FabSwingers.com forum: One sided open relationship

By *ewYoungFun321 OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

Is anyone in a open relation and is anyone in a one sided open relationship??

Looking for advice and experiences doing this. Like for example of there was boundaries for no intercourse or just kissing.

Is it best to do a don't tell me I don't want to know way or would you want to know the fine details of what the other half has done ??

Very interested in this so any help and advice is very appreciated

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't agree to one sided anything for me.

But what works for happily consenting adults varies between each and every one.

It's the sort of thing you can only work out with your partner as to what can work for everyone involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone in a open relation and is anyone in a one sided open relationship??

Looking for advice and experiences doing this. Like for example of there was boundaries for no intercourse or just kissing.

Is it best to do a don't tell me I don't want to know way or would you want to know the fine details of what the other half has done ??

Very interested in this so any help and advice is very appreciated

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best to have a discussion with your partner and come to an agreement on the boundries you would both like

.. talking is key ... make a solid foundation and this will support the structure of your relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what’s comfortable for you two personally

Like you saying no sex only kissing is great if that’s what you’re comfortable with

Other couples have had the opposite, sex only, no kissing

There isn’t a hard and fast rule, it’s genuinely completely made up of your own rules and comfort levels

Open communication between your both is key, clear boundaries and lots of discussions between you both and anyone else you involve

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It all depends on you guys, no one can tell you the one true way to do it right because there isn't one, though some might try!

Best bet is open and honest conversation, try and lay every scenario you've played out in your heads on the table and ask how you'd feel, ask what the limits are (and it is very important to have limits) and most important, keep those lines of communication wide open for as long as you dabble in the play/lifestyle. Take time to check in before meets, after meets and the day after the meet as possible to experience some sort of drop after too.

TBH they are the rules we use mainly for BDSM play but they apply here too!

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By *ewYoungFun321 OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"It depends what’s comfortable for you two personally

Like you saying no sex only kissing is great if that’s what you’re comfortable with

Other couples have had the opposite, sex only, no kissing

There isn’t a hard and fast rule, it’s genuinely completely made up of your own rules and comfort levels

Open communication between your both is key, clear boundaries and lots of discussions between you both and anyone else you involve "

That's very true

I guess there is no wrong way to do it really as long as everything has been agreed on prior to it.

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By *ewYoungFun321 OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"It all depends on you guys, no one can tell you the one true way to do it right because there isn't one, though some might try!

TBH they are the rules we use mainly for BDSM play but they apply here too! "

Yes! Playing the thoughts out in your head would be great actually.

Got to live the fantasies in your head too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends what’s comfortable for you two personally

Like you saying no sex only kissing is great if that’s what you’re comfortable with

Other couples have had the opposite, sex only, no kissing

There isn’t a hard and fast rule, it’s genuinely completely made up of your own rules and comfort levels

Open communication between your both is key, clear boundaries and lots of discussions between you both and anyone else you involve

That's very true

I guess there is no wrong way to do it really as long as everything has been agreed on prior to it.

Bang on keep it all open ...hide nothing and discuss with your partner all the time and make sure she still happy to continue

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By *haz46Woman
over a year ago

Stockport

I have been in one in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns out I was in one during my (now defunct) marriage, only she didn’t tell me

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Just to emphasise what most others have said - trust and openness are essential. There's no such thing as a one-sided open marriage, if you are not doing it with consent, it's cheating.

Two of my three marriages were open. One we both shared each other, the other I was allowed to play elsewhere. Both worked well because we agreed everything beforehand.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

When we decided for logistical reasons that we would be open to single meets away from each other we came up with a list of what each of us would be comfortable with the other partner doing and not doing on there single meets.

It really depends on what you are comfortable with, it will always change and boundaries may move.We took one step at a time..

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By *ewYoungFun321 OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

"When we decided for logistical reasons that we would be open to single meets away from each other we came up with a list of what each of us would be comfortable with the other partner doing and not doing on there single meets.

How come you decided to open up and meet separate ? Personal question so I understand if you don't want to answer on here

It really depends on what you are comfortable with, it will always change and boundaries may move.We took one step at a time.."

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

How come you decided to open up and meet separate ? Personal question so I understand if you don't want to answer on here

It really depends on what you are comfortable with, it will always change and boundaries may move.We took one step at a time.."

Because of logistics with childcare and job hours so it was easier to meet seperatly, plus also because of fantasies as well that only came to light the further our swinging journey became.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is pretty much the main thing.. talk talk and talk more.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

We have a one sided relationship.

Female plays with who she likes, male doesn't have any interest in other women. We do meet men together at times though.

No rules, however for her it's only about sex, not poly.

Although no rules, expectation is basically that she does what she wants with the understanding that our relationship is the overall priority.

What she does, who she meets, when she meets is 100% down to her.

The whole basis of our relationship is that she gets to behave (from a sexual point of view) like a single woman and has complete sexual freedom.

Works very well for us, but obviously isn't for everyone.

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

Was in a one sided one with an ex, she didnt want me to go with women but said would go with men as swinging was my thing and she was open to trying. Ended up as stag and vixen and loved every second of it. She did with me and separately and the whole lot was a huge sexy buzz.

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

"We have a one sided relationship.

Female plays with who she likes, male doesn't have any interest in other women. We do meet men together at times though.

No rules, however for her it's only about sex, not poly.

Although no rules, expectation is basically that she does what she wants with the understanding that our relationship is the overall priority.

What she does, who she meets, when she meets is 100% down to her.

The whole basis of our relationship is that she gets to behave (from a sexual point of view) like a single woman and has complete sexual freedom.

Works very well for us, but obviously isn't for everyone. "

Yes this what i had with an ex was amazing

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