FabSwingers.com forum: Are “sexless” marriages really sexless?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get everyone has their reasons for being here. Truthful or not. However when a married man discloses to me “I am married but it’s sexless” how true is it?

Do men just get bored with the marriage sex and just one person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'll be true for some men just as it will for women.

Both sexes are equally good at lying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the individual but I wouldn't say the reason is majority boredom related. When a relationship isn't right, sex is one of the first things to shut down. Maybe it's completely gone or not what is used to be, some people would include intimacy in that too. Not that I condone it but most people are just reaching out to feel that connection with someone that they aren't getting at home. Yes there's occasions that people lie and cheat just for the sake of it but you can't put all men in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It'll be true for some men just as it will for women.

Both sexes are equally good at lying."

I’m talking about my experience from messages I receive. So can only say what’s been said to me from a man. I understand women do this too but are less likely to disclose

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The definition of sexless varies apparently. One I saw says a relationship is considered sexless after one month

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

They probably lack good sex at least. When things aren't right it's impossible to get into the headspace for good sex.

Regardless, I don't want to be anyone's dirty little secret while they can't be arsed to sort out their home life

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

truths and the internet ...ummmm

90% of whats said on fab can be taken with a pinch of salt for several reasons the main one being attention alot of people will say things for attention and alot of people will lie to get what they want male or female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most will exaggerate to seem a bit more moral and give themselves a valid reason. End of the day they signed up to the site so their sex life is probably lacking somewhere.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

They can be, for many reasons.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I've heard tales of sexless relationships, so I totally believe marriages can be sexless. However I will never understand how those couples won't address the issue but also won't split.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"truths and the internet ...ummmm

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By *apybarasCouple
over a year ago

High Lighthouse!

"I've heard tales of sexless relationships, so I totally believe marriages can be sexless. However I will never understand how those couples won't address the issue but also won't split."

Maybe the issue can't be sorted, illness for example.

Maybe they can't/don't want to split: still friends, financial reasons, kids, etc.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I've heard tales of sexless relationships, so I totally believe marriages can be sexless. However I will never understand how those couples won't address the issue but also won't split.

Maybe the issue can't be sorted, illness for example.

Maybe they can't/don't want to split: still friends, financial reasons, kids, etc."

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By *hapLeedsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

The Mrs and I didn’t sleep in the same bed for 5 years before we split, divorced now and enjoying life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've heard tales of sexless relationships, so I totally believe marriages can be sexless. However I will never understand how those couples won't address the issue but also won't split.

Maybe the issue can't be sorted, illness for example.

Maybe they can't/don't want to split: still friends, financial reasons, kids, etc."

If wife has given consent then fair enough but to cheat for the above reasons

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

"I get everyone has their reasons for being here. Truthful or not. However when a married man discloses to me “I am married but it’s sexless” how true is it?

Do men just get bored with the marriage sex and just one person? "

From my own experience porn and bragging rights, grass is always greener.

If you don't dress up in stockings and suspenders and lay there longing for their cock and 2 minutes whenever they want until they are done, constantly blame you for their lack of ... its your fault and sexless marriage.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I get everyone has their reasons for being here. Truthful or not. However when a married man discloses to me “I am married but it’s sexless” how true is it?

Do men just get bored with the marriage sex and just one person? "
My ex used to tell women he was in a sexless marriage. To be honest the only time he didn't have sex was when he chose not too.

His new women seemed shocked when the discovered that he actually had a very good sex life x

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I've heard tales of sexless relationships, so I totally believe marriages can be sexless. However I will never understand how those couples won't address the issue but also won't split.

Maybe the issue can't be sorted, illness for example.

Maybe they can't/don't want to split: still friends, financial reasons, kids, etc.

If wife has given consent then fair enough but to cheat for the above reasons "

This was my thinking too

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

SOME TIMES ITS THE BEST WAY.

Go to bottom of my profile and read.

I am a million% honest.

Wish fab had these relationship select options added.

1.Cheating without knowledge.

And

2.My partner knows and accepts.

I would tick No2.

I'm Married

Nothing for 15years

No even a kiss

Still share same bed which shows there is no animosity.

We have 2 houses

1.UK

1.Cyprus

Brought and paid for, hard bloody work.

We are both In Cyprus now LOL

When she is in a GOOD MOOD LOL

She is the Nicest person to be around.

We have loads of other things in common and we both love.

**Don't think we will ever split**

34 years now married

She knows I play and in early days said.

If you must, go on then but never tell me unless I ask directly.

There you go it's 100% possible and exceptable to and for some.

A relationship does not have to be about SEX always.

It can be a care-understanding-likes-dreams-hopes.

Mine is NOT CHEATING and I'm sure there are 1000s of others in same boat, as well as 1000s lying of cheating partners of both sexes around.

That's life

That's.

"FabWhoGivesAMonkiesSwing"

For you.

Be safe-Be happy-smile everyone.

BigT xx

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

Depends on the person I guess.

Mr Dot would describe himself as sexless when it's been 3 days tbf.

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By *arklong88Man
over a year ago

Portslade /porthmadog

I read that less than 10 times a year is classes as a sexless marriage

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