FabSwingers.com forum: Social or bed directly?

By *entleman Hammer OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

I’m asking lately what’s people like more? I’m a fun of social

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By *ilva69Man
over a year ago

stockport

I enjoyed the social as much as straight in

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think wife would like social then bed

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Social, invariably makes the bed stuff better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social initially

How would you know you want to go further without meeting socially?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social initially

How would you know you want to go further without meeting socially?"
bed X

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By *entleman Hammer OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

That’s my point

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Thanks to past bad experiences, I would much rather a social initially

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Social initially

How would you know you want to go further without meeting socially?"

They're really hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social initially

How would you know you want to go further without meeting socially?

They're really hot "

Even so, I'd still need to meet socially/no expectations.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

3 to 30 min social and then bed...or sofa. Know many male/female/couples who feel the same

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

Social would be nice before bed

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By *xploring2getherCouple
over a year ago

Desborough

Social first unless chatted at a Club

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we enjoy both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the meet really sometimes it's nice to chat and others you just wanna get down and dirty from the offset

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall

Love both bed or public

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I have been swinging for over 13 years and in that time I have only 3 social meets.

My time is precious and I am not looking for friendship.

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By *oe n JayCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Maybe a 30 minute social. Otherwise straight to the room. Why delay the inevitable

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By *entleman Hammer OP Man
over a year ago

dublin

30 mins is acceptable

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Maybe a 30 minute social. Otherwise straight to the room. Why delay the inevitable

And what if the “couple” you are supposed to meet is actually a single guy looking to suck cock?

THIS is why I have socials first

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Maybe a 30 minute social. Otherwise straight to the room. Why delay the inevitable

Because it isn't always inevitable. If for instance the slim, dark haired but in the photos aged twenty years, went grey overnight and turns up an hour late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done both. I will say the straight play luckily was one of the best meets I’ve had. However wiser now. Don’t want to be in the position where face to face it’s not quite right and you have to say. Risking hurt, financial loss of a hotel is booked or anger from a stranger when as a single woman I’m on my own. It’s not looking for friendship having a social, it’s confirming they are who they say they are, there’s attraction and boundaries can be discussed. I’ve said no after many coffees that would have been awkward if it was straight to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be the social... we like to know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it depends upon the person I'm meeting

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I always meet for a social first with zero expectation. Sometimes they end up naughty, sometimes not x

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford

Social def

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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago

Grimsby

Found the social very sexy. Watching wife flirt was awsome xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely a social 1st

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Generally social first

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

Social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only social if that's all we can manage. If I agree to meet someone it means I think they're hot and I want to fuck them. It's worked for me for the past 10 years or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bed!

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

We like a social first but we always say to a prospective playmate leave the afternoon/evening clear so that if the chemistry is there we can go on straight to play. Fucking on a first date is very exciting but it’s good to have the safety net of having chatted over a coffee. If the guy is really hot the social has been known to last only 10 minutes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social…… but

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Social is ace but am sure it’s ok to do either as long as safe

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By *M_darksideCouple
over a year ago

Worksop

Social but a girl has needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a social but then I do like to chat lol.

On the other hand, she would much rather get straight to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bed

I don't do socials for various reasons, however I do like to get to know someone via messages first x

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Ideally social, then if the chemistry is there onto fun.

We've found on a couple of occasions interest can subside with the pause in proceedings, but straight to play hasn't been our best experiences either.. So guess we're awkward!

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

We always insist on social first, would never put ourselves in a locked room with someone we didn't feel comfortable with.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Social first, would never go straight to an hotel

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By *xile down SouthMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

The times I've played have all come through social interaction, I've never had a pre arranged meet for sex only.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Social first. ALWAYS.

I need to know I feel safe and that you are who you say you are before I put myself behind closed doors with you.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Social first. ALWAYS.

I need to know I feel safe and that you are who you say you are before I put myself behind closed doors with you."
candid and clear advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first. Any hint of it 'turning into more' then I won't meet them at all. Nothing sexual at the social. If they can't behave like a decent human being for a short period of time I won't be getting alone with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social always. It gives you that pause point to say no and walk away if you aren’t attracted to them. If you just meet with the expectation of sex straight away that’s a hell of an awkward situation to be in if you don’t like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first. ALWAYS.

I need to know I feel safe and that you are who you say you are before I put myself behind closed doors with you."

Beautifully said

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Always a social first

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

I definitely think Forum participants (small % of Fab as we know) are more socially minded than average Fab user - either as in like group socials or want a social/connection before. Not a good thing or a bad thing but an observation. Particularly as a couple the vast majority of people I've come across pretty much get straight down to it after a quick chat and many single ladies the same meeting as single man. Maybe that's just the type of people I've ended up meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I definitely think Forum participants (small % of Fab as we know) are more socially minded than average Fab user - either as in like group socials or want a social/connection before. Not a good thing or a bad thing but an observation. Particularly as a couple the vast majority of people I've come across pretty much get straight down to it after a quick chat and many single ladies the same meeting as single man. Maybe that's just the type of people I've ended up meeting

The type of people who want to meet and fuck won't want to chat on forums. They just want to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the meet really sometimes it's nice to chat and others you just wanna get down and dirty from the offset

Exactly this...

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

"Depends on the meet really sometimes it's nice to chat and others you just wanna get down and dirty from the offset

Completely agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely a social first

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

Definitely a social first, unless at a club

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By *tickyPollCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

It’s a social first for us!! It’s all part of the build.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

If people can't take half an hour from their busy lives to meet for a social we certainly don't have the time to be naughty with them. Surely we all have to find out first if we are going to click and much more importantly, how respectful to others people are going to be

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Depending upon how in-depth the chat has been prior then a little social just to hold back temptation bit of a tease but just adds for later

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

Social first no exceptions, I enjoy the build up and can only go further if I feel comfortable with who I meet and often the social can be just as much fun anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social, no intention of doing anything, just see if there's a vibe

I find it makes the tension far more intense.

I did bed straight away and it felt a little empty

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

I’m a big fan of social first, let’s get to know each other….

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

I'm happy with a social unless the woman insists you jump in her bed,so who am i to argue i always do as I'm told

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By *weetest thingWoman
over a year ago

East Midlands

I think it’s down to personal preference I once received a really abusive message from a guy I’d never had contact with judging me on my veris and how easy it is to have sex with me! Firstly it’s a site for nsa not exchanging knitting patterns , if I’m not for you pass me by, if I’ve chatted with someone a long time maybe by WhatsApp then sometimes I’ll bypass a social or have a social at mine I make it clear there are no guarantees I’ll play & that there’s no pressure on either of us I never assume a guy will fancy me in person lol sometimes I’ll have a coffee date or a drink in a pub all depends

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"I’ve done both. I will say the straight play luckily was one of the best meets I’ve had. However wiser now. Don’t want to be in the position where face to face it’s not quite right and you have to say. Risking hurt, financial loss of a hotel is booked or anger from a stranger when as a single woman I’m on my own. It’s not looking for friendship having a social, it’s confirming they are who they say they are, there’s attraction and boundaries can be discussed. I’ve said no after many coffees that would have been awkward if it was straight to play. "

This for us

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Social.. otherwise might as well just be a unpaid street worker

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"If people can't take half an hour from their busy lives to meet for a social we certainly don't have the time to be naughty with them. Surely we all have to find out first if we are going to click and much more importantly, how respectful to others people are going to be

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social.. otherwise might as well just be a unpaid street worker "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me even tho I say bed first, no social, it still doesn't guarantee sex. You can still change your mind once there and leave.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Depending upon how in-depth the chat has been prior then a little social just to hold back temptation bit of a tease but just adds for later

We had been chatting with a guy for weeks prior to our visit to Isle of Man back in June for TT. He was visiting as well and the chat all seemed good. We deemed him as a respectful guy. When we asked for him to meet us for a coffee before any fun he said he didn't have time to stand in a queue for a coffee and a chat and just wanted sex

Well you can imagine what our answer was. He then told us he didn't like our tone and managed to block us before we blocked him. You can't beat a good old 'am an idiot' filter to save us meeting these fools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social to begin with.

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By *ent1000Man
over a year ago

swanley

Socials are part of the fun and pleasure who doesn’t enjoy a flirt n a tease to building sexual tension... never a bad thing

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

While I’ve done both, given the potential number of fake profiles on fab a social is a good filter, but also gives you a chance to see if their personalities are what you’re looking for. I know it’s sex but I want to like someone as a person as well. It doesn’t mean I’m looking for a relationship.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

"Social initially

How would you know you want to go further without meeting socially?"

I actively avoid those that don't want to social. They can launch straight into bed with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social

It's always good to build up to sexual connections and when you finally get to it it's more enjoyable...

Saying that straight to it is great if both just need it there then

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Love the social first, that sexual tension is such a turn on

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

First met is always social for know talk and see if is chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social.. otherwise might as well just be a unpaid street worker "

Wtaf!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me even tho I say bed first, no social, it still doesn't guarantee sex. You can still change your mind once there and leave. "

Have you ever turned someone down when they turned up for bed?

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By *onynickiCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Our time and fun time are very precious

Straight to bed for us!

Xxx

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