FabSwingers.com forum: Uncomfortable with his body

By *im n Her 68 OP Couple
over a year ago

Garvagh

Hi my husband is 6'6" tall and has always been slim and he hates being so slim, he wouldn't be seen in public in a teeshirt etc, he always has a body warmer on, because hes so uncomfortable with his body type, so hes even more nervous about meeting people on here. Anbody else having parners with the same fears of rejection because of their body type ??

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

I think every guy in here, if they were brutally honest, would admit there’s something about themselves that they don’t like.

Everyone has their insecurities.

He should embrace the things he’s happy about and be open to compliments from others about the other stuff.

It’s so easy to focus on the self-perceived bad stuff at the expense of the things we actually do feel good about.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree with above, if people were honest most have some insecurities about their bodies and meeting others

We both do in different aspects, neither are 100% confident in our bodies but they are what they are.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has some level of body issues. It's a very hard thing to deal with and I'd say the confidence comes from a combination of things, some body related but many not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has insecurity issues it's how we handle them.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"Hi my husband is 6'6" tall and has always been slim and he hates being so slim, he wouldn't be seen in public in a teeshirt etc, he always has a body warmer on, because hes so uncomfortable with his body type, so hes even more nervous about meeting people on here. Anbody else having parners with the same fears of rejection because of their body type ??"

Ooof, yes.

Had years of feeling disgusting over how I look - would never take my shirt off on the beach, never go swimming or anything like that.

Plenty of comments like "you need a sandwich" or the like, too. I do feel for him.

Hopefully he'll see that there's all sorts of shapes and sizes, and people are into all sorts of body types, although I know it's not as easy as that.

Best wishes to you both and I dearly hope he gets 'better'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab is harder on body image for men than women. How many profiles looking for men say something like fit and hung?

Women aren’t put under the same pressure.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"I think fab is harder on body image for men than women. How many profiles looking for men say something like fit and hung?

Women aren’t put under the same pressure. "

I'm not sure about that, especially with some of the messages my wife's had (she's a larger lass), don't think it's easy for a lot of people tbf.

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By *hismMan
over a year ago

Ballygonowhere

I'm sure the majority of fat blokes on the site would sooner have your husbands frame over their own

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I have come to appreciate what you see is what you get !

I'm not trying to change the thread but I'm just quite happy I'm alive

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

Also this is not and should not be a place to judge just a physical identity

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I'm sure the majority of fat blokes on the site would sooner have your husbands frame over their own"

As a previous very skinny guy, we would rather have the fat blokes frame. It is much harder and takes even longer to go from skinny to built than it is from fat to built but there's a perception in society that we should be grateful we arent fat.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I understand body insecurities,I'm a large women with wobbles. I'd say a lot of people on here have things they don't like about their bodies too op.

That being said ,if we expect to meet people ,it's best to have honest pics up of both parties.

Does he want to meet other couples,as you will struggle on fab if your profile is just full of pics of you & just a pic of his cock.

Some people will really like his build and type ,others may not ,but we won't be for everyone.

Maybe you could try and do a photo shoot and try to build his confidence.He doesn't have to be naked if he's not comfortable with that,he could be dressed with head cropped off or a pic of you two together would be good .

Just something to give others an idea of him.

Many couples don't show the male on their profile and say well he doesn't get fabs or he's shy,that may be the case ,but if they won't have a pic taken ,will they have the courage to meet up with others?.

Good luck

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have put some pounds on and have a dad bod. It do mean I get more "no thank yous" which I understand.

So I guess I am the same as alot on here which is nice to know am not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand body insecurities,I'm a large women with wobbles. I'd say a lot of people on here have things they don't like about their bodies too op.

That being said ,if we expect to meet people ,it's best to have honest pics up of both parties.

Does he want to meet other couples,as you will struggle on fab if your profile is just full of pics of you & just a pic of his cock.

Some people will really like his build and type ,others may not ,but we won't be for everyone.

Just something to give others an idea of him.

Good luck

Miss"

We try to have a mix of us both .

But we understand what you are saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also on a side note, I think all these filtered pics do not help either, women tend to look very attractive in them but it's not real and can lead to some insecurities too

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By *igBobby82Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

parners with the same fears of rejection because of their body type ??"

Don't know if this helps but I used to have this from the other spectrum. The life and the club really helped me so much. My advice is find a place where you know people really don't care. I did. Its truly helped me so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think fab is harder on body image for men than women. How many profiles looking for men say something like fit and hung?

Women aren’t put under the same pressure. "

dont forget that the majority of women are choosier about their sexual partners and what there preferences are than the majority of men.

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