FabSwingers.com forum: Taking a break

By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

My wife and I have decided to take a break from meeting/playing/club meets. This wasn’t due to a negative experience at all, but just to get back to ‘normal’ life for a while.

I just wondered how common this was and what has prompted others to have a break.

Also, how long did you have a break for and did you find it difficult not to be lured back in!?

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

Don’t all respond at once.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I do so occasionally. Currently taking one now. My normal play with very few exceptions was leaving me feeling deflated and not good.

Every few years i feel the need to reset... although this time there are a few other reasons.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

We take frequent breaks. Sometimes we hide our profile. Sometimes we don’t.

We come back when we feel the swinging itch needs scratching.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

We don't "take a break" we just accept that there are at times other priorities in life. We can easily go 3 months without going to a club or meeting someone but we're not having a break, just letting life's priorities take over

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

This is just a hobby for me not a lifestyle.

I haven't met anyone new in 3 years partly by choice partly due to life and health and other shit going on.

Fab is very low on my list of priorities and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if I never met again.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We go to a club an average of about once a month, so guess we have a break between those nights. By not going too often we have something to look forward to and still get excited

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"My wife and I have decided to take a break from meeting/playing/club meets. This wasn’t due to a negative experience at all, but just to get back to ‘normal’ life for a while.

I just wondered how common this was and what has prompted others to have a break.

Also, how long did you have a break for and did you find it difficult not to be lured back in!?"

Only you know what’s right for you. I’m sure that people will share their own experiences but every one will be unique to them. Trust your own instincts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t all respond at once.

They were all taking a break.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Wouldn't say that there is an actual time scale, more so on the basis able to have free time rather than balancing in between. Think longest break taken roughly 9 months...

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By *assP69Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We kind of go in and out of the scene. We only play with others at Chams (currently), so it's almost like Chams is just a sex toy. When we're done with it we put it back in the draw till we're ready to get it out again. I definitely feel like you can over do stuff like this. I wouldn't want it to be a weekly thing. I like our time too much to share it constantly with others. A break will do no one any harm in our opinion. But each to their own x

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By *bwstarzWoman
over a year ago

south cheshire

Take breaks regularly, fab life isn’t a priority for me it just scratches an itch and when I’ve got stuff going on in real life that comes first. My friends, family and work are way more important than anyone from this life and I will always choose them over it.

Also the crappy messages I still get despite having an arsey profile advising everyone I won’t read or reply to them is mentally draining at times, I look at the number of unread increasing every time I log on and my heart just sinks.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’d say life to us is “normal” regardless of whether we are feeling interested or disinterested in swinging.

We go through patches of being interested in Fab and not, but all other aspects of life and us as a couple remain un-impacted.

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

Thank you all for your responses. Very informative.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"My wife and I have decided to take a break from meeting/playing/club meets. This wasn’t due to a negative experience at all, but just to get back to ‘normal’ life for a while.

I just wondered how common this was and what has prompted others to have a break.

Also, how long did you have a break for and did you find it difficult not to be lured back in!?"

5 years was my longest break. Doesn't hurt to step back and enjoy eachother's company without any extras at times.

Take as long as you need. There's no hard rule on how long you can take time out and doing so regularly can be quite healthy.

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