring. "

Good to know

I’d say most guys I chat to can’t perform the way the forum stories suggest that we should. Start with all things non cock penetration and once the partners happy it shouldn’t matter how long it lasts before you cum. As I age I realised not to scoot off but to stick about and enjoy. But occasionally it’s time to go once you’ve unloaded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came fairly quickly with a lady recently but stayed around for round 2 and then she came before me

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By *r P2000Man
42 weeks ago

nearby

"Ha.

Hypothetical situation, OF COURSE, before I get slated… or not haha.

Why do some men #notallmen I HASTEN to add, get so self conscious and get dressed immediately and leave if they’ve cum quicker they planned to during a meet?

I personally don’t mind quick cumming. I kind of see it as a compliment haha! And it is a good preamble for things to come. (see what I did there?

) but on some occasions I’ve had this, the guy just goes all awkward, mumbles things like I’ve never had this happen before/I’ve not had sex in a while, etc, and dashes out. Hm.

Answers on a postcard! Or here…. "

Leaving is just rude at least use that tongue and fingers to finish the lady off or until your ready to go again. It's not a common problem for Me but it's been known depending on level of excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Probably a mix of embarrasment and performance anxiety. All comes or cums down to good communication beforehand to make it clear like you say to relax and if it happens move on to alternate foreplay\oral etc while getting ready to go again.

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By *he Gentleman.Man
42 weeks ago

Sitlington

Something happens in a guys brain as soon as we have cum. It's difficult to not go all strange as the old boy withers slightly. It's not impossible however so with mind over matter, stay, play and soon you'll be ready for round two. That said, as I age recovery takes longer and one worries if the other parties will lose interest. The brain is a strange fellow!

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By *owbadisbadMan
42 weeks ago

Sleaford / Grantham

If you think about it going back to nature a man would come quickly to make sure he impregnated the woman. I can often cum quick, or last a while, but with quickness a second round is always a few minutes away! Known for me to cum twice in 30 mins even at 46 years old!

I think the fumbled dress and get out is once the adrenaline has gone after the organsm, the reality and nerves of the situation kick and they'll find their way to do a runner...?

Just my take on it !

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By *fter dinner delightCouple
42 weeks ago

bury st edmunds/london

Personally the quicker I come is because I’m so turned on.

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By *rsmith21zMan
42 weeks ago

Peterborough

"Personally the quicker I come is because I’m so turned on."

Exactly

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
42 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Holy thread resurrection Batman!

Y’know, this does happen to us all from time to time. Especially when we’re super turned on after a lot of teasing and anticipation (which often comes with the territory here on Fab).

There’s one thing I don’t see mentioned up there on the thread so far. It’s all well and good coming quickly but being all-in for carrying on and going again … but sometimes (just sometimes) you come and you *know* that’s the end for you. You can just tell that your body isn’t going to respond and you’re not up for round two. Or three.

I mean … I still wouldn’t zip up and run away. But I’ll admit that sometimes that round two ain’t happening, whether I want it to or not.

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By *rNightMan
42 weeks ago

Coventry

Yeah I’ve had meets where it’s felt like I was going to cum really quick and I try to delay it and then the sex goes a bit shit because I keep stopping or slowing it down. I think if I 100% knew the girl was ok with me cumming and then pleasuring her for a bit until the reload was complete then I would happily get it out the way

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By *viatrix OP Woman
42 weeks ago

Redhill

"Holy thread resurrection Batman!

Y’know, this does happen to us all from time to time. Especially when we’re super turned on after a lot of teasing and anticipation (which often comes with the territory here on Fab).

I mean … I still wouldn’t zip up and run away. But I’ll admit that sometimes that round two ain’t happening, whether I want it to or not."

Hm. Interesting!

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By *cottish guy 555Man
42 weeks ago

London

Happened to me just the other week. It was a very unexpected and fantastic blow job and I hadn't cum for a few weeks.

It's rare for me to cum so quickly since I got to be an old fuck.

We just carried on with foreplay and laughed it off. Already talking about a rematch.

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By *avexxMan
42 weeks ago

cheshire

it happens for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Not every guy can go for round 2 or 3 straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

The problem I find is if I'm not having regular sex then I can get over excited and cum too quickly. (Probably after 20 mins of solid thrusting.

To combat this I edge, taking myself really close to cuming and pulling back. Doing this regularly and the day before sex helps.

Also I mixed things up, lots of foreplay and focus on her, swapping positions. Taking your mind of cuming helps too. When thrusting try counting backwards.

It's really me have some marathon fucking sessions.

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By *umagain58Man
42 weeks ago

London

If I am with someone new it’s not uncommon I cum fairly quick. I don’t find it a problem as always talk with person I am with on what might like or not and what we do. If a problem for someone can find others who don’t mind. Also like to have long sessions so time to have another go. My verifies vouch for that. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"If I am with someone new it’s not uncommon I cum fairly quick. I don’t find it a problem as always talk with person I am with on what might like or not and what we do. If a problem for someone can find others who don’t mind. Also like to have long sessions so time to have another go. My verifies vouch for that. Lol"

Yep! I know what you mean about being with someone new. Takes a few meets to adjust

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By *exymarvelMan
40 weeks ago

cardiff

Ive cum quickly ive taken a while, its all about the situation you are in. However i always ensure the lady cums before im even remotely gratified. I always have

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By *NewBNWOMan
40 weeks ago

back

Quick cum is always embarrassing so I try not to hype myself too much don't want to be big talk & don't deliver. If you can try again it's not as bad but need time to recharge & that could leave you sat with the girl you just disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I'm always upfront about it the first round will be a quick round the second round is much longer one and so on. First one is just the excitement of it nothing to be embarrassed about

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By *hesubtlegentMan
40 weeks ago

surrey

Happens to me often and it is embarrassing but I do like to give pleasure so will make sure women I play with are satisfied to an extent before penetration and make sure round two is longer

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By *uminsiderMKMan
40 weeks ago

St Austell

I always 'warn' potential playmates beforehand that I might cum quickly first time - it has happened on occasion, and whether it does or not is completely unpredictable...

....I went to one meet after a more than six-month 'dry spell' and having 'saved myself' as usual for the week prior, thinking I'd probably 'explode' inside her in seconds - but didn't...

....conversely, at a mid-week meet which was the second in four days (and one of three that week!), I lasted under a minute before spurting my cum into her...

....that wife was the only one to make a 'negative' remark afterwards - when, about an hour later, she said she'd initially been "disappointed" that I'd cum so quick, but that I'd "made up for it" with 'Round Two'...

....the few other times that it is happened, when I've apologised for having "disgraced myself", the wives indicated that they regarded it as a compliment - with one actually saying she loved that she'd had such an effect on me...

....one thing that I've never done is just got dressed and left - there has always been 'Round Two', and I believe I can say that I've not yet left a playmate unsatisfied...

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By *33ukMan
40 weeks ago

fareham

I'm usually pretty quick if it's my first time with this person, but always down for round 2 3....etc.

Also blow jobs... Fuck me I don't know what it is...but I just can't hack them lol it's very annoying as I'd love to just watch someone go to work sucking my cock for a long time but never gonna happen.

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By *wisted999Man
40 weeks ago

North Bucks

FB met a chap the other day who lasted 7 minutes from arriving at the hotel door.

It happens and I found the fact she destroyed him a bit of a turn on to be honest.

He was a little embarrassed but it happens.

I am at the other end of the spectrum and I hate it.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
40 weeks ago

Stoke

Fellas the polar opposite, he can go for hours and hours!

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