FabSwingers.com forum: Couples: What do you look for in a swinging buddy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Assuming you’re a couple that wants to invite a regular swinging buddy in for regular fun.

I realise not all of us want one time hookups and some prefer a more steady arrangement.

Be you a couple looking for a female, or a couple looking for a male, or a coupe looking for another couple. That’s sought to be more than a one time endeavour….

What different attributes should the third party provide for all of you, to be considered a good match?

And what sort of mentalities in them are an immediate off put for you?

By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

When we've arranged meets with single guys, we've made it clear that in general we'd prefer someone we could meet again (not necessarily regularly) but to have someone we can contact and invite round in future and not go through all the initial nonsense that comes with first tike meets.

It's not been too successful yet as for various reasons we haven't repeated a meet!

Someone who is reliable, relatively normal and with an even temperament and not high maintenence.

Someone who respect our relationship, respects our boundaries and appreciates how lucky they are to be invited into our relationship.

And don't be over-eager. We aren't getting into a relationship with you, so don't need to be in constant contact either!

By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Obviously, physical attraction.

If that's not there then what's the point.

Secondly. Laughter. There has to be laughter.

If everyone is laughing, then there's a connection.

I'm sure there's more but can't think of them atm. ( Mr)