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By *aurus_09 OP   Man
over a year ago

surrey

So, I’m just intrigued what people like to see in their messages. When you receive a message from someone what is a deal breaker and what makes you think ‘I like the sound of that’.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

If they're are chatty and ask questions and not all about themselves

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

For me it's showing they've read my profile and maybe referenced something in it.

So the message is a bit personal rather than another cut and paste or hi/hey message.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

They offer tea, cake and share my loathing of Jaffa Cakes.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before.

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By *aveonMan
over a year ago

Dartford

First messages are always hard - some profiles want lots of chat….. you put the effort in and nothing

I find something that shows you have read the profile or like a pic is best, gets the best response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be the best written message but if they send a pic and they are not my type then its a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before."

The graphic what they are going to do to me are the worst

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before.

The graphic what they are going to do to me are the worst "

I had one tell me in a first message he was gonna find me and fuck me bare one day

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Someone who comes across as having actually read our profile, they seem to be what we're after, and vice versa. Or if it's just a random chatty message, not too fussed.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before.

The graphic what they are going to do to me are the worst

I had one tell me in a first message he was gonna find me and fuck me bare one day "

thats just wrong

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By *aurus_09 OP   Man
over a year ago

surrey

Oh wow charming. Assume that was an instant block?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Oh wow charming. Assume that was an instant block?"

Did you mean me ? Yes block and reported .who the hell thinks that's a good first message to send someone.

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By *aurus_09 OP   Man
over a year ago

surrey


"Oh wow charming. Assume that was an instant block?

Did you mean me ? Yes block and reported .who the hell thinks that's a good first message to send someone."

Yea sorry was meant to quote. Wonder how many women that sort of message would work on. And here’s me trying to be a gent haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before.

The graphic what they are going to do to me are the worst "

Had a first message from a single guy telling me he was going to drag me around the room by my hair before he p%*%ed in my mouth and fisted me.

Needless to say he didn't get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's showing they've read my profile and maybe referenced something in it.

So the message is a bit personal rather than another cut and paste or hi/hey message."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been a total mine field for me over the years. No I just send something simple if I like their profile, attach a face pic and if they are interested then they will message back. If not, just move on.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I really don't care as long as it's not a cock & 1 word.

If I like the profile I'll reply if I don't I won't, regardless of the 1st message.

Mrs

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before.

The graphic what they are going to do to me are the worst

Had a first message from a single guy telling me he was going to drag me around the room by my hair before he p%*%ed in my mouth and fisted me.

Needless to say he didn't get a response "

Wtf ?!!

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By *ustyb555Couple
over a year ago

leeds

When they don't address us as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Deal breakers would be asking to meet "now " or sending cock pics or cringey graphic messages when we've never spoken before."

Same we state in ours we have kids so can’t meet instantly yet people constantly ask, it’s like people think we haven’t got jobs and other things in life so just instant delete.

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

Dick/fanny pics..pics of them 100yrds away wearing glasses. Speaking vulgar, not addressing us as a couple. Essays that are clearly copy/pasted. Not reading our profile first before messaging...then wonder why we're not interested.

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