FabSwingers.com forum: So what is a good first message?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?"

'Hello big tits, looking for some action?'

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By *unesMan
over a year ago

scarborough

I prefer ones that are more than 6 words long, have none or not many spelling mistakes, that show they have 'seen' more than just my cock pics....

"Like your cock" from straight guys doesnt hack it....

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Usually all that needs to be said is "hi"

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?

'Hello big tits, looking for some action?'"

Bit wordy?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Be polite, pay a compliment, mention something in their profile and attach a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with "Hi" and add a little about what you are after?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?"

Just “hey” and nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, read your profile, I like what I see, attached face pic.

Nothing else needed. If they like my pic and read my profile they know what to do.

I feel some over complicate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have to remember we are all just people... approach people as you would any other time.

As you figure someone's vibe introduce dirty talk if that works for the situation a little later on. Most of us would like a normal convo first to see how we all mesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, read your profile, I like what I see, attached face pic.

Nothing else needed. If they like my pic and read my profile they know what to do.

I feel some over complicate it."

This exactly

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By *cottish8282Man
over a year ago

fife

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?

'Hello big tits, looking for some action?'"

Does this work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was assured ‘faf’ is all that is required…

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Hello, here's my face, here's my body (taken from at least a meter back), are you interested." That's more than enough for us, hell even just 'Hi' works because the first thing we do is look at your profile before we even open the message and base it on that anyways. No amount of clever opening lines, pointless jokes or telling us facts about you, will have any bearing on if we play or not.

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By *sxboy69Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

"fancy a fuck" will have all the ladies flocking to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""fancy a fuck" will have all the ladies flocking to you

Are you shitting me! Heck, I have been doing it wrong all these years!

Thanks man!

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By *our TV fantasyTV/TS
over a year ago

Waterloo, Liverpool

Read the profile and respond to that about how you think you suit what they are looking for

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By *pool6969Man
over a year ago

Bedworth

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?

'Hello big tits, looking for some action?'"
that’s a smashing blouse you got on

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Anything more than hi minus the dick pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anything more than hi minus the dick pic "

But you haven't seen mine before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?"

a message that shows youve read the profile is a good start with us, but most dont bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be polite, pay a compliment, mention something in their profile and attach a face pic."

this

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

Do you want me to bend you over . Response every time

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Doesn't have to be complicated.

Be polite, be respectful.

Don't talk to the person like they are an object to get you off.

If talking to a couple, address both of them.

Just show that you've actually read their profile and explain why you think you would be a good match.

Lack of effort and obvious cut and paste messages just make you seem like you are throwing a net out to catch whatever you can get.

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By *wBiMan
over a year ago

Sherborne

"I prefer ones that are more than 6 words long, have none or not many spelling mistakes, that show they have 'seen' more than just my cock pics....

"Like your cock" from straight guys doesnt hack it...."

Does, "like your cock" from Bi Guys work then

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

1st message doesn't bother me as long as it's not one word or a cock pic, if I like the look of the profile I'll reply if I don't I won't.

Mrs

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

At least they looked lol

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We start any message with ‘To Whom it May Concern,’ and just go from there.

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
over a year ago

carluke

Something in the message that shows our profile has been read.

Instant turn offs are the blatant copy and paste messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?

'Hello big tits, looking for some action?'"

Never fails!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Hi, read your profile, I like what I see, attached face pic.

Nothing else needed. If they like my pic and read my profile they know what to do.

I feel some over complicate it."

This is exactly what I was going to write. It’s more than ‘hi’, doesn’t ask an inane question and isn’t war and peace. It’s perfect.

That is, as long as they HAVE read your profile. If they haven’t and that’s obvious it’s just as annoying as the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, read your profile, I like what I see, attached face pic.

Nothing else needed. If they like my pic and read my profile they know what to do.

I feel some over complicate it.

This is exactly what I was going to write. It’s more than ‘hi’, doesn’t ask an inane question and isn’t war and peace. It’s perfect.

That is, as long as they HAVE read your profile. If they haven’t and that’s obvious it’s just as annoying as the others. "

Read a profile?! Is thar even a thing???

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

No matter how crap the first message is I always reply because I have the time but I always reply like for like.

A “hi” gets a hi reply and a “how’s you “ get a ok thanks reply.

If I can tell someone hasn’t bothered to read our very simple profile then I don’t bother to tell them that we live 400 miles away.

Fab is a really easy site to use and have fun on with the right approach and a tiny bit of effort.

Personally we have had less than five decent messages in the months we have been on here.

Now I’ve revealed our secret we will be over run with “hi” messages.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

You need to show...

...some personality,

...that you potentially can hold a conversation that's not just about sex,

...that you are interested in the specific person/people you are writing to, rather than carpet-bombing people with messages in the hope that somebody somewhere will shag you if you contact enough people.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If all fails use humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with 'Dear Sir/Madam'

End with 'Yours Faithfully'

Works every time

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?"

Anything they indicates they've read out profile and are actually wanting what we offer is better than 90%

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Dick pic at 4 am in the morning with a message " suck now " !! LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many people list the messages they will ignore like "nice pictures", "how are you finding the site", "how's it going" etc etc. Well I'd be interested to know what opening line is left?

'Hello big tits, looking for some action?'"

Lovely blouse!

You're arsehole isn't bad either!

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Back home in Glasgow

There is no magic formula as different people like different things.

It could be more my profile and pics put people off but if I go succinct, it seems people want longer.

If I go long, people think it is a cut/paste.

I now wait patiently for people to message me.

(Not the best tactic but hasn't affected my inbox any different)

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Hi, read your profile, I like what I see, attached face pic.

Nothing else needed. If they like my pic and read my profile they know what to do.

I feel some over complicate it.

This is exactly what I was going to write. It’s more than ‘hi’, doesn’t ask an inane question and isn’t war and peace. It’s perfect.

That is, as long as they HAVE read your profile. If they haven’t and that’s obvious it’s just as annoying as the others.

Read a profile?! Is thar even a thing???

Based on 5 years on here, I’d say no

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

"Hi how are you both is a good start" or words to that effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me beatch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be polite, pay a compliment, mention something in their profile and attach a face pic."

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been a yorkshire lad i write how id say it, this doesnt help me in the slightest ! Hhah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be polite, pay a compliment, mention something in their profile and attach a face pic."

In a nutshell, show respect...

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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago

Tipton

"Just have to remember we are all just people..."

NO Robots on here lol I'm Human lol

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Dick pic at 4 am in the morning with a message " suck now " !! LOL"

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Be polite, pay a compliment, mention something in their profile and attach a face pic."

This usually works

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Actually it's not a set formula for us. We just know the right message when we see it.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"Actually it's not a set formula for us. We just know the right message when we see it."

This. And our mood.

Same message today vs tomorrow might get a different reaction from us.

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