FabSwingers.com forum: First time swinging, how was it for you?

By *ookiewithcream OP Couple
over a year ago

London

Were you nervous? Did you go thinking that you were sex gods and were disappointed that it didn’t plan out how you imagined it?

What would you do differently and what advice would you give to a first-time couple?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was so nervous. It was fine.

I felt anything other than a sex goddess before but exhilerated afterwards

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think I'd do anything differently.

Advice? Make sure you know what your boundaries are and stick with them and don't be afraid to say 'no' at any point.

Have a great time

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Very nervous, but once I started kissing his wife and rubbing her cunt through her black Lacy knickers as she stroked my cock, I soon began to relax

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By *ookiewithcream OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"I don't think I'd do anything differently.

Advice? Make sure you know what your boundaries are and stick with them and don't be afraid to say 'no' at any point.

Have a great time

Thank you, we will remember that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nervous initially but met a great couple so all was fine

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

Very very nervous

I don't know about advice.

Check in with each other. Know that anyone can stop play at anytime and that's fine.

Communicate beforehand..and after of course. And in the middle. All the communication!!!

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

My first ever experience was with a single lady, that was ok .

But my first ever experience with a couple I was nervous as hell.

They were such a lovely couple and realised I was nervous, so the husband said that his wife and I should go and have fun first and that he would come and join us in half an hour . I ended ended up having the best night of my life . An experience I'd love to enjoy again. So any couples want to give this inexperienced guy some more lessons in 3sum fun send me a message

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By *assP69Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We decided on a Saturday to go to Chams for the first time. It was one of those conversations that you have where you don't really believe it's going to happen. Like, something will come up. Something will get in the way of it. But then Amy turned up at mine. Then she started getting ready. The universe was actually allowing this to happen. Then I was getting ready. I'd lost the ability to string a sentence together. We got in the car. Ass sweated the whole way there. Still nothing that would force me to turn the car around happened. Then we were halfway there. Then we were 2 mins away. Then we arrived. Holy fuck.

We stood outside not understanding how to get in for what felt like an eternity. It was probably a couple minutes tops. We ended up following another couple in.

We were greeted by a half naked guy in a pair of jeans. We looked at each other. Nervous laugh. It looked like we were actually going through with this.

We signed everything we needed to sign. We were shown around fully dressed. Felt uncomfortable as hell. All eyes on us. Or so it seemed. I wanted to go home.

Then we got our kit off. We got a drink. We relaxed. Then we went and fucked in the porn cinema. We suddenly felt at home. Why oh why did it take us so long to do this?! That was pretty much the burning question after about 30 mins of being there. Ended up meeting a lovely couple. Amy licked a pussy for the first time. We fucked in every room we could find. Then we went home smiling ear to ear.

Fast forward 20 months later and we now have a whole load of memories and stories from that place both funny and filthy. We love it. We've met some amazing people and we can't wait to get back there this Saturday

Scott xx

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By *ookiewithcream OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Very nervous, but once I started kissing his wife and rubbing her cunt through her black Lacy knickers as she stroked my cock, I soon began to relax

That's really awesome to know.. I imagine for the guys it's slightly more complicated if there is nerves and if they cannot get passed it.. It would be interesting to find out how to navigate past this, if this is possible?

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By *KentMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

The first time was with an ex, we found it quite nerve wracking beforehand, but as soon as it started it was amazing!

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By *ookiewithcream OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"We decided on a Saturday to go to Chams for the first time. It was one of those conversations that you have where you don't really believe it's going to happen. Like, something will come up. Something will get in the way of it. But then Amy turned up at mine. Then she started getting ready. The universe was actually allowing this to happen. Then I was getting ready. I'd lost the ability to string a sentence together. We got in the car. Ass sweated the whole way there. Still nothing that would force me to turn the car around happened. Then we were halfway there. Then we were 2 mins away. Then we arrived. Holy fuck.

We stood outside not understanding how to get in for what felt like an eternity. It was probably a couple minutes tops. We ended up following another couple in.

We were greeted by a half naked guy in a pair of jeans. We looked at each other. Nervous laugh. It looked like we were actually going through with this.

We signed everything we needed to sign. We were shown around fully dressed. Felt uncomfortable as hell. All eyes on us. Or so it seemed. I wanted to go home.

Scott xx"

Thank you Scott, that such a lovely story.. 20 months? I guess once you get passed the first experience it becomes easier.

Danielle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t know still waiting lol

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By *assP69Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Thank you Scott, that such a lovely story.. 20 months? I guess once you get passed the first experience it becomes easier.

Danielle x "

Absolutely yeah. My ass no longer sweats on the drive up there haha.

It's like anything to be honest. The more you do it, the more it becomes the norm. We still both get butterflies before we get there but we've been enough to know that as soon as we step through the door, we'll feel fine. The scariest part of anything you do that is nerve-wracking is always the bit leading up to it. You'll be fine. And if you do dislike it, at least you know and will no longer wonder xx

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By *ookiewithcream OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Thank you Scott, that such a lovely story.. 20 months? I guess once you get passed the first experience it becomes easier.

Danielle x

Absolutely yeah. My ass no longer sweats on the drive up there haha.

That’s a fair point.. my partner and I have both said that we can at least try if it doesn’t work out we are enough for each other. We just see it as a way to enhance our already great sex life.

And butterflies is always good I guess.. it’s the feeling of believe alive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first meet was amazing, the second even better - there is definitely a bit of nerves the first time!

My advice would be to meet with a couple you genuinely like / click with, have drinks and chat, hang out like you do with friends. Then move to a hotel room and just go with the flow.

Don’t be surprised by the emotions - could be a bit of jealousy or being insecure, could be being turned on far more than you expected seeing your partner with someone else.

Btw - the best part of swinging for me is the sex with your partner afterwards at home, the next morning when you are both high from the night before! The shared secret is excellent haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first time I was nevers and I still get nevers when meeting someone new.

My best advice would be, don't over think it, just go with the flow.

If you put up to many barriers you are going to be thinking about that and not enjoying the moment.

Also the first meet never really goes very well so it's worth giving it a second meet, unless it was really bad.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Very nervous, but once I started kissing his wife and rubbing her cunt through her black Lacy knickers as she stroked my cock, I soon began to relax

Getting past nerves is just proving to yourself you can do it. We don't expect anyone to perform like pornstars and many ways it's better to cum fast, then the girls can play with each other for a bit while the guys recover and get hard again, then round 2 is where you get to feel like a sex god.

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By *ueandbillCouple
over a year ago

Leyland

Not very good tbh, maybe too much drink to calm the nerves spoiled it

Second was better lol

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Wasn't great experience for us. R raised the subject of swinging with me and once I'd decided to give it a go I wanted to go to a club ASAP before I talked myself back out of it. We ended up going to one about 3 days later. We were both so nervous and it was fairly quiet when we got there (and for most of the time we stayed) so we really stood out as newbies. Every time R left me to go to the bar etc the single guys would start talking to me which made me more uncomfortable. Ultimately this club night and one of the meets we had after put me off so much I asked R if we could stop. Ended up coming off fab for 6 years before I surprised R by saying I'd go to Xtasia if he wanted, as I knew he'd really wanted to try that club. That was Oct last year and this Time round we've has far more fun. My advice for newbies is do your research, read club reviews, talk about what sort of night you want to go on and whether you go on a couples & ladies only night etc.

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By *randmrssubdomCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

For me as a woman who has not had the best of relationships in the past one word

LIBERATED

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

Whether the first time or later, as a couple that mostly plays with other couples, to make sure that both parts of the other couple are genuinely attracted and interested to both of you in your couple. Else, sex will be bad for one of you and the overall experience also bad for both of you.

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By *ookiewithcream OP Couple
over a year ago

London

"Wasn't great experience for us. R raised the subject of swinging with me and once I'd decided to give it a go I wanted to go to a club ASAP before I talked myself back out of it. We ended up going to one about 3 days later. We were both so nervous and it was fairly quiet when we got there (and for most of the time we stayed) so we really stood out as newbies. Every time R left me to go to the bar etc the single guys would start talking to me which made me more uncomfortable. Ultimately this club night and one of the meets we had after put me off so much I asked R if we could stop. Ended up coming off fab for 6 years before I surprised R by saying I'd go to Xtasia if he wanted, as I knew he'd really wanted to try that club. That was Oct last year and this Time round we've has far more fun. My advice for newbies is do your research, read club reviews, talk about what sort of night you want to go on and whether you go on a couples & ladies only night etc. "

That’s good to know that sometimes it can take a little while but that once you’re ready it’s a great journey. I suppose everyone has their own pace they travel at.

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By *enerifehotwifecplCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It was surreal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was very nervous, but was also quite surreal thinking i'm off to meet a couple for some intimately frisky fun.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

"I was so nervous. It was fine.

I felt anything other than a sex goddess before but exhilerated afterwards"

Yep that was us too. I spent days thinking of ways to back out of it but I'm glad I went. Lx

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By *andyandrickCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Our 1st time was nothing like how we had planned, We decided to meet but struggled to find the right guy, So we went out having a few drinks and looked on the swingers website and a guy had in boxed, MRS said "he's the one" He said he was an hour away so we went back to our hotel and gave him the room number, he walked in and we all hit it off straight away (good job really) anyway he gave MRS a great evening and I loved watching and made a video, we went on to meet this guy another three times until he moved away.

Now we would never dream of meeting someone in our room it would have to be in a public place

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By *usthetwoofusCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We first went to libertys and was nervous as hell only last year ended up in the main room we did not play as was our first time. We had sex in there with each other as a starter but could see my wife was highly turned on now but it was the end if night so off to bed. Booked again this time though my wife could not wait to get on that big bed still never had sex but she was played with orally both ways next morning she felt a bit guilty but I reassured her it’s what I wanted. Then onto Gran Canaria last sep went to Venus for the day loved it bearing in mind still not fully gone for it yet in terms of swinging but we are off to GC at the end of tte month and I have this burning desire to take it to another level but we will see. Sorry no pics yet on my profile still not massively confident and to scared to be outed but hey ho I look at all my friends and we know we have this secret but it’s ours and we love it

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By *NV14INVCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

We chose to try our first time in a club just over 12 months ago. Extremely nervous but also confident. End result was neither of us got very excited. We have now put this down to the club we chose and are now looking at trying for a second time. I guess at least we have some idea of what to expect and I think we will both be more relaxed.

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By *inkycouple692023Couple
over a year ago

doncaster

I was shaking like a shitting dog!!

Must have taken us 2 hours sat outside a bar in Tenerife to pluck enough courage up to go into the swinging club

Fine with everything now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was nervous as hell as was 22 and they early 40s, had butterflies doing somersaults in my belly but the couple were so chill and welcoming the soon relaxed and enjoyed it

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

read our story in the Fab "stories section" ... search "journey to hotwife" x Anne (about our first time in Madrid)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was a bit nervous joining a couple but I knew it would be a lot of fun

And looked forward to telling hubby when I got back home

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