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How do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel

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By *ornypair300 OP   Couple
over a year ago

scottish borders

For nearly a year now we have not managed to meet anyone from here and clubs haven’t been kind to us either , our inbox resembles a ghost town and any chat we have on here goes either vulgar or plain weird and if it makes it further sadly leads to wasted time . We have changed our approach multiple times to try and spot time wasters ect before anyone says that and have changed up our profile alot also .

We feel that lately unless you do “meet now” type fun your left behind and no one seems to want to have a social first .

We are just wondering how things are for you all on here lately to see if there’s anything we could do to maybe help end the seemingly never end dry spell we are in . We do send out messages to people we find attractive but to little luck there too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow i am surprised you have been this unlucky i wish i was closer

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Depending where in the borders as can be remote...

Use fab for your advantage..not other way round..

If remote...place meets in advance..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why haven't clubs being going your way?

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You have a decent load of verifications... I thought you are doing well with the meets and greets

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I get what you mean, we don't even try meet off fab anymore.

I CBA with endless how's your day conversations.

I much prefer meeting people at the social events it's so much easier at face value 3/4 way attraction is hard enough without talking to a cock & tits endlessly before getting a face pic and having to say sorry but not for us.

It's just easier not to bother on here.

If it wasn't for the forums I think I would have deleted fab by now.

Mrs

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Quite agree and we've given up now aswell as like you we get met with the go to the clubs line and as neither of us are into clubs ?? or if you don't offer it on a "Plate" or at least guarantee some kind of "Sexual" fun .....

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge


" Quite agree and we've given up now aswell as like you we get met with the go to the clubs line and as neither of us are into clubs ?? or if you don't offer it on a "Plate" or at least guarantee some kind of "Sexual" fun ..... "

Well your profile is hidden and you don’t go to clubs! Bit hard to see why you are on here at all really - and your profile pic looks lovely so I would have thought you’d be able to set the agenda for anyone you did want to engage with?

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We are the same OP. I think it’s a common feeling. All I would say is that Fab is free so it doesn’t cost you anything to keep the profile and it’s as easy to keep it as it is to delete it.

I often wonder if we should get Tinder or one of the other apps but I don’t get up enough enthusiasm to try them.

I think one of the biggest lies told is that the clubs are where the fun is and everyone should try them! Dirty sleazy places with weird guys following and staring. Not for us either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally understand

I always demand on a social first (If I was very excited I would probably have a room booked - just in case)

But so far I have been let down on the same day (I was actually parking my car and heading go the meeting point) when I got the "can we meet another day"

And on other occasions as soon as I mentioned a social and not guatenteed sex the convo goes dead.

I have a meet this week lined up and if this guy is a no show then I will just stick to clubs and will delete the account

I do have a partner and we always have fun at clubs so maybe this single girl account isn't for me. I do get a lot of messages but 90% are just copy and paste and I get that due to the sheer amount of ratio guys to girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are the same OP. I think it’s a common feeling. All I would say is that Fab is free so it doesn’t cost you anything to keep the profile and it’s as easy to keep it as it is to delete it.

I often wonder if we should get Tinder or one of the other apps but I don’t get up enough enthusiasm to try them.

I think one of the biggest lies told is that the clubs are where the fun is and everyone should try them! Dirty sleazy places with weird guys following and staring. Not for us either."

Go on a couples and single girls only night, a much different vibe and no one follows you around x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow!! I'm actually surprised tbh I thought it was just single males like myself that struggle to get meets, to be honest I'm pretty much thinking the exact same as you I think I've had my time on fab, not had any interest in probably 6-8 months, I've tried clubs and tbh there just the same as here lots of single guys that makes it difficult to get any fun,now I know I shouldn't go to a club and expect to have some fun but you here of all the "wow what a great night,lots of fun had" stories

I am really surprised that you're popular though as your profile and pictures are great

But as you say I think you have to just, well in my case just admit that you're just not going to get any meets and that's that

For me I'll just keep popping on from time to time and have a look around and see if anything changes

Good luck with whatever you decide

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP, finding folk on Fab is a bit hit and miss but it is possible. I would recommend staying in contact with those you meet who were good to be with.

Over time you can build up a group of sexy friends so you can reliably have fun when you want it. Just remember sex play tends to improve with familarity so 2nd, 3rd etc meets are often better than the first.

I would also suggest your age preference bracket is limiting, just a little bit, the pool to draw from. Most swingers tend to be more mature and experience does count. But if that is what you want, you go for it! Good luck

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We struggle to meet on here. It would be easy to meet single guys but we’ve had so many bad experiences that we have pretty much given up on guys.

That leaves couples who we find much more reliable but they are so difficult to meet and there are a lot of dreamers and fake couples.

Your profile looks great, OP, and you have not struggled to get verifications. Not sure what else you can do other than accept that sometimes you can’t get a meet and then suddenly a great profile comes along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For nearly a year now we have not managed to meet anyone from here and clubs haven’t been kind to us either , our inbox resembles a ghost town and any chat we have on here goes either vulgar or plain weird and if it makes it further sadly leads to wasted time . We have changed our approach multiple times to try and spot time wasters ect before anyone says that and have changed up our profile alot also .

We feel that lately unless you do “meet now” type fun your left behind and no one seems to want to have a social first .

We are just wondering how things are for you all on here lately to see if there’s anything we could do to maybe help end the seemingly never end dry spell we are in . We do send out messages to people we find attractive but to little luck there too . "

You're not alone. People think it's easy for couples, but it really isn't.

We used to go to the club prior to the pandemic. Usually had a good night, and met some great people but didn't always lead to play as there just wasn't the attraction there.

We decided to try the social route but that hasn't been very successful either with last minute cancellations and no shows.

Then there are the profiles you chat to, agree to meet, then the profile vanishes without explanation.

Totally agree with the "meet now" comment, but guess everyone uses the site for different reasons.

We keep our profile open to stay in touch with people we've met and for organised social events and of course in the hope that we'll find a FWB

Only you can decide if it's worth keeping your profile open. Every once in a while you'll find a diamond, and for us, those moments are worth it

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON


"For nearly a year now we have not managed to meet anyone from here and clubs haven’t been kind to us either , our inbox resembles a ghost town and any chat we have on here goes either vulgar or plain weird and if it makes it further sadly leads to wasted time . We have changed our approach multiple times to try and spot time wasters ect before anyone says that and have changed up our profile alot also .

We feel that lately unless you do “meet now” type fun your left behind and no one seems to want to have a social first .

We are just wondering how things are for you all on here lately to see if there’s anything we could do to maybe help end the seemingly never end dry spell we are in . We do send out messages to people we find attractive but to little luck there too . "

Could be your location. I am surprised your inbox isn't over flowing. Love the motor btw

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Have you tried Shhh in Newcastle?

Only thing I'd say is your profile is a list of negatives, you don't really say what you want out of a meet, with the result you may find people who message you are doing so based on your horny pictures so that's why you're finding people being more direct than you wish.

Maybe tone your photos down and make your bio more about who you want to meet rather than not meet.

Good luck.

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By *randMrsJones500Couple
over a year ago

london


"We are the same OP. I think it’s a common feeling. All I would say is that Fab is free so it doesn’t cost you anything to keep the profile and it’s as easy to keep it as it is to delete it.

I often wonder if we should get Tinder or one of the other apps but I don’t get up enough enthusiasm to try them.

I think one of the biggest lies told is that the clubs are where the fun is and everyone should try them! Dirty sleazy places with weird guys following and staring. Not for us either."

we haven’t found that in clubs at all. no one has ever tried to touch or play with us without asking for consent in a group situation. we have almost always found people to be very respectful.

perhaps go to a club on a couples only night?

i hope you try again and have a better experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For nearly a year now we have not managed to meet anyone from here and clubs haven’t been kind to us either , our inbox resembles a ghost town and any chat we have on here goes either vulgar or plain weird and if it makes it further sadly leads to wasted time . We have changed our approach multiple times to try and spot time wasters ect before anyone says that and have changed up our profile alot also .

We feel that lately unless you do “meet now” type fun your left behind and no one seems to want to have a social first .

We are just wondering how things are for you all on here lately to see if there’s anything we could do to maybe help end the seemingly never end dry spell we are in . We do send out messages to people we find attractive but to little luck there too .

Could be your location. I am surprised your inbox isn't over flowing. Love the motor btw"

I thought the same could well be location !

It also depends what their looking for if their looking for other couples may be alot harder or searching for a unicorn etc I definitely doubt they would have trouble finding a single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had some great meets for socials and play . We are always chatting or planning with other couples . Our problem is lack of time .

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By *J-87Man
over a year ago

Donington

Considering doing it. Been on here a year and a half, lots of messages then all of a sudden an instant block/they go cold.

I do wonder how many meets I've missed out on by saying I'm in a relationship though.

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"We are the same OP. I think it’s a common feeling. All I would say is that Fab is free so it doesn’t cost you anything to keep the profile and it’s as easy to keep it as it is to delete it.

I often wonder if we should get Tinder or one of the other apps but I don’t get up enough enthusiasm to try them.

I think one of the biggest lies told is that the clubs are where the fun is and everyone should try them! Dirty sleazy places with weird guys following and staring. Not for us either.

Go on a couples and single girls only night, a much different vibe and no one follows you around x "

Haven’t tried those nights so might be worth a go. Just don’t want another night in a dead club waiting till 3am for someone decent to come along or waiting for people to be d*unk enough to make a move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For nearly a year now we have not managed to meet anyone from here and clubs haven’t been kind to us either , our inbox resembles a ghost town and any chat we have on here goes either vulgar or plain weird and if it makes it further sadly leads to wasted time . We have changed our approach multiple times to try and spot time wasters ect before anyone says that and have changed up our profile alot also .

We feel that lately unless you do “meet now” type fun your left behind and no one seems to want to have a social first .

We are just wondering how things are for you all on here lately to see if there’s anything we could do to maybe help end the seemingly never end dry spell we are in . We do send out messages to people we find attractive but to little luck there too . "
Ditto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had some great meets with some lovely single guys we’ve met off Fab but I guess like most couples it’s really difficult to find a couple as everyone needs to click.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

As a couple who exclusively meet single bi guys, we have great success on fab. Female has a solo account and meets loads of great guys her self too.

I'd say we have a 90% failure rate if we try to arrange a meet in advance, if we try to arrange a "meet now/in a couple of hours" I'd say we have about a 90% success rate.

We seem to get on well enough with couples in clubs but that could be because we make it clear from the start we don't play with couples so even if they don't find us appealing to play with, they know they can be as friendly and social as they want with no expectations being set.

Female has plenty of success in clubs and although I don't get involved in play usually, I'm sure 90% of the guys would be happy for a straight mfm if it was on offer.

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