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Me and my partner to make a joint account advice please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've been on here for over a year myself. We've had a fantasy for a long time to being a 3rd into the bedroom (A Male) MFM or me watching her with him. I think she's finally built the courage to make a profile with me and get verified. I'm just worried that someone on here will say something to freak her out I know it's probably hard to avoid obviously. Just now I got her confidence up to do it don't want to it be ruind before it starts if you know what I mean . Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bringing a 3rd*

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By *utterfly WingsWoman
over a year ago

North West

I would tell her first she IS going to get a lot of attention if you are wanting a single man to join, the number of messages you'll get is mind-blowing ! The chances of being freaked out is pretty slim in my opinion but that's probably because it takes a lot to freak me out !

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

My advice is to create a couples profile, get photo verified and let her browse the site for a while.

I’d also recommend blocking single guys for the time being and picking who you want to interact with, at least until she’s comfortable.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Just to point out OP, a few weeks ago you were a buff mixed race guy standing on a beach, now you're a buff fair haired white guy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would tell her first she IS going to get a lot of attention if you are wanting a single man to join, the number of messages you'll get is mind-blowing ! The chances of being freaked out is pretty slim in my opinion but that's probably because it takes a lot to freak me out ! "

We was thinking maybe I filter through the messages and show her the ones that maybe would appeal to her and the type of man we would like . Before I showed her it on my account and she said at the time it scared her as its kind of going from fantasy to reality this was around a year back so I left it as I respected what she said but as time gone on and we kept doing the fantasy in the bedroom she's said she thinks she's ready to do it now she doesn't think it's as scary now it's cos it was something she's never done before so I'm tryner tread carful as she's plucked up her courage

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to point out OP, a few weeks ago you were a buff mixed race guy standing on a beach, now you're a buff fair haired white guy!"

I am photo verified? Lol so not obviously fake am I! I dyed my hair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to point out OP, a few weeks ago you were a buff mixed race guy standing on a beach, now you're a buff fair haired white guy!"

Mixed race? I don't think so I'm far from it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Set up the account and immediately set filters so nobody can mail you then she can browse in peace without worrying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Set up the account and immediately set filters so nobody can mail you then she can browse in peace without worrying "

That sounds like a good idea .. does it actually get that bad ?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Set up the account and immediately set filters so nobody can mail you then she can browse in peace without worrying

That sounds like a good idea .. does it actually get that bad ?"
yes it does. I personally think that accounts should be set with filters in place by default

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Set up the account and immediately set filters so nobody can mail you then she can browse in peace without worrying

That sounds like a good idea .. does it actually get that bad ? yes it does. I personally think that accounts should be set with filters in place by default "
thanks for letting me know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Set up the account and immediately set filters so nobody can mail you then she can browse in peace without worrying

That sounds like a good idea .. does it actually get that bad ?"

It didn't for us because we were older and set filters immediately but according to some single women it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to point out OP, a few weeks ago you were a buff mixed race guy standing on a beach, now you're a buff fair haired white guy!"

He was also single but now married

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly."

He told me on a thread that he was now single and had a few socials at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly.

He told me on a thread that he was now single and had a few socials at clubs."

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1493434

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

The same thread twice in 5 minutes what went wrong with the first thread

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly.

He told me on a thread that he was now single and had a few socials at clubs."

I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe create a profile, put a filter / message block on for which ever groups you don’t want to receive messages from (including single men)

and then wink at (or message) people you like. They will be able to respond but others won’t be able to message you directly. That could work.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Just to point out OP, a few weeks ago you were a buff mixed race guy standing on a beach, now you're a buff fair haired white guy!

I am photo verified? Lol so not obviously fake am I! I dyed my hair "

You did well to get rid of your dreadlocks and straighten your hair. Looking good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to point out OP, a few weeks ago you were a buff mixed race guy standing on a beach, now you're a buff fair haired white guy!

I am photo verified? Lol so not obviously fake am I! I dyed my hair

You did well to get rid of your dreadlocks and straighten your hair. Looking good "

You Definitely have me confused with someone else lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly."

Thank you!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly.

He told me on a thread that he was now single and had a few socials at clubs."

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Sounds like something I'd be into OP - and I'm not a million miles away from you either.

Maybe check out my profile with her and see what she thinks, and if she likes what she sees drop me a line from your new couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like something I'd be into OP - and I'm not a million miles away from you either.

Maybe check out my profile with her and see what she thinks, and if she likes what she sees drop me a line from your new couples profile"

You haven’t seen a picture of her or any proof she exists.

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea


"Sounds like something I'd be into OP - and I'm not a million miles away from you either.

Maybe check out my profile with her and see what she thinks, and if she likes what she sees drop me a line from your new couples profile

You haven’t seen a picture of her or any proof she exists. "

This is true, which is why I've suggested they mail me from their new profile and, of course, I'll want to see what she looks like and take usual due dilligence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like something I'd be into OP - and I'm not a million miles away from you either.

Maybe check out my profile with her and see what she thinks, and if she likes what she sees drop me a line from your new couples profile

You haven’t seen a picture of her or any proof she exists.

This is true, which is why I've suggested they mail me from their new profile and, of course, I'll want to see what she looks like and take usual due dilligence. "

Can I interest you in some magic beans?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like something I'd be into OP - and I'm not a million miles away from you either.

Maybe check out my profile with her and see what she thinks, and if she likes what she sees drop me a line from your new couples profile

You haven’t seen a picture of her or any proof she exists. "

Yep she could be fake and not exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The op has always been open about being married if I remember rightly.

He told me on a thread that he was now single and had a few socials at clubs.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1493434"

He did say in linked thread "single now"

Well spotted

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Definitely a strange guy

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

New couples account, with filters active. Go to a club and get verified. Then choose people from the club or here, to get to know

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