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By *iniskirtcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

Why do many couples and single women demand that anyone contacting them writes a long message.

We get that one liners like 'can we meet now for a fuck' will get you nowhere - but is it necessary for people to write an essay?

A well written few lines is a great way to break the ice and open the conversation.

Besides, when you open the gates to messages from single men you get inundated, so it would be impossible to read them if they were all long.

We prefer a simple message of introduction - especially if it is a nice compliment about us or our profile.

What do you think?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Not sure anyone wants an essay in a message. We're interested to see if anybody does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send just a compliment, I make a lot of effort writing full messages relating and referencing the profile and their interests. It’s incredibly frustrating when you put in effort and your message doesn’t even get read.

I will try your suggestion of a compliment and see how that goes.

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By *iniskirtcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"Not sure anyone wants an essay in a message. We're interested to see if anybody does."

We're referring to the very common phrase (or demand) we see on couples and single woman profiles 'One liners get deleted, put some effort in' or 'short replies get deleted, write a proper message' etc etc.

We also try to answer every message we get - unless it is totally disrespectful or exceptionally dumb, then we won't usually bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is why I think winks are misunderstood when it comes to single guys and ladies and couples being awash with messages.. quick easy way to filter out without anyone having to write an essay or state as such in their profile.

That said one line emails are pants.. messages that show a profile has not been read are pants. it doesn't take too much effort to make an effort and try and stand out amongst the many.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

We certainly don't want an essay, but rather a brief message that has been constructed with our profile in mind and definitely not a copy and paste!

Mr

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By *iniskirtcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

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By *iniskirtcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


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I will try your suggestion of a compliment and see how that goes. "

A nice compliment usually works with us. If we get a message from a man that's along the lines of "I have a huge cock and I'll give you the best fuck you've ever had" we usually won't reply. Because it's very presumptuous to think you can give a hotwife 'the best fuck they've ever had' because they've most likely had some extremely good fucks already! It also says a lot if a message is ALL about the writer, and nothing about the person they are writing to.

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By *iniskirtcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"We certainly don't want an essay, but rather a brief message that has been constructed with our profile in mind and definitely not a copy and paste!

Mr"

Yes, agree - the copy and paste messages are rather obvious, aren't they!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve seen any profiles asking for an essay, maybe a tailored message sure but then all messages to someone should be tailored

The alternative is a copy and paste, no one appreciates flyers

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By *iniskirtcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"I don’t think I’ve seen any profiles asking for an essay, maybe a tailored message sure but then all messages to someone should be tailored

The alternative is a copy and paste, no one appreciates flyers "

We've definitely seen people asking specifically for longer messages - maybe not an essay, we used that word slightly sarcastically and didn't expect anyone to take it literally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think I’ve seen any profiles asking for an essay, maybe a tailored message sure but then all messages to someone should be tailored

The alternative is a copy and paste, no one appreciates flyers "

To support the OP here.. there are a lot of profiles out there that stipulate what a message must contain and all that jazz.. kind of takes the fun out of learning about people.

A tailored message with a cheeky little flirt here and there to get things going I find seems to be wok.. but then I like to think im a nice guy not a rude arsehole

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By *artfordBlokeMan
over a year ago

Dartford

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To support the OP here.. there are a lot of profiles out there that stipulate what a message must contain and all that jazz.. kind of takes the fun out of learning about people. [Quote]

I understand the " put x in your message to show you've read the profile " bit on some profiles but a lot seem to want some real mark twain shit to be put into a message that stands a huge chance of not even being read.

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By *av-RickMan
over a year ago

Nearby

Whatever site you're messaging someone on the message needs to be long enough to say something, whether it's a compliment on the recipient or an introduction about yourself.

Too long and potentially they lose the point of the message, or its too much unsolicited information. So it should also mean if the message is too short it says nothing and it gives the recipient little to 'work' on.

To me a first message gauges interest to see if there is merit in a conversation striking up...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

To be totally honest a 1st message doesn't bother me at all, as long as it's not a cock pic or just Hi.

It can be one line or 20 I don't care, if I like the profile I'll reply if I don't I won't regardless of what the message says.

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


" We get that one liners like 'can we meet now for a fuck' will get you nowhere - but is it necessary for people to write an essay?

A well written few lines is a great way to break the ice and open the conversation...

We've definitely seen people asking specifically for longer messages - maybe not an essay, we used that word slightly sarcastically and didn't expect anyone to take it literally. "

So, you think a few short lines is good? And they're asking for more than a one liner, which can easily be a few short lines. But they're being unreasonable and demanding essays? Which is apparently a sarcastic exaggeration when all they ask is for something more than the same old one liners. Which you agree are crap, and a few short lines is fine. But they're being unreasonable?

I don't quite get what the problem is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" We get that one liners like 'can we meet now for a fuck' will get you nowhere - but is it necessary for people to write an essay?

A well written few lines is a great way to break the ice and open the conversation...

We've definitely seen people asking specifically for longer messages - maybe not an essay, we used that word slightly sarcastically and didn't expect anyone to take it literally.

So, you think a few short lines is good? And they're asking for more than a one liner, which can easily be a few short lines. But they're being unreasonable and demanding essays? Which is apparently a sarcastic exaggeration when all they ask is for something more than the same old one liners. Which you agree are crap, and a few short lines is fine. But they're being unreasonable?

I don't quite get what the problem is."

Ok lets use your profile as the example.. thought out well written, more than enough for a semi intelligent soul to pick out some points that might provoke conversation.. a few short lines is rightly and fairly expected.. however, some ladies profile come plotless and are literally one line.. what is a person to do with that.

then conversely there really is profiles demanding a specific response with specific pics etc.. fine but half the time they dont have pics on display themselves..

ultimately its horses for courses but for a lot of guys its a numbers game and a multi used cut and paste until they get a hit is their approach.. delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be totally honest a 1st message doesn't bother me at all, as long as it's not a cock pic or just Hi.

It can be one line or 20 I don't care, if I like the profile I'll reply if I don't I won't regardless of what the message says.

Mrs "

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be totally honest a 1st message doesn't bother me at all, as long as it's not a cock pic or just Hi.

It can be one line or 20 I don't care, if I like the profile I'll reply if I don't I won't regardless of what the message says.

Mrs "

SO there we have it boys.. it's all in the profile and not having a million pics of your dick

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