FabSwingers.com forum: Know your limits

By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We are in the wonderful world of swinging and I want to know if you are in couples. Where are you limits.

When trying to find a third (male and female) or couples how far will you go. Do you go out and find someone/couple on here? Would either one of you be happy to have someone join in that you know? (friend or someone you used to chat to). If your partner has been swinging longer than you, do you feel comfortable sleeping with someone your partner as already slept with?

There are so many questions I could ask.

I hope I’ve said this right cause in my head it sounded ok lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not going to be helpful but the above is the reason we don't play as a couple. It's an utter minefield where we find no reward and alot of hassle.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We tend to go to clubs but also are aware of day to day opportunities and that works for. We don't have any hang ups so people that one of us knows more than the other is never a problem.

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We tend to go to clubs but also are aware of day to day opportunities and that works for. We don't have any hang ups so people that one of us knows more than the other is never a problem."

Have you guys ever brought someone in that you guys have slept with separately?

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We’ve had friends join us a couple of times. Tend to organize meets at clubs either through here beforehand or chance our luck meeting someone on the night

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

Clubs work best for us too, avoids disappointment meeting people who don't look like their pictures.

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

What about bringing someone in who isn’t part of this lifestyle?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We don't actively seek to meet here to be honest, we have got chit chatting that's lead to meets but overall I find online chat difficult to guage & daily small talk irritates me.

I don't know if I have any attraction until I meet someone face to face I can get a jist on here but never fully know.

I much prefer meeting people at organised socials

Mrs

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"We tend to go to clubs but also are aware of day to day opportunities and that works for. We don't have any hang ups so people that one of us knows more than the other is never a problem.

Have you guys ever brought someone in that you guys have slept with separately? "

Not yet but it could happen in theory

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Would you both feel comfortable with it?

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

We usually chat for a bit then have a social. After that we decide if all going to work. We don't have set limits we try to be dynamic and go with the flow.

Always so no from anyone stops it all and we enforce that, we have a few nos 3ps and anal generally for ourselves but never say never.

Always respect others limits and see what happens.

Would joking partners exs etc if we all got on and felt comfortable.

I guess if it feels good then good to go xx

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

That’s all generally what we are like but the main question is would you be comfortable inviting someone in that your partner as been talking to without you (had a little connection with) before you got together?

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Depends on a lot of things. Wife is a hotwife so has permission to chat with who she wants. But we always talk together and make sure all good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to clubs and chat but only wife plays , I join in but watch too , it's a great turn on to see other men attracted to her , we also do mmf hotel meets and wife solo car meets that she let's the guy video on her phone then sends it me

For us it's all about my wife being horny and satisfied. I like to look at women but I don't touch, watching wife is a turn on enough

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

"We go to clubs and chat but only wife plays , I join in but watch too , it's a great turn on to see other men attracted to her , we also do mmf hotel meets and wife solo car meets that she let's the guy video on her phone then sends it me

For us it's all about my wife being horny and satisfied. I like to look at women but I don't touch, watching wife is a turn on enough "

We are so the same x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We don't actively seek on here. We have on a rare occasion got chatting and one day we may arrange to meet. But as of yet we have never arranged to met anyone off her as a couple (although social meet in the pipe line maybe). However we find things easier in the real world. We generally find clubs, organised socials, parties and even out in the vanilla world on a few occasions has been successful. Some who we've become good freinds with going forward over the years.

As to communication be it from on here or the real world we don't like a lot of back and forth messages. We like to let the face to face interaction do the talking. We tend to be upfront about this and to be fair other people tend to like this too. Once we have a basic rapport and all agree we want to meet/meet again we like to keep it just to making the plans, time, date, etc. Maybe an occasional check in as appropriate regarding said plans.

We have bumped into people we know on the scene (more Mrs than Mr). It's no secret that we are swingers. A good proportion of our freinds and family know. So know it wouldn't bother us playing with people we know. However it's never happened because there's never been that chemistry. I think we are secure enough if one of these people happened to be an ex sexual partner.

We generally go with the principle of taking people as we find them. If the mutual chemistry is there we'll know and if it's right things just tend to flow naturally. For us that how we like it and it is the best way.

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincess OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

That is a fantastic way to look at it! I like that

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"What about bringing someone in who isn’t part of this lifestyle? "

Bad idea. Particularly if you know the person from vanilla life, even worst if one you of you has/had a crush on this person.

If you are not experienced swingers, the worst thing you can do is bringing in an acquaintance that is not a swinger, therefore inexperienced, with their nerves and emotions very raw about swinging.

Try to other people here or at clubs or socials. It sounds like you have a person in mind and chances are one of you two or the third person ends up mistaking sex interest for romantic interest. It may work well in the end for you two but it has all the ingredients to backfire badly.

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