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By *urvy-blue83 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Shire Oak / London

Starting to get really bored with getting stood up by guys on here, this one I have been talking to for a year and this is the 2nd time he’s done it!!! And we haven’t even met!

Surely I can’t be that bad

I’d like this say this is the only guy who has done it but unfortunately I get stood up more times than I go out and now all my confidence has gone again - a lot of shitty people on here playing around with peoples heads unfortunately

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We've had this only twice but had so many messers who can't work out what they want

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By *urreywifeandmeCouple
over a year ago

woking

Sadly happened a lot , gonna give up trying now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a real shame.

Have had it happen a few time when on here as a couple but unfortunately they give genuine guys a bad name and make everything harder for reliable guys...

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

not meeting, forums only

It was one of the reasons I stopped meeting 121 or privately. Just went to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to us all the time so now we just meet at clubs so if they turn up it's a bonus and if they don't there plenty of other people in the club to pick from win win ether way

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By *ay40xMan
over a year ago

Bromley

Unfortunately there are a lot of time wasters on here, had it happen to me a few times now, what’s the point of joining this site if you’re not prepared to meet?

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By *inkyfuckery69Couple
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

The mind is the largest sexual organ, unfortunately many cannot make the leap from fantasy to reality. Others just enjoy winding people up .

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Honestly I've lost count the number of times I've been stood up .. twice in the same day by the same person ! It used to really upset me but now I just think.. meh it's their loss

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"Starting to get really bored with getting stood up by guys on here, this one I have been talking to for a year and this is the 2nd time he’s done it!!! And we haven’t even met!

Surely I can’t be that bad

I’d like this say this is the only guy who has done it but unfortunately I get stood up more times than I go out and now all my confidence has gone again - a lot of shitty people on here playing around with peoples heads unfortunately

"

Flipping heck. How could any man stand you up ?!

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have had a few.

Can understand that sometimes shit happens and can't be avoided, but a few have been VERY last minute and those are frustrating as you are all geared up to play.

Usually happy to give benefit of the doubt once

Clubs are good, but if you are chatting to someone in particular or looking to set up something specific a private meet is needed, but it's not easy

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Definitely a shame that people are getting messed about when there are good honest naughty people who would love have a meet up. Myself included. Not really much you can do. Block and move on I guess......I'm open to take a substitute place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure all of the reliable guys would agree this is a real shame as there are some very sexy couples and ladies in this thread that I know I would love the opportunity to meet. Just a shame that some guys are letting the rest of the guys down...

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By *ibbleboisMan
over a year ago

ascot

I think it's more to do with who's genuine and who's not....an awful lot of people in this lifestyle (on line) that fancy the idea, but with no hutspah about the, so definetly not you...

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Kirky

Main reason why we don't meet single guys. Also the fact that most can't read a profile.

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

It’s become so frequent being stood up or time wasted with us now with single guys that we almost expect it to happen. It is stressful and frustrating.

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By *xkritTV/TS
over a year ago

High Wycombe (ish)


"Starting to get really bored with getting stood up by guys on here, this one I have been talking to for a year and this is the 2nd time he’s done it!!! And we haven’t even met!

Surely I can’t be that bad

I’d like this say this is the only guy who has done it but unfortunately I get stood up more times than I go out and now all my confidence has gone again - a lot of shitty people on here playing around with peoples heads unfortunately

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Try not to take it personally.... From your picture you look great.

Personally, I'm fully confident I may not be someone's cup of tea but - if you stand me up once unless you've got a mighty fund excuse, you're not getting a second chance

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We know as previously singles on here there is a high chance of being stood up. Mainly because people online are flaky but as we know also (as both single parents) life can get in the way and sometimes people can't help it. I think this is a huge part of why we keep our swinging to socials, clubs, parties and people we befriend in the vanilla world. It works for us because we swing when the time works for us without the need for other people to be reliable to make it work. It means we can plan our swinging in advance or take spontaneous opportunities as they happen. It prevents this happening to us and finding our precious free time wasted.

It works for us and is why we have yet (after a fair few years on the scene) still not had a meet with anyone we've not met in the real world first. That doesn't mean we'll never arrange a first meet online but it's clearly not our go to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give anyone a second chance on here. Plenty of men who would love to meet you on here.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could ask people that stand people up why? Cold feet, just plain rude/ mean. I really would like to understand the reasoning behind it?

It's just rude and not considerate of the other person/couple's time and effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been stood up loads of times, the guys have even told me they are on their way and then nothing, it’s very odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve noticed certain common behaviours of guys who will stand me up from other sites, so I see those I just end the convo. And I don’t do second chances.

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By *punk n gushCouple
over a year ago

deal

It happened a fee times we also had one guy turn up total opposite of his profile wasted our evening

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

Most single guys live in a porn world. It’s all talk and less action.

For single lady, club is the best option.

Best wishes

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