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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion " What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything either | |||
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"Manners make the the man" indeed or the lady or the couple | |||
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"Same, the world could do with more kindness, far too many people suffering especially the last few years that even a little kindness can go a long way to help lift others moods and make the day that bit brighter" mate I'm totally with you on that. I try and put light in everything and everyone I meet. Why wouldn't you | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything either" ok I don't think I've ever found politeness awkward but we are all different with different experiences | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion " Yes, odd that it is frequently requested in profiles but rarely valued on here. | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion " How do you know your politeness and kindness puts people off? Personally we're only interested in polite people. | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything eitherok I don't think I've ever found politeness awkward but we are all different with different experiences " I tend to start messages regarding possible meets as follows: “I’m polite, confident and comfortable with spontaneity (tonight would be good!) or a ‘no expectations’ social first, while ultimately looking to pamper tease and please you, of course! I’m sensual, tactile and fun - experienced and happy with vanilla-ish, or to push boundaries if desired.” Too polite? | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything eitherok I don't think I've ever found politeness awkward but we are all different with different experiences " I have. There's a level of extreme politeness I find horribly awkward. | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything eitherok I don't think I've ever found politeness awkward but we are all different with different experiences I have. There's a level of extreme politeness I find horribly awkward. " Yes me too. Still not clear why OP think politeness is the turn off. I would assume that is not the reason. Rather that there is not a turn-on from other things? Also I've found sometimes the people who makes the biggest deal about being polite and respectful can turn into the least polite and respectful people imaginable when something doesn't go as they wish. Not accusing you of this OP but a few experiences have made me wary. | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion How do you know your politeness and kindness puts people off? Personally we're only interested in polite people." had people say you don't seem like a dom, because I've not been aggressive. If your any kind of person you understand that you can do things more subtlety | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything eitherok I don't think I've ever found politeness awkward but we are all different with different experiences I tend to start messages regarding possible meets as follows: “I’m polite, confident and comfortable with spontaneity (tonight would be good!) or a ‘no expectations’ social first, while ultimately looking to pamper tease and please you, of course! I’m sensual, tactile and fun - experienced and happy with vanilla-ish, or to push boundaries if desired.” Too polite?" Not too polite but too general and most people would say something similar. Doesn't make you stand out from hundreds of others. Better to start by highlighting something in the profile or status of the person who are writing to. | |||
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"Politeness & kindness should be a constant and is far from a turn off. Mrs " I'm pleased | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion How do you know your politeness and kindness puts people off? Personally we're only interested in polite people.had people say you don't seem like a dom, because I've not been aggressive. If your any kind of person you understand that you can do things more subtlety " I’ve been described as ‘sensually dominant’ and rather like that description. In the same way as I lead a team of people at work without having to shout at them, be rude, or abuse them. Dominance has nothing to do with aggression. But some obviously like aggressive, I guess. | |||
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"Manners are definitely an attractive feature. Some people on Fab have impeccable manners. Others not so much. Like in real life. " Yes but if you send a generic cut and paste message even if polite and well-mannered, then it’s unlikely to get you very far. | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion How do you know your politeness and kindness puts people off? Personally we're only interested in polite people.had people say you don't seem like a dom, because I've not been aggressive. If your any kind of person you understand that you can do things more subtlety " Probably they don't fully understand the different ways of being a dom | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion What makes you believe this? I find excessive and unnecessary politeness awkward and uncomfortable. Politeness isn't a weakness nor is kindness but it's not something that entitles anyone to anything eitherok I don't think I've ever found politeness awkward but we are all different with different experiences I tend to start messages regarding possible meets as follows: “I’m polite, confident and comfortable with spontaneity (tonight would be good!) or a ‘no expectations’ social first, while ultimately looking to pamper tease and please you, of course! I’m sensual, tactile and fun - experienced and happy with vanilla-ish, or to push boundaries if desired.” Too polite?" It implies that you are too eager to please. In Other words simping | |||
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"No I totally agree, and some see it as a sign of weakness. I know who I am and what I am . I don't need to be aggressive or rude to put my point across " Are you saying people prefer aggressive and rude? | |||
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"I seem to find some people see my politeness and kindness as a turn off. It's not a sign of being weak or soft in my opinion, it's just having good manners. Would be interested in other people's opinion " If it turns them off that's their problem mate. There is no need to be anything other than respectful and polite. I have received horrendous messages on here and the ladies must get even worse. Courtesy costs nothing and I'd sooner be a nice guy that turns someone off than a fucking wanker | |||
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"I think some people think because I’m respectful or polite I can’t be a deviant, I just think it’s a bit full on if my opening message is I want to bend you over and spank you! Lol " Oh I've had some that open with I'd love to lick your shitbox and fist you.. I mean seriously...... | |||
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