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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " You certainly put some effort into your profile. Your pics are beautiful | |||
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" You certainly put some effort into your profile. Your pics are beautiful " Thanks, but that’s not really helping with our question  | |||
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" You certainly put some effort into your profile. Your pics are beautiful Thanks, but that’s not really helping with our question "I don't have an answer for you. I know my own profile needs work | |||
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"Hate it. It's same on our couple profile to. Been ages since met single guy." Thanks. Good to know we’re not the only ones then | |||
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"Hate it. It's same on our couple profile to. Been ages since met single guy." Strangely you have put almost no effort into your profile either | |||
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"Do you think there is a geographical limit? Something about all the quality men living with 10 square miles of each other and nowhere else in the country OP? "We went broader than 20 miles…. | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " Your pics and videos are good Text says very little Verifications worthless- says you are fun campers | |||
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"Aaahhhh the elusive genuine single man….you’d be better off looking for a needle in a haystack lol!! I can’t offer any advice but maybe consider opening up the search to non-verified too as there maybe that profile that’s struggled to get meets but has an articulated profile, classy pics and shares your kinks and interests….people have to start somewhere….broaden your horizons as they say!!" An interesting thought, but does the verified filter also include those who have photo verified? Let’s be honest, if someone isn’t at lease photo verified, we wouldn’t meet them | |||
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"Depends what you want. Our requirements are specific, but mostly we're not picky. Ie meet our requirements and you're in. We can generally find a guy to meet our requirements when we want a meet. " I like your profile It says quite clearly what you want And looks like you get it - 22 veris | |||
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"maybe consider opening up the search to non-verified too " Totally agree with this. Given that people seem to verify anyone they've seen in a club regardless if they've played or engaged in meaningful conversation, verifications hold almost no validity in someone's quality. Some of the most respectful, decent, enjoyable meets we've had have been with unverified guys. | |||
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" Your pics and videos are good Text says very little Verifications worthless- says you are fun campers " What is a worthwhile verification then? And the text says what it needs to about us and what our profile is there for | |||
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" What is a worthwhile verification then? " We only verify people we've played with. | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " Can I ask why verified blokes only .? Many of us on here have been on Fab well over a year and not been lucky enough to have had a meet. Doesn't mean we aren't genuine and trustworthy ,it just means we are part of the vicious circle of not been able to get a meet ,because the vast majority of women and couples on here won't meet single men who aren't meet verified. Meaning we can't get verified because no one will give us a chance. Everyone started their Fab life without any verifications ,and someone must have taken the chance on them to verify them .Yet it seems a lit if people on here forgot they started with zero verifications, and aren't prepared to help others start their journey ,just as someone helped them start theirs . | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " It is hard work. Also most that contact only say hi or how are you. But we have met some right gems to. | |||
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" Can I ask why verified blokes only .? Many of us on here have been on Fab well over a year and not been lucky enough to have had a meet. Doesn't mean we aren't genuine and trustworthy ,it just means we are part of the vicious circle of not been able to get a meet ,because the vast majority of women and couples on here won't meet single men who aren't meet verified. Meaning we can't get verified because no one will give us a chance. Everyone started their Fab life without any verifications ,and someone must have taken the chance on them to verify them .Yet it seems a lit if people on here forgot they started with zero verifications, and aren't prepared to help others start their journey ,just as someone helped them start theirs ." We probably need to be clearer when we say verified. We don’t just mean from a meet, they could be photo verified. It’s more about if they are genuine - and yes, we know that this may not always be the case | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " Maybe try contacting other couples for recommendations on single guys they have played with, that's if your willing too travel. | |||
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"I stopped looking. I’ve tried the whole ‘filtering this and that, message parameters’ etc, but the reality is that some of my hottest encounters have been with guys who have crap profiles. Conversely, I get let down or timewasted by just as many guys with good profiles as bad. As a subset on here, us women demand that guys put in x amount of effort and do this and do that, but blokes just simply aren’t wired that way. I do ask for quite a lot on my profile, but in all honesty that works better to deter unrealistic profiles from messaging me (too far away, age preferences, dissimilar interests), rather than being effective as a filter. Now I don’t message anyone first, and just reply. I avoid any messages from new people that ping up when I’ve just posted a status or new pics/vids, and I avoid Saturday/Sunday early morning messages, as they are most likely to be ‘cock in hand.’ Being on here can be really frustrating one minute, and awesome the next. Give yourself a break. Your profile is really attractive, if you’re patient enough, they will come to you xx" If anyone let's you down and messing about with you. (1) They're married/long term partner and can't get away to meet. (2) They're an idiot. | |||
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"… We probably need to be clearer when we say verified. We don’t just mean from a meet, they could be photo verified. It’s more about if they are genuine - and yes, we know that this may not always be the case" Your requirements are yours, so please, don’t feel like you need to soften your limits and requirements for others). It is very easy to get a verification if they are willing to do socials and clubs rather than just whinging on fora about not getting one/people “discriminating”. We only see verified people as those without are often using it as a sex site rather than a part of the swinging lifestyle. Xx Prof | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " The problem is single men have no clues how to do a good profile, understandable considering no-one tells you how. Occasionally I get asked for advice from them and the first thing I say is DELETE THE DICK PICS, literally nobody wants them. | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! The problem is single men have no clues how to do a good profile, understandable considering no-one tells you how. Occasionally I get asked for advice from them and the first thing I say is DELETE THE DICK PICS, literally nobody wants them. " My pictures of my cock are in full body shots and most say thats ok as its showing me and not just my cock. Big close cum shots of men wanking seem not wanted either. | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " Yes, we’ve found it more difficult than we expected too, it became like a job! There are lots of guys on Fab but not as many with good profiles, pics and veris as you might think | |||
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" Occasionally I get asked for advice from them and the first thing I say is DELETE THE DICK PICS, literally nobody wants them. My pictures of my cock are in full body shots and most say thats ok as its showing me and not just my cock. Big close cum shots of men wanking seem not wanted either." Yea full body is fair enough, but it’s pretty understandable why that is. | |||
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" Yes, we’ve found it more difficult than we expected too, it became like a job! There are lots of guys on Fab but not as many with good profiles, pics and veris as you might think" Yea I can imagine how time consuming it can be, but imagine the single guys, they just don’t know how to get started most of them. | |||
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"Aaahhhh the elusive genuine single man….you’d be better off looking for a needle in a haystack lol!! I can’t offer any advice but maybe consider opening up the search to non-verified too as there maybe that profile that’s struggled to get meets but has an articulated profile, classy pics and shares your kinks and interests….people have to start somewhere….broaden your horizons as they say!!" I agree ??...are verifications that important ? Are they all genuine and proof that they are a nice respectful person? | |||
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"Look at the ratio of men to woman / couples. Most singles are not even given a chance. You do your best on the profile but most of the time cant get a 100% representation of your self. Havr a maybe a social or a vid chat, see if the vibes there." Exactly it can take years of club meets and attending miserable group bangs to get your first lot of verifications - once the ball is rolling it’s a bit easier. | |||
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"I often struggle with my own profile.. Make it too specific and might miss an opportunity, make it too general and be deemed to be after anything. Make it too long and it won't get read, too short and it's not interesting enough. Make it funny and not be taken seriously, Make it serious and be viewed as boring. It's a mine field lol" 100% correct. Its so difficult.to get the right balance. Woman day they dont want just anyone which i understand there has to be some atttaction but giving people a chance you kay find theu are who your looking for | |||
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"I stopped looking. I’ve tried the whole ‘filtering this and that, message parameters’ etc, but the reality is that some of my hottest encounters have been with guys who have crap profiles. Conversely, I get let down or timewasted by just as many guys with good profiles as bad. " Profile quality most definitely does not indicate actual quality. I'd possibly go as far to say that people with detailed male profiles tend to be much worse in reality, potentially because there feels an element of entitlement about it. Rather than guys needing to "prove themselves" to us we tend to assume we'd meet everyone and then find reasons not to. There are plenty of things guys can say or do that puts us off, but we don't specifically expect a guy to prove they're worthy enough. I think a massive issue on fab is that there's this belief that women and couples are doing single guys a favour and that single guys need to be this oracle like creature to be worthy of meeting, when the reality is, most women and couples meet single guys for their own selfish needs. We meet guys because we love to suck cock together. Mrs meets guys because she loves to be fucked by different cocks. | |||
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" Occasionally I get asked for advice from them and the first thing I say is DELETE THE DICK PICS, literally nobody wants them. " This is funny/interesting. We love dick pics and actually is a requirement. Likewise, we are quite unlikely to meet someone who has photos of them fucking others on their profile. Firstly there's the whole issue if consent (no way to know if they've consented) and secondly, we don't need to see your past encounters. | |||
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" This is funny/interesting. We love dick pics and actually is a requirement. Likewise, we are quite unlikely to meet someone who has photos of them fucking others on their profile. Firstly there's the whole issue if consent (no way to know if they've consented) and secondly, we don't need to see your past encounters. " To be honest a real conversation about consent and photos really needs to happen. As you can see the ones on my profile are taken by the husband and are available on the couples’ profile. But the amount of times, without prior consent a husband whips out his phone while your fucking his wife and you’re not like this was not pre-agreed - but who wants to stop and have a discussion about it at that moment. Single guys have rights too, I’ve seen it in clubs when in the private rooms younger guys are really conflicted what to do. Husband’s need to ask first, and if they’re springing it in the day, bring masks. | |||
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" This is funny/interesting. We love dick pics and actually is a requirement. Likewise, we are quite unlikely to meet someone who has photos of them fucking others on their profile. Firstly there's the whole issue if consent (no way to know if they've consented) and secondly, we don't need to see your past encounters. To be honest a real conversation about consent and photos really needs to happen. As you can see the ones on my profile are taken by the husband and are available on the couples’ profile. But the amount of times, without prior consent a husband whips out his phone while your fucking his wife and you’re not like this was not pre-agreed - but who wants to stop and have a discussion about it at that moment. Single guys have rights too, I’ve seen it in clubs when in the private rooms younger guys are really conflicted what to do. Husband’s need to ask first, and if they’re springing it in the day, bring masks." You mean people have phones in private rooms in clubs? Wow! You'd get banned from our local club if you got caught doing that. | |||
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" This is funny/interesting. We love dick pics and actually is a requirement. Likewise, we are quite unlikely to meet someone who has photos of them fucking others on their profile. Firstly there's the whole issue if consent (no way to know if they've consented) and secondly, we don't need to see your past encounters. To be honest a real conversation about consent and photos really needs to happen. As you can see the ones on my profile are taken by the husband and are available on the couples’ profile. But the amount of times, without prior consent a husband whips out his phone while your fucking his wife and you’re not like this was not pre-agreed - but who wants to stop and have a discussion about it at that moment. Single guys have rights too, I’ve seen it in clubs when in the private rooms younger guys are really conflicted what to do. Husband’s need to ask first, and if they’re springing it in the day, bring masks. You mean people have phones in private rooms in clubs? Wow! You'd get banned from our local club if you got caught doing that. " Yea people try it, and if it’s in a private room who’s to stop them. One guy was doing it in the changing room while I fucked his wife up against the lockers, then the manager walked in to return my dropped locker key! | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " I imagine it is very hard, even with the verified guys. I havent looked to see what your preferences are but I sometimes used the basic search and it yields better results.. And may I say not a single public photo of a penis and I hope to god my profile isn't sleazy. | |||
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"We don’t bother looking - pop a meet up with your specific requirements and let the floodgates open. Respond to those who meet the requirements. Plan in a 4/5 drop-out rate, so organise five and hopefully one will actually turn up on the night. Searching through them and selecting one is just far too low a probability of a meet and too high an amount of admin for us. Good luck! Xx " so what happens if all 5 turn up? I dont know about anyone else but if id arranged to meet a woman or couple and turned up and there was 4 other guys there id not be very happy | |||
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"We don’t bother looking - pop a meet up with your specific requirements and let the floodgates open. Respond to those who meet the requirements. Plan in a 4/5 drop-out rate, so organise five and hopefully one will actually turn up on the night. Searching through them and selecting one is just far too low a probability of a meet and too high an amount of admin for us. Good luck! Xx so what happens if all 5 turn up? I dont know about anyone else but if id arranged to meet a woman or couple and turned up and there was 4 other guys there id not be very happy" I'd not be happy not just because of the numbers but also, how little they thought of me to arrange other people incase I didnt come. | |||
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"We don’t bother looking - pop a meet up with your specific requirements and let the floodgates open. Respond to those who meet the requirements. Plan in a 4/5 drop-out rate, so organise five and hopefully one will actually turn up on the night. Searching through them and selecting one is just far too low a probability of a meet and too high an amount of admin for us. Good luck! Xx so what happens if all 5 turn up? I dont know about anyone else but if id arranged to meet a woman or couple and turned up and there was 4 other guys there id not be very happy I'd not be happy not just because of the numbers but also, how little they thought of me to arrange other people incase I didnt come. " Yeah, you'd have to sell this as a multi player game. Pretending you'd only invited one when you'd invited multiple is pretty shitty behaviour. | |||
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"We don’t bother looking - pop a meet up with your specific requirements and let the floodgates open. Respond to those who meet the requirements. Plan in a 4/5 drop-out rate, so organise five and hopefully one will actually turn up on the night. Searching through them and selecting one is just far too low a probability of a meet and too high an amount of admin for us. Good luck! Xx so what happens if all 5 turn up? I dont know about anyone else but if id arranged to meet a woman or couple and turned up and there was 4 other guys there id not be very happy I'd not be happy not just because of the numbers but also, how little they thought of me to arrange other people incase I didnt come. Yeah, you'd have to sell this as a multi player game. Pretending you'd only invited one when you'd invited multiple is pretty shitty behaviour. "  | |||
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"Dick pics are bad on a swinging site where many single women and couples profiles specifically request certain size and/or girth? Strictly speaking it isn’t my cup of tea to have them up but I think I got more results with than without?" Definitely agree. Especially if people are wanting to suck cock, you need to see what it looks like. Anyone who claims they are all the same is lying. BTW your cock looks delicious. | |||
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"I’m another one that used to have a couple of dick pics on friends only but as someone as said above having them public has stood me better off . I do get a few views from couples and single women but don’t that often get a follow up maybe I am missing some key bits from my profile " I'd drop the mature women thing. Your age range makes that clear and stating it just makes you sound like you'd take anything | |||
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"I’m another one that used to have a couple of dick pics on friends only but as someone as said above having them public has stood me better off . I do get a few views from couples and single women but don’t that often get a follow up maybe I am missing some key bits from my profile I'd drop the mature women thing. Your age range makes that clear and stating it just makes you sound like you'd take anything " Thanks for that feedback . Appreciated | |||
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"We don’t bother looking - pop a meet up with your specific requirements and let the floodgates open. Respond to those who meet the requirements. Plan in a 4/5 drop-out rate, so organise five and hopefully one will actually turn up on the night. Searching through them and selecting one is just far too low a probability of a meet and too high an amount of admin for us. Good luck! Xx so what happens if all 5 turn up? I dont know about anyone else but if id arranged to meet a woman or couple and turned up and there was 4 other guys there id not be very happy" Stagger the times so they’re not at the same time, clearly. We’ve done this for singles events several times. We’ve yet to have a full house, as it were. Just 50% turning up would be a fun nights This aLao applies to advertised group events have a massive drop out rate. Last one we booked 7, 1 turned up. The one before 6 booked 2 showed. It’s just how it is. Xx | |||
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"Genuine question to everyone that’s sought a single guy to join them. How many times did you give up searching through profiles because it felt like wading through treacle? We tried twice this evening and both times we were put off by the lack of effort on some profiles, the dick pics on others and the sleazy feeling we got some more. And before anyone asks. We used the filters to only look at verified guys! " It's easy on a laptop. The crap profiles can be instantly dismissed with no time wasted. The interesting ones send a message with the scenario we have in mind. The ones who reply, chat a bit to determine mutual compatibility. Meet and have fun making another fantasy a reality. *For us and them- men are not disposable toys.* | |||
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