FabSwingers.com forum: Hubbies screening meets

By *enerifehotwifecpl OP Couple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We generally play stag & Vixen but take it a step further, I arrange all our meets and Debs doesn't know about them until they happen

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It does seem to be many couple profiles are Male driven and they do the messaging and arranging meets. Not for us though, we're both involved in any messages and arranging any potential meets.

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

I(Mr) usually screen and delete messages from guys that I know will not interest her or do not meet our profile preferences. But Ruth will go through the shortlisted guys and make the final decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both screen and can veto each other if we don't like the person or couple, regardless of the others attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to when we had a couples profiles manned but me. But yes so off putting with all the messages, bs and nastiness.

We ended up shutting it down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both involved in who we message with a view to meeting. Has to be someone we both are comfortable with or it’s a big no.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We only meet couples and are both fully involved in the decision making .

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I know hubbies who organise everything and hubbies who are not allowed to get involved at all.

In my experience the middle ground is the most common - it is about both of them enjoying the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both fully involved in agreeing any next steps beyond fab - sharing WhatsApp, face pics, chats/meetings - but we’ve learned through experience that it’s best for hubby to screen first and curate the shortlist.

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I know hubbies who organise everything and hubbies who are not allowed to get involved at all.

In my experience the middle ground is the most common - it is about both of them enjoying the situation."

It would be middle ground for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we both tend to screen, and either one of us can say no, all decisions go through both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs is always reading messages and forums but 99% of the time it’s me “Mr” messaging.

It’s always a nice treat when I log on at work and see she has messaged a guy though

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By *leasingmyhubsCouple
over a year ago

Holbeach

Even though Dave is always about. I choose who, what, when, where and how. I can say though IF Dave for whatever reason says No to someone it's No!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each couple I've spoken to is different. Some male driven, some female, some both talking.

What I always do though is respect both the male and female of said couple. I'm fully aware that I'm adding to thier sexual adventures.

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
over a year ago

accrington

We enjoy the site together and ultimately its Traceys choice who she decides to meet which is the way it should be. Never would I pressure her to meet anyone...just encourage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"

Yep same here. And very sick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We enjoy the site together and ultimately its Traceys choice who she decides to meet which is the way it should be. Never would I pressure her to meet anyone...just encourage

That’s depends on the dynamic.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We both go through and delete messages that we can see are unsuitable straight away. Mr will do more of the initial chat with people as I can be a bit awkward but I'll still be looking at profiles/messages/pics and either of us can rule people in or out.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

We both screen and suggest to each other although I do seem to do more of the “fabmin” lol

Sarah xx

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"

Yes, this is exactly how we play it.

Not really 'tired' as such, more bored with the lack of imagination and creativity

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By *ustforshow25Couple
over a year ago

Leatherhead

I (Mr) tend to do a soft screen - remove people that either don't seem a good fit for us, especially 'those' messages. After that Mrs will join in and depending on her yes/no we go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (hubby) am much more active on here where as the wife is much more active on things like Snapchat, we will generally chat to each other about people we have interest in or I will send them her way so she can chat with them etc.

I do like to have a day or a degree of input to screen/sound out any one I would be trusting with my wife.

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By *couse oneCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Same here

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By *hastityPleasureGiverMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

Both my gfs had free reign to meet who they wanted, I was always present for the meets naked and in chastity but I had no say on who, how many, when, how often, what they did etc

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

Both of us do the screening though I tend to make initial contact for the Mrs as I'm more active on here.

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

Mostly Helen who does all the fab talking and organising. Hubby has fab on his phone too but usually just browsing and keeping an eye but he’s usually just in the background

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

"I (Mr) tend to do a soft screen - remove people that either don't seem a good fit for us, especially 'those' messages. After that Mrs will join in and depending on her yes/no we go from there."

Just the same for us, steady and careful.

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By *alsam1Couple
over a year ago

Caister

I'm the one who looks for potential play mates for the wife. Its a full time job lol

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Allways screen ours with wife’s approval , will only let her meet the ones she really likes alone , normal first meets are at club , if private I insist on social and venue check , there are some right wrong ones out there , don’t even make an effort with appearance or home and expect your wife to jump into bed with them , sometimes even happens at club , they think because you are swingers your wife just opens her legs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone is interested so there's no work on our end. It's great.

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I the Female decide on all the meets.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Mr always checks out who we may meet

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"

Exactly how we work.

He fines them after chatting and what I would like. Then I have a look and if I like then go from there.

It works for us but I always have final say x

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Couples I’ve met with have been more joint managed than just hubby doing the vetting. I do get suspicious if it’s only the male messaging as there are too many fantasists who only want to waste people’s time. In that instance they need to be verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone try arranging a meet with me and the guys wife, they were both going to be there, I had been chatting with him on Kick then when the day came he said to me remember don't let on that we have been chatting when you see us, I avoid them like the plague, it all just felt a little odd and dishonest, since then I've just not been all that interested in arranging anything unless all parties are involved in a chat before hand

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

My hubby has access to my fab, and usually checks in and deletes all the messages that clearly don’t match my profile preferences.

Keeps the ones I am interested in at a manageable level x

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

"Couples I’ve met with have been more joint managed than just hubby doing the vetting. I do get suspicious if it’s only the male messaging as there are too many fantasists who only want to waste people’s time. In that instance they need to be verified."

Hubby never arranges for us just vets the weirdos as much as poss and then I decide. And I arrange anything. Just women and couples get so many messages most don't even read profile or get rude when you say no. Xxx

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

Yep, hubby takes care of the admin side of things, which includes screening out the ones which are non-starters , for example:

"Suk mi kok".

"i fuk yor azz"

They say brevity is the soul of wit, but these genuine messages were brief yet inane. Hubby's a former journalist, giving him an inherent nose for those not being entirely truthful, and has saved us countless encounters which might have ended in disaster or left us waiting around for a fantasist whom had no intention of turning up in the first place.

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"

This is exactly what I do (M) I study their history and profile and then show Rane, face pics are important for Rane.

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