FabSwingers.com forum: Is there such a thing as a bad 'bj' ?

By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?

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By *houtycatCouple
over a year ago

Henley

Not finishing it!

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By *un Times 1Man
over a year ago

coventry

Too much Teeth.

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By *taffordDomMan
over a year ago

London/Stafford

Too much teeth and spitting cum

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

I’m not very good at giving them (imo but never had anyone say otherwise) so therefore I don’t like giving them.

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By *litlicker77Man
over a year ago

dirty old town

Definitely too much teeth

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By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

"I’m not very good at giving them (imo but never had anyone say otherwise) so therefore I don’t like giving them. "

What makes you think you're not very good?

Some just aren't that nice and some you could suck for days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they ch0ke a little when you've just started to cum, and they pull away cough/laughing and you don't get to empty your bits that need emtying.

That was a bad one for me

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By *ookin4fun88 300Couple
over a year ago

Camborne

Definitely too much teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely too much teeth "

What they said . And no technique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh a bad bj can be quite uncomfortable lol. Too much teeth, not enough saliva are big ones.

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By *ockandkeyCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Isn’t one man’s bad blow job another man’s amazing one! It depends what you class as a good one.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

There is definitely such a thing as a bad bj. It usually involves teeth, way too much teeth

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I don’t think it’s got much to do with what you’re physically doing. The whole ‘teeth’ kinda comment isn’t the point really.

What makes for a good or bad blow job is how into it you are when you’re giving it. If you love what you’re doing, it’ll be amazing. If you’re indifferent, it shows. I’d rather you didn’t bother.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Just lieing there with my cock in her mouth and thinking that counts.

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

"I’m not very good at giving them (imo but never had anyone say otherwise) so therefore I don’t like giving them.

What makes you think you're not very good?

Some just aren't that nice and some you could suck for days

I don’t know tbh,maybe it’s a confidence thing. Never had any complaints so that’s what counts eh

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By *cepuncMan
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Bad ones, had a few. Usually because they are way too vigorous (I blame porn for this misconception)

Too brief (a good bj, for me, should be at least 5mins preferably 10 or 15

Not enough licking around the head. Just sucking back and forth gets a bit monotonous

Basically I like to guide the giver towards what works for me so a bad bj can always end up an enjoyable one. Communication is the key

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Most BJs are enjoyable in their own way, but some techniques are definitely better than others.

The teeth thing is obviously one.

Enthusiasm is another, it's far less enjoyable if you can sense you partner doesn't enjoy it and is just trying to get through it. When someone is into it and you know they are trying to please you, it adds so much.

Plus a bonus tip when sucking those of us with uncut dicks - don't just yank the skin back and pretend you are sucking a cut cock. It's super sensitive and gets painful. Think that's one of the bad habits from porn.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

its got to be teeth,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah plenty of bad ones. Too much teeth. Too aggressive and fast. Not enough grip. Some people just put it in their mouth and move forward and backwards without actually sucking. Some just like to let it sit there in their mouth without moving at all… the list goes on

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Years ago I worked with a lady who regularly boasted about how she gives amazing bjs and every guy she blew said it was the best they'd had. Obviously I wanted in on that and started flirting.

Couple of weeks later I got my wish.

What I got involved a death grip, teeth hard enough she left marks and when going to play with my balls hit them so hard I felt nauseous and had to stop her. She was fuming that I wasn't praising her skills or letting her continue. Took her a while to realise I genuinely thought the bj was awful and with some persuasion got me to promise not to tell anyone.

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Teeth, too much skin pulling down, but the worst is when she stops everything as you’re cumming! Ruined orgasms are truly the worst

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By *ungguy7.5Man
over a year ago

wokingham

Too much teeth, not enough spit. Not actually sucking. Too vigorous.

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

I have had some terrible ones.. as above too much teeth

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By *otty BikerMan
over a year ago

Warrington

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?"

Teeth in a bad way, think cheese grater on the end of my cock.. ouch,ouch, and ouch lol

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

One guy complained about my tongue bar,said he didn’t like it. Safe to say I never met up with him again

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
over a year ago

nearby

Alot about the teeth, definitely agree with that! And not using the hands to help

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Had a few bad bjs. Mostly bad ones are without enthusiasm and just mechanical moves. I love to see the pleasure partner is getting and worship on my cock

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"One guy complained about my tongue bar,said he didn’t like it. Safe to say I never met up with him again

I adore tongue bars during oral.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

I love giving them and my enthusiasm shows...but I get bored if the guy is silent or it takes ages for him to cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bit of a rhetorical question really.

Every man will like and dislike certain things just like women do with oral sex.

Personally a great blow job in my opinion should start slow and build up, use of hands around all the near by areas is key too. I love a deep and forceful approach and on a personal note, when she’s gagging and mascara runs down her face that’s my biggest turn on. A little teeth is okay. I reckon oral givers should focus on what makes a good one rather than a bad one and communicating with the receiver and finding out what they like is important

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By *otYourKind666Man
over a year ago

Horsham

Teeth and zero rhythm...

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Years ago I worked with a lady who regularly boasted about how she gives amazing bjs and every guy she blew said it was the best they'd had. Obviously I wanted in on that and started flirting.

Couple of weeks later I got my wish.

And therein lies the problem. Men (including me) will not tell a woman she gives a poor blow job. Well, most won't.

I shake my head when someone says with pride "I've never had any complaints", whether a woman about her fellating skills or a man about his cunnilinguistic prowess. That means nothing, the question you should be asking yourself is how often have you received unsolicited, enthusiastic praise regarding your expertise. If you get this on a frequent basis from different people (partners don't count) then, and only then, can you say you're good at giving oral pleasure.

Frank

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Simply yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bad ones, had a few. Usually because they are way too vigorous (I blame porn for this misconception)

Too brief (a good bj, for me, should be at least 5mins preferably 10 or 15

Not enough licking around the head. Just sucking back and forth gets a bit monotonous

Basically I like to guide the giver towards what works for me so a bad bj can always end up an enjoyable one. Communication is the key"

This

the pleasure zone

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

For me there are two kinds of BJ. The first is the pleasuring one aimed at giving the best pleasure sensations to the man and arousing him to the max.

The other is the ball draining workout aimed at stimulating the guy to cum as quickly as possible. Most can do the first type but a skilful second type is more rare.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?"

To put it simply yes. But it's individual preference

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"I’m not very good at giving them (imo but never had anyone say otherwise) so therefore I don’t like giving them. "

I had an absolutely mind-blowing one the other week from a lady who had been told she was terrible at them. Best advice, don't take one person's word for it. Especially if that person is a disgruntled ex or just a shitty partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add bit of passionate when u do bj

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By *oni-massage-guyMan
over a year ago

Fareham

Only bad bj is if they pull away and stop just as Mount Etna is errupting!! Kinda half finished.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
over a year ago

London (She/Her)

I’ve only ever spoken to one woman who said she is bad at head, every other woman thinks she’s the best they’re ever going to have. So you guys are great at telling us what we want to hear, thanks! lol

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

Apart from stopping at the wrong time…..

The only bad bj is no bj!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love teeth...the more the better..especially on the shaft

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By *coobyABCMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Actually blowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bad one is them going at it a hundred miles an hour and nearly reefing the helmet off ya with their teeth.

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By *oots11Couple
over a year ago

wirral

Not from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?"

When you feel teeth. Absolutely horrible

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By *ot toddyMan
over a year ago

southmpton

Too much teeth,

But the worst for me, if the lips are too tight, and not relaxed and too dry

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

not guilty of bad BJs here i was taught to respect a mans cock.....had no complaints

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Teeth or trying so hard to deep throat they make that vile wretching sound and well it’s just comical hearing it , not sexy at all

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By *ent57Man
over a year ago

... where the streets have no name!

"I love giving them and my enthusiasm shows...but I get bored if the guy is silent or it takes ages for him to cum

... staying silent and taking ages to cum is never a problem I've had!

Along with others on here ... I really don't like the overuse of teeth... a little gentle nibble is just fine though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curious, do men tell a woman they arent/didnt enjoy it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy complained about my tongue bar,said he didn’t like it. Safe to say I never met up with him again

Given the proximity of teeth and the tempromandibular joint any criticism of the lady performing fellatio would post out come and most probably by text. My bits are important to me!

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By *ucynJackCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Communication and experimentation are key. If you don't like it say so but try it a bit different, sometimes teeth and biting work.

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By *akes coupleCouple
over a year ago

Ambleside

Red card for teeth.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Curious, do men tell a woman they arent/didnt enjoy it?"

I dont unless it hurts.

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

the women who self proclaim to give the best BJ generally are nowhere near the standard

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By *umseekerMan
over a year ago

montrose

No eye contact and only taking the end make a poor BJ

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By *omeotango121Man
over a year ago

sussex

How about the guys who proclaim to be the best? Lol

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?"

To much teeth on the bellend. Stretching the banjo string till is resembles a bungy rope. Very rough wanking. John

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

"Bad ones, had a few. Usually because they are way too vigorous (I blame porn for this misconception)

Too brief (a good bj, for me, should be at least 5mins preferably 10 or 15

Not enough licking around the head. Just sucking back and forth gets a bit monotonous

Basically I like to guide the giver towards what works for me so a bad bj can always end up an enjoyable one. Communication is the key"

Totally agree with this! Ladies, vigorous doesn’t always mean good! Slow and sensual is probably a lot easier for you and a lot more pleasurable for us! Some women go at it like it’s an Olympic sport and it can really hurt. Speed and vigour is not the goal here. And don’t make it feel like some sort of duel between your mouth and the cock. Some ladies can really give an almost aggressive bj. Not nice and no doubt a misunderstanding from countless porn vids! Please just treat the cock as if you love it! If you show the cock you love him, he’ll show you he loves you! Simple!

Shout out to my non-fab gf who did exactly this for me over the weekend! Phenomenal bjs which were absolutely wonderful!

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By *ogan WillowCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I can imagine Logan wouldn't enjoy it quite so much if I used my teeth

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By *ay40xMan
over a year ago

Bromley

Anything to do with teeth connecting to my throbbing cock is painful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely teeth, too little stimulation of the shaft and just sucking the tip.

I find it hard to cum via a BJ but they can be amazing without getting all the way there

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By *cepuncMan
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"One guy complained about my tongue bar,said he didn’t like it. Safe to say I never met up with him again

Tongue piercing when it hits the spot feels amazing. You're right to not give him another go sounds like a right spanner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex, many, many years ago believed that a blowjob involved literally blowing into my cock.

She would take the head into her mouth and almost try to inflate my balls!

We were both late teens at the time, and I didn't have the heart to tell her.

I wonder what she's doing these days?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?

To much teeth on the bellend. Stretching the banjo string till is resembles a bungy rope. Very rough wanking. John"

This! The rough wanking just takes you out of the moment. Not to mention the pain of your skin being pulled hard. Definitely prefer it more gentle

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"I’m not very good at giving them (imo but never had anyone say otherwise) so therefore I don’t like giving them.

This.... but it depends on the situation. I had an excellent oneo as part of a gangbang, i had just fucked her which was really nice, and she wanted bme to cum on her tits so there she was sucking my cock for all it's worth and i had the best finish for long time,ufantastic

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

Practice makes purfect

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?"

Too much teeth, not enough lip pressure/actual sucking, don’t just put the head of my cock in your mouth and wank me off with your hand, that really isn’t a bj, and don’t get bored/give up if I don’t cum within 60 seconds.

I am interested to receive a ‘professional’ bj whilst wearing a condom at some point, especially if she puts the condom on with her mouth…..

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

"When they ch0ke a little when you've just started to cum, and they pull away cough/laughing and you don't get to empty your bits that need emtying.

That was a bad one for me

Did you tell her you were going to cum in her mouth? Bit of a shock sometimes when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bad BJ is usually from someone who doesn’t really want to do it but for some reason thinks they have to - if I feel this is the case I always ask and have often got a lot more pleasure from a little caressing and stroking

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By *678Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Too much teeth, poor technique / rhythm and (personal opinion) not enough depth by some..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love giving them and my enthusiasm shows...but I get bored if the guy is silent or it takes ages for him to cum

Me too, I need to hear that he's enjoying it and having a good time.

Hard to keep enthusiastic when the mind making no sound, louder the better too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with the others, enthusiasm makes all the difference in how good it feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to agree with the others, enthusiasm makes all the difference in how good it feels. "

Can’t say I’ve ever given a bad one, honestly not boasting lol

But…enthusiasm is a big part of it. If the woman isn’t enjoying it or feels she has to do it etc then I guess it won’t be as hot as a woman who really enjoys a good cock in her mouth. I get seriously turned on giving a BJ, mine are very sensual, slow, soft, teasing etc etc.

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By *llie AssMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"Not to blow my own trumpet or anyone else's (Lol)

I've always had glowing remarks, not that I've asked. "Was that good for you"?

So what's a bad one involve?"

Yes, of course. But it's not skill or talent but enthusiasm and gusto.

Though I do have skill to back up my enthusiasm!

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