FabSwingers.com forum: Playing based on colour / ethnicity

By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Bit of an odd ball one but i'd like to hear peoples honest opinion to my little story....

I recieved a message from a couple saying they'd like to meet & play with me because i'm asian.

I replied saying i'm flattered by their interest but have a lot going on right now in life so meeting soon wouldn't really be possible. I also asked why they wanted to meet me (assuming they had read my profile and picked up on something other than my ethnicity).

This couple replied saying they wanted to try asian for change (made me chuckle a bit as i imagined them in a swing restaurant picking from a menu

). I politely declined their offer as i didn't feel comfortable for being approached purely because of my natural tan.

So my question to the fabswingers forum world is this....

Would you play with someone purely based on their ethnic origin?

Would you agree to play with someone knowing they only wanted to play with you because of your skin colour?

This thread is not about preferences so please can we not go down that route. It is an open forum so please be polite in your posts & sorry it's a long intro but i've seen to many threads go down the wrong path and get out of hand and i'd rather that not happen

Over to you guys & girls x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yeah, i wouldve had her bouncing on my cock!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well, i havent been having much luck due to my race, so if couples like that are about, im in hope! or you could pass them over my way lol (joking).

In my opinion, race/ethnicity wont be a factor in who i meet..i usually prefer to meet those who make me laugh and who i get along with..and that can be anyone from no particular race.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Whether or not the offer is accepted depends on the person who is getting the offer.

I don't meet with those who say they've always wanted to try older.

I don't tell them that as I don't want them armed n lying. I just say no thanks.

Like you are human before asian Im human before older.

So I take your point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked to meet a couple once as 'their regular piece of chocolate' had moved down south....

No thanks...

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I was asked to meet a couple once as 'their regular piece of chocolate' had moved down south....

No thanks...

I would be horrified .....good for you..xxx

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By *ornyGCCouple
over a year ago

Slaithwaite

We can completely understand you're point and its a tad naughty of them however fantasies are fantasies so whether that fantasy is a black guy an Asian guy or a guy in a dress people tick boxes in line with a particular fantasy, you would just expect it to be handled better.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I like to play with people I find attractive, and I happen to find a lot of asian and black men attractive. Doesn't mean I don't play with white men though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to play with people I find attractive, and I happen to find a lot of asian and black men attractive. Doesn't mean I don't play with white men though

what about half asian/half white - could I be your best of both worlds? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think people that wanna fuck a certsin ethnicity are gonna fuck the first person of that race they come across tho

unless am wrong

so u`d be a bit of a gimmick shag. take the positives from it. they chose u out of all the other asian guys onhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a single guy on here I got offers to sleep with the wife simply because I was black. Did it bother me? Not in the slightest.

I helped them fulfil a fantasy and I got to have my fun too.

Even away from Fabs, a married woman wanted me to be her bit on the side as her regular FB travelled back to Nigeria.

Obviously we had an attraction towards each other but I had no qualms filling in the void in her life

Never look a gift horse in the mouth as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So my question to the fabswingers forum world is this....

Would you play with someone purely based on their ethnic origin?

Would you agree to play with someone knowing they only wanted to play with you because of your skin colour?

Over to you guys & girls x"

I never have chose nor would I choose someone based on their ethnic origin or color. I choose on their personality and attraction I have to them. And, their ethnic origin, or color would not stop me from being attracted to them either. It is the person I care about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible that the couple in question had never tried an Asian ?

If that is the case then why not ?

You should feel privileged to have been chosen out of all the Asian guys out there !

As the journey on here progresses there are all kinds of fantasy boxes to tick off - bi girls , BBW , BBC , mmf , mff , group etc...... So why should an Asian guy not be on the list ?

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I was asked to meet a couple once as 'their regular piece of chocolate' had moved down south....

No thanks...

I would be horrified .....good for you..xxx"

good to see you said no and i'm not the only one who thinks that way

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Thank you boys & girls for your thoughts. It is very much appreciated

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I only play with white men. I have no qualms in playing with those seeking a black Domme mistress as they're the ying to my yang.

However, anyone who wants to meet me because he's always wanted to try a black bird is pointed in the direction of the Tower of London with a word of advice to watch out for the yeoman wardens: so I see your point op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We can completely understand you're point and its a tad naughty of them however fantasies are fantasies so whether that fantasy is a black guy an Asian guy or a guy in a dress people tick boxes in line with a particular fantasy, you would just expect it to be handled better."

I agree with this if its a fantasy then why not , but I would have tort the prob is how they worded it xx

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

I agree with this if its a fantasy then why not , but I would have tort the prob is how they worded it xx "

you beat me to it.

We have fantasies which is why we started swinging in the first place but itsall about how you wore your messages.

But at least they where up front and honest with you.

Why not chat a little more and see if you like them before blowing them out .

Question for you then.

If they had not mentioned about you being the first would you have met them?

If the answer is yes what's the problem they where just honest with you. View could have just met you and ticked another box off their list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to stay away from anyone who looks for playmates from specific ethnicities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

you beat me to it.

We have fantasies which is why we started swinging in the first place but itsall about how you wore your messages.

But at least they where up front and honest with you.

Why not chat a little more and see if you like them before blowing them out .

Question for you then.

If they had not mentioned about you being the first would you have met them?

If the answer is yes what's the problem they where just honest with you. View could have just met you and ticked another box off their list"

I dont have any issues with people fulfilling thier fantasies or only wanting to play with a specific ethnicity. My question (& i may have worded it poorly for which i apologise) was would you play with someone who in thier first message approached you saying they were only interested cause of your ethnicity?

If they had not mentioned my ethnicity i would have gladly continued to chat with them but to approach someone (or maybe i should say to approach me) & say you're only interested cause of my origins to me that's wrong. I maybe alone in my thoughts on this but i will accept that not everyone sees it that way. I can't chat to this lovely couple as they have left the site (hopefully not cause of this thread).

I think i may just accept the fact that i maybe a tick in the box for some people even though i dont appreciate being seen as nothing more than just a tick in the box

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

you beat me to it.

We have fantasies which is why we started swinging in the first place but itsall about how you wore your messages.

But at least they where up front and honest with you.

Why not chat a little more and see if you like them before blowing them out .

Question for you then.

If they had not mentioned about you being the first would you have met them?

If the answer is yes what's the problem they where just honest with you. View could have just met you and ticked another box off their list

I think i may just accept the fact that i maybe a tick in the box for some people even though i dont appreciate being seen as nothing more than just a tick in the box

If you had a 9incher and their first message mentioned that was the reason they were messaging would you have turned them down because they were objectifying you based on your endowment?

We can totally understand your OP but as you can see from replies on here a lot of guys use it to their advantage. We have lost count of the number of messages from guys who ask if we like Asian, or Black or whatever Pantone reference they want to use as their opening line. its as if its the key to opening a door. Maybe it's no surprise a couple would begin to assume that's the norm on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get messages from guys who say they want to try bbw or older ladies and thats fine by me.. i like being the object of someones fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi if we like a cple/ person we would simply ask for a meet as we like u or ur profile, no need to mention age color size ect, if we like u we like u end of,if u ask us for a meet and we say no we expect u to accept that too regardless

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

" If you had a 9incher and their first message mentioned that was the reason they were messaging would you have turned them down because they were objectifying you based on your endowment?

I'd stick to my guns and say no then too. I am aware of single guys having a 'reputation' on here as wanting to just get their crotch wet & go but we are not all the same and some of us (although it may be a rare few) don't just use our difference as a way of getting a foot through the door.

I'm happy if i'm alone in thinking this way but i'd rather meet someone who wants to meet me for me & not for my colour, crotch size etc etc.

I take on board whats been said here in this thread & privately to me. It has made me wonder whether swinging is right for me or i'm right for swinging

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"hi if we like a cple/ person we would simply ask for a meet as we like u or ur profile, no need to mention age color size ect, if we like u we like u end of,if u ask us for a meet and we say no we expect u to accept that too regardless"

My thoughts exactly!!

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Would you play with someone purely based on their ethnic origin?

Would you agree to play with someone knowing they only wanted to play with you because of your skin colour?

Look at some of the profiles on here, and virtually always women, state BBC only, they flash it like a banner at the top of their profile etc. BBC only or Not looking for white guys etc etc. Personally I think those ladies are quite wrong to be like that but its a personal choice about who you play with or not. Their bodies, their lives, their decision.

Im attracted to guys who make me laugh, have a nice smile and know how to be a real man. Colour isn't important, its the man that is.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I dint get offers due to ethnicity but I do het the 'always wanted to try a fat bird's brigade.

I have turned people down because to me it's making me a fetish shag, any fat bird will do.... The first one that says yes type thing.

I like to think that people meet me because they like me, not my spare tyres

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It wouldn't matter to me what colour someone was. I can't wait for summer so I can tan and turn a shade of brown.

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Great to hear you would stick to your guns OP. there are plenty of people on here who want to know a person first, want to know they can laugh or relax with them before anything else. The meesages that start and finish "does your wife like big cock" or "do you like BBC" or "do you want an asian to fuck her" are all 2 dimensional and go straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone wants to play with me just because they have a thing for asians, then I have a duty fulfil their fantasy lol (so long as I fancy them)

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"Great to hear you would stick to your guns OP. there are plenty of people on here who want to know a person first, want to know they can laugh or relax with them before anything else. The meesages that start and finish "does your wife like big cock" or "do you like BBC" or "do you want an asian to fuck her" are all 2 dimensional and go straight in the bin."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was asked to meet a couple once as 'their regular piece of chocolate' had moved down south....

No thanks...

Bloody ell, that's just plain rude

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By *igSuki81 OP Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I was asked to meet a couple once as 'their regular piece of chocolate' had moved down south....

No thanks...

Bloody ell, that's just plain rude

It id rude but judging by the conversations i've had on and off thread it happens both ways.

Some people will ask to play with you purely cause of your colour and some people will message and highlight thier colour difference as a reason to play with them.

It seems to go both ways on here, whatever happened to playing cause you liked or were interested in your playmate

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I was asked to meet a couple once as 'their regular piece of chocolate' had moved down south....

No thanks...

Bloody ell, that's just plain rude

It id rude but judging by the conversations i've had on and off thread it happens both ways.

Some people will ask to play with you purely cause of your colour and some people will message and highlight thier colour difference as a reason to play with them.

It seems to go both ways on here, whatever happened to playing cause you liked or were interested in your playmate

A lot of fab is about fantasies and fulfilling them. So someone might message because we have a stockings pic and simply say "I love fucking women in stockings" or they might have a PVC fetish and see a pic of a shiny dress and message "are you into PVC". People have fantasies based on ethnicity too, most of it is based on stereotyping but it's what they want. This isn't a dating site and so people are much more direct about what they are looking for. No offence is meant but it's easy to see why it can be taken. Just keep looking and don't let it put you off making your own fantasy happen.

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