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First time Hotwife - How to meet people randomly on a night out

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By *exyHotwifeCouple2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Here

Hi, we are new to this dynamic and feel awkward organising something formal. Has anybody any experience with meeting others randomly on a night out? How did it go? How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, we are new to this dynamic and feel awkward organising something formal. Has anybody any experience with meeting others randomly on a night out? How did it go? How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X"

We like heading on a night out and seeing what happens SC is a massive flirt and I’m confident around the opposite sex. It’s always great fun even if nothing comes of it. You can spice it up by going commando

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford


"Hi, we are new to this dynamic and feel awkward organising something formal. Has anybody any experience with meeting others randomly on a night out? How did it go? How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X"

Your wife/you seem very pretty, so I wouldn’t think funding guys to go home with you would be very difficult. Find a guy you like the look of and start flirting. The just straight out ask, I can’t imagine they turn you down.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think there's potential for awkwardness in both situations. Maybe just approach men you like the look of

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You could ask if they'd like to join you for a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Random can be lots of flirtatious fun and a good dynamic between the two of you. If like the unknown anticipation side of things the most, definitely a great option. If you want things to go further, connecting with others into the lifestyle and meeting for a social will also lead to more defined outcomes.

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By *kip2000Man
over a year ago

crosby

If you approached me I’d be very pleased, have a few drinks relax it will come natural

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I was out one night in a pub in Birmingham and got chatting with a couple, both very friendly. Later by chance in a great little soul club I bumped into them again ...was having a great dance with them .., Mrs was smiling at me and we were dancing quite close, then she gave me a peck on the cheek ..I thought ooh am I going to get a angry hubby here...but he was grinning ..anyway they invited me back to theirs at the end of the night ...fantastic evening my perfect scenario

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

It’s always a bit of a gamble but a possible solution that I’ve been part of is where the husband has got in contact with me without the knowledge of the wife, I’ve gone to the designated hotel bar / club and met up as the chance encounter…

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I just go to a good hotel bar and order a Drink, it isn’t long till someone is chatting me up

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X"

Posh hotel bars can be a good hunting spot, especially on weekday evenings. There will usually be a choice of lonely business types who'll not only jump at the chance of snagging a hotwife, but will also have a suitably nice room to take one back to.

x Miniskirt

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel


"How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X we think alike

Posh hotel bars can be a good hunting spot, especially on weekday evenings. There will usually be a choice of lonely business types who'll not only jump at the chance of snagging a hotwife, but will also have a suitably nice room to take one back to.

x Miniskirt"

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X we think alike

"

Speaking from experience, maybe...

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By *exyHotwifeCouple2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Here

Thanks, never thought of that actually. Do men really approach women at the bar, like something out of a movie haha aren’t they mostly married though? X

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By *airyChestedDaveMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Thanks, never thought of that actually. Do men really approach women at the bar, like something out of a movie haha aren’t they mostly married though? X"

I’d approach you, you’re hot

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By *exyHotwifeCouple2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Here

Thank you x

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"Thanks, never thought of that actually. Do men really approach women at the bar, like something out of a movie haha aren’t they mostly married though? X"

Does it matter if they are married - after all, you are (and so are perhaps 75% of the 'single' men on here)

And why wait for them to approach you? If you see someone you like, you can always approach them

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We’ve gone out to do this a few times, not always as easy as it sounds. If it looks like a quiet night, we’ll log into Fab whilst we’re out and see who’s local and looking to pay. Kind of a back up plan

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Yes, hotel meet aren’t 100%, but you can have some friendly banter with the bartender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others said hotel bars are good for this kind of thing. I'd also say that if you want to be approached should make it very clear, particularly if your husband is with you. Otherwise start striking up conversation, or husband leaving you alone for a bit.

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Oooo, I wanna watch this thread. Got interest here to see how others do it

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

This is something we’ve always wanted to try, her getting attention from a guy or girl she likes the look of and inviting them back to to join us, I think the whole idea of it not being pre arranged and spontaneous is hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've also in the past semi arranged with guys, so told them we will be in a particular bar around a certain time

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I would echo a few things already said.

Business men in hotels are usually happy to chat if they are away from home. Strike up a conversation and make it flirty/suggestive early on. If you both like the look of him, be up front. If they say no, find someone else!!!

You can also make it easier for the man to see he's being fished by wearing something sexy, perhaps a little bit of a flash, lots of eye contact.

Last time I was in Rios, the woman of a couple sitting opposite me made it obvious they had picked me when she made eye contact with me, opened her naked legs wide and gave me a big smile. That might be harder to achieve in your local Hyatt Hotel (Unless of course they have a spa and your in the pool or sauna etc!).

When you're successful, please do post some pics or a vid!

Gbat

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By *ookies and cream.Couple
over a year ago

wilmslow

Does hubby not want to play??

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

Random meets are rhe best, won't lie

Had 3 or 4 and all unexpected. Dm if you want more details x

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"Does hubby not want to play??"

Title says Hotwife, so presumably she means a one-to-one with a guy.

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By *exyHotwifeCouple2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Here

Yes a this is very much for the good lady to play and hubby watch, possibly join in

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By *alsam1Couple
over a year ago

Caister

Take a trip to the woods and let a few folk know where n when x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, we are new to this dynamic and feel awkward organising something formal. Has anybody any experience with meeting others randomly on a night out? How did it go? How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X

Your wife/you seem very pretty, so I wouldn’t think funding guys to go home with you would be very difficult. Find a guy you like the look of and start flirting. The just straight out ask, I can’t imagine they turn you down."

Surely she doesn't need to "fund" guys to go home with her lol

Darn autocorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife is going to be trying this in the near future. We are off on holiday and she is going to go down the pool early morning by herself.

Our room should be overlooking the pool.

Beauty of it is that it is also a naturist resort, so she can flirt quite outrageously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife is going to be trying this in the near future. We are off on holiday and she is going to go down the pool early morning by herself.

Our room should be overlooking the pool.

Beauty of it is that it is also a naturist resort, so she can flirt quite outrageously "

Where did you say you were going on holiday

I'm sure with that bottom she will do rather well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Where did you say you were going on holiday

I'm sure with that bottom she will do rather well "

Fuerteventura

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford


"As others said hotel bars are good for this kind of thing. I'd also say that if you want to be approached should make it very clear, particularly if your husband is with you. Otherwise start striking up conversation, or husband leaving you alone for a bit.

Agree, you've to make it very very clear, and importantly your man must be seen to be very open and easy going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a pub, club, hotel bar etc, and wear an anklet that says 'hotwife'

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By *exyHotwifeCouple2021 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Here

Haha very obvious, too obvious haha x

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By *ichelle and DaveCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Keen to explore this, only tried to engineer the opportunity once so far with no success. I’d like to think it was because of the surroundings. Fingers crossed we get another chance….

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Haha very obvious, too obvious haha x"

I laughed at your comments. Because I'd like it to have an element of obviousness but not to be too obvious! So totally understood your comments

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By *amrachCouple
over a year ago

Ruthin

Hotel bars every time, had some great encounters

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By *reepass4meCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Posh hotel bars can be a good hunting spot, especially on weekday evenings. There will usually be a choice of lonely business types who'll not only jump at the chance of snagging a hotwife, but will also have a suitably nice room to take one back to.

x Miniskirt"

This exact scenario worked for S. She took a laptop to fit in & was out "meeting a friend" who had cancelled. Once chatting was able to mention having a free pass

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By *irk_Dastardly.Man
over a year ago

Salisbury


"How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X

Posh hotel bars can be a good hunting spot, especially on weekday evenings. There will usually be a choice of lonely business types who'll not only jump at the chance of snagging a hotwife, but will also have a suitably nice room to take one back to.

x Miniskirt"

I keep telling my work that we shouldn’t be staying in Travelodges, but would find it hard to put this rationale down in the case for an upgrade to a decent hotel!

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By *outhCoastSinnersCouple
over a year ago

so close you could touch


"Hi, we are new to this dynamic and feel awkward organising something formal. Has anybody any experience with meeting others randomly on a night out? How did it go? How did you approach meeting others?

Thanks

N&C

X"

No, but I would love to just once at least.

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By *outhCoastSinnersCouple
over a year ago

so close you could touch


"It’s always a bit of a gamble but a possible solution that I’ve been part of is where the husband has got in contact with me without the knowledge of the wife, I’ve gone to the designated hotel bar / club and met up as the chance encounter… "

That's a great idea, I'd be up for mine doing that for me!

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It’s always a bit of a gamble but a possible solution that I’ve been part of is where the husband has got in contact with me without the knowledge of the wife, I’ve gone to the designated hotel bar / club and met up as the chance encounter…

That's a great idea, I'd be up for mine doing that for me!"

Isn't it all a gamble?

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By *lmostDeviantCouple
over a year ago

Tameside

We’ve spoken a few times about going out and doing this rather than arranging something. Would you do this sat together all night or hubby sat watching close by?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess you could try a club? Or yes a place like Rio’s - book a hotel room / Airbnb close by.

But 3 way WhatsApp flirting can be part of the fun!

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We’ve spoken a few times about going out and doing this rather than arranging something. Would you do this sat together all night or hubby sat watching close by?"

I wanna be closely. Wanna see how it all develops

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over a year ago

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

our kids had loads of friend and spent alot of time with night sleepovers but back then most of our swinging was daytime during school hours

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